Izigaba Eziyisi-6 Zosizi Lokulahlekelwa Kwesisindo

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• Ukuziqhenya
• Izincomo Ezisemuva
• Ukuduma (Okwaziwa nangokuthi 'Ukuhlolisisa Okujulile')
• Ukukhathazeka Kwamanga
• "Ngingakwazi Ukukubamba Lokho?"
• Ukwamukela
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Uma kukhona into eyodwa engiyifundile njengochwepheshe "ngaphambi" nangokuthi "ngemuva" (ngilahle cishe amakhilogremu angama-75 phakathi neminyaka embalwa yokuqala ngemuva kokuthweswa iziqu esikoleni esiphakeme) ukuthi ingxenye enzima kakhulu yokwehlisa isisindo akuyona ukwenqaba i-dessert - ukuphatha ukusabela kwabasondelene kakhulu nabathandekayo bakho. Uhlushwa ukusebenza okukhulu impela, kepha bahlushwa imizwa enamandla kakhulu.

Ukuziqhenya

Ekuqaleni, wonke umuntu kusuka ku-BFF yakho kuya kowesifazane wakho weposi uzoba ngakho ngijabule ngawe. Bazokugona, bahlengezele izinyembezi, bakutshele indlela abaziqhenya ngayo. Futhi mhlawumbe zisho kahle. Kodwa ngemuva kwesikhashana, uzoqala ukucabanga, "Kulungile ... Ngiyeke iMcDonald's ngayeka ukuphuza ama-jumbo margaritas ayisishiyagalombili njalo ngempelasonto. Akusikho ukuthi okukhulu kakhulu. "

Ungamangali uma uthola ukunyuselwa emsebenzini futhi akekho onentshisekelo yokuzwa ngakho. Ngubani onendaba nomsebenzi wakho? Usayizi wesine!

Izincomo Ezisemuva

Abantu banezinhloso ezinhle, kepha izikhathi eziningi abazi ukuthi bazothini kumuntu osehlise isisindo esikhulu. Lapho ngingena endlini yami yobudlova okokuqala ngemuva kokulahlekelwa amakhilogremu angama-25 ehlobo eledlule, umphathi wethu wasekhaya wangibuka futhi wakhamuluka, "Rachel, ubukeka uhluke kakhulu! Ubukeka ukhuluphele!" Gee, ngiyabonga. Ukuncoma okunje kuzoba kuhle kakhulu, ngakho-ke kungcono ukujwayele.

Ukuduma (Okwaziwa nangokuthi 'Ukuhlolisisa Okujulile')

Ngoba ukhanyisa amandla amaningi-lokho kungenye yezici ezinhle zokuba nempilo-wonke umuntu uzofuna ukuhlala nawe. Okokuqala, wonke umuntu ufuna ukuzihlanganisa nentombazane esanda kushisa. Okwesibili, bafuna ukwazi imfihlo yakho. Bazobuza ukuthi udlani ngokuphindaphindiwe, futhi bazofuna ukwazi njalo ukuluma okulodwa. Ngeke baze bazame ukukufihla njengoba begqolozele ipuleti lakho, beqhweba isobho sakho esimnyama sikabhontshisi kanye ne-oatmeal njengokudla okuthakazelisa kakhulu abake bakubona.

Imvamisa lokhu kuhlolwa kuvela kubantu ongakaze ukhulume nabo eminyakeni eminingi-ngokuzumayo bakuthumela imiyalezo ku-Facebook ukuze uthole ukuthi wenzani okwesibili lapho uhamba emnyango wokuzivocavoca. Le mibuzo ingase ifike ngezikhathi ezingafanele, njengalapho uxubha amazinyo endlini yakho yokugezela ye-sorority. Kungcono ukhafule lowo mlilo, ngoba badinga ukubona iphephabhuku lakho lokudla, stat!

Ukukhathazeka Kwamanga

Lapho isikhