Indlela Yokuphula Umjikelezo Wobuhlungu Bokulimala Okuphikelelayo

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• Khalwa.
• Ungakuvumeli ukuthi kukuvimbe.
• Kubhale.
• Buyekeza kwe-

Kunezinhlobo ezimbili zobuhlungu, kusho uDavid Schechter, M.D., umbhali we Cabanga Ngokuqeda Ubuhlungu Bakho. Kunezinhlobo ze-acute ne-subacute: Uhlikihla iqakala lakho, uliphathe ngemithi yezinhlungu noma ngokwelashwa ngokomzimba, bese liphela ezinyangeni ezimbalwa. Bese kuba nohlobo oluphikelelayo.

"I-MRIs esebenzayo ibonisa ukuthi ubuhlungu obungapheli buvela endaweni ehlukile yobuchopho kusukela ebuhlungu obunzima," kusho uDkt Schechter. Yenza kusebenze i-amygdala ne-prefrontal cortex, izindawo ezimbili ezibandakanyeka nokucubungula imizwa. Uthi: "Ubuhlungu bangempela," kepha ukwelashwa nokwelashwa ngokomzimba akukwazi ukubelapha ngokuphelele. "Kufanele welaphe izindlela eziguquliwe ezisebuchosheni." (Okuhlobene: Ungayisebenzisa Kanjani Izikhathi Zakho Zokwelapha Ngomzimba)

Nazi izindlela ezinhle kakhulu ezisekelwa yisayensi zokuphatha ubuhlungu ngengqondo yakho.

Khalwa.

Isinyathelo sokuqala ukubona ukuthi ubuhlungu bakho buvela kulezo zindlela zezinzwa ezingasasebenzi, hhayi inkinga eqhubekayo endaweni ebuhlungu. Ungaqinisekisa ukuthi ukulimala kwakho kupholile ngokuhlolwa futhi, uma kunesidingo, ukucabanga okuvela kudokotela.

Kepha kungaba nzima ukuyeka umbono wokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle emzimbeni. Qhubeka uzikhumbuza: Ubuhlungu buvela emzileni ongaqondiwe kahle ebuchosheni bakho, hhayi emzimbeni wakho. (Okuhlobene: Kungani Ungakwazi (futhi Kufanele) Uqhubeke Nobuhlungu Ngesikhathi Sokuzivocavoca Kwakho)

Ungakuvumeli ukuthi kukuvimbe.

Ngomzamo wokulawula ubuhlungu, abantu abanezinhlungu ezingapheli bavame ukugwema imisebenzi, njengokugijima nokuhamba ngebhayisikili, abesaba ukuthi kungadala izimpawu. Kepha lokhu kungenza inkinga ibe yimbi kakhulu.

UDkt. Schechter uthi: “Lapho ugxila kakhulu ebuhleni, ulindele futhi ukhathazeka ngobuhlungu, kulapho izindlela zobuchopho ezibubangela zibonakala khona. Umqondo wakho uqala ukubona izenzo ezijwayelekile, njengokuhamba ngezinyawo, njengeziyingozi, zidala ubuhlungu obengeziwe bokukwenza uzeqe.

Ukuze usize ubuchopho buyeke lokhu kwesaba, qalisa kabusha imisebenzi obulokhu uyigwema. Kancane kancane qala ukugijima noma ukuhamba ngebhayisikili isikhathi eside. Futhi cabanga ukunciphisa amasu obuthembele kuwo ukuze unciphise ubuhlungu bakho: UDkt. Schechter uthi abanye abantu bayazuza ngokumisa izinto ezifana nokwelashwa ngokomzimba noma ukusebenzisa i-brace, okungase futhi kukukhuthaze ukuthi ugxile ebuhlungu bakho. (Okuhlobene: Ukuzindla Kungcono Ngokuqeda Izinhlungu Kune-Morphine)

Kubhale.

Ukucindezeleka nokucindezeleka kungenza izindlela ezibangela ubuhlungu obungapheli zizwele. Kungenzeka ukuthi kungani ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kubangela izimo ezibuhlungu ezingapheli.

Ukuyigcina ilawulwa, uDkt. Schechter uncoma ukushicilelwa kwemizuzu eyi-10 kuya kwengu-15 ngosuku mayelana nokuthi yini ekucindezelayo nentukuthelo, kanye nokuthi yini ekwenza uzizwe ujabule futhi ubonga. Lolu hlobo lwesitolo ludambisa imizwa engemihle futhi lukhuthaze oluhle, olusiza ukunciphisa izinhlungu. (Ingasaphathwa, zonke lezi ezinye izinzuzo zokubhala kujenali.)

Ungasebenzisa futhi uhlelo lokusebenza olufana ne-Curable (kusuka ku-$8 ngenyanga), enikeza ulwazi nokubhala izivivinyo ezenzelwe ukusiza ukumisa ubuhlungu obungapheli. (Okuhlobene: Ingabe Uhlelo Lokusebenza 'Lungabelapha' Ngempela Ubuhlungu Bakho Obungapheli?)

I-Shape Magazine, udaba lukaNovemba 2019

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