Isizungu Senza Izimpawu Ezibandayo Zizizwe Zimbi Kakhulu

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Ukuhogela, ukuthimula, ukukhwehlela, nokuqaqamba akukhona phezulu ohlwini lokuzijabulisa lwanoma ubani. Kodwa izimpawu zomkhuhlane ojwayelekile zingazizwa zimbi nakakhulu uma unesizungu, ngokusho kocwaningo olusha olushicilelwe ku I-Psychology yezempilo.

Ngabe iqembu lakho lomphakathi lihlangana ngani nomthamo wegciwane egazini lakho? Okungaphezulu kakhulu kokwabelana ngamagciwane akugulise kwasekuqaleni, kuvela. “Ucwaningo selukhombisile ukuthi isizungu sibeka abantu engcupheni yokushona kusenesikhathi kanye nezinye izifo ezingokomzimba,” kusho umbhali wocwaningo u-Angie LeRoy, ongumfundi oneziqu ze-psychology e-Rice University, esitatimendeni sabezindaba. "Kodwa akukho okwenziwe ukubheka ukugula okunamandla kodwa okwesikhashana sonke esisengozini yokungenwa umkhuhlane ovamile."

Kulokho okuzwakala njengesinye sezifundo ezingemnandi neze ezake zaba khona, abacwaningi bathatha abantu abacishe babe ngama-200 babanikeza isifutho samakhala esasigcwele igciwane elibandayo. Bese bebahlukanisa ngamaqembu kususelwa kubungaki bobudlelwano ababubikile ezimpilweni zabo futhi babaqapha ehhotela izinsuku ezinhlanu. (Okungenani bathole ikhebula lamahhala kanye nokuhlupheka kwabo?) Cishe amaphesenti angama-75 ezifundo agcine ephethwe umkhuhlane, kanti labo ababike ukuthi banesizungu kakhulu nabo babike ukuthi bazizwa kabi kakhulu.

Kwakungeyona nje inani lobudlelwano obathinta ukuqina kwezimpawu. I- ikhwalithi lobo budlelwano budlale indima enkulu kakhulu. "Ungaba segumbini eligcwele abantu futhi uzizwe unesizungu," kuchaza uLeRoy. "Lowo mbono yilokho okubonakala kubalulekile uma kuziwa ezimpawu ezibandayo." (Qaphela: Ucwaningo lwangaphambilini luphinde lwabonisa ukuthi ukuzizwa unesizungu kungakwenza udle ngokweqile futhi umonise ubuthongo bakho.)

Nesizungu? Ukuzizwa ukhishwe inyumbazane kuyinto ejwayelekile ngokudabukisayo kulezi zinsuku naphezu komphakathi wethu oxhume kakhulu. Khumbula ukuhlangana nabangane be-IRL kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka, noma (siyazi ukuthi lokhu kuyahlanya) empeleni thatha ucingo bese uhlangana nabantu abahlala kude. Futhi khumbula, ngisho noma ungumuntu omdala onekhono, kwamukeleka ngokuphelele ukubiza umama wakho lapho ugula. Ukuphulukiswa okuhle.

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