UMeghan Markle Uthe "Wayengasafuni Ukuphinde Aphile" Lapho Esengowasebukhosini

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Ngesikhathi senhlolokhono phakathi kuka-Oprah kanye noDuke wangaphambili kanye noDuchess baseSussex, uMeghan Markle akazange aphendule - okuhlanganisa nemininingwane ejulile yempilo yakhe yengqondo ngesikhathi sakhe sobukhosi.

AbakwaDuchess bangaphambili bembulela u-Oprah ukuthi yize "wonke umuntu [emndenini wasebukhosini] emamukele," impilo njengengxenye yobukhosi yayinesizungu esimangalisayo futhi izimele. Kakhulu, eqinisweni, ukuzibulala kwaba “umcabango ocace kakhulu nowangempela nosabisayo nohlala njalo,” kusho u-Markle etshela u-Oprah. (Okuhlobene: Ukuthola Ukufaneleka Kungibuyisele emuva kusuka eBrink Yokuzibulala)

"Nganginamahloni ukukusho ngaleso sikhathi futhi nginamahloni okukuvuma kuHarry. Kodwa ngangazi ukuthi uma ngingakusho, khona-ke ngangizokwenza," kuchaza uMarkle. "Bengingasafuni ukuphila."

Njengoba u-Markle echaza engxoxweni (futhi umhlaba wabona ezihlokweni), ngokushesha wasuka ekubonweni njengelungu elisha elijabulisayo lomndeni wasebukhosini waze wavezwa njengomuntu onengxabano, nobukhona obuhlukanisayo. Lapho evula ngokuhlolisisa abhekane nakho kwabezindaba baseBrithani, uMarkle uzwakalise u-Oprah ukuthi uzizwa eyinkinga emndenini wasebukhosini. Ngenxa yalokho, wathi "wayecabanga ukuthi [ukuzibulala] kuzoxazulula yonke into kuwo wonke umuntu." UMarkle uthe wagcina eyile emnyangweni wezabasebenzi esikhungweni sasebukhosini eyofuna usizo, watshelwa ukuthi akukho abangakwenza ngoba “akalona ilungu lesikhungo elikhokhelwayo.” Akugcinanga lapho, kepha uMarkle uthe utshelwe ukuthi ngeke afune usizo ngempilo yakhe yengqondo ngoba ukwenza lokho "ngeke kube kuhle esikhungweni." Futhi-ke, ngamazwi kaMarkle, "Akukho okwake kwenziwa." (Okuhlobene: Izinsizakalo Zezempilo Yengqondo Zamahhala Ezinikeza Ukusekelwa Okuthengekayo Nokufinyelelayo)

UMarkle uphinde wakhumbula ukuthi kwakunzima kanjani ukufihla ubunzima bakhe nempilo yakhe yengqondo emehlweni abantu. "Bekumele siye kulo mcimbi eRoyal Albert Hall ngemuva kokuthi ngitshele uHarry ukuthi angisafuni ukuphila," etshela u-Oprah. "Ezithombeni, ngiyabona ukuthi amafinyila akhe aqiniswe kanjani eduze kwezami. Siyamamatheka, senza umsebenzi wethu. ERoyal Box, ngesikhathi kucima amalambu, bengikhala nje."

Ngaphambi kokuhlanganyela okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe nemicabango yokuzibulala, uMarkle wembule u-Oprah ukuthi ngisho nasekuqaleni kwesikhathi sakhe sobukhosi, waba nesizungu esikhulu. Uthe ubefuna ukuya esidlweni sasemini nabangani bakhe kodwa esikhundleni salokho wayalelwa umndeni wasebukhosini ukuthi alale phansi futhi wagxekwa “ngokuba kuyo yonke indawo” kwabezindaba - yize, eqinisweni, uMarkle wathi ubeyedwa ngaphakathi, ngokweqiniso. , izinyanga.

"Sengiphume endlini kabili ezinyangeni ezine - ngikuyo yonke indawo kepha angikho ndawo njengamanje," utshele u-Oprah ngaleso sikhathi empilweni yakhe. Wonke umuntu ubekhathazekile ngokukhanya - ukuthi izenzo zakhe zingabukeka kanjani - kodwa, njengoba uMarkle abelana no-Oprah, "ukhona okhulume ngendlela ezizwa ngayo? Ngoba okwamanje bengingazizwa nginesizungu."

Isizungu asilona ihlaya. Uma unolwazi olungapheli, kungaletha imiphumela emibi kakhulu. Ukuzizwa unesizungu kungathinta ukwenziwa kwe-dopamine ne-serotonin (ama-neurotransmitters akwenza uzizwe kahle) ebuchosheni bakho; njengoba ukusebenza kwazo kuncipha, ungaqala ukuzizwa uphansi, mhlawumbe ucindezelekile, noma ukhathazekile. Kalula nje: isizungu singandisa kakhulu ingozi yokucindezeleka.

Endabeni kaMarkle, isizungu sabonakala siyimbangela enkulu yemicabango yokuzibulala athe wabhekana nayo. Noma ngabe zinjani izimo, nokho, iphuzu ukuthi, njengoba ubukhazikhazi njengoba impilo yomuntu ingabukeka ingaphezulu, awusoze wazi ukuthi bangabhekana nobunzima obungakanani ngaphakathi.Njengoba uMarkle etshela u-Oprah: "Awazi ukuthi kwenzakalani ngomuntu osekusithekeni. Yiba nozwela ngalokho okungase kwenzeke empeleni."

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