Isizathu Sosayensi Sokuzonda Usuku Lwe-Valentine

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• Ama-Neurochemicals Ebuchosheni Bakho
• Impendulo Yakho Yemvelo Kubo Bonke Abangaphezu Kwakho
• Kakhulu ~ Real ~ Ubuhlungu obuvela enhliziyweni ephukile
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Yiso leso sikhathi sonyaka-konke, kusuka kumabhaluni kuya ezinkomishini zebhotela lamantongomane, kumise okwenhliziyo. Usuku luka-Valentine seluseduze. Futhi yize iholidi lidala ezinye abantu ukuphuphuma injabulo njengamanzi kubhavu oshisayo omise okwenhliziyo, abanye bayadikila lapho bebona uFebhuwari 14 ekhalendeni. Amathuba ukuthi uma uchofoze le ndaba, ukulelo qembu lokugcina.

Awuwedwa. An Elite Nsuku Zonke inhlolovo yeminyaka eyinkulungwane engama-415 yathola ukuthi amaphesenti angama-28 abesifazane namaphesenti angama-35 amadoda azizwa engenandaba noSuku LukaValentine.

Kunezizathu eziningi lapho sithanda ukuzonda uFebhuwari 14, kuchaza uLaurie Essig, Ph.D., uprofesa wesayensi yezenhlalo eMiddlebury College kanye nomlobi we I-Love, Inc.: Izinhlelo Zokusebenza Zokuqomisana, Umshado Omkhulu Omhlophe, kanye Nokujaha Ngokujabulisayo Okungapheli.

Impela, ezentengiselwano ziyingxenye yako.Kepha lapho abantu bezizwa kabi ngoSuku Lwezithandani, imvamisa kungenxa yokulindelwe okuphezulu usuku olubekiwe-kokubili kulabo abangashadile nabalinde umfana noma intombazane yamaphupho abo ukuba eze nalabo abasebudlelwaneni, futhi. "Noma ngabe uke wahlangana 'noyedwa,' kusamele ubhekane neziphepho zezilo ezinkulu kanye namaqiniso abucayi emhlabeni," u-sys Essig. "I-Valentine's Day iyisithembiso saminyaka yonke esiyinqaba, futhi abanye bethu bazizwa bedangele."

Lokhu kudumazeka kungachazwa, ngokwengxenye, yisayensi. Yebo, kunezizathu *ezisemthethweni* zokungaluthandi uSuku Lwezithandani ngaphandle nje kokuba nesineke noma ukujajwa. Lapha, sihlahlela izizathu ezimbalwa-futhi sinikeza izixazululo zokunqoba ukucabanga okubangela ukuthi ubambezeleke emcabangweni nje wothando ngalesi sikhathi sonyaka.

Ama-Neurochemicals Ebuchosheni Bakho

I-Oxytocin ibizwa ngokuthi yi-hormone yothando, futhi ikhiqizwa kakhulu kwi-hypothalamus. I-neurochemical ibophezela kuma-neuron ebuchosheni futhi isiza ukukhulisa ukuhlangana komphakathi, okunamathiselwe kwezothando, nozwela.

Ososayensi bathole ukuthi ingakanani i-oxytocin ekhishwa umuntu ngamunye eboshelwe kuzakhi zofuzo-abesifazane bavame ukukhulula i-oxytocin eningi kunabesilisa, kuchaza u-Paul Zak, Ph.D., isazi se-neuroeconomist e-Claremont Graduate University e-California. Lokhu kuyingxenye ngoba i-testosterone inqanda ukukhishwa kwe-oxytocin, idale "imodi yokubusa" kunokuthi "imodi yokunamathisela."

Ingakanani "ihomoni yothando" ekhishwayo nayo iboshelwe kubuntu bakho-abantu abavumelana kakhulu nabanozwela bakhipha i-oxytocin eningi, kuchaza u-Zak. Kepha lokhu kungashintsha futhi usuku nosuku, ngokuya ngemizwa yakho nangezinto zangaphandle. "Kunabantu abangakhiphi i-oxytocin eningi ngemuva kokuxhumana okuhle nomphakathi, bathi ukugona noma ukuncoma," uyachaza. "Laba bantu bangaba nosuku olubi impela. Ukucindezeleka kuvimbela ubuchopho ekwenzeni i-oxytocin eningi, kusuka ezingeni lamaselula," kuchaza yena. "Yebo-ke, abanye abantu ngeke bakwazi ukujabulela i-V-Day, ngokwengxenye, ngenxa yalokhu."

Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi laba bantu abakwazi ukwenza izinto zokuzama ukukhulisa i-oxytocin ebuchosheni.

Okufanele ngikwenze: UZak uthi uma ufuna ukushintsha umbono wakho ngeholide, indlela engcono yokuzwa uthando (kanye ne-oxytocin) ukulunikeza umlingani wakho (uma usebudlelwaneni), umzali, isilwane noma umngane. Uthola lokho okunikezayo uma kukhulunywa ngehomoni. "Kunzima kakhulu ukuthi umuntu ngamunye akhuphule eyakhe i-oxytocin, kepha angakunika leso sipho. Uma unika abaseduze kwakho uthando nokunaka, kubashukumisela ukuthi nabo banikeze okufanayo," kusho uZak.

Kunezinye izindlela ezixhaswe yisayensi zokushintsha indlela ama-neurochemicals akho abopha ngayo kuma-neuron akho ukukhiqiza i-oxytocin eningi, njenge- "reset reset," kusho uZak. "Ungahlala kubhavu oshisayo ukuze uphumule (umoya oshisayo uphakamisa i-oxytocin), uzindle, uthathe uhambo lokuhambahamba nothile, noma wenze okuthile okuthokozisayo nokwesabekayo nomlingani wakho ukucisha ukucindezeleka futhi uvuse i-oxytocin: Gibela i-roller coaster! Thatha ukuhamba ngendiza enophephela emhlane! " Noma zama ukujima okusha nomunye wakho obalulekile. (Izinzuzo zocansi zangemva kokuzivocavoca zikufanele.)

Noma ungashadile, ukuzama lezi zinto nabangani nomndeni kungasiza ukukhuphula i-oxytocin yakho kanye nengcindezi yakho (futhi mhlawumbe inzondo yakho ye-V-Day) yehle.

Impendulo Yakho Yemvelo Kubo Bonke Abangaphezu Kwakho

Lesi sikhathi sonyaka sivame ukukhuthaza i-PDA kanye nokukhipha okuthunyelwe kwe-Facebook ne-Instagram. Ukuziphatha kanjena kungadala ama-V-Day cynics, kanti isifundo esisodwa seNorthwestern University singakhomba ukuthi kungani.

Ucwaningo oluqhamuka eNorthwestern luthole ukuthi abantu ababhekelela kakhulu ubudlelwano babo kuFacebook bebengathandeki kangako. Ukweqisa kusho okungaphezu nje kokwabelana ngesithombe esithile nomuntu omthandayo - kungamazinga aphezulu okudalulwa njengokuthi, ukudlala ngokudlala kosuku losuku lwakho lwezithandani. (FYI, nazi izindlela ezinhlanu ezimangazayo zokuxhumana nabantu ezingasiza ngazo ubuhlobo bakho.)

Futhi, cha. Akubona abantu abangashadile abathandana nobulili abangajabuli ngale ndlela yokuziphatha - akekho noyedwa oyithandayo.

"Asizange sithole mehluko phakathi kwababoni abangashadile nalabo ababethandana ngokwendlela ababathanda ngayo abantu ababhekisisa imininingwane yezobudlelwano," kusho umbhali-ndawonye walolu cwaningo, uLydia Emery. "Kubukeka sengathi akukhulunywa ngabantu abangashadile abazizwa benomona noma benenzondo - kubonakala sengathi wonke umuntu akakuthandi ukukhokhiswa ngokweqile."

Okufanele ngikwenze: Ngenkathi ungeke ukwazi ukugwema ngokuphelele imibhangqwana emgwaqweni noma ukuthi isoka elenza ngokweqile eliphethe i-teddy bear enkulu emgwaqweni ongaphansi komhlaba, kunezinyathelo ongazithatha ukuvumela okuncane kwalokhu kusibekele empilweni yakho.

Yenza i-detox yokuxhumana nabantu ngenyanga kaFebhuwari. Ukwenza kanjalo kungase kukwenze ujabule kakhulu ngaleli holide—ucwaningo oluvela kubacwaningi baseNyuvesi yaseNew York kanye naseNyuvesi yaseStanford luthole ukuthi ukuvala i-Facebook amasonto amane kuphela kwenza abantu babike ukuthuthuka okuthile emazingeni abo enjabulo. Uma lokho kuzwakala ngokweqile, zama ukuzikhawulela kumizuzu eyi-10 yokuphequlula i-Instagram usuku ngalunye. (Kunezinye izinzuzo zokukhawulela isikhathi sakho sesikrini, futhi.)

Kakhulu ~ Real ~ Ubuhlungu obuvela enhliziyweni ephukile

Kulungile-nansi okade uyilindile. Ukuqhuma kokumaketha okubomvu nokuphinki yonke indawo lapho ujika khona ngokungangabazeki kungavusa imicabango ngothando ngaphakathi kwempilo yakho. Uma ubhekene nokuhlukana noma uthando olungafuneki, leli holidi lingadala ubuhlungu. Yebo, ubuhlungu bangempela.

"Ingqondo yethu ayisiniki indlela elula yokubalekela lokho kungqubuzana noma ukuhlukaniswa nomphakathi esikuzwayo lapho othile engabuyiseli imizwa," kusho uZak. "Futhi lowo muzwa wokuzihlukanisa nokungqubuzana ucutshungulwa ngendlela efanayo ebuchosheni njengoba ubuhlungu bomzimba bucutshungulwa, ngokusebenzisa i-matrix yethu yobuhlungu."

Ngamanye amagama, uthando lubuhlungu ngokoqobo, kanti uSuku luka-Valentine lungaba yisikhumbuzo esingaqondakali ngalokhu.

Okufanele ngikwenze: UZak uthi enye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokwelapha lobu buhlungu ibuya ku-oxytocin. "I-Oxytocin iyi-analgesic," usho kanje. "Ucwaningo oluningi lubonisa ukuthi kunciphisa ubuhlungu ngokunciphisa umsebenzi ku-matrix yezinhlungu."

Uma ungashadile, ukukhulisa amazinga akho ngokuthi, yithi, ukuba nephathi yoSuku Lwase-Galentine kungasiza ekuqedeni imizwa yakho engemihle ngeholide futhi kukhuphule lawo mazinga e-oxytocin. “Empeleni kuyinto ehlakaniphile ukwenza iphathi uhambe nabangani bakho,” kusho uZak. "Bese ubuyela ebhodini lokudweba lonyaka ozayo. Abantu mabangapheli amandla [ekutholeni uthando]."

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