Iqiniso Eliqinile Ngokugijima Ukuphepha Kwabesifazane

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Kwakusemini ngosuku olukhanyayo, libalele—okuphambene nendlela izindaba ezithusayo eziningi eziqala ngayo-kodwa njengoba uJeanette Jones ephuma eyogijima nsuku zonke, wayengazi ukuthi impilo yakhe isizophenduka iphupho elibi. Egijima endaweni yakubo ethule, owesifazane wase-Austin oneminyaka engu-39 ubudala akazange abone ukuthi insizwa ipake ngaphesheya komgwaqo. Kodwa wamqaphela, wabe esedlulela phambili ngamabhlokhi ambalwa ngaphambi kokucasha wamlinda.

"Weza egijima ekhoneni lendlu wavele wangiphatha nje emgwaqweni," usho njalo. "Ngazilwela masinyane, ngikhahlela futhi ngimemeza kakhulu kangangokuthi abantu emgwaqweni bangizwa emizini yabo."

Ngemuva kwemizuzu embalwa yokulwa, umhlaseli wakhe wabona ukuthi wayengeke abe isisulu esilula futhi wabaleka. UJones, akazange alahlekelwe yikhanda umzuzwana, ukwazile ukubamba ngekhanda inombolo yepuleti lakhe. Owesifazane obone lokhu kuhlaselwa umsize wabiza amaphoyisa, afike ambamba ngokushesha lo mlisa ngemuva kwemizuzu engu-20. Lokhu kuhlangana obekuvele kukuphazamisile kwaphela nasozwaneni ngesikhathi abaseshi bethi uvumile ukuthi ufuna ukumhudulela ehlathini eliseduze ukuze amdlwengule.

Umhlaseli kaJones uthole izinyanga ezingu-10 ejele, kodwa akazange alahlwe yicala lokuzama ukudlwengula noma ukuthumba. "Nakuba ngisanda kuthola imihuzuko kanye nemihuzuko evela ku-asphalt, ngisazizwa sengathi ngilahlekelwe cishe unyaka wokuphila kwami ​​ngenxa yokucindezeleka kwengqondo nokukhathazeka ngenxa yecala nesigameko," kusho uJones.

Lolu hlobo lokuhlaselwa ngokomzimba lungaqala ukuzwakala njengokujwayelekile, njengoba okunye ukuhlaselwa okuphezulu kwakamuva kwabagijimi besifazane bekwenzile izindaba. NgoJulayi, uMollie Tibbetts, umfundi wase-University of Iowa, waduka ngemuva kokushiya eyogijima, isidumbu sakhe satholwa enkundleni yezimbila emasontweni kamuva. Manje, kusatshalaliswa izindaba ngoWendy Karina Martinez, oneminyaka engu-34 waseD.C.Emva kokuya ejogini, wazithela endaweni yokudlela enamanxeba okugwazwa agcina ngokubulala. Lezi zinhlobo zezindaba zishiye abesifazane bezizwa bekhathele.Ngokocwaningo olwenziwe yi-Wearsafe Labs, amaphesenti angama-34 abesifazane azizwa esaba ngenkathi ezivocavoca yedwa.

Lowo muzwa uvumelekile, njengoba uRich Staropoli, owayeyinxusa leSecret Service kanye nochwepheshe wezokuphepha, esho ukuthi yize ukuhlaselwa ngokomzimba kuyisibalo esingatheni, ukuhlaselwa ngamazwi kuvame kakhulu. "Kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami, angazi umuntu wesimame oneminyaka yobudala owaziyo akenzanga uke wacatshangelwa, waphakanyiswa, noma wamane wenziwa ukungakhululeki ngamazwi, ukushukuma komzimba, noma imisindo engafanele ngesikhathi ngizama ukuzivivinya ngaphandle.” (Funda okulandelayo: Ngingowesifazane Nomgijimi: Lokho Akukuniki Imvume Ukungihlukumeza)

