Ungabhekana Kanjani Nesizungu ku-Today’s World: Izinketho Zakho Zokusekela

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• Izinsizakusebenza zawo wonke umuntu
• Uma ubhekene nesimo sempilo yengqondo
• Uma ubhekene nesimo esingalapheki
• Uma ungumuntu osemusha
• Uma ungumuntu omdala osekhulile
• Uma ungumakadebona
• Uma ungowokufika e-United States
• Ungakwenza kanjani ukuzinakekela futhi ufune ukwesekwa

Ingabe lokhu kujwayelekile?

Isizungu asifani nokuba wedwa. Ungaba wedwa, nokho ungabi nesizungu. Ungazizwa unesizungu endlini egcwele abantu.

Kungumuzwa wokuthi unqamukile kwabanye, akekho umuntu ongathululela isifuba kuye. Kungukushoda kobudlelwano obunenjongo futhi kungenzeka ezinganeni, kubantu abadala, nakubo bonke abaphakathi.

Ngobuchwepheshe, sinokufinyelela okuningi komunye nomunye kunanini ngaphambili. Ungazizwa uxhumeke kakhulu emhlabeni uma uthola "abangani" ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, kodwa akuhlali kunciphisa ubuhlungu besizungu.

Cishe wonke umuntu uzizwa enesizungu ngesikhathi esithile, futhi lokho akukubi kangako. Kwesinye isikhathi, isimo sesikhashana sesimo ngenxa yesimo, njengalapho uthuthela edolobheni elisha, uhlukanisa, noma ulahlekelwa othandekayo. Ukuzibandakanya kakhulu emisebenzini yomphakathi nokuhlangana nabantu abasha kungakusiza ukuthi uqhubekele phambili.

Kepha lokhu kungaba nzima kwesinye isikhathi, futhi uma ukuhlala kwakho wedwa kuqhubeka, kulukhuni kakhulu ukushintsha. Mhlawumbe awazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze, noma mhlawumbe uzame ngaphandle kwempumelelo.

Lokhu kungaba yinkinga, ngoba isizungu esiphikelelayo singaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yakho engokomzwelo nengokomzimba. Eqinisweni, isizungu siye sahlotshaniswa nokudangala, ukuzibulala nokugula emzimbeni.

Uma wena noma umuntu omkhathalelayo ebhekene nesizungu, yazi ukuthi isixazululo singaba lula. Ukuxhuma okuningi nabanye nokuhlangana nabantu abasha kungakusiza ukuthi uye phambili.

Yilapho lezi zinsizakusebenza zingena khona. Zinikeza izinketho zokuxhumana nabanye ngezindlela eziningi, kusukela ekuzinikeleni ngenjongo ethile, ukuhlangana nabantu abanezintshisakalo ezifanayo, kuze kube ngisho nokwamukela inja noma ikati ukuze lisebenze njengomngane oqotho.

Ngakho-ke qhubeka - hlola lawa masayithi bese uthola lezo ezihlangabezana kahle kakhulu nezidingo ezihlukile zakho noma zomuntu okhathazeke ngaye. Bheka nxazonke, chofoza ezinye izixhumanisi, bese uthatha isinyathelo esilandelayo sokunqoba isizungu nokuthola ukuxhumana okunengqondo nabanye.

Izinsizakusebenza zawo wonke umuntu

• INational Alliance on Mental Health (NAMI) isebenza ukuthuthukisa izimpilo zabantu baseMelika abathintwe ukugula ngengqondo. Izinhlelo ze-NAMI zifaka phakathi inqwaba yamathuba emfundo, ukufinyelela nokukhuthaza, nezinsizakalo zokuxhasa ezweni lonke.
• IHalfofus.com ingakusiza ukuthi uqale ukubhekana nesizungu noma iyiphi inkinga yezempilo yengqondo olwa nayo.
• IVolunteerMarch.org ibeka amavolontiya kanye nezizathu abazikhathalelayo ezindaweni zabo. Kunobunye ubufakazi bokuthi ukuvolontiya kunganciphisa isizungu. Uma ufuna ukuxhumeka komphakathi noma umuzwa wenjongo, kepha ungazi ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani, le database engasesheka ingakusiza ukuthi uqalise.
• I-MeetUp.com iyithuluzi eliku-inthanethi ukukusiza uhlangane nabantu abasha ubuso nobuso. Sesha isayithi ukuze uthole abantu abaseduze nawe ababelana ngezintshisekelo ezifanayo. Ungajoyina iqembu ukuze ubone ukuthi bahlangana kuphi futhi nini futhi unqume ukuthi ufuna ukuzama yini. Akunasibopho sokuhlala neqembu uma usujoyinile.
• I-ASPCA ingakusiza ukuthi uthole indawo yokuhlala yezilwane eseduzane nezilwane ezifuywayo ezidinga ikhaya. Ucwaningo lwango-2014 luphethe ngokuthi ukuba nesilwane esifuywayo kunganikeza izinzuzo zokuphila kahle, kufaka phakathi ukudambisa isizungu.
• I-Lonely Hour iyi-podcast lapho abantu bevula khona izimpi zabo ngesizungu nokuhlukaniswa. Kwesinye isikhathi, kuyasiza ukuzwa ukuthi asisodwa kule mizwa, futhi kuyakhuthaza ukufunda ukuthi abanye babhekana kanjani nakho.

Uma ubhekene nesimo sempilo yengqondo

Ngeshwa, kusenenani elithile lehlazo elihambisana nezimo zempilo yengqondo. Ukuhlukaniswa komphakathi okungavela ngokuqinisekile kunganezela emizweni yokuba nesizungu. Isizungu sesikhathi eside sihlotshaniswa nokudangala nemicabango yokuzibulala.

Uma unesimo sempilo yengqondo, njengokucindezeleka noma ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, ukungabi namuntu oncika kuye kungenza kube nzima ukufuna usizo oludingayo.

Noma ngabe izinyathelo zakho zokuqala zenziwa ngengxoxo eku-inthanethi noma inombolo yocingo yezempilo yengqondo, ukukhuluma ngayo nothile kuyindawo enhle yokuqala. Cela udokotela wakho ukuthi akudlulisele kuzinsiza ezisendaweni yakho.

Sihlanganise nezinsizakusebenza zempilo yengqondo ongazizama njengamanje:

• I-Mental Health America inikeza ulwazi oluningi, kufaka phakathi amaqembu okusekela online ngezidingo ezithile. Zingakuqondisa futhi emaqenjini asendaweni yangakini.
• INational Suicide Prevention Lifeline iyatholakala ubusuku nemini ukukusiza uma usenkingeni. Inombolo yocingo: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255).
• I-Daily Strength ixhuma abantu abanezinkinga ezivamile zokuxhasana.
• I-Boys Town inolayini obhekene no-24/7 wezinkinga zentsha nabazali, onabeluleki abaqeqeshiwe. Inombolo yocingo: 800-448-3000.
• I-Childhelp inikeza ukusekelwa kwabasindile ezinganeni nakubantu abadala ekuhlukunyezweni. Shayela i-hotline 24/7: 800-4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453).
• I-Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) inikeza indawo eyimfihlo ye-Behavioural Health Treatment Services Locator kanye nenombolo yocingo engama-24/7: 800-662-HELP (800-662-4357).

Uma ubhekene nesimo esingalapheki

Lapho ukugula okungalapheki nokukhubazeka kukwenza kube nzima ngawe ukuhamba, ukuzihlukanisa nabantu kungakucekela. Ungase ube nomuzwa wokuthi abangane bakho bakudala abasasekeli njengakuqala, futhi uchitha isikhathi esiningi wedwa kunokuba ubungathanda.

Isizungu singayithinta kabi impilo, ngakho-ke kuba ngumgogodla wokunganaki ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba.

Enye indlela yokuqeda lo mjikelezo ukusebenza kanzima ekwandiseni inethiwekhi yakho yabangane. Ungaqala ngabantu abanezinselelo zempilo yomzimba. Sesha ubudlelwano obusekelanayo lapho ungabelana ngemibono yokuthi unganqoba kanjani isizungu nokuzihlukanisa.

Nazi ezinye izindawo zokuxhuma nezinye izinsiza ongazizama njengamanje:

• I-Rare Disease United Foundation inikeza uhlu lwama-Facebook Groups ngombuso ukusiza abantu abanezifo ezingavamile babelane ngolwazi nemicimbi ezingeni lendawo.
• I-Healing Well inikeza izinkundla eziningi ngombandela. Joyina umphakathi futhi uthole ukuthi yini okusebenzela abanye abasesimweni esifanayo.
• I-Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality (AHRQ) inikeza uhlu lwezinsizakusebenza zezifo nemibandela eyahlukahlukene.
• Kepha i-You Don’t Look Sick isemkhankasweni wokusiza abantu abanezifo ezingamahlalakhona noma abakhubazekile ukuthi bazizwe bengekho bodwa futhi baphile izimpilo zabo ngokugcwele.
• Izinhlelo ze-4 People uhlelo lwe-Invisible Disability Association. Ikhasi lezinsizakusebenza elibanzi lifaka phakathi inqwaba yezinkinga eziphathelene nezimo zezempilo ezingamahlalakhona.

Uma ungumuntu osemusha

Kukhona phakathi kwezingane ezinenkinga yokuhlobana kontanga nesizungu. Kuyinkinga ekhuliswa ngesikhathi sobusha nangaphezulu. Yingakho kubalulekile ukuyikhuluma ngokushesha okukhulu.

Kunezizathu eziningi intsha engaba nesizungu, kepha azihlali zisobala njalo. Izinto ezifana nezinkinga zomndeni, ezezimali kanye nokuhlukumeza zingadonsela intsha ekuzihlukaniseni nomphakathi. Kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuthi intsha enamahloni noma eyethulwayo ingene.

Lezi zinhlelo zakhiwa kucatshangelwa intsha:

• AmaKlabhu Abafana Namantombazane aseMelika anikeza izingane nentsha amathuba okuzijabulisa futhi ahlanganyele kwezemidlalo nakweminye imisebenzi, kunokuhlala ekhaya yedwa.
• Indlu Yesivumelwano inikeza usizo ezinganeni ezingenakhaya nezisengozini.
• I-JED Foundation igxile ekusizeni intsha ukunqoba izinselelo zokuguquka zisuka ebuntwaneni ziye ekubeni ngabantu abadala.
• I-Stop Bullying inikeza amathiphu wokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokuxhashazwa, ngezigaba ezahlukahlukene zezingane, abazali nabanye.

Uma ungumuntu omdala osekhulile

Kunezizathu ezahlukahlukene zabantu abadala asebekhulile ababa nesizungu. Izingane zikhulile futhi indlu ayinalutho. Uthathe umhlalaphansi emsebenzini omude. Izinkinga zempilo zikushiye ungasakwazi ukuzihlanganisa nabantu njengangaphambili.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlala wedwa noma usendaweni yeqembu, isizungu siyinkinga evamile kubantu abadala asebekhulile. Kuhlotshaniswa nempilo engeyinhle, ukudangala, kanye nokwehla kwengqondo.

Njengakwamanye amaqembu eminyaka, izinto zingangcono uma uhlakulela ubungani futhi ujoyine imisebenzi enikeza umqondo wenhloso.

Nazi izinsizakusebenza zesizungu zabantu abadala asebekhulile:

• Abazalwane Abancane Abangane Badala akusebenzi okubeka amavolontiya kanye nabantu abadala asebekhulile abazizwa benesizungu noma bakhohliwe.
• Izinhlelo ze-Senior Corps zisiza abantu abadala abangama-55 nangaphezulu ngokuzinikela ngezindlela eziningi, futhi banikeza ukuqeqeshwa okudingayo. Ogogo nomkhulu abazokukhulisa bazokufanisa nengane edinga umeluleki nomngani. I-RSVP ikusiza ukuvolontiya emphakathini wakho ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene, kusuka ekusizeni kwezinhlekelele kuye ekufundiseni. Ngabangane Abadala, ungasiza abanye abantu abadala asebekhulile abadinga nje usizo oluncane ukuze bahlale emakhaya abo.

Uma ungumakadebona

Ucwaningo lwama-veteran ase-U.S. Aneminyaka engama-60 nangaphezulu kutholakale ukuthi isizungu sandile. Futhi ihlotshaniswa nemiphumela emibi efanayo yomzimba nengqondo njengamanye amaqembu.

Izenzakalo ezihlukumezayo, ukucindezeleka okubonakalayo, kanye nezimpawu ze-PTSD bezihlotshaniswa nesizungu. Ukunamathiselwa okuphephile, ukubonga okungagodliwe, kanye nokubandakanyeka okuningi ezinkonzweni zenkolo bekuhlotshaniswa kabi nesizungu.

Inguquko kusuka kwezempi iye empilweni yomphakathi inguquko enkulu, noma ngabe uneminyaka emingaki. Ukuzizwa unesizungu akuyona into engavamile, kodwa akudingeki ukuthi kuqhubeke.

Lezi zinsizakusebenza zenziwe zanikela ngomakadebona bezempi:

• I-Veterans Crisis Line iyatholakala ngomhlaka-24/7 ukuhlinzeka ukwesekwa okuyimfihlo kwabadala bezinhlekelele nabathandekayo babo. Inombolo yocingo: 800-273-8255. Ungathumela futhi umyalezo ku-838255 noma uhlanganyele engxoxweni eku-inthanethi.
• I-Veterans Crisis Line nayo ine-Resource Locator ukuze uthole izinsiza eduze nasekhaya.
• Yenza uxhumano lunikeze imininingwane yokuthi ungabuthuthukisa kanjani ubudlelwano kanye nokuguquka kusuka kwezempi kuye empilweni yomphakathi. Zingakusiza nokuthi uthole izinsiza eziqondene nabantu eduze kwasekhaya.
• IMission Iyaqhubeka isiza ukugcina imishini yakho iphila ngokukubonisa ukuthi ungazibandakanya kanjani kumaphrojekthi womphakathi ngenhloso.
• I-Warrior Canine Connection isebenzisa ukwelashwa kokuxhuma i-canine emtholampilo ukukusiza ukuxhuma kabusha nomndeni wakho, umphakathi, nempilo iyonke. Abahlanganyeli bangaqeqesha umdlwane njengenja yensizakalo ezogcina isize omakadebona abalimele.

Uma ungowokufika e-United States

Noma ngabe yiziphi izizathu zakho zokuthuthela ezweni elisha, ukuzulazula kulo kungaba yinselele. Ushiye indawo oyijwayele, abangane, futhi mhlawumbe nomndeni ngemuva. Kungaba okuhlangenwe nakho okuzihlukanisa nomphakathi, okuholele kusizungu esikhulu.

Uzoqala ukuhlangana nabantu ngomsebenzi wakho, indawo yangakini, noma izindawo zokukhulekela nezikole. Noma kunjalo, kuzoba nenkathi yokulungiswa engahle ikhathaze ngezinye izikhathi.

Ukwazi isiko, ulimi namasiko abantu abasemphakathini omusha kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokwenza abantu obajwayele abangaphenduka ubungane obuhlala njalo.

Nazi izindawo ezimbalwa zokuqala inqubo:

• Umphakathi Ofundayo ubhekana nezinselelo ezihilelekile ekuzivumelaneni nempilo e-United States. Banikela ngamathiphu wokuqonda amasiko namasiko aseMelika, kufaka phakathi ukufunda ulimi. Bazokukhomba nasezinsizakalweni zikahulumeni ezenzelwe ukusiza izingane kanye nemindeni yabantu bokufika.
• I-America's Literacy Directory iyi-database eseshekayo yezinhlelo zokufunda nokubhala, kufaka phakathi isiNgisi njengolimi lwesibili nobuzwe noma imfundo yezenhlalo.
• I-U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services inikeza uhlu lwamathuba okuvolontiya kwabokufika.

Ungakwenza kanjani ukuzinakekela futhi ufune ukwesekwa

Ungaba nesizungu ngoba uzizwa unqanyuliwe kubantu futhi ungenabo ubudlelwano obunenjongo, obusekelayo. Uma lokho kuqhubeka isikhathi eside kakhulu, kungaholela emizweni yokudabuka nokulahlwa, okungakuvimba ukuthi ufinyelele kwabanye.

Ukuthatha lezo zinyathelo zokuqala kungasabisa, kepha ungawunqamula umjikelezo.

Asikho isixazululo esilingana nenkinga yesizungu. Cabanga okufunayo kanye nezidingo zakho. Cabanga ngemisebenzi ephakamisa intshisekelo yakho noma enikeza ukuxhumana okuthile kwabanye.

Awudingi ukulinda omunye umuntu ukuze aqale ingxoxo noma ubungani. Thatha ithuba lokuba ngowokuqala. Uma lokho kungasebenzi, zama okuthile noma omunye umuntu. Uyawufanele umzamo.

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