Iminithi Engqondweni: Ngikuyeka Kanjani Ukuthatha Okubi Kakhulu?

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Ngokungafani UFerrell, wena ungakwenzi uzizwe uthanda ukushaya izandla. Eqinisweni, izinga lakhe lenjabulo lingakucasula. Awunalo nje uhlobo olujabulisayo lokuya enhlanhleni-kaningi ungahle ube nethemba elibi. Uzwakala ujwayelekile? Ukucabanga okungalungile kwenzeka kithi sonke, kodwa uma kuba iphethini, kuba yinkinga. Mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi uma ulindele okubi kakhulu, awusoze wamangala lapho kwenzeka inhlekelele. Kepha, ingabe ufuna ngempela ukuphila ngaleyo ndlela?

Kunomehluko phakathi kokungabaza okunempilo nokunciphisa ukusabela kwakho ukuze uhlale ucabanga okubi kakhulu futhi umugqa muhle. Ngakho-ke wazi kanjani ukuthi ukungabi nethemba lakho kudinga ukufakwa kabusha? Amafulegi ambalwa abomvu:

1. Ukusabela kwakho kokuqala ukubona okubi. Yini engahamba kabi? Yini eshodayo? Kuyini okungabazisayo?

2. Uthola ukuthi uwena okhomba lokho okungenzeka kungalungile futhi kuyingozi ngakho konke isimo. Uzwa ukuziqhenya okungajwayelekile ukuthi awunangqondo futhi abangani bakho bancane bePollyannaish.

3. Uzibheka njengommeli kasathane, kodwa abangane bakho bakubize ngokuthi uDebbie Downer, noma ukuhluka okucindezelayo.

4. Noma ngabe isimo / isipho / usuku luphelele, usaxwaya futhi ungalokothi ujabule kakhulu ngalo.

5. Ubulokhu ungumuntu “ongamagqubu”, umkhohlisi wephathi, ungabaza. Ngisho ngiseyingane, ingilazi ayikaze ibukeke igcwele uhhafu kuwe.

Ngakho-ke isikhathi sesifikile lapho ubona khona ukuthi impilo yakho ihlupheka-uyavuma ukuthi unomona awukwazi ukuhleka kalula njengabo bonke abantu, nokuthi isimo sakho sengqondo sizwakala njengebhola neketanga kunesipho. Lapha, izindlela ezinhlanu zokuqala ukuzwa impilo ikhanya kancane. [Thwebula lolu hlelo!]

1. Umdanso... nezingane (noma abantu abadala abaziphatha njengezingane). Awuzazi izingane ezitholakalayo ongadansa nazo? Khiya iminyango uqhume umculo othile bese ugxumagxuma imizuzu emihlanu. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukudansa okunesigqi, okufana nepogo empeleni kusiza imizwa yakho. Ungakhathazeki ngokuthi ubukeka kanjani, ngisho nenkukhu emnandi kakhulu ezokwenza.

2. Gcoba ukuze ubone lapho “ofunde” khona ukuba negethivu. Amathuba wokuthi ubenomzali olingise indlela efanayo yokuziphatha noma obekhuluma ngokungananazi ngakho konke okungahambanga kahle kuzo zonke izimo. Ukubona ukuthi ukuthathe kuphi lokhu kungakusiza ukukususa.

3. Hleka kakhulu. Qala uhlu lwadlalwayo lwamavidiyo e-Youtube akutshela kabanzi. Izingane eziyiziwula, amakati angaxhumene, ama-pranks noma amahlaya-yenza lokhu njengomsebenzi wesikole wasekhaya nokuzilolonga (yebo, zijwayeze) ukuhleka. Ngincoma A Smile, a Grin, A Laugh, That's Life ka-Victoria no-John Galasso.

4. Zibuze, "Kungenzeka yini ngibe yi-dysthymic?" Abantu abanokucindezeleka okungamahlalakhona okumaphakathi bavame ukungaxilongwa, babizwa ngokuthi “abanolaka,” kunalabo abangase babe nama-neurotransmitters angabasiza bazizwe belinganisele futhi benethemba.

5. Yelula izikhathi ezijabulisayo. Ngemuva kwalokho qala ukuwahlanganisa ndawonye ukuze wenze imizuzwana ejabulisayo iphenduke imizuzu emnandi namahora!

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