Ingabe Ubudlelwano Bakho Bonakalisa Impilo Yakho Enempilo?

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• Uzakwenu Usubathile Kakhulu Kunani
• Umlingani Wakho Unomona Wokunciphisa Isisindo Sakho
• Uzakwenu Uzonda Isikhathi Ochitha Isikhathi Sokujuluka
• Uzakwenu Uyahlekisa Ekudleni Kwakho
• Umlingani wakho ucabanga ukuthi ubukeka ungcono kunesisindo esihlukile
• Uzakwenu Uphazamisa Imizamo Yakho Yokudla
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Kubukeka sengathi ubudlelwano obude buhlala isikhathi eside, uma uhlu lwezinto ongalwa ngazo lude, luthola. Futhi isikhubekiso esikhulu kwabashadile abaningi kulezi zinsuku izimo zengqondo ezihlukene mayelana nokudla nokuqina. Uyi-vegan ethanda i-yoga; ufunga ngokudla kwepaleo neCrossFit. Kepha ukungaboni ngaso linye ngokuthi ukubheka kanjani ukuba ngumqemane akudingeki kuqede ubuhlobo bakho. Eqinisweni, kusho u-Alisa Ruby Bash, uLMFT, isazi sobudlelwano eBeverly Hills, eCalifornia, kungakusondeza ngisho nasekusondeleni ndawonye.

Uzakwenu Usubathile Kakhulu Kunani

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Ukulungiswa: Izindaba ezimnandi, ngokusho kukaBash, ukuthi uma umdlalo wezemidlalo ubalulekile kumlingani wakho, uzofika ekuqaleni kobudlelwano ngesikhathi lapho ungabuthatha khona kalula noma ubushiye. Uma benindawonye isikhashana, lokhu kukhathazeka mhlawumbe kusho okuningi ngawe kunaye. "Udinga ukubheka ukungazethembi kwakho. Wakhetha! Ungazihlanganisi nezinkinga zakho kuye," esho, enezela ukuthi ukube (yena) ubefuna umlingani kwezemidlalo yokuncintisana njengaye, ngabe ubejola enye yamantombazane eqenjini lakhe. Futhi uma usakhathazekile? Mbuze nje.

Umlingani Wakho Unomona Wokunciphisa Isisindo Sakho

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Ukulungiswa: Sizokusho nje: Abesilisa babonakala sengathi banciphisa isisindo kulula kakhulu kunabesifazane nokuthi, ngokungagwegwesi, kuyanuka. Kulula ukushintsha izinto zibe umqhudelwano kodwa ekugcineni uma omunye wenu eba nempilo bese niwina nobabili. Kungakho kufanele uzame ukukwenza umzamo weqembu, kusho uBash. "Ukuthola impilo ndawonye kungumqondo omuhle," esho. "Ningasebenzisana njengeqembu ukugcina ukudla okunempilo endlini, ukupheka ukudla, ukwesekana ngisho nokujabulela imiklomelo ndawonye."

Uzakwenu Uzonda Isikhathi Ochitha Isikhathi Sokujuluka

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Ukulungiswa: Ukuzinikela esigabeni sakho osithandayo seZumba akuyona into embi; wonke umuntu udinga ukuzenzela okuthile. Inkinga iza ngoba sonke sinesikhathi esilinganiselwe, uBash uyachaza. Kepha akudingeki uyeke ukugcina enye inkampani yakho ebalulekile kusofa neNetflix. "Zama ukumema ukuthi eze nawe," uphakamisa. "Futhi uma engenantshisekelo, kwenze kube yinto yokuqala ukuhlela isikhathi ndawonye nenza into eniyijabulela nobabili."

Uzakwenu Uyahlekisa Ekudleni Kwakho

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Ukulungiswa: Abesilisa bavame ukuba nokulindela okuningi ngendlela owesifazane okufanele "adle ngayo" (sibonga kakhulu, ezentengiso zikaCarl's Jr.!) Kepha ayikho indlela eyodwa yokuthi izintokazi zithole okondlayo. Amanye amantombazane achuma emasaladini, amanye athanda ukugcotshwa nge-pizza namaphiko, kanti abanye bethu bagcina ushokoledi ekhabetheni lethu langaphansi njengezingwejeje ezilungiselela i-chococalypse. Kulungile, kusho uBash, enezela ngokuthi uma indoda yakho ikuklolodela ngalokho okudlayo noma ongakudli, indlela engcono yokuyiphatha ukubhekela yena emuva. "Jikela ihlaya kuye futhi ungazithathi kakhulu," kuchaza yena. "Uma ungacabangi ukuthi kuyinto enkulu, naye ngeke."

Umlingani wakho ucabanga ukuthi ubukeka ungcono kunesisindo esihlukile

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Ukulungiswa: Sonke sizwile ukuthi "abafana bathanda impango ethe xaxa ukuyibamba ebusuku" kepha noma ngabe ukhuluma ngamabhesi noma i-treble (noma i-symphony ejabulisayo yakho kokubili) ukuthi umzimba wakho ubukeka kanjani kufanele kube kuwe. UBash uhlangabezana nalolu daba kakhulu namakhasimende akhe, futhi uthi yize abanye besifazane bengabona njengokubonga noma ukukhulula, abanye bazizwa besaba. “Yebo uyafuna akuthole ukhanga kodwa ekugcineni kumele ube neqiniso kuwena,” kuchaza yena, wengeza ngokuthi kumele umtshele nje ukuthi ukuphawula kwakhe kukwenza uzizwe kanjani futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uzonqamuka.

Uzakwenu Uphazamisa Imizamo Yakho Yokudla

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Ukulungiswa: Ayikho into ekhungathekisa njengokuqala Usuku Lokuqala lwendlela yakho yokuphila entsha enempilo, usanda kuhlanza yonke imfucumfucu ephareji lakho, kunokuba ujike uthole umlingani wakho emi lapho ephethe igalani leshiphu le-mint. Uma kwenzeka nje kanye, bhekana nenkinga-Ngabe ukwehla kwesisindo sakho kumenza azizwe engavikelekile ngobudlelwano? Ingabe wayezama ukwenza okuthile okuhle?—futhi wavuma ukuthi ngeke kuphinde kwenzeke. Kepha uma kuba yinkinga eqhubekayo, empeleni kungaba wuphawu lokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, kusho uBash. “Uma umuntu oyedwa ezabalazela ukuncipha kanti omunye elokhu ezama ukucekela phansi lokho, kusho ukuthi uzama ukukhohlisa lowo muntu futhi angakwazi ngisho nokuba yisisulu sokuluthwa wukudla,” kuchaza yena. "Uma engeke ayeke futhi engayi ekwelulekeni nawe, kusuke kuxazulule inkinga."

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