Indoda 2.0: Amasu Asebenzayo Wengqondo Yengqondo Yabesilisa Ngesikhathi Sokuhlukaniswa

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• Beka phambili ukuxhumana
• 1. Yizwa imizwa yakho
• 2. Yelula ukuxhumana
• 3. Ngena ngaphakathi (ngokwakho)
• 4. Thatha isinyathelo
• Ukunikeza imvume yokuzizwa

Umdwebi: Ruth Basagoitia

Sifaka imikhiqizo esicabanga ukuthi ilusizo kubafundi bethu. Uma uthenga ngezixhumanisi ezikuleli khasi, singathola ikhomishini encane. Nansi inqubo yethu.

Ukuba sengozini kuyisenzo sobuholi esisekela ngokujulile abanye.

Le yiMan 2.0, ikholi yokuziphendukela kwemvelo kulokho okushiwo ukukhomba njengendoda. Sabelana ngezinsizakusebenza futhi sikhuthaze ukuba sengozini, ukucabanga ngokwakho, nozwela oluvela kithi luye komunye umuntu. Ngokubambisana ne-EVRYMAN.

Ngalezi zikhathi zokuzama, kungenzeka ukubona ukuxhumana okuqondile phakathi kwempilo yethu yengqondo nenhlalakahle yethu yonke.

Ngaphakathi kweningi lomphakathi wami, kunokuhlangenwe nakho okuvamile okuvelayo.

Sonke sibekelwe isikhathi - sengathi sithunyelwe ekuzindleni esingazange sikubhalisele futhi akupheli nganoma yisiphi isikhathi maduzane. Amaphethini ethu ajwayelekile aphazanyisiwe futhi iningi lethu, simane asazi okufanele sikwenze ngakho.

Kwabesilisa, lokhu kuveza izinselelo ezithile ezihlukile.

Impendulo emangazayo engiyizwayo emadodeni emphakathini wangakithi nowomhlaba jikelele ukuthi sibekwa esimweni esiyingqayizivele sokufuna ukuthatha izinyathelo kodwa singenayo indlela ecacile yokwenza lokho.

Imikhawulo yokuba semakhaya ethu njengoba kwenzeka inhlekelele ezungeze thina kusishiya sinemizwa ejulile yokwesaba, ukukhathazeka, kanye nezinxushunxushu. Iziteshi zethu eziningi zokucubungula azitholakali.

Amadoda asendaweni yangakithi adonsa kanzima ngoba asikwazi ukuya ejimini, asikwazi ukuya kwi-burger nasebhiya nabangani bethu, futhi asinakho ukuphazamiseka okujwayelekile kwebhizinisi njengokujwayelekile.

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uGeorge Faller ukhuluma kahle ngomehluko phakathi kwengcindezi yangemva kwenhlekelele nokukhula kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka. UFaller wayengumcimi-mlilo waseNew York City futhi wakhonza phansi, futhi ufunde ukuthi kudingani ukuhlangana nenselelo futhi angachotshozwa yiyo.

Akutholile ukuthi izimo ezifanayo eziyinselele kungaba yimbewu yobuhlungu besikhathi eside, noma zingashukumisa isenzo nokuziphendukela kwemvelo okuguqula izimpilo zethu zibe ngcono.

Ukusika ekujaheni, into ebaluleke kakhulu ehlukanisa laba ababili uxhumano. Kalula nje, lapho sithatha izikhathi eziyinselele ndawonye, ​​sikwazi kangcono ukuchuma.

Kungakho izicishamlilo, amaqembu amabutho akhethekile, nabagijimi emaqenjini ezemidlalo ngokwemvelo bakhe izibopho ezijulile nezibaluleke kangaka komunye nomunye. Bahlangana ndawonye ukuze babhekane nenselelo.

Beka phambili ukuxhumana

Iziphakamiso ezingezansi kungenzeka ukuthi azizona izindlela "zokugijima" zamadoda - futhi yingakho zinamandla amakhulu.

Singase sibalekele ezinye izisekelo, njengokuzivocavoca umzimba futhi siphume ngaphandle emvelweni, kepha okubaluleke kakhulu njengamanje uxhumano.

Njengovithamini D ngesikhathi sasebusika, sonke sifisa ukuxhumana kwabantu okubalulekile, futhi leli yithuba lokuthi amadoda aziguqulele leyo paradigm uqobo futhi mhlawumbe nezwe lonke.

1. Yizwa imizwa yakho

Ukucindezelwa ngokomzwelo akulona isu elihle lempilo yengqondo. Yize kunezikhathi empilweni lapho kudingeka khona ukulawula imizwa yethu, kubalulekile ukuthola isikhala nesikhathi sokuzwa ngokugcwele okwenzeka ngaphakathi.

Kwabesilisa abaningi, lokhu kungahle kungabonakali kuyinto engokwemvelo yokwenza. Kepha uma singenandawo yokucubungula okwenzeka kithi kweqiniso, imizwa ingacindezela futhi yakhe phezu komunye ngendlela engenampilo.

Ukuzibekela impumelelo, kubalulekile ukuthi wenze okuthile.

Ukwelashwa okuku-inthanethi nezinhlelo zokusebenza zezempilo yengqondo kuyachuma futhi kuyatholakala kabanzi. Kokubili i-Talkspace ne-BetterHelp kufanele kubhekwe.

Ukuthathela izinyathelo impilo yakho yengqondo akugcini ngokuthola ukusekelwa okudingayo, futhi kuyasiza ekuqedeni ukucwaswa kwamasiko okungaba yisithiyo kwamanye amadoda athola usizo.

Amaqembu wabesilisa aku-inthanethi, njengalawo esiwaphethe e-EVRYMAN, ayizindlela ezilula zokungena emseleni wokwethembeka ngalokho okuzwayo. Lawa ngamaqembu okweseka ontanga alandela indlela elula kakhulu futhi engenekayo.

Wehlisa ijubane futhi unake lokho esizizwayo.

Ngalesi sikhathi sokuhlukaniswa, iningi lamadoda abamba iqhaza emaqenjini ethu libika ukuzwa ukukhathazeka okukhulu, ukwesaba, kanye nokwesaba. Amanye amadoda azizwa enamahloni, elahlekile, futhi edidekile.

Ngokuhlangana ukuze sabelane, sifunda ukuthi kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuzwa lezi zinto, futhi konke kuphatha kakhulu uma sikwenza ndawonye.

2. Yelula ukuxhumana

Sinikezwa ithuba lokufunda inani langempela loxhumano ngobuchwepheshe. Ukushaya ucingo nabazali bakho, ukuxoxa ngevidiyo nabantu osebenza nabo, noma ukuthumela umyalezo enganeni yakini kungasiza kakhulu manje.

Sifunda ukuthi zibaluleke kangakanani lezi zindlela zokuxhumana. Kulula ukuzithatha kalula endleleni ejwayelekile yokuphila, kepha lapho kudingeka, umthelela wokufinyelela ungaba mkhulu impela.

Ukuze wenze okuhle ngalezi zikhathi zokuxhuma, ungazenza zibalwe ngokuba sengozini kakhulu futhi kube sobala.

Sonke siyalimala, siyesaba, futhi siyazabalaza ngezindlela zethu. Uma sikhuluma iqiniso ngakho, sonke sikhombisa ukusekelana kwangempela komunye nomunye.

Kulokhu, ukuba sengozini kuyisenzo sobuholi esisekela ngokujulile abanye.

3. Ngena ngaphakathi (ngokwakho)

Ngempela yisikhathi esihle sokuzihlola nokuzindla.

Akudingeki ukuthi ube ngumzami omkhulu noma i-yogi esezingeni lomhlaba, kodwa sonke singazuza ezinhlelweni zokusebenza ezimangazayo zokuzindla ezikhona.

Engikuthandayo kakhulu yi-Calm, futhi indawo enhle, efinyelelekayo yokuqala inselelo yokuzindla yezinsuku ezingama-30 nothisha uJeff Warren. Kunezikhukhula zezinketho zamahhala nezitholakalayo ezifinyeleleka nsuku zonke, futhi empeleni ziyawenza umehluko.

Iphedi nepeni (noma inguquko yedijithali) nakho kungaba yindawo enhle yokujika. Ungayicabangi - zama ukuzivocavoca ukusetha i-timer nokubhala imizuzu eyi-10 ngaphandle kokuma. Ake uhambe ubhale noma yini nayo yonke into efuna ukuphuma.

4. Thatha isinyathelo

Kungazwakala kuyinkohliso enkulu ukuthatha isinyathelo njengamanje, kepha isu eliwusizo wukunciphisa ijubane futhi uthole izindlela ezincane, ezilawulekayo zokuqhubekela phambili nokuziqondisa ezenzweni ezilula, ezingokoqobo.

Okungabonakala njengokungajwayelekile uma uthi nhlá ungaletha umoya wenqubekela phambili nomfutho ophambili.

Omunye obambe iqhaza emaqenjini ethu amadoda azizwe engalawuleki futhi wanquma ukuhlanza ifriji lakhe - umsebenzi abekade ewenza amasonto amaningi. Enye indoda yathola imbewu egalaji yayo yatshala ingadi encane eceleni kwendlu yayo.

Ngokwami, mina nomkami sithathe leli thuba ukuhlela uhlelo lwansuku zonke lomndeni wethu ngendlela entsha nenhle, futhi ukuthatha leso sinyathelo kuholele ezinzuzweni ezingapheli.

Ukunikeza imvume yokuzizwa

Kwa-EVRYMAN, sichaza ubuholi njengokuzimisela kokuba sengozini kuqala.

Sikholelwa ukuthi ukuvumela owesilisa ukuthi azizwe obala futhi abelane ngaleyo mizwa ngokuzenzakalela kunika abanye imvume nokuphepha ukuthi benze okufanayo.

Sinikeza ukwesekwa kwamahhala kwabesilisa emhlabeni wonke ngezingcingo zomphakathi namaqembu nsuku zonke awela phansi. Yindawo enhle ukujoyina abesilisa kuzo zonke izizinda zempilo njengoba sihlangana ndawonye ukweseka nobumbano.

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