Izindlela ezi-5 Omama Abasha Abangakwazi Ukuzikhipha Kakhulu "Isikhathi Sami"

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• 1. Qonda ukuthi "isikhathi sami" sisho ukuthini ngempela.
• 2. Khumbula, awukwazi ukwenza yonke into ngesikhathi esisodwa.
• 3. Chitha isikhathi nabangane bakho abadala nabasha.
• 4. Ukuhamba kwakho kuyisikhali esiyimfihlo.
• 5. Sebenzisa isikhathi seholide.
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Uyazi ngama-trimesters amathathu okukhulelwa-ngokusobala. Futhi mhlawumbe uzwile abantu bebhekisa ku-trimester yesine, aka amasonto angokomzwelo ngemuva nje kokuzalwa. Manje, umbhali uLauren Smith Brody usiza omama abasha ukubhekana nalokho akubiza ngokuthi "i-trimester yesihlanu," lapho ukuphela kwekhefu lokubeletha kuphela futhi umhlaba ongaphelele enkulisa, amanabukeni nendlu eyihlazo.

Encwadini yakhe entsha, enesihloko esifanele Isikhathi sesihlanu sesihlanu, UBrody wabelana ngomhlahlandlela wakhe we-no-BS wokusiza omama, ikakhulukazi omama abasha, ukubhekana nazo zonke izidingo zomhlaba wangempela ngemuva kokuthi ingane ingene esithombeni isihogo uyabuyela emsebenzini, unakekele enye impilo, futhi ngandlela thize uzibekele isikhathi osukwini, uyazi, wena?

Ungase ucabange ukuthi ayikho into ebizwa ngokuthi "isikhathi sami" uma usungumama. Kodwa uBrody ucela ukwehluka. Eqinisweni, uthi iyona kanye into engakusiza ukuba ube ngumama ongcono, umlingani kanye nomsebenzi ongcono. Lowo owayengumhleli kamagazini futhi ongumama wababili uthi ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uzinakekele (yebo, kanye nengane, oshade naye nezikhathi zokugcina) ngeke kube lula. Ngeke kubukeke njengoba kwakunjalo ngaphambi kokuba ngumama. Kepha kuyenzeka, futhi kufanele ukwenze kuqala manje ngaphambi kokuba ukunganeliseki kwesikhathi eside kuyibeke.

Lapha, sabelana ngamanye amathiphu avela kuBrody ukusebenzisa ngokunenzuzo "isikhathi sakho" sami esiyigugu futhi esibalulekile (Futhi ngenkathi ukuyo, yingakho kufanele uyeke ukucindezela mayelana nebhalansi yempilo yakho yomsebenzi.)

1. Qonda ukuthi "isikhathi sami" sisho ukuthini ngempela.

Ngakho-ke, uyazi ukuthi udinga ukubeka phambili ukuzinakekela, kodwa kuyini ngempela lokho futhi ukufeza kanjani? UBrody uthi indlela elula yokunquma ukuthi kufanele usichithe kanjani lesi sikhathi esiyigugu ukucabanga ngalokho okukwenza ujabule futhi uthandeke kakhulu. wena. Lokho kungasho ukuthengela ingane yakho, ukwenza izinto ezithile, ukuvolontiya, noma ngisho nocansi. Ukuthi ukhetha ukusichaza kanjani isikhathi sakho uwedwa kukuwe. Vele ungene kumkhuba wayo ekuqaleni kwempilo yengane yakho.

Uma ukhathazekile ngegama elithi "wedwa" (HA! Ukuphela kwesikhathi omama abasha abavame ukusithola yishawa yemizuzu emihlanu bona amandla ube nesikhathi) UBrody uthi kufanele uhlale unosizo oluthile lokulondoloza, noma ngabe lokho kusho ukuthi ubaba, ukunakekelwa kwenkulisa, noma umngani othembekile. Awukwazi ukwenza konke ngasikhathi sinye, okuholela kuthiphu elandelayo.

2. Khumbula, awukwazi ukwenza yonke into ngesikhathi esisodwa.

Ungumama wengane esanda kuzalwa. Ungumuntu futhi uzozizwa ucindezelekile. Couple lokho ngokulungela ukubuyela emsebenzini lapho kunezinsuku eziwumnqamulajuqu kanye nabaphathi kanye nenqwaba yabantu abangenalo ulwazi lokuthi ubhekene nani, futhi izinga lakho lokucindezeleka lingadlula ophahleni. (Uma usebenza ngempumelelo usuku lonke, ukuthumela ama-imeyili, ukucwaninga amaphrojekthi, ukupheka isidlo sakusihlwa, ukupha umntwana ukudla, kanye nokuthola isikhathi/amandla ukuze wenze ucansi nophathina wakho, bese ngiyakuncoma ngoba ungowesifazane omkhulu ngokusemthethweni.) Kokunye okunye kwakho, kusho uBrody, ake ume kancane.

Awukwazi ukwenza yonke into ngesikhathi esisodwa noma ube yikho kuwo wonke umuntu ngesikhathi esisodwa. Imayelana nalokho wena can yenza. Kulapho umnakekeli, owaziwa nangokuthi omunye wakho obalulekile, umama, udadewenu, umngane, noma umzanyana omethembayo, angangena futhi athathe izingcezu. Ungesabi ukucela oshade naye usizo olwengeziwe, njengoba uBrody ethi awubabuzi sengathi bangumsizi wakho. Uyabacela yiba ngumlingani wakho kulolu hambo oluhlanyayo, futhi ukwenza kanjalo ekugcineni kuzosiza ngamunye wenu ukuba azinakekele.

3. Chitha isikhathi nabangane bakho abadala nabasha.

Ngenkathi ecwaninga abanye omama bencwadi yakhe, uBrody uthole ukuthi esinye sezici ezibaluleke kakhulu esisize abesifazane bazijwayeza ukuba ngumama ukuba nobungane obenelisayo. Abangane abahle, ikakhulukazi labo ongabaxhuma futhi uhlanganyele nabo, basiza ukuthuthukisa impilo yengqondo kamama omusha "ngokwandisa umuzwa wabo wokusebenza kahle nokunikeza isiqiniseko sokuthi izingane zabo zikhula kahle," kubhala uBrody. Ukwenza ukuxhumana okusha, ikakhulukazi nabanye omama abasha, kuyasiza futhi. Lesi akusona isikhathi sokuba namahloni. Bheka amaqembu amasha wengxoxo yabazali endaweni-ehhovisi likadokotela wezingane, esitolo sakho sendawo, ekilasini le-yoga ngemuva kokubeletha, noma ngokusesha nje ku-Facebook. Uma nonke nikwazi ukuhlobana, ukusondelana kungakusiza ngempela futhi kukusize ufunde izinto ezintsha mayelana nokuba ngumama. Kungaba yindlela yokuxhumana nokwandisa umsebenzi wakho ngokuzayo!

Ukulondoloza ubungane bakho bakudala kubaluleke ngendlela efanayo, ngakho-ke ungakhohlwa ngomngane wakho wasebuntwaneni nomngane wakho omkhulu ongekho eduze nokulungele ukuba nezingane. Uma unesikhashana ongasindisa, njengalapho ugibela isitimela uya noma ubuya emsebenzini, finyelela kubo ukuze ugcine ukuxhumana kwakho kuqinile. Okungcono nakakhulu, shayela umzanyana futhi uhlele ubusuku bamantombazane. (Nakhu okwengeziwe ngokuthi kungani kufanele ubambelele kuleyo BFF yakho.)

4. Ukuhamba kwakho kuyisikhali esiyimfihlo.

Umama omusha noma cha, ukubhajwa ngemuva komugqa wethrafikhi noma esitimeleni esimile lapho uya ehhovisi i okubi kakhulu. Kungenzeka ukuthi wenza ezinye izinto eziningi ezikhiqiza kakhulu ngaleso sikhathi. Kepha uBrody uthi ukubheka ukuma nse ngombono ohlukile-njengesikhathi sokwenza ukuzinakekela okuncane ngoba hey, akukho okunye ongakwenza. Basebenza usuku lonke futhi baba ngabazali ubusuku nemini ngenkathi bezama ukusebenza ngamahora amancane okulala. Ngenkathi ulindile kuthrafikhi, zitika ngesnakhi esinempilo, lalela umculo, noma gcoba ukhilimu wesandla onephunga elimnandi-yenza okuthile okuqondise izinzwa zakho ezinhlanu ukuze uthole indlela ephelele yokukhohlisa isimiso sakho sezinzwa ukuze sizipholele. Ungasebenzisa futhi isikhathi sokuphumula uhlezi esitimeleni ukuze uthole abangani. Nayi ibhonasi yabesifazane abanenhlanhla yokuhlala ngaphakathi kwebanga lokuhamba lapho beya khona. Sebenzisa lokho ukuze uzuze futhi uvivinye umzimba. Omunye umama onobuciko uBrody oqokomisa encwadini ucela umzanyana wakhe ukuba alethe ingane yakhe ehhovisi, ukuze bakwazi ukuhamba nomuntu ohamba ngezinyawo abuyele ekhaya ekupheleni kosuku. (Kungakho ukusebenza kuyinzuzo empilweni yakho yengqondo.)

5. Sebenzisa isikhathi seholide.

Uma unesikhathi seholide, thatha.Ukubhukha uhambo oluya e-Bali kungase kungabi ngokoqobo, kodwa intambama enwetshiwe endaweni ye-spa akufanele kube njalo. Shayela umhleli futhi ungakhathazeki. (Kungakho ukuthatha ikhefu kukuhle empilweni yakho.)

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