I-Staropoli ilungile-lapho i-SHAPE icela abesifazane izindaba zomuntu siqu zokuhlangana kwabo okuyingozi ngenkathi isebenza, sagcwala imilayezo ngokushesha. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi ukuhlaselwa ngamazwi kwenzeka kaningi akusho ukuthi abacasuki ngokwabo. U-Amy Nelson, oneminyaka engu-27 ubudala waseLacey, eWashington, ukhumbula ejahwa indoda edakiwe eyayimthethisa ngamazwi aluhlaza ngesikhathi ibaleka. Ngenkathi edakwe kakhulu ukuthi angamsukela ngaphezu kwengxenye yebhulokhi, uNelson uthi kwamethusa ukuthi acabange kabusha amasu akhe okusebenza. UKathy Bellisle, oneminyaka engu-44 ubudala wase-Ontario, eCanada, ukhumbula indoda eyayimlandela lapho egijima nsuku zonke kwaze kwaba yilapho ephumela obala futhi esabisa ngokubiza amaphoyisa. Wamshiya yedwa ngemuva kwalokho, kepha uhlala enovalo ngokugijima ebusuku, eshintsha njalo indlela yakhe, futhi enakekela ukugwema abantu angabazi. Futhi uLynda Benson, oneminyaka engu-30 ubudala waseSonoma, eCalifornia, uthi wabanjwa yindoda emotweni yakhe amasonto amaningi; nakuba engakaze akhulume naye, kwakwanele ukumenza alahle izindlela zakhe azithandayo.

Lolu hlobo lokuhlukunyezwa kwansuku zonke olunabesifazane abashintsha izindlela zabo ezijwayelekile. Icala nephuzu: Amaphesenti angama-50 abesifazane athi bayesaba ukuhamba noma ukugijima ebusuku ezindaweni abahlala kuzo, ngokusho kocwaningo lweGallup, ngenkathi ucwaningo olwenziwe yiStop Street Harassment luthola ukuthi amaphesenti ayi-11 abesifazane akhetha ukuzivocavoca ejimini ngoba abazizwa bekhululekile ukuzivocavoca ngaphandle.

Ngenkathi uStopopoli ekuqonda lokho kwesaba, uthi abesifazane akufanele baphoqeleke ukuthi bashintshe imikhuba yabo yokuzivocavoca ngenxa yalokho. "Ngokwezibalo, uphephe kakhulu ngokuzivocavoca ngaphandle," esho. "Kodwa njenganoma yisiphi isimo uma uwedwa, ukuqaphela indawo okuyo nokusebenzisa amasu alula okuphepha kwakho kuwukhiye wokuqhubeka nokujabulela umsebenzi wangaphandle unyaka wonke."

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Gijimalapho kunokukhanya okuningi nomsindo. Uhlobo lomlingiswa oluzohlukumeza owesifazane ozivocavoca ngaphandle kungenzeka ukuthi luhlehliswe yinoma yini ezodonsela ukunaka ezenzweni zakhe. Amalambu omgwaqo angumngani wakho, njengamapaki agcwele abantu ngokungafani nemikhondo engenalutho.

Vumela njalo abanyeumuntu uyazi lapho uya khona. Ukungasho ukuthi uhlela ukubuya nini. Ngaleyo ndlela bazokwazi ukuza bezobheka uma kukhona okungahambi kahle.

Uma uzithola usesimweni esibi njengalaba abanye besifazane, landela ukuhola kukaJones futhi ulwe, ubanga umsindo futhi udonse ukunaka kwakho okukhulu ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi yize kungaba nzima, uJones uthi ukuzama ukuqhubeka nokwenza lokho okuthandayo-usagijima nsuku zonke ngoba uthi uyenqaba ukuvumela ukwesaba kumphuce indlela yakhe ayithandayo yokuzivocavoca.

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