Ungabhekana Kanjani Nezinkinga Zakhe Zobulili Ezihlazo kakhulu

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• Uyeza Ngokushesha
• Iphakheji Yakhe Incane
• Akakwazi Ukukuthola (noma Ukukugcina) Kuphezulu
• Uhlupheka Phansi Lidido
• Ukucabanga Kwakhe Ngocansi Kukukwenza Ungakhululeki
• Buyekeza kwe-

Kuyakhungathekisa uma uphonswa phezulu mayelana neseshini yesaka elishisayo nomfana wakho, bese exhuga noma afinyelele umvuthwandaba ngesivinini esirekhodiwe. Ushiywe ucabanga ukuya endlini yangasese ukuyokhipha i-vibe yakho, ngenkathi ebhekene nokushaya okungathi sína.

Impela, ukukhuluma ngezinkinga zakhe zokulala kungaba nzima ngokweqile, kepha ngenxa yobudlelwano bakho-futhi nenjabulo yomuntu uqobo-kufanelekile. Ukugxila ekusondelaneni kukwenza uzizwe uxhumeke kakhulu, ngaphakathi kwegumbi lokulala nangaphandle, kusho uBill Bercaw, ingcweti yezocansi kanye ne-coauthor (nonkosikazi uGinger) ozayo Kusuka egumbini lokuhlala kuye ekamelweni lokulala: Umhlahlandlela Wezithandani Zanamuhla Zokuchichima Kwezocansi Nokusondelana Okuhlala Njalo (Ephreli 2014). Ukusebenza ngalezi zimo kuzokusiza ukuthi uguqule isikhathi esidabukisayo sibe impilo yocansi evusa ingqondo.

Uyeza Ngokushesha

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Uma umfana wakho eza ngesikhathi esincane kunesithathayo ukuze uthumele i-Instagram-okuphazamisa kakhulu ikhono lakho lokushaya i-O-biology enkulu ingxenye yecala: Umfana ovamile uthatha phakathi kwemizuzu emibili neyisikhombisa ukuya ku-orgasm, kanti kwabesifazane eduze kwemizuzu eyi-13. Abafana abashesha ukucupha bangase bazuze ngokufunda ukuzithiba okuncane.

"Ukwesaba ukuza kwakhe maduze kumenza abambe izicubu zomzimba wakhe, ezimsheshisela ekutheni angabe esabuya," kusho uBill. "Ukhiye wokuthola ukuvumelanisa okuningi ukumsiza ukuthi afunde ukukhululeka."

Cindezela ume isikhashana ngesenzo sokugcizelela lapho esondela esicongweni sakhe ukuze umnikeze ikhefu njengoba eqhubeka ekukhuthaza ngeminwe noma ngolimi. Bese uqala futhi bese uqhubeka umisa ukuhlangana kuze kube yilapho senikulungele ukuqeda nobabili. Ngeke nje lokhu kusize ukuthi ucansi luhlale isikhathi eside, luzomsiza futhi ukuthi athuthukise ukulawula okungaphezulu kokuphendula kwakhe kokukhipha isidoda. “Zama ukuzama izikhundla ezahlukahlukene ukuthola lezo ezimenza ahlale isikhathi eside futhi,” kwengeza uBill. "Owesifazane phezulu ulungile kwabesifazane ngoba kukhona ukushukunyiswa kwe-clitoral okuqondile, okudingeka abesifazane abaningi ukuze benze i-orgasm, futhi uyakwazi ukulawula ukusunduza." [Thwitha leli thiphu!]

Iphakheji Yakhe Incane

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Umthondo oqondile umile uphakathi kwamasentimitha angu-5.1 no-5.8 ubude. Uma umfana wakho eza kancane, zama ukwenza i-doggie style: Kuzokwenza uzizwe ugcwele ngoba ipipi lakhe lizobe lishaya i-G-spot yakho, futhi angavuselela i-clitoris ngesandla sakhe ukuze akusize ufike lapho.

"Ekupheleni kwakho, isitho sangasese sowesifazane siyisicubu esingaqiniswa ukusiza ukukhuphula ukuvuka kwakho, ngakho-ke zama ukuqinisa iphansi lakho le-pelvic ngokwenza ama-kegels," kuphakamisa uGinger. Thinta imisipha yakho ye-pelvic floor njengokungathi umisa ukugeleza komchamo, bese ukhululeka. UGinger uncoma ama-25 kuye kwangama-30 ngosuku uma usuthole ukulengiswa kwawo. Zenze umkhuba ngokuzenza ngenkathi uxubha amazinyo noma usendleleni.

Akakwazi Ukukuthola (noma Ukukugcina) Kuphezulu

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Ungathathi uqobo uma ehamba ethambile. "Abesifazane abaningi bazizwa bengafaneleki noma benqatshiwe lapho abesilisa babo bengakwazi ukukuthola, kepha ukwakhiwa kwakhe noma ukungabi khona kwakhe akuthinti wena," kusho uBill. Uma umfana wakho ehlushwa ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile (ukungakwazi ukugcina ukwakhiwa kaningi kunalokho), kungaxhunyaniswa nemiphumela emibi evela emithini kadokotela noma kwenye inkinga yezokwelapha, ngakho-ke kungcono ukwenza i-aphoyintimenti nodokotela.

Kungenjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi konke kusekhanda lakhe: Ngezinye izikhathi inkinga yokusebenza kwesikhathi esidlule izokwenza umfana esabe elinye ikamelo lokulala, kubangele isimiso sakhe sezinzwa esinozwela, esivala ngokuphelele ukusabela kwakhe kwezocansi, kuchaza uBill. "Njalo lapho lokhu kwenzeka, kukhulisa lokho kwesaba ngokuzayo." Ayikho i-biggie. Qala ukudlala ngomthondo wakhe (ume noma cha), bese umtshela ukuthi uyawuthanda noma ngabe wenzani okwamanje. Lokhu kuzosusa ingcindezi kuye futhi kumvumele akhululeke, okuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu. "Mtshele ukuthi ufuna enzeni nawe engadingi ukwakhiwa," kusho uBill. "Lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi ukuba nempilo yocansi eyanelisayo akuncikile kuphela ekuqhameni kwakhe, okungasiza ukususa ukugxila kwakhe kulokho okwenziwa yinduku yakhe." Ibhonasi: Ngokubeka obala enjabulweni yakho bese uyisusa kuye, kungenzeka ukuthi ngeke ulahlekelwe uvuthondaba-enye indlela yomlilo ozoyivula.

Uhlupheka Phansi Lidido

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"Imfihlo yocansi egcinwe kakhulu eMelika isifiso esiphansi sabesilisa," kusho uGinger. "Abesifazane banamahloni okukhuluma ngakho ngoba bazizwa bengafaneleki, kanti nabesilisa nabo bazizwa benamahloni ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi abahambisani nokulindelwe yisithandwa sabo."

Kunokuba uvumele ukucasuka nokukhungatheka ngokocansi kwakheke, khetha isikhathi ngaphandle kwegumbi ukuze azizwe engakwazi ukuzivikela futhi aqonde: Ithi uyabona ukuthi awuhambisani nokuthi ufuna ukukwenza kangaki, bese umbuze. ungathola kanjani okuningi ekhasini elifanayo. “Abaningi bethu bacabanga ukuthi akufanele sikhulume ngocansi ngoba sifuna lusebenze ngokwemvelo, kodwa ukukhuluma ngalo yiyona ndlela yokuthuthukisa impilo yakho yocansi,” kusho uGinger. [Twitha leli thiphu!] "Mtshele ukuthi uyakuthanda ukuthandana naye futhi ufuna ukuthola inombolo noma ububanzi eningavumelana ngakho nobabili. Ukuvumelana nezimo kubalulekile, ngakho-ke ake sithi uthwebula izikhathi ezimbili noma ezintathu ngeviki, inombolo ephansi kuba ubuncane balokho okulungile ngakho kanye nenombolo enkulu kuba isonto elihle kakhulu."

Ukucabanga Kwakhe Ngocansi Kukukwenza Ungakhululeki

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Zimbalwa izinto ezixaka ukwedlula lapho umfana wakho enza njengo-Adam ovela kuma-HBO Amantombazane futhi ikucela ukuthi wenze izinto ze-kinky, njengokuzenza intombazane engaphansi kweminyaka. Uma eveza umbono ozizwa wehlisa isithunzi noma okwenza ungakhululeki, linda umzuzwana, uGinger uncoma lokho. "Kungcono ukuthi uthi awufuni ukumphoxa kodwa awukhululekile kunokuthi ubhekane nakho okwamanje bese uzizwa kabi ngemuva kwalokho."

Ukukhuluma ngamaphupho ngaphambi kokuwadlala kubalulekile. Ngoba kuyingozi ukwabelana ngokwenzeka ngaphakathi kwekhanda lakho, lokho kuba sengcupheni okwabiwe kungakulethela eduze. Vele ukukhuluma akusho ukuthi kufanele udlale iphupho, kepha ungacabanga ukuhlangana phakathi. "Kulungile uma ungenaso intshisekelo ocansini lwasesidlangalaleni, kodwa ungase uqhamuke nendlela yokudala yokwenza ingxenye yakho," kusho uGinger, "njengokwenza egcekeni lakho ebumnyameni."

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