Izifundo Ezi-5 Ezitholakala ku-JLaw Ngokuthandana Nabesilisa Abadala

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Ngesikhathi kuvela izindaba lowo owawina u-Oscar UJennifer Lawrence wayeyibize ngokuthi iyeke ukusebenza neColdplay frontman UChris Martin, asikwazi ukushaqeka ngokuphelele. I- Imidlalo yokulamba u-star, 24, ubethandana nalo mculi oneminyaka engu-37 ubudala kusukela ngoJuni, ngemuva nje "kokuzihlukanisa" kwakhe. UGwyneth Paltrow, owayengunkosikazi wakhe weminyaka eyishumi, ngasekupheleni kukaMashi.

Omunye wangaphakathi utshele US Maviki onke ukuthi isizathu sokuhlukana kwabo kwakungenxa yezinhlelo zabo zokusebenza "eziphambene", okwenza ubuhlobo babo "bube namatshe." Futhi ngenkathi sivuma ukuthi laba babili babonakala bengenakwenzeka kusukela ekuqaleni, besinethemba elikhulu ngalo mdlali othandekayo kanye nomuhle wakhe omusha.

Kodwa manje njengoba umbhangqwana usuyi-kaput, kufanele sibuze ukuhlakanipha kukaLawrence kokungagcini nje ngokukhetha umlingani oneminyaka engu-13 ubudala, kodwa futhi nendoda esanda kuphuma emshadweni wesikhathi eside (enezingane). Sikhulume nezazi zobudlelwano ezimbili ngalokho sonke okufanele sikugcine engqondweni uma uthandana nabantu abadala, futhi / noma osanda kuhlukanisa, amadoda.

1. Qaphela ukuthi kungenzeka angabi nakho konke ndawonye. Impela, kuyalingana ukucabanga ukuthi ukujola nendoda endala kusho ukuvuthwa nokuqina ngokwengeziwe, kepha ungadinga ukusetha kabusha iminyaka oyilindele iyinombolo, phela. "Ungacabangi ukuthi uvuthwe ngokwedlulele noma unazo zonke izimpendulo ngoba nje umdala," kusho u-April Beyer, ongungoti kwezobudlelwano kwezobudlelwano.

2. Yiba nempilo yakho. “Ngibone abantu besifazane abaningi ababanjwa wumcabango wokuthi banakekelwa, babambezele indlela yabo ngabanye obekungabalethela ukuzethemba nokuzinza,” kusho uBeyer. Qiniseka ukuthi usemhlabathini oqinile uwedwa, ngokomoya nangokwezimali, ngakho-ke uyakwazi ukuzimela uma ubudlelwano bunqamuka.

3. Ama-rebounds ayinto yangempela. “Uma umuntu esanda kudivosa noma ehlukene nobudlelwane besikhathi eside, kuzothatha isikhathi ukucubungula ukulahlekelwa,” kuchaza uKelly Campbell, Ph.D., uprofesa ohlanganyele wezengqondo eCalifornia State University, eSan Bernadino. Uma beqhubeka ngokushesha okukhulu, kungenzeka bangatholakali ngokomzwelo kumlingani olandelayo. Olunye uphawu oluyisixwayiso: ukwenqaba ukukhuluma ngomuntu wakhe wakudala noma ukuthola imizwa enkulu ngakho-kungaba yifulegi elibomvu lokuthi akazange acubungule ukuphela kwalowo mfelandawonye. Okufunayo ukubheka ithoni engathathi hlangothi, necacile uma ekhuluma ngayo, okukhombisa ukuthi unokuthula.

4. Izingane zakhe ziza naye. "Kumele uqaphele ukuthi izingane zakhe nalabo abebekade bezoba yingxenye yempilo yakho uma uzogcina unaye," kusho uCampbell. Futhi uma useseminyakeni yama-20s, kufanele ucabangele ukuthi kusho ukuthini lokhu ukuba ngumzali wesinyathelo. Njengoba leyo minyaka isetshenziswa kangcono kakhulu ukuthola ukuthi ungubani njengomuntu omdala, ukuletha izingane engxoxweni ngaphambi kokuthi ulunge kungapela inkinga.

5. Ufuna i-fling? Kwenze. Umuntu osanda kushada anganikeza injabulo enkulu isikhathi esifushane, kusho uCampbell. Futhi, uma usanda "kungazihlanganisi" (njengoLawrence, osanda kwehlukana nesoka lakhe leminyaka emithathu), wena nendoda yakho entsha ningaqonda kahle ngemizwa nobabili eniyizwayo, uyanezela. Ozakwethu abanokufana okuningi bavame ukujabula kakhulu, ngakho-ke lokhu kungaba yindawo eyodwa yokufana.

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