Indlela Yokwamukela I-Badas Yakho Yangaphakathi

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Kule minyaka yedijithali eneziphazamiso ezingenakubalwa, kulula ukulahlekelwa umbono wethu nenjongo yethu. Ekuzameni ukukhuthaza amantombazane nabesifazane ukuthi babe yinguqulo engcono kakhulu kubo, isikhulumi sokunika amandla abesifazane u-Alexis Jones ukhombisa ukuthi ungaphupha kanjani omkhulu futhi uqale ukuphila impilo oyifunayo ngempela-manje.

Siye mathupha nomsunguli wenhlangano ethi I Am That Girl kanye nombhali wencwadi ezayo I Am That Girl: Ungakhuluma Kanjani Iqiniso Lakho, Thola Inhloso Yakho, kanye ne-#bethatgirl ukufunda amathiphu akhe aphezulu wokuzinakekela kangcono nokuthi ungamukela kanjani i-badass yakho yangaphakathi ngokugcwele.

Umumo: Yini Ngiyile Ntombazane konke mayelana?

U-Alexis Jones (AJ): Kuyisikhumbuzo esiphezulu sokuthi umuhle kangakanani. Sihlaselwa kakhulu yimilayezo ethi asenele. Lo ngumzamo wami othobekile wokukhumbuza amantombazane ukuthi ababi ngokweqile. Noma yini oyifunayo empilweni, kungenzeka. Kufanele sibe ngumphelelisi wethu omkhulu kunabo bonke.

Umumo: Ucabanga ukuthi kunzima ukuba ngowesifazane emphakathini wanamuhla?

I-AJ: Isizukulwane ngasinye sinesethi yaso yezinselelo, kodwa sinesethi eyingqayizivele neyinselele namuhla enobuchwepheshe nemilayezo yemidiya. Ngokwesilinganiso, sisebenzisa amahora we-10 wemidiya nezithombe zomkhiqizo ezingama-3,000 ngosuku. Ngokuvamile le milayezo ithi, "Awenele, kepha uma uthenga umkhiqizo wethu, mhlawumbe uzokwazi." Kuyahlanya ukucabanga ukuthi lokhu ngeke kusithinte, kodwa ukwazi ukuthi kuyinselelo kithina kunamandla. Ngakho-ke yize kukhona konke ukuhlela, izithombe, i-Photoshop, nokumaketha okukholisayo, ngizokwenza umsebenzi odingekayo ukuze uzizwe ungcono ngami. Kumayelana nokuzethemba.

Umumo: Abesifazane bavame ukuzibeka ekugcineni. Singakubeka kanjani phambili ukuzinakekela?

AJ: Udinga ukuzinika imvume yokuba nobugovu. Abesifazane bahloselwe ukondla, kepha lokho futhi kusho ukuthi singaphenduka abafel 'ukholo: Singanikela lapho singenalutho esingakunika. Kufanele uxhunywe emthonjeni wakho wamandla-kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukholo lwakho, abangani bakho, noma ukujima kwakho-futhi uthathe isikhathi sokuthola ukuthi yini ebalulekile kuwe, ngaphandle kwalokho ulahleka esimweni esiqhubekayo sokwenza. Singaba khona kubangani bethu futhi sibanikeze izeluleko, kepha nokho asikwazi ukukuqonda ukusho kithi. Ungalahli izinto ezibalulekile kuwe ukuze unakekele okubalulekile komunye umuntu.

Umumo: Athini amathiphu akho okuthola ukuthi iyini intshisekelo yakho nenjongo yakho ngempela empilweni?

AJ: Kufanele uthule, uthule, futhi unqamule. Kunzima ngempela ukuzwa izwi langaphakathi kokuthi yini ebalulekile kuwe ngenye indlela. Ngabe ugcine nini ukuthula ngamabomu imizuzu emihlanu kuya kweyishumi? Singakuzwa kanjani lokho kuhleba kwangaphakathi lapho siphazamiseke kakhulu futhi sinqanyuliwe? Into elandelayo ngempela ukuphuma ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokududuza. Yenza izinto ezikusabisayo futhi ube nezingxoxo ezizwakalayo. [Thwitha leli thiphu!]

Umumo: Isiphi iseluleko onaso kwabesifazane abangochwepheshe abafuna ukwenza umehluko?

I-AJ: Qala kancane. Siphila esizukulwaneni lapho sihlose khona kakhulu futhi sinezinhloso ezinkulu, kepha sikhohlwa umthelela esinawo ezimeni zethu zansuku zonke. Kulula njengokubheka othatha imali uma uthola igrosa, ubeke phansi ucingo, bese ubabuza ukuthi lunjani usuku lwabo. Impendulo oyithola kubantu iyashaqisa! Sicabanga ukuthi umthelela kufanele ube ukuqala okungenzi nzuzo noma ukunikela ngayo yonke le mali, kepha kuqala ngomuntu oyedwa.

Umumo: Ubuvuliwe Osindile, okuwuvivinyo olukhulu lwamandla angokwenyama, engqondo, kanye nawomoya. Lokho okuhlangenwe nakho kube nomthelela kanjani ezinkolelweni zakho nasencwadini yakho?

I-AJ: Ukuba sembukisweni kwaba yinto ehlanyisayo! Ngangihlala ngiwumdlandla wezemidlalo okweqisayo, kepha ngagcina ukuhamba izinsuku eziyi-13 ngingadlanga, ngaphula isandla ngosuku lokuqala, ngocelemba-ngonyawo lwami ngosuku lwe-19-ngangicabanga ukuthi nginzima ngize ngiqhubeke. Akuchazeki ukwazi ukuba nethuba lokubona ukuthi senziwe kanjani. Kuyasithobisa kakhulu. Kwanginikeza amazwibela endlela umhlaba wonke ophila ngayo. Kunginike umsebenzi wokuziphatha nokwazisa okungalawuleki. Angibanga nesibuko izinsuku ezingama-30. Zonke izinto ezinjengokubukeka kahle nokuba nomsebenzi omuhle zazingenandaba laphaya. Kwakuthakazelisa ukuthola lokhu kuchazwa kabusha kobuhle okungakholeki. Ungubani muhle kakhulu kunalokho oyikho ngaphandle.

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