Ukulwa Kusize Kanjani I-Paige VanZant Ukubhekana Nokuhlukunyezwa Nokuhlaselwa Ngokobulili

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Bambalwa kuphela abantu abangazibamba kwi-Octagon ngokufana nomlwi we-MMA uPaige VanZant. Nokho, le ngane eneminyaka engu-24 ubudala esiyaziyo sonke inesikhathi esidlule abaningi abangasazi: Wazabalaza kanzima ukuze aqede isikole samabanga aphezulu futhi waze wacabanga nokuzibulala ngemva kokuxhashazwa kanzima nokudlwengulwa lapho ineminyaka engu-14 kuphela ubudala.

"Ukudlula kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuxhashazwa noma ngabe kunjani kungalimaza kakhulu futhi kungabekezeleleki emoyeni," kusho uVanZant Umumo. (Okuhlobene: Ubuchopho Bakho Ekuxhashazweni) "Ngisabhekana neminye yemithelela esele empilweni yami yansuku zonke. Ngifunde ukubhekana nobuhlungu futhi ngasebenza izindlela zokuqhubekela phambili nempilo yami."

UVanZant, ophinde abe yinxusa lakwaReebok, uchaze kabanzi ngamava akhe ngokuhlukunyezwa ememulweni wakhe omusha, Sukuma. "Ngiyethemba ukuthi incwadi yami ingathinta abantu emhlabeni wonke futhi ikhombise ukuthi ukuhlukumeza kabi kungayithinta kanjani impilo yomuntu," esho. "Ngiyethemba ukushintsha iziqhwaga zisuka ngaphakathi ngikhombise izisulu ukuthi azisodwa."

Nakuba uVanZant ephumele obala kubalandeli bakhe mayelana nokuxhashazwa, ukukhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ekunukubezweni ngokocansi akukaze kube lula kuye. Kangangoba ucishe akazange ahlanganyele ngolwazi lwakhe encwadini yakhe.

"Ngangisebenza ebhukwini lami cishe iminyaka emibili, futhi ngaleso sikhathi, kwavela inhlangano ye- # MeToo," usho kanje. "Ngibonga isibindi sabesifazane abaningi, angizange ngizizwe ngingedwa ohambweni lwami futhi ngazizwa nginesibindi sokuhlanganyela ngokwenzekile. Ngithole induduzo enkulu ngokwazi ukuthi kukhona nabanye abafana nami. Ngiyaziqhenya ngabo bonke laba abesifazane beza phambili futhi ngiyethemba ukuthi amazwi nezindaba zethu zizoshintsha ikusasa futhi kwenze kube lula kubantu besifazane ukukhuluma. "

Abesifazane benhlangano ye-#MeToo kungenzeka ukuthi banikeze u-VanZant amandla okwabelana ngendaba yakhe, kodwa ukulwa okwamsiza kakhulu ukuthi adlule ezingxenyeni ezihlukumeza kakhulu emoyeni zempilo yakhe. "Ukuthola ukulwa kwasindisa impilo yami," usho njalo. "Ngangisendaweni emnyama emva kokuhlukumezeka engadlula kukho. Kwathatha isikhathi eside kakhulu kimi ukuzizwa ngikhululekile kunoma yikuphi ukuma lapho nganginakwa khona. Ngangifuna ukuhlangana ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngisho lapho ngineminyaka engu-15 ubudala, ngangingenwa uvalo ngoba nganginovalo kakhulu lokuya esikoleni ngedwa. " (Okuhlobene: Izindaba Zangempela Zabesifazane Ababecindezelwa Ngokocansi Ngesikhathi Besebenza)

Kwakungalesi sikhathi lapho ubaba kaVanZant emkhuthaza khona ukuthi azame ukulwa-enethemba lokuthi kuzomsiza ukumnika amandla ngandlela thile. Futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, yenza lokho kanye. "Ubaba kwadingeka ajoyine ijimu ye-MMA inyanga yonke futhi ahambe nami kuwo wonke amakilasi ngaze ngazizwa ngikhululekile lapho," kusho uVanZant. "Kancane kancane ngazethemba futhi ngagcina sengisesigabeni engiyikho namhlanje. Kuthathe isikhathi eside, kodwa ngagcina ngizizwa sengingcono kakhulu futhi manje anginazo izinzwa ezingena egumbini ngizibuza ukuthi abantu bacabangani ngami. " (Kunesizathu esenza ukuthi i-supermodel u-Gisele Bündchen afunge i-MMA ngomzimba oqinile futhi ukukhululeka kwe-stress.)

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubhekene nani, uVanZant unomuzwa wokuthi ukufunda ukuzivikela, kunoma isiphi isikhundla, kungaba umthombo omkhulu wokuhlomisa. "Ukungena ejimini noma ekilasini lokuzivikela, ngisho noma kungekona ukufunda ukulwa nabantu, kuzokunikeza ukuzethemba okukhulu futhi kukunikeze iqembu elihle labantu ongaba khona," uthi. (Nazi izizathu ezimbalwa zokuthi kungani kufanele unikeze i-MMA.)

Manje, uVanZant usebenzisa ipulatifomu yakhe ukugqugquzela abesifazane ukuthi bathole ukuzethemba nokuzethemba, noma ngabe kumnyama kubomvu. “Ngethemba ukuthi abesifazane ikakhulukazi bazoyifunda incwadi yami balalele nendaba yami,” usho kanje. "Abesifazane badonsa kanzima ngezinkinga zokuzethemba nokuzethemba. Futhi uma uhlanganisa ubuxhwanguxhwangu, impilo ingaba mnyama kakhulu. Ngifuna nje abantu bazi ukuthi ababodwa futhi kunezindlela zokulungisa ukudabuka."

Amaphrofayili amakhulu kuVanZant ngokuthola isibindi sokwabelana ngendaba yakhe futhi akhuthaze abesifazane abaningi kulolu hlelo.

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