Izinto Ezi-7 Abantu AbaneBorderline Personality Disorder Bafuna Ukwazi

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• 1. ‘Sinovalo lokuthi uzoshiya, ngisho noma izinto zihamba kahle. Futhi siyakuzonda. '
• 2. ‘Kuzwakala sengathi udlula empilweni ngokusha okungokomzwelo kwezinga lesithathu; konke kuyashisa futhi kubuhlungu ukukuthinta. '
• 3. ‘Yonke into izwakala kakhulu: kuhle, kubi, noma ngenye indlela. Indlela esisabela ngayo emizweni enjalo ingabonakala ingalingani, kodwa iyafaneleka ezingqondweni zethu. '
• 4. 'Anginabo ubuntu obuningi.'
• 5. 'Asinabungozi noma sikhohlise ... [sidinga nje uthando oluncane olwengeziwe.'
• 6. ‘Kuyakhathaza futhi kuyakhathaza. Futhi kunzima impela ukuthola ukwelashwa okusezingeni, okungabizi. '
• 7. 'Asithandeki futhi sithanda abakhulu.'
• Uma usebudlelwaneni noma unomuntu othanda kakhulu nge-BPD, kubalulekile ukwenza ucwaningo lwakho ngalesi simo, futhi uqaphele izindlela ongase uhlangane nazo

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele kuvame ukuqondwa kabi. Isikhathi sokushintsha lokho.

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu emingceleni - {textend} kwesinye isikhathi okwaziwa njengokuphazamiseka kobuntu okungazinzile ngokomzwelo - i- {textend} ukuphazamiseka kobuntu okuthinta indlela ocabanga futhi uzizwa ngayo ngawe nakwabanye.

Abantu abanenkinga yobuntu bomngcele (BPD) bavame ukwesaba kakhulu ukulahlwa, balwela ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo, banemizwelo enamandla kakhulu, benza ngokuxhamazela, futhi bangaze babhekane nokuphambana nokuzihlukanisa.

Kungaba yisifo esesabekayo ukuhlala naso, yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abantu abane-BPD bazungezwe abantu abangabaqonda futhi babasekele. Kodwa futhi kuyisifo esinqunyelwe ngokumangazayo.

Ngenxa yenqwaba yemibono eyiphutha ezungezile, abantu abaningi abanesifo bazizwa besaba ukukhuluma ngokuphila naso.

Kepha sifuna ukukushintsha lokho.

Yingakho ngelule isandla ngacela abantu abane-BPD ukuthi basitshele ukuthi bafuna bathini abanye abantu ngokuphila nalesi simo. Nazi izimpendulo eziyisikhombisa ezinamandla.

1. ‘Sinovalo lokuthi uzoshiya, ngisho noma izinto zihamba kahle. Futhi siyakuzonda. '

Esinye sezimpawu ezinkulu ze-BPD ukwesaba ukulahlwa futhi lokhu kungenzeka noma ngabe izinto ebudlelwaneni zibonakala zihamba kahle.

Kukhona lokhu kwesaba okusabalele kokuthi abantu bazosishiya, noma ukuthi asifanele umuntu lowo - {textend} futhi noma ngabe kubonakala kungenangqondo kwabanye, kungazizwa kungokoqobo kumuntu onenkinga.

Umuntu one-BPD angenza noma yini ukunqanda lokho ukuthi kungenzeki, yingakho angahle abonakale “njengabantu abanamathele” noma “abaswele.” Yize kungaba nzima ukuzwelana nakho, khumbula ukuthi kusuka endaweni yokwesaba, okungaba nzima kakhulu ukuhlala nayo.

2. ‘Kuzwakala sengathi udlula empilweni ngokusha okungokomzwelo kwezinga lesithathu; konke kuyashisa futhi kubuhlungu ukukuthinta. '

Lo muntu ukusho kahle impela - {textend} abantu abane-BPD banemizwa enamandla kakhulu engahlala kusuka emahoreni ambalwa kuye ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, futhi engashintsha ngokushesha okukhulu.

Isibonelo, singasuka ekuzizweleni sijabule kakhulu size ngokuzuma sizizwe siphansi kakhulu futhi sidabukile. Kwesinye isikhathi ukuba ne-BPD kufana nokuhamba ngamagobolondo amaqanda lapho uzungezile - {textend} asazi ukuthi imizwa yethu izohamba ngaluphi uhlangothi, futhi kwesinye isikhathi kunzima ukuyilawula.

Noma sibonakala ngathi "sizwela ngokweqile," khumbula ukuthi akuhlali kulawulwa yithi njalo.

3. ‘Yonke into izwakala kakhulu: kuhle, kubi, noma ngenye indlela. Indlela esisabela ngayo emizweni enjalo ingabonakala ingalingani, kodwa iyafaneleka ezingqondweni zethu. '

Ukuba ne-BPD kungaba namandla kakhulu, kube sengathi siyaphambuka phakathi kokuqisa. Lokhu kungakhathala kithina nakubantu abasizungezile.

Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi konke umuntu one-BPD akucabangayo kufanelekile engqondweni yakhe ngaleso sikhathi. Ngakho-ke ngicela ungasitsheli ukuthi siyiziwula noma usenze sizizwe sengathi imizwa yethu ayisebenzi.

Kungabathatha isikhathi ukucabanga ngemicabango yethu - {textend} kodwa okwamanje izinto zingazwakala zisabeka njengesihogo. Lokhu kusho ukungakwahluleli nokunikeza isikhala nesikhathi lapho kuvunyelwe khona.

4. 'Anginabo ubuntu obuningi.'

Ngenxa yokuthi kuyinkinga yobuntu, i-BPD ivame ukudideka nomuntu one-dissociative identity disorder, lapho abantu baba nobuntu obuningi.

Kepha lokhu akunjalo neze. Abantu abane-BPD abanabo ubuntu obungaphezu koyedwa. I-BPD ukuphazamiseka kobuntu lapho unenkinga yokuthi ucabanga futhi uzizwa kanjani ngawe nabanye abantu, futhi unezinkinga empilweni yakho ngenxa yalokhu.

Lokho akusho ukuthi ukuphazamiseka kobunikazi be-dissociative kufanele kukhishwe inyumbazane, kepha, impela akufanele kudidaniswe nokunye ukuphazamiseka.

5. 'Asinabungozi noma sikhohlise ... [sidinga nje uthando oluncane olwengeziwe.'

Kusenenhlamba enkulu ezungeze iBPD. Abantu abaningi basakholelwa ukuthi labo abaphila nayo bangakhohlisa noma babe yingozi ngenxa yezimpawu zabo.

Yize lokhu kungaba njalo kubantu abambalwa kakhulu, iningi labantu abane-BPD lilwa nje nokuzizwa kwabo nobudlelwano babo.

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi asibona abantu abayingozi. Eqinisweni, abantu abanesifo sengqondo basengozini enkulu yokuzilimaza bona ngokwabo kunabanye.

6. ‘Kuyakhathaza futhi kuyakhathaza. Futhi kunzima impela ukuthola ukwelashwa okusezingeni, okungabizi. '

Abantu abaningi abane-BPD abalashwa, kodwa hhayi ngoba bengathandi. Kungenxa yokuthi lokhu kugula kwengqondo akuphathwa njengabanye abaningi.

Ngenye, i-BPD ayiphathwa ngemithi. Ingaphathwa kuphela ngokwelashwa, okufana nokwelashwa kokuziphatha okuhambisanayo (i-DBT) kanye nokwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo (i-CBT). Azikho izidakamizwa ezaziwa ukuthi ziyasebenza ekwelapheni i-BPD (yize kwesinye isikhathi imithi isetshenziswa ngaphandle kwelebula ukukhulula izimpawu).

Kuyiqiniso futhi ukuthi ngenxa yenhlamba, abanye odokotela bacabanga ukuthi abantu abane-BPD bazoba yiziguli ezinzima, futhi ngenxa yalokho, kungaba nzima ukuthola ukwelashwa okusebenzayo.

Abantu abaningi abane-BPD bangazuza ezinhlelweni ezinamandla ze-DBT, kepha lokhu akuzona okulula ukufinyelela kuzo. Okusho ukuthi, uma umuntu one-BPD “engabi ngcono,” ungasheshi ukusola yena - {textend} ukuthola usizo kunzima ngokwanele kukodwa.

7. 'Asithandeki futhi sithanda abakhulu.'

Abantu abane-BPD banothando oluningi abangalunikela, kangangokuthi lungaba lukhulu.

Ubudlelwano bungazizwa njengesivunguvungu kwesinye isikhathi, ngoba lapho umuntu one-BPD - {textend} ikakhulukazi labo abalwa nemizwa engapheli yokuba yize noma isizungu - {textend} benza ukuxhumana kwangempela, ukugijimisana kungaba namandla njenganoma yimuphi omunye umuzwa ababa nawo .

Lokhu kungenza ukuba nobudlelwano nomuntu one-BPD kube nzima, kepha futhi kusho ukuthi lo ngumuntu onothando oluningi angalunika. Bafuna ukwazi ukuthi imizwa yabo ibuyile, futhi bangadinga ukuqinisekiswa okuthe xaxa ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ubudlelwano busagcwaliseka kini nobabili.

Uma usebudlelwaneni noma unomuntu othanda kakhulu nge-BPD, kubalulekile ukwenza ucwaningo lwakho ngalesi simo, futhi uqaphele izindlela ongase uhlangane nazo

Amathuba ukuthi, uma ufunda okuthile mayelana nokuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele ongeke uthande ukushiwo ngakho wena, Umuntu one-BPD ngeke azuze ngokuthola lokho okucatshangwayo ngabo, noma.

Ukusebenzela ukuthola ukuqonda okunesihawu ngalokho ababhekene nakho, nokuthi ungabasiza kanjani obathandayo kanye nawe uqobo ukubhekana nakho, kungenza noma kubuqede ubuhlobo.

Uma uzizwa sengathi udinga ukuxhaswa okwengeziwe, vulela umuntu othile ukuthi uzizwa kanjani - {textend} amaphuzu ebhonasi uma kungumelaphi noma umtholampilo! - {textend} ukuze bakwazi ukukunikeza ukusekelwa namathiphu wokuthi ungayithuthukisa kanjani inhlalakahle yakho yengqondo.

Khumbula, ukusekelwa okungcono kakhulu kothandekayo wakho kutholakala ngokunakekela okungcono kakhulu.

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