Ukuthumela imiyalezo nge-10 namathiphu wokuthandana oku-inthanethi wezingoma ze-Tech-Savvy

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• Ungathumeli imiyalezo kuze kube yilapho unosuku olubekiwe
• Thatha Ifoni Uma Ibalulekile
• Cabanga Ngaphambi Kokuthumela
• Vumela Ukuthumela Imvamisa Imiyalezo Yokwakha
• Naka Isitayela Sakhe
• Ungadlali Imidlalo
• Awudingi Ukuphendula
• Sebenzisa leyo Emoji
• Yakha Isisekelo Ngaphambi Kokungena
• Ukudlala ngothando!
• Buyekeza kwe-

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Konke lokhu kubuza umbuzo: sithandana kanjani ngempumelelo kakhulu emhlabeni wedijithali? Ngenhlanhla, siqoqe abanye ochwepheshe bezokuphola ukuze bachithe ukuthi ungaba kanjani idiyetha elinobuchwepheshe kakhulu ongaba yilo. (Kepha ungakhohlwa lezi 6 Izindlela Zokuqomisana Oku-inthanethi Nezingafanele Uzenze Ukuphepha Kwe-inthanethi.)

Ungathumeli imiyalezo kuze kube yilapho unosuku olubekiwe

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Laurel House, umbhali we Ukuguqula Imithetho, iphakamisa ukugwema ukubuyela emuva naphambili uze ube nosuku lwangempela ezincwadini. "Kulula kakhulu ukuhanjiswa, ube nemibhalo eqhutshwa ngokocansi, futhi ubulale ubudlelwano ngaphambi kokuba ube nethuba lokuhlangana," usho kanje. Ezigabeni zokuqala zokuqomisana, cabanga ngokuthumela imiyalezo kuphela njengesandulela sesivumelwano sangempela: umhlangano womuntu uqobo.

Thatha Ifoni Uma Ibalulekile

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Noma ngabe ukwenza nje ngoba yindlela oqale ngayo (okusho ukuthi uku-inthanethi), noma ngoba ufuna ukugwema ukusho ngokuzwakalayo izihloko ezinzima, "akukho okuhle okuza ngokuzama ukuxoxa ngezinkinga ezithinta imizwa nge-elekthronikhi," kusho umqeqeshi wokuphola UNeely Steinberg, umbhali we Isikhumba Emdlalweni. Lokhu kungase kuholele ekudidekeni noma ekucasukeni (kuye ngesigaba sobudlelwano benu). Uma kubalulekile, thatha ifoni! Noma ubambe uqine uze umbone ngokulandelayo.

Cabanga Ngaphambi Kokuthumela

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Ekuqaleni, kufanele uqaphele. Umuntu omthumelela imiyalezo awazi wena noma amahlaya akho. Ngakho-ke funda kabusha, hlola kabili, futhi uqaphele: "Imibhalo yakho isuswe ithoni nesimo sobuso-kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlanganisa izithonjana ezingaki," kusho u-House. "Enye indlela yokuhlola ithoni ngukucabanga ukuthi uwuthumela lo mbhalo kuwe. Yisho ngokuzwakalayo, ususe izinciphiso zezwi, bese uthatha isinqumo sokuthi iyavela yini njengoba kuhlosiwe." (Awufuni ukuqeda njengenye yalezi Izinhlekelele Zokubonana Eziku-inthanethi Ezizokuthokozisa Ukuba Ungashadile.)

Vumela Ukuthumela Imvamisa Imiyalezo Yokwakha

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“Njengoba abantu abaningi belahlekelwa ukuxhumana, ngikhuthaza abangashadile ukuthi basebenzise imiyalezo kancane kunalokho abebengathambekele kukho,” kusho uSteinberg. "Ngemuva kosuku, kuyathandeka ukuthumela inothi yokulandelela. Uma ubambekile kuthrafikhi, mazise ukuthi ushiywe isikhathi. Thumela umbhalo ohlekisayo noma omuhle ukusho ukuthi into osanda kuyizwa ikukhumbuze ngaye. " Ufuna nje ukugwema ukubhalwa phansi okukhishwe isikhathi eside emuva nangaphambili.

Naka Isitayela Sakhe

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U-House uthi iningi labantu lithumela imiyalezo ngendlela elifisa ukuthunyelwa ngayo-ngakho bheka ukuthi uwabhala kanjani amanothi akhe (ngethemba ukuthi uzokwenza okufanayo nakuwe!). Uma encoma ukubukeka kwakho, mhlawumbe ufisa ukunconywa ngokomzimba. Uma eyigcina imfishane, mhlawumbe akayona indoda ethumela imiyalezo. Vele uqiniseke ukuthi amaleveli entshisekelo ayalingana. Enye indlela enhle yokwenza lokhu: hlola ubude bemibhalo yakhe uma uqhathanisa nobude bakho. Uma upheqa ubuyela emuva futhi ubona ukuthi unamagama futhi ephendula ngegama elilodwa nje, zibuze: "Ingabe amazinga ami athakazelisa ngisho nelakhe?" Kufanele babe njalo.

Ungadlali Imidlalo

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Uma ungabaza, sebenzisa isilinganiso esingu-1:1-kufanele aqale ingxenye yesikhathi, kanjalo nawe kufanele. Lokho kusho, uma unokuthile ongakusho noma ukuphendula, ungadlali ngaye. "Umbhalo kuhloswe ukuthi ube yindlela yokuxhumana ngokushesha, ngakho-ke ungalindi izinsuku ezimbili ngaphambi kokuba uphendule," kusho u-House. "Lokho kuthumela isignali yokuthi awunantshisekelo yangempela, nokuthi ungumdlali womdlalo." (Futhi funda Imibhalo eyi-6 Ongafanele Uyithumele.)

Awudingi Ukuphendula

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USteinberg uthi ubona ingcindezi ethile kulezi zinsuku yokuphendula imibhalo nama-imeyili ngokushesha. Futhi uma ukhululekile, thola! Lokho kusho, ungacabangi ukuthi ukweleta impendulo ngaphansi kwemininingwane efana nemizuzu eyi-10 iphakamisa ukuthi abaningi bakholelwa. "Unempilo ephelele futhi awukho kuleli cala lomuntu omusha," kusho uSteinberg. "Empeleni, kwakha ukulangazelela uma uthatha isikhathi sakho uphendula." Iphuzu eliyinhloko: phila impilo yakho. Ukuthumela imiyalezo kufanele kwenzeke kuphela uma kufanelekile, kulula futhi / noma kumnandi.

Sebenzisa leyo Emoji

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Izibalo ze-Match.com ziyazikhulumela: Abasebenzisi be-emoji abanobungane kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi baphume ngezinsuku zangempela, ezibukhoma. Ukumomotheka noma ukucwayiza kusiza umfundi abonise ukuthi unenhliziyo elula noma uyadlala ngothando, kokubili amasu ombhalo amahle kanye indlela kangcono kunokuthi "haha" noma "lol," uSteinberg athi kungaba ukucisha ngokuphelele kwabanye. "Qaphela nje ukuthi izithombe-mzwelo eziningi kakhulu zingavala," usho kanje. "Nakanjani ungasebenzisi okungaphezu kokukodwa embhalweni owodwa. Isibabazo esibekwe kahle siyasiza futhi." Kepha, futhi, sebenzisa i- "rule of one" kusenesikhathi kulabo. "'Ngibheke phambili ukukubona!' kungcono kunokuthi ‘Ngilangazelela ukukubona’ noma ‘Ngilangazelela ukukubona!!!’” kusho uSteinberg.

Yakha Isisekelo Ngaphambi Kokungena

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I-House ithi iningi labafana lizoqina uma uhlukumeza ukuthumela imiyalezo kusenesikhathi. Lokho kusho ukuthi akukho ukungena njalo kokuhlola umfana omusha futhi akukho ukufuna ukuthi akujabulise noma nini lapho unesithukuthezi. "Lokho kusho ukuthi, uma nje ubudlelwane sebusunguleke kakhudlwana, labo, 'Hey handsome ... ngicabanga ngawe,' 'Ukuvuka kuwe engqondweni yami kubeka ukumamatheka ebusweni bami,' noma 'Amaphupho amnandi, sithandwa,' nonke namukelekile, niyaduduza, futhi nibongwa, ngoba ninesisekelo futhi ninakekelana ngokweqiniso,” kusho uHouse. (Futhi, qaphela lawa Amathiphu angu-8 ayimfihlo ongasuka ku-Casual to Couple.)

Ukudlala ngothando!

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"Kufanele udlale ngothando emibhalweni. Eqinisweni, kuhle!" Kusho iNdlu. Kepha awukho umbhalo omncane omnandi ozokwenza. Nasi isibonelo sombhalo omuhle, weNdlu ngayinye: "Ngemuva komhlangano othakazelisa ngempela nomphathi wami mayelana nendima yami entsha (yay!), Ngiye egijima ukwehlisa umzimba nengqondo yami. Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ulapha uziphumulele ngengilazi iwayini nami. Bekunjani emhlanganweni wakho namuhla? Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi uwubethele! ”

Kungani kusebenza: akuyona into ebhedayo noma ekheniwe. Kuyabandakanya, futhi kukhona ukuqonda okujulile mayelana nomuntu odalulwayo, okungaboleka ocingweni olude kakhulu noma ingxoxo yomuntu siqu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uyachaza. "Futhi, bekukhona ukudlala ngothando nomdlandla ngala magama abhibhayo." Ifomula enhle: okokuqala, yabelana ngento oyenzile noma ozoyenza ukukhulisa intshisekelo yakhe, bese ubuza umbuzo. Manje, phumani nicindezele ukuthumela, makhosikazi.

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