Izindlela Ezi-5 Zokubonga Kuyinhle Ngempilo Yakho

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Kulula ukugxila kuzo zonke izinto ofuna ukuba nazo, ozidalayo, noma onolwazi ngazo, kepha ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ukwazisa lokho osunakho kungaba yisihluthulelo sokuphila impilo enempilo, nenenjabulo. Futhi awukwazi ukuphikisana nesayensi. Nazi izindlela ezinhlanu lapho ukuzwa ukubonga kungathuthukisa impilo yakho:

1. Ukubonga kungakhuphula izinga lakho lokwaneliseka empilweni.

Ufuna ukuzizwa ujabule ngokwengeziwe? Bhala inothi lokubonga! Ngokuya ngocwaningo olwenziwe nguSteve Toepfer, uprofesa osizayo kuHuman Development and Family Study eKent State University eSalem, ukukhuphula izinga lakho lokwaneliseka empilweni kungaba lula njengokubhala incwadi yokubonga. U-Toepfer ucele izihloko ukuthi zibhale incwadi ezwakalayo yokubonga kunoma ubani ezimfunayo. Lapho abantu bebhala izincwadi eziningi, kulapho babika khona bezwa izimpawu zokudangala, futhi baphawula ukuthi bazizwa bejabule futhi baneliseke kakhulu ngempilo iyonke. "Uma ufuna ukukhulisa inhlalakahle yakho ngokwenza izinto ngenhloso, thatha imizuzu engu-15 kathathu ngaphezu kwamasonto amathathu ubhalele othile izincwadi zokubonga," kusho uToepfer. "Kunomphumela owengeziwe, futhi. Uma ubhala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzozizwa ujabulile, uzozizwa waneliseka ngokwengeziwe, futhi uma uhlushwa yizimpawu zokucindezeleka, izimpawu zakho zizokwehla."

2. Ukubonga kungaqinisa ubudlelwano benu.

Kulula ukugxila kuzo zonke izinto umlingani wakho akuyona ukukhipha udoti, ukucosha izingubo zabo ezingcolile-kodwa ucwaningo lwango-2010 olwanyatheliswa kujenali. Ubudlelwano bomuntu siqu uthole ukuthi ukuthatha isikhathi sokugxila ezenzweni ezinhle ezenziwa uzakwenu kungakusiza uzizwe uxhumeke kakhulu futhi wanelisekile ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ukuthatha nje imizuzu embalwa nsuku zonke ukutshela umlingani wakho into eyodwa oyithandayo ngabo kungasiza kakhulu ekuqiniseni isibopho sakho.

3. Ukubonga kungathuthukisa impilo yakho yengqondo namandla.

Ukuzizwa ubonga kungaba nomthelela omuhle enhlalakahleni nasezingeni lempilo yakho, ngokusho kocwaningo lwango-2007 olwenziwe ngabaphenyi base-University of California - Davis. Izihloko (bonke ababengabamukeli bezitho) zahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amabili. Iqembu elilodwa laligcina amanothi ejwayelekile nsuku zonke ngemiphumela engemihle yemithi, ukuthi babezizwa kanjani ngempilo yonke, ukuthi babexhumene kanjani nabanye, nokuthi bazizwa kanjani ngosuku olulandelayo. Elinye iqembu laphendula imibuzo efanayo kodwa futhi lacelwa ukuba libhale izinto ezinhlanu noma abantu elibabongayo usuku ngalunye nokuthi kungani. Ekupheleni kwezinsuku ezingu-21, 'iqembu lokubonga' lase lithuthukise amaphuzu alo engqondo nempilo enhle, kuyilapho amaphuzu eqenjini elilawulayo ehla. Abacwaningi bathi imizwa yokubonga ingase isebenze ‘njengesivimbeli’ ezinseleleni ezingadalwa yisimo sezempilo esingelapheki.

Sifundani? Ngaphandle kwezinselelo ongahle ubhekane nazo, noma ngabe kuyisimo sezokwelapha, ukucindezelwa umsebenzi, noma izinselelo zokwehlisa isisindo, ukuthatha isikhathi sokubona ukuthi yini oyibongayo (noma ngabe isencwadini noma ukuyibona ngokuqaphela) kungakusiza ugcine umbono oqondile futhi kukhulise amazinga akho wamandla.

4. Ukuveza ukubonga kungakusiza ulale kangcono.

Abacwaningi eNyuvesi yaseManchester eNgilandi bacwaninga izifundo ezingaphezu kuka-400 (amaphesenti angu-40 azo ayenenkinga yokulala) futhi bathola ukuthi labo ababezizwa bebonga kakhulu babika nemicabango nemizwa eyakhayo eyengeziwe, okwabavumela ukuba balale ngokushesha futhi kwathuthukisa izinga labo eliphelele. yokulala. Ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi ukuthatha imizuzu embalwa ngaphambi kokulala ukubhala phansi noma ukusho ngokuzwakalayo izinto ezimbalwa ozibongayo kungakusiza ukuthi uwele ubuthongo obujulile.

5. Ukubonga kungakusiza unamathele esimisweni sakho sokuzivocavoca.

Ukubonga kungaba nje ugqozi oludingayo lokunamathela esimisweni sakho sokuzivocavoca. Ukuvivinya umzimba njalo kwakungezinye zezinzuzo ezengeziwe ezibikwe yizihloko esifundweni sase-University of California - Davis. Uma ukuzwa ukubonga kungakhuphula izinga lakho lamandla nenjabulo, kukusize uthole ubuthongo obuhle ebusuku, futhi uthuthukise ubudlelwano bakho, akumangazi ukuthi kungakusiza ukuthi unamathele ohlelweni lwakho lokujima, futhi!

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