Ingabe Ngivamile? Imibuzo yakho ephezulu engu-6 yezocansi iphenduliwe

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• Ngenza ucansi olungaphephile. Manje ngesaba ukuthi ngine-STD.
• Ngineminyaka engama-30, futhi angikaze ngiye ocansini.
• Anginayo intshisekelo yokwenza ucansi njengesoka lami.
• Kubuhlungu uma ngiya ocansini!
• Angingeni ocansini lomlomo.
• Angikaze ngibe ne-orgasm.
• Buyekeza kwe-

Ukuxoxa ngama-orgasms, lagging libidos, noma ama-STD kungasabisa. Ngakho-ke singenile senza ukubuza. Imininingwane yethu yochwepheshe ingase ikuqinisekise, ikumangaze, futhi ikukhuthaze ukuthi uvule amaseshini akho esakeni.

Ngenza ucansi olungaphephile. Manje ngesaba ukuthi ngine-STD.

Unesizathu esihle sokukhathazeka: Izifo ezithathelwana ngobulili ziyanda, ngokusho kweCenters for Disease Control and Prevention, njengoba kwenzeka abantu abasha abayizigidi ezingu-19 unyaka ngamunye.Ngeshwa, izifo azitholakali emzimbeni wakho ngokushesha, ngakho-ke kuzodingeka ulinde isonto elikhathazayo noma ngaphambi kokuthi ubone udokotela wakho ukuze ahlolwe i-chlamydia ne-gonorrhea, kusho udokotela wezifo zabesifazane waseNew York City uCarol Livoti, MD-bese ezinye izinsuku ezintathu kuya kweziyisikhombisa zemiphumela. "Inkambo yama-antibiotic izonqanda lezi zifo ezibangelwa amagciwane," kusho uLivoti. "Kodwa uma ishiywe ingalashwa, ingadala umonakalo wesikhathi eside futhi ilimaze nokuzala kwakho." Kufanele futhi uhlele i-aphoyintimenti yokulandelela ezinyangeni ezintathu ukuze uthole ukuhlolwa kwegazi kwe-hepatitis, ugcunsula, ne-HIV. "Lokhu kuthatha isikhathi eside ukuvela ohlelweni lwakho," kuchaza yena. Kunento eyodwa okumele uyilungise ngokushesha, nokho: Ngaphandle kwalapho usebenzisa Iphilisi noma usebenzisa i-IUD, kufanele uphuze iphilisi lasekuseni (elitholakala ekhawuntareni) NGOKUSHESHA ukuze ugweme ukukhulelwa okungafunwa. "Ungaqala iPlan B kuze kufike emahoreni angama-72 ngemuva kocansi olungavikelekile," kusho uLivoti, "kodwa lusebenza kakhulu kusenesikhathi." Ngekusasa, gcina amakhondomu ukuze uhlale unawo esikhwameni sakho nasetafuleni eliseceleni kombhede. [Chofoza ukuze Tweet leli thiphu!]

Ngineminyaka engama-30, futhi angikaze ngiye ocansini.

Nakanjani uyingcosana: Ngokwe-National Survey of Family Growth, munye kuphela kwabesifazane abangama-53 abaneminyaka engama-30 kuya kwengama-34 namanje oyintombi nto. “Kodwa akukho lutho olungalungile ngokulinda, ikakhulukazi uma uyeka ngenxa yezizathu ezingokwenkolo noma uze uthole umuntu ofanele,” kusho uTammy Nelson, umlobi wencwadi ethi Getting the Sex You Want. Uma ungathanda ukuya ocansini futhi ungenzi, nokho, leyo indaba ehlukile. “Njengoba abesifazane bekhula, abaningi baqala ukwethuka futhi bazizwe bengaphumelelanga nontanga yabo uma bengakayenzi itayitela,” kusho uNelson. "Uma uzizwa ukhathazekile ngesimo sakho, cabanga ukubona umelaphi ukuze uthole ukuthi yini engakubambezela. Kungaba ukwesaba ukusondelana, ukungazethembi, noma inkinga kusuka ebuntwaneni bakho." Ukusebenza ngalezi zivimbamgwaqo kungakusiza ukuthi uzethembe ngokwengeziwe, kanye nobumnandi nokuxhumana okungokomzwelo okuvela ocansini.

Anginayo intshisekelo yokwenza ucansi njengesoka lami.

"Kujwayelekile ukuthi umuntu oyedwa ebudlelwaneni afune ukuya ocansini kakhulu kunomunye kwesinye isikhathi," kusho uNelson. Futhi isifiso sabesifazane sishukunyiswa kakhulu ngokomzwelo kunamadoda, uyanezela, "ngakho ukucindezeleka okuvela emsebenzini noma ezindabeni zomuntu siqu kungase kubangele." Lesi esinye sezizathu ezenza amaphesenti angu-9 abesifazane abaneminyaka engu-18 kuya kwengu-44 avume ukuthi bane-libido ephansi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, kusho abacwaningi baseMassachusetts General Hospital. Kodwa uma i-sex drive yakho ilahlekile izinyanga, imbangela ingaba ngokomzimba. "Imithi eminingi, njenge-anti-depressants, amaphilisi okulawula ukubeletha, nama-antihistamine, ingaba nemiphumela emibi kwezocansi," kusho uNelson. Ungahle ufune ukushintshela kolunye uhlobo lomuthi. Uma ungekho ku-Rx, hlola amazinga akho ama-hormone, angashintshwa yisifo sikashukela, umfutho wegazi ophezulu, nezinye izinkinga; ukusebenzisa i-estrogen noma ukhilimu we-testosterone kungasiza. Lapho udokotela wakho esekhombe noma ekhipha izimbangela, sebenzela ukukhulisa idrayivu yakho ngokwemvelo. Ukuvivinya umzimba nokudla ngendlela efanele kungasiza ngokuthuthukisa isimo somzimba wakho kanye nokwandisa amandla akho—futhi kanjalo kungamane nje ukwenze. “Ucansi lukhulisa amahomoni akhuthaza inkanuko,” kusho uNelson. "I-aphrodisiac ehamba phambili laphaya."

Kubuhlungu uma ngiya ocansini!

Joyina iklabhu: Amaphesenti angaba ngu-60 abesifazane aye azwa ubuhlungu ngesikhathi socansi, ngokocwaningo lwephephabhuku i-Obstetrics & Gynecology. "Ezimweni eziningi, ukungabikho kokugcotshwa kusolwa," kusho uLivoti. Amaphilisi okulawula ukubeletha, ama-antihistamine, neminye imishanguzo konke kungasiza ekomeni kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, kepha imvamisa asikho isizathu sezokwelapha. Futhi kungenzeka kunoma iyiphi iminyaka. "Futhi, ukungqubuzana phakathi kocansi kungasebenzisa ukuthambisa kwakho kwemvelo," kunezela uDebby Herbenick, Ph.D., usosayensi ocwaningayo e-Indiana University futhi ongumbhali we-Because It Feels Good. Gcina ishubhu le-lube ngokususelwa emanzini ombhede wakho kungcono kakhulu ngoba alingcolile, lihambisana ne-latex ne-silicone, futhi litholakala kalula. Kodwa uma ukungakhululeki kuqhubeka ngemva kokuzumeka okumbalwa, noma uma ukuzwela kuhambisana nomkhuhlane noma ukopha, kubalulekile ukubonana nodokotela wakho wezifo zabesifazane. “Ukucasuka lapho kuvuleka isitho sangasese sowesifazane kungase kubonise ukuthi une-pelvic, isinye, noma isifo somchamo esidinga imithi,” kusho uLivoti. "Futhi ubuhlungu obubangelwa ukugxishwa okujulile kungaba umphumela we-cyst ovarian."

Angingeni ocansini lomlomo.

Kunezizathu ezimbili ezijwayelekile zokuthi kungani abesifazane bengathandi ukuthola ngomlomo, kusho umqeqeshi wezocansi waseNew York City u-Amy Levine: Umlingani wabo akanamakhono, noma bayazazi ukuthi kabanuki noma abanambitha kahle. Kumagazini wokuqala, khomba indoda yakho endleleni efanele ngokuthi, "Ngithanda uma u..." Okwesibili, ukushawa kulungiswa ngokushesha. Mayelana nokunikeza ngomlomo, uNelson uphawula ukuthi nakuba abanye besifazane bethi bakuthola kwehlisa isithunzi, “abaningi banomuzwa ophambene: Ukujabulisa abalingani babo kubanikeza umuzwa wamandla.” Kodwa-ke, khumbula ukuthi ungathola i-STD efana ne-herpes noma i-HPV kusuka ocansini lomlomo, ngakho-ke yiba nenkulumo eqotho nomlingani wakho kuqala.

Angikaze ngibe ne-orgasm.

Amaphesenti ayishumi abesifazane asezicathulweni zakho, ngokusho kukaRachel Needle, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sasemtholampilo eSikhungo Sempilo Yomshado Nezocansi eNingizimu Florida. "Ukuzidedela kungasabisa," kusho uSalele. "Futhi lapho ugcizelela kakhulu ngakho, kuba nzima nakakhulu ukugxila ekufinyeleleni kuvuthondaba." Kepha kuwufanele impela umzamo: Abazizwa kahle kuphela, ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi ama-orgasms anganciphisa ukucindezeleka, aqede izinhlungu nezimpawu ze-PMS, futhi angakusiza nokuthi uphile isikhathi eside. Ayikho imephu yendawo yonke "yokufika lapho" ngoba wonke umuntu wehlukile; ukufunda ngomzimba wakho kubalulekile. "Ukushaya indlwabu kuyindlela engcono yokwenza lokhu," kusho uLevine. "Uma usuzinakekele wedwa, uzokwazi kangcono ukuqondisa umlingani wakho." Imvamisa ukuya ocansini kukodwa akwanele ukukhuthaza, ungeza uNelson, ngakho-ke zama ngokusebenzisa izandla zakho nokuzama izikhundla ezahlukahlukene. Ungakhathazeki ngokuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani-noma yikuphi ukusuka emaminithini ayisikhombisa kuya kwangu-30 kuyinto evamile. Vele ulale futhi ujabulele.

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