Ukuqonda Izimbangela Zokuhlukunyezwa Kwezingane

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• Yini eyandisa ingozi yomuntu yokuhlukumeza ingane?
• Okufanele ukwenze uma wesaba ukuthi ungalimaza ingane
• Izinsizakusebenza zokuvimbela ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane
• Okufanele ukwenze uma usola ukuthi ingane ilimele
• Ungakubika kanjani ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane
• Kuyini ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane?
• 5 imikhakha yokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane
• Amaqiniso okuhlukunyezwa kwezingane
• Amaqiniso ngokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane
• Imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa ngesikhathi sobuntwana
• Ungazibona kanjani izimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane
• Izimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa noma ukunganakwa kwengane
• Ungasiza ukumisa umjikelezo

Kungani abanye abantu belimaza izingane

Ayikho impendulo elula ezosiza ukuchaza ukuthi kungani abanye abazali noma abantu abadala behlukumeza izingane.

Njengakwezinye izinto eziningi, izinto eziholela ekuhlukunyezweni kwezingane ziyinkimbinkimbi futhi zivame ukuhlangana nezinye izindaba. Lezi zinkinga kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuzibona nokuziqonda kunokuhlukunyezwa uqobo.

Yini eyandisa ingozi yomuntu yokuhlukumeza ingane?

• umlando wokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane noma ukunganakwa ngesikhathi sezingane
• ukuba nenkinga yokusebenzisa izidakamizwa
• izimo zempilo yomzimba noma yengqondo, njengokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, noma ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka (PTSD)
• ubudlelwano obubi bomzali nengane
• ukucindezeleka kwezenhlalo nezomnotho okuvela ezindabeni zezezimali, ukungasebenzi, noma izinkinga zezokwelapha
• ukuntula ukuqonda ngokuthuthuka okuyisisekelo kobuntwana (okulindeleke ukuthi izingane zikwazi ukwenza imisebenzi zingakakulungeli)
• ukuntuleka kwamakhono obuzali okusiza ukubhekana nezingcindezi nobunzima bokukhulisa ingane
• ukuntuleka kokwesekwa okuvela kumalungu omndeni, abangani, omakhelwane, noma umphakathi
• ukunakekela ingane enokukhubazeka kwengqondo noma ngokomzimba okwenza ukunakekelwa okwanele kube nzima kakhulu
• ukucindezeleka komndeni noma ubunzima obubangelwa udlame lwasekhaya, ukuphazamiseka kobudlelwano, ukwehlukana, noma isehlukaniso
• izingqinamba zomuntu siqu zezempilo yengqondo, kufaka phakathi ukuzethemba okuphansi nemizwa yokungakwazi ukusebenza noma amahloni

Okufanele ukwenze uma wesaba ukuthi ungalimaza ingane

Ukuba ngumzali kungaba yinto ejabulisayo, enenjongo, futhi kwesinye isikhathi eyeqisayo. Kungaba nezikhathi lapho izingane zakho zikucindezela khona. Ungazizwa uqhutshwa ekuziphatheni ongeke ucabange ukuthi uyakwazi ukukwenza.

Isinyathelo sokuqala sokuvimbela ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane ukubona imizwa onayo. Uma wesaba ukuthi ungayihlukumeza ingane yakho, usuvele ufinyelele kuleyo ngqophamlando ebalulekile. Manje yisikhathi sokuthatha izinyathelo zokuvimbela noma yikuphi ukuhlukunyezwa.

Okokuqala, zisuse kulesi simo. Ungaphenduli enganeni yakho ngalesi sikhathi sentukuthelo noma ukufutheka. Ahambe.

Ngemuva kwalokho, sebenzisa enye yalezi zinsiza ukuthola izindlela zokuzula imizwa yakho, imizwa, nezinyathelo ezidingekayo ukusingatha lesi simo.

Izinsizakusebenza zokuvimbela ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane

• Shayela udokotela wakho noma umelaphi. Laba bahlinzeki bezempilo bangakusiza ukuthi uthole usizo ngokushesha. Bangakudlulisela nasezinsizakalweni ezingaba wusizo, njengezigaba zemfundo yabazali, ukwelulekwa, noma amaqembu okusekela.
• Shayela Inombolo yocingo Kazwelonke Yezokuhlukunyezwa Kwezingane Kwezingane. Le nombolo yocingo engama-24/7 ingafinyelelwa ku-800-4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453). Bangakhuluma nawe okwamanje futhi bakuqondise kuzinsiza ezikhululekile endaweni yangakini.
• Vakashela i-Child Welfare Information Gateway. Le nhlangano inikeza imindeni nabantu ngabanye izixhumanisi ezinsizakalweni zokuxhasa imindeni. Bavakashele lapha.

Okufanele ukwenze uma usola ukuthi ingane ilimele

Uma ukholwa ukuthi ingane uyazi ukuthi iyahlukunyezwa, funa usizo ngokushesha kuleyo ngane.

Ungakubika kanjani ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane

• Shayela amaphoyisa ucingo. Uma wesaba ukuthi impilo yengane isengozini, amaphoyisa angaphendula futhi asuse ingane ekhaya uma kudingeka. Bazophinde futhi baqwashise ama-ejensi okuvikela izingane endawo ngalesi simo.
• Shayela insizakalo yokuvikela ingane. Lezi zinhlaka zasendaweni nezikahulumeni zingangenelela nomndeni futhi zisuse ingane lapho ziphephile uma kunesidingo. Bangasiza futhi abazali noma abantu abadala ukuthi bathole usizo abaludingayo, noma ngabe amakilasi amakhono amakhono obuzali noma ukwelashwa kokuphazamiseka kokusebenzisa izidakamizwa. UMnyango Wezabasebenzi wangakini ungaba yindawo ewusizo yokuqala.
• Shayela Inombolo Yocingo Lukazwelonke Lokuhlukunyezwa Kwezingane e-Childhelp ngo-800-4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453). Leli qembu lingakusiza ukuthi uthole izinhlangano endaweni yakho ezizosiza ingane nomndeni.
• Shayela Inombolo Kazwelonke Yodlame Lwasekhaya ku-800-799-7233 noma i-TTY 800-787-3224 noma ku-inthanethi 24/7 chat. Bangakunikeza ulwazi mayelana nezindawo zokukhosela noma izinhlaka zokuvikela izingane endaweni yakho.
• Vakashela i-Prevent Child Abuse America ukufunda izindlela eziningi ongasiza ngazo ingane futhi uthuthukise inhlalakahle yayo. Bavakashele lapha.

Kuyini ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane?

Ukuhlukunyezwa kwengane yinoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuhlukumeza noma ukunganakwa olilimaza ingane. Imvamisa kwenziwa ngumzali, umnakekeli, noma omunye umuntu onegunya empilweni yengane.

5 imikhakha yokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane

• Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba: ukushaya, ukushaya, noma yini edala ukulimala emzimbeni
• Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi: ukuhlukumeza, ukuphuthaphutha, noma ukudlwengula
• Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo: ukwehlisa, ukwehlisa isithunzi, ukuthethisa, noma ukugodla ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo
• Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokwezokwelapha: ukwenqaba usizo lwezempilo oludingekayo noma ukudala izindaba eziqanjiwe ezibeka izingane engcupheni
• Unganaki: ukubamba noma ukwehluleka ukunikeza ukunakekelwa, ukudla, indawo yokuhlala, noma ezinye izidingo eziyisisekelo

Amaqiniso okuhlukunyezwa kwezingane

Ukuhlukunyezwa kwengane cishe kungavinjelwa njalo. Kudinga izinga lokuqashelwa ohlangothini lwabazali nabanakekeli. Futhi kudinga umsebenzi kubantu abadala abasempilweni yengane ukunqoba izinselelo, imizwa, noma izinkolelo eziholela kulokhu kuziphatha.

Noma kunjalo, lo msebenzi uwufanele umzamo. Ukunqoba ukuhlukunyezwa nokunganakwa kungasiza imindeni ukuthi iqine. Kungasiza futhi izingane ukwehlisa ubungozi bezinkinga ezizayo.

Amaqiniso ngokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane

• Ngokusho kweCenters for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), bahlukunyezwa noma banganakwa ngo-2016 e-United States. Kepha ezinye izingane eziningi kungenzeka zilinyazwe eziqeshini zokuhlukunyezwa noma ukunganakwa ezingakaze zibikwe.
• Cishe ushone ngenxa yokuhlukunyezwa nokunganakwa ngo-2016, kusho iCDC.
• Ucwaningo lilinganisela ukuthi ingane eyodwa kwezine izobhekana nohlobo oluthile lokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane ngesikhathi sokuphila kwazo.
• Izingane ezingaphansi konyaka owodwa ubudala kufanele zibe yisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane.

Imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa ngesikhathi sobuntwana

Ucwaningo lwango-2009 luhlolisise iqhaza lokuhlangenwe nakho okungafani kobuntwana kwezempilo kubantu abadala. Okuhlangenwe nakho kufakiwe:

• ukuhlukunyezwa (ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo, ngokocansi)
• ukubona udlame lwasekhaya
• ukwehlukana kwabazali noma isehlukaniso
• ukukhulela ekhaya elinamalungu omndeni abenezimo zempilo yengqondo, ukuphazamiseka kokusebenzisa izidakamizwa, noma aboshwe

Abaphenyi bathole ukuthi labo ababike okuhlangenwe nakho okungahambi kahle kwezobuntwana okuyisithupha noma ngaphezulu banesilinganiso seminyaka yokuphila engu-20 esifushane kunalabo abangenakho lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho.

Abantu abahlukunyezwa besezingane banamathuba amaningi okuthi babe nezingane zabo. Ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane noma ukunganakwa nakho kungaphazamiseka ekusetshenzisweni kwezidakamizwa lapho usumdala.

Uma ngabe wahlukunyezwa useyingane, le miphumela ingahle ibukeke ingeyinhle kuwe. Kepha khumbula, usizo nokusekelwa kukhona lapho. Ungaphulukisa futhi uphumelele.

Ulwazi nalo lungamandla. Ukuqonda imiphumela emibi yokuhlukunyezwa kwengane kungakusiza wenze izinqumo ezinempilo manje.

Ungazibona kanjani izimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane

Izingane ezihlukunyezwayo azihlali zibona ukuthi akufanele zibekwe icala ngokuziphatha kwabazali bazo noma ezinye iziphathimandla. Bangazama ukufihla obunye bobufakazi bokuhlukunyezwa.

Kodwa-ke, abantu abadala noma abanye abanegunya empilweni yengane, njengothisha, umqeqeshi, noma umnakekeli, bangahlala bebona izimpawu zokutshela ukuhlukunyezwa okungenzeka.

Izimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa noma ukunganakwa kwengane

• izinguquko ekuziphatheni, kufaka phakathi ubutha, ukungabi namandla, intukuthelo, noma ulaka
• ukwenqena ukushiya imisebenzi, efana nesikole, ezemidlalo, noma imisebenzi yangaphandle
• imizamo yokubaleka noma yokushiya ikhaya
• izinguquko ekusebenzeni esikoleni
• ukungabikho njalo esikoleni
• ukuhoxa kubangani, umndeni, noma imisebenzi ejwayelekile
• ukuzilimaza noma ukuzama ukuzibulala
• ukuziphatha okudelelayo

Ungasiza ukumisa umjikelezo

Ukuphulukiswa kungenzeka lapho abantu abadala neziphathimandla bethola izindlela zokusiza izingane, abazali bazo, nanoma ngubani othintekayo ekuhlukunyezweni kwezingane.

Ngenkathi inqubo yokwelashwa ingelula ngaso sonke isikhathi, kubalulekile ukuthi wonke umuntu othintekayo athole usizo aludingayo. Lokhu kungamisa umjikelezo wokuhlukunyezwa. Kungasiza nemindeni ukuthi ifunde ukuchuma ngokwakha ubudlelwano obuphephile, obuzinzile nobukhulayo.