Impendulo Yalona Wesifazane Ekuhlazweni Kwamafutha Ejimini Izokwenza Ufune Ukujabula

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Ukubhukuda kungenye yezivivinyo ezithandwa nguKenlie Tiggeman. Kukhona okuphumuzayo ngokuba semanzini, nokho kusewukuzilolonga okugcwele umzimba wonke. Kodwa ngolunye usuku, njengoba oneminyaka engu-35 ubudala waseNew Orleans ebhukuda ejimini, i-zen yakhe yaphazamiseka lapho ebona owesifazane emi eduze kosebe lokubhukuda, emhleka ngenkathi ephakamisa ucingo lwakhe.

"Ubememeza ethi 'ubukele imikhomo,'" kusho uTiggeman. "Futhi ubengithatha izithombe."

Ingabe sishilo ukuthi i-Tiggeman inosayizi ongeziwe?

Ukuba nomuntu ongamazi akuthathe ngesigqoko sokubhukuda ngaphandle kwemvume yakho yiphupho elibi labesifazane bonke, kepha ukukloloda okunamahloni okunamafutha kwakunesihluku esikhulu (uma kungenzeka) ngoba uTiggeman (onesisindo esingamakhilogremu angama-300) ugcine isisindo somzimba esingaphezu kwamakhilogremu ayikhulu selokhu awa eminyakeni embalwa edlule, waphuka unyawo, futhi wadinga usizo lwamadoda amane ukuze akhuphuke izitebhisi ukuze athole usizo lwezokwelapha ngoba wayenesisindo esingaphezu kwamakhilogremu angu-400. Lokho, wanquma, kwaba yisikhathi sokugcina lapho ayezoba buthakathaka khona, futhi, kusukela lapho, wenza ukuzivocavoca nokudla kube yinto ephambili. Noma engeyena "omncane," uTiggeman wehlile emzimbeni, uzizwa ejabule, enempilo kakhulu, futhi-okubaluleke kakhulu-unamandla anele okwenza noma yini ayifunayo. (Ubuwazi ukuthi Ukuhlazeka ngamafutha kungalimaza umzimba wakho?)

Futhi u-Tiggeman wayengeke avumele owesifazane othile ongahleliwe ukuthi amdicilele phansi, ikakhulukazi ngemva kokuba engene endaweni yokubhukuda eyimayela nengxenye-umdlalo owawuzokhipha iningi labantu abaya ejimini. Ngakho wabhukuda waqonda kowesifazane futhi waphendula, "Awu, omunye wethu usebenzela imbongolo yakhe, futhi omunye wethu uyimbongolo nje!"

Kwanele ukwenza noma ngubani asukume ajabule, kepha njengoba eqhubeka nokuthintitha kwakhe, waphinde wacabanga ukubuya kwakhe okuthukuthele. “Ngemuva kokunyamalala kwami, ngamhawukela ngoba angicabangi ukuthi ngiyoke ngijabule ngendlela engenza ngidicilele phansi umuntu osebenza kanzima ukuze abe ngcono,” kusho uTiggeman.

“Angifuni ukwenza kuzwakale sengathi akuzange kube buhlungu ngoba kwenzekile, kodwa, okudabukisayo, ngalesi sikhathi ngase nginolwazi oluningi ngehlazo lokukhuluphala kangangokuthi ngafunda ukuyeka ukukuvumela ukuthi kungichaze,” kuchaza yena. (Psst... Ngisho nosaziwayo abafana no-Khloé Kardashian Abakwazi Ukulithola Ikhefu Ku-Body Image Haters.)

Akukona ukuphela kwendaba, noma kunjalo. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ngemuva kwesigameko "sokubona imikhomo", u-Tiggeman wahlangana nowesifazane ofanayo ekilasini leZumba. Futhi kulokhu kwakungowesifazane owabanjwa umoya. Kwakuyithuba elihle lokuziphindiselela-kodwa akazange alithathe. Esikhundleni salokho, wanikela ngomusa nokuqonda.

“Ngesikhathi sonke sizijabulisa futhi sibukeka siyisilima, wayezithukuthelele kakhulu ngokungakulungeli,” usho kanje. "Ngakho-ke ngikhulume naye ngemuva kwalelo kilasi ngathi, 'Noma ngubani okutshele ukuthi awulungile ugcwele ubucayi."

Lona wesifazane wakhala izinyembezi futhi wanika uTiggeman ukuxolisa okwase kuphele isikhathi eside. U-Tiggeman akazange ajabule ngosizi lomunye wesifazane. Kepha "kuyasiza ukuqonda ukuthi kungani abantu benonya kangaka, yize kungafanele babe njalo," usho kanje.

"Nginabangani abaningi abahlala bethukuthele kakhulu emphakathini ngendlela abaphatha ngayo abantu abanjengami. Futhi bengithukuthele isikhathi eside futhi, kodwa konke okwaholela ekutheni kube ukukhuluphala kakhulu nokungajabuli," uyanezela. "Isisho sakudala esithi 'Ukulimaza abantu balimaze abantu' siyiqiniso. Manje sengiyakhetha ukuthi angikwenzi lokho."

Futhi uma enganikeza iseluleko esisodwa kulowo wesifazane? “Into ebaluleke kakhulu engiyifundile ukuzithanda ngokwanele ukuze ngiqhubeke ngizama ukuba ngcono,” usho kanje. Kungakho uzombona ebuyela echibini namuhla nangakusasa nakulandelayo-kungakhathalekile ukuthi ubani obukayo. (Ngiphefumulelwe? Funda "Ngingu-200 Pounds futhi Ngilungile Kunangaphambili.")

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