Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa Ngo 9 Ngokuphepha Ukuziphatha Okungafanele

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• Kwenzenjani?
• Ingabe kuyinto efanayo nokungashadi?
• Kuthiwani ngokukhipha umzimba?
• Ungakwazi yini ukuhlanganyela kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi womzimba?
• Yini ongayenza nomlingani wakho ngenkathi usaqhubeka nokuzithiba?
• Ukuqabulana
• Inkulumo engcolile noma imibhalo
• Ukuqhuma okomile
• Ukushaya indlwabu ngokuhlanganyela (kwezinye izincazelo)
• Ukugqugquzela okwenziwa ngesandla (kwezinye izincazelo)
• Ubulili bomlomo (kwezinye izincazelo)
• Ubulili be-anal (kwezinye izincazelo)
• Ubeka kanjani imingcele nomlingani wakho?
• Kungenzeka yini ukuthi ukhulelwe?
• Ziyenzeka yini izifo zocansi?
• Yini iphuzu?
• Okubalulekile

Kwenzenjani?

Ngendlela elula kakhulu, ukuzithiba kuyisinqumo sokungayi ocansini. Kodwa-ke, kusho izinto ezihlukile kubantu abahlukile.

Abanye abantu bangabheka ukuzithiba njengokugwema noma ikuphi ukwenza ucansi. Abanye bangase bahlanganyele ekuzivocavoca umzimba, bagweme ukungena kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane noma sangasese.

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ayikho indlela "efanele" yokuchaza ukuzithiba.

Incazelo yakho ihlukile kuwe. Ungakhetha ukuzijwayeza noma nini lapho ufuna - noma ngabe wake waya ocansini phambilini. Nakhu ukuthi kungani abantu benza, ukuthi kusebenza kanjani, nokuningi.

Ingabe kuyinto efanayo nokungashadi?

Ngenkathi ukuzithiba nokungashadi kuvame ukusetshenziswa ngokungafani, ukungashadi kuvame ukubhekwa njengesinqumo sokugwema ukuya ocansini ngenxa yezizathu zenkolo.

Umuntu othathe isifungo sokungashadi kuyinto ukuzijwayeza ukuzithiba. Kodwa kulokhu, kuvame ukubonwa njengesinqumo sesikhathi eside.

Isinqumo sokungabambeki sivame ukukhawulelwa enkathini ethile yesikhathi. Isibonelo, othile anganquma ukuzijwayeza ukuchitha isikhathi aze abe nomlingani othandana naye isikhathi esithile.

Kuthiwani ngokukhipha umzimba?

Njengokungazithibi, i-outercourse isho izinto ezihlukile kubantu abahlukile.

Kwabanye abantu, ukuziyeka kusho ukugwema ukungena ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini.

Le ncazelo ishiya indawo yokugaxana, ukubhucungwa inkanuko, nezinye izinhlobo zokukhipha umzimba.

Kwabanye, ukuziyeka kungaba yisinqumo sokugwema noma yini kanye nayo yonke imisebenzi yezocansi - kufaka phakathi i-outercourse.

Ungakwazi yini ukuhlanganyela kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi womzimba?

Ngokwethembeka, kuya ngencazelo yakho yomuntu siqu yokuziyeka.

Uma ukholelwa ukuthi ucansi yinoma isiphi isenzo sokungena, khona-ke ungabamba iqhaza kwezinye izinto zomzimba - njengokuqabula, ukuqumba okomile, nokugqugquzela okwenziwa ngesandla - ngenkathi usaqhubeka nokuzithiba.

Yini ongayenza nomlingani wakho ngenkathi usaqhubeka nokuzithiba?

Ngoba incazelo yokuziyeka incike kumuntu, izinto ongazenza nomlingani wakho ngenkathi nenza ukuziyeka ziyahlukahluka.

Kubalulekile ukuthi uvule futhi uthembeke kumlingani wakho mayelana nokuthi yini enikhululekile ngayo ukuze nikwazi ukuhlonipha imingcele yomunye nomunye.

Ngokuya ngencazelo yakho yomuntu siqu yokuzithiba, ungakwazi ukubamba iqhaza emisebenzini efana nale:

Ukuqabulana

Abaphenyi ocwaningweni olulodwa lwango-2013 bathole ukuthi imibhangqwana eqabulane kakhulu ibike ukwaneliseka okuphezulu ebudlelwaneni bayo.

Ukuqabula akukhiphi nje kuphela lawo "mahomoni ajabulisayo" akusiza ukuba uzihlanganise nomlingani wakho, kungaba nomthelela omangazayo empilweni yakho yonke.

Inkulumo engcolile noma imibhalo

Ucwaningo olulodwa luka-2017 lusikisela ukuthi ukuxhumana (ngomlomo noma ngokungaqondile) kungaxhunyaniswa nokwaneliseka ngokocansi. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ukuzibandakanya enkulumweni engcolile encane nomlingani wakho kungaba yindlela yokuhlola ukusondelana ngenkathi uziqhenya.

Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi - ngenkathi ukuthumelelana imiyalezo yocansi kungakhulula ocansini - kufanele uqhubeke ngokuqapha. Ezinye izinhlobo zokuthumelelana imiyalezo yocansi zingavumelekile.

Ukuqhuma okomile

Ukuqhuma okomile akudingeki kube nzima. Eqinisweni, kungaba yindlela enhle yokwazi umzimba wakho. Ungesabi ukuzama izikhundla ezahlukahlukene, amasu, nokuthi ugqokeni.

Khumbula nje ukuthi noma nini lapho uhlangana noketshezi lomzimba, izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi (ama-STI) zihlala ziyingozi. Amanye ama-STI nawo angadluliselwa ngokuxhumana kwesikhumba nesikhumba.

Ukushaya indlwabu ngokuhlanganyela (kwezinye izincazelo)

Awukho umthetho othi ukushaya indlwabu kumele kube ngumsebenzi wedwa. Kungaba futhi yindlela enhle yokuxhumana nomlingani wakho futhi ufunde ukuthi bathanda ini.

Futhi, ukushaya indlwabu kunikeza izinzuzo ezithile ezimangazayo zempilo yakho engokwenyama nengqondo.

Ukugqugquzela okwenziwa ngesandla (kwezinye izincazelo)

Njengokushaya indlwabu, ukugqugquzela okwenziwa ngesandla - usebenzisa izandla noma iminwe ukujabulisa umlingani wakho - kungaba yindlela enhle yokukusiza ukuthi ufinyelele i-orgasm ngaphandle kokungena ngokocansi.

Ungazama futhi ukusebenzisa amathoyizi wezocansi noma i-lubricant ukuvuselelana.

Ingozi yakho yokukhulelwa kanye nezifo ezithathelana ngokocansi iyanda lapho uketshezi lomzimba lubandakanyeka, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuphepha.

Ubulili bomlomo (kwezinye izincazelo)

Uma kukhulunywa ngentokozo, kunezinketho eziningi zokusebenzisa umlomo wakho esithweni sangasese somlingani wakho nakwezinye izindawo ezinobungozi.

Noma ngabe uzama imisebenzi yokuqhuma, i-cunnilingus, i-rimming, noma enye into, kubalulekile ukuthi uqiniseke ukuthi usasebenzisa ukuvikelwa kuma-STI.

Ubulili be-anal (kwezinye izincazelo)

Ubulili obuyindilili bungaba yindlela enhle kubantu babo bonke ubulili. Ukungena kungenzeka ngeminwe, ithoyizi locansi, noma ipipi, ngakho-ke sebenzisa leli thuba ukudlala ngokuzizwa okuhlukile.

Ubeka kanjani imingcele nomlingani wakho?

Ukukhuluma ngocansi noma ukuziyeka kungazwakala kunzima, kodwa akudingeki kube njalo.

Uma ukhathazekile ngokuthi uzoqala kanjani ingxoxo, zama ukusondela kuyo usuka endaweni yothando.

Wonke umuntu ufuna ukujabula. Inhloso yakho kufanele kungabi ukutshela kuphela umlingani wakho ukuthi yini wena bafuna, kepha ukuze bafunde abakufunayo, futhi.

Zama ukungalindi kuze kube yilapho izinto seziba ngokomzimba - noma ngemuva kokuthi usuvele ungakhululekile - ukusetha imingcele nomlingani wakho.

Kepha uma usekushiseni okwamanje futhi ufuna ukuqinisekisa imingcele, unganqikazi ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho.

Khumbula, imvume iyadingeka futhi iyathinta. Uvunyelwe ukushintsha umqondo wakho noma okuthandayo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi.

Akufanele uzwe unengcindezi - noma ucindezele umlingani wakho - ukwenza okuthile omunye wenu angakhululeki ngakho.

Kungenzeka yini ukuthi ukhulelwe?

Ukuzithiba ukuphela kwendlela yokulawula ukubeletha esebenza ngempumelelo engamaphesenti ayi-100, kodwa lokho kusebenza kuphela uma empeleni ungagodli amaphesenti ayi-100 esikhathi.

Kuthatha kuphela ukwenza ucansi lwesitho sangasese sowesifazane olungavikelekile kanye - noma isidoda singena esithweni sangasese ngenye indlela yokwenza ucansi - ukuze ukukhulelwa kwenzeke.

Uma wena nomlingani wakho nilungele ukuya ocansini, qiniseka ukuthi nikhuluma ngamakhondomu nezinye izindlela zokulawula ukubeletha.

Noma ungenaso isiqiniseko sokuthi uyafuna yini ukuya ocansini, ukuthatha iphilisi lokuvimbela inzalo noma ukuba namakhondomu esandleni kuzokusiza ukuthi uzilungiselele uma ushintsha umqondo.

Ziyenzeka yini izifo zocansi?

Noma ngabe uzijwayeza ukuziyeka, ama-STI kungenzeka. Amanye ama-STI angadluliselwa ngamanzi oketshezi. Abanye bangadlulisa ngokuxhumana kwesikhumba nesikhumba.

Lokhu kusho ukuthi ungaba sengozini noma kunini lapho wenza ucansi lomlomo olungavikelekile, ucansi lwendunu, wabelana ngamathoyizi ocansi, noma wenza ezinye izinto zomzimba lapho ukuthintana kwesikhumba nesikhumba kungadlulisa uketshezi lomzimba.

Ukusebenzisa amakhondomu namadamu wamazinyo kungasiza ekunciphiseni ubungozi bakho.

Kubalulekile futhi ukuhlolelwa izifo ezithathelana ngokocansi ekuqaleni kobudlelwano obusha - ngaphambi kokuya ocansini nomlingani wakho - noma uma ucabanga ukungasebenzisi amakhondomu.

Yini iphuzu?

Abantu abahlukene banezizathu ezahlukahlukene zokuyeka. Ayikho impendulo "efanele".

Kubalulekile ukuthi wenze okuhle kakhulu kuwe, futhi - uma umlingani wakho kunguye ofisa ukungazibandakanyi - hlonipha njalo imingcele ebekiwe.

Nazi ezinye zezizathu zokuthi kungani umuntu angakhetha ukungazibandakanyi:

• Ufuna ukuhlola ezinye izinhlobo zokusondelana.
• Wena noma umlingani wakho aninantshisekelo noma alulungele ucansi.
• Usuvele wenza ucansi, kodwa uthathe isinqumo sokuthi awukulungele ukuphinde ube nalo.
• Ufuna ukukhulisa injabulo yezocansi ngaphandle kocansi.
• Awuzizwa ukhululekile ukuya ocansini, unezinhlungu ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini, noma uyalulama ekuhlukumezeni.
• Awunakho ukufinyelela kwezinye izindlela zokulawula ukubeletha, njengamaphilisi okulawula ukubeletha noma amakhondomu.

Okubalulekile

Uvunyelwe ukukhetha ukuziyeka nganoma yisiphi isikhathi futhi nganoma yisiphi isizathu.

Awudingi ukuya ocansini ukuze ube yingxenye yobudlelwano obunothando nobusondelene. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi wenza lokho okukwenza ukhululeke.

Futhi ngaphandle kwezizathu zakho zokukwenza, ukuzithiba kungaba yindlela ejabulisayo yokuzama izinto ezintsha. Ukuhlola izinjabulo ezahlukahlukene kungakusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi inkanuko isho ukuthini kuwe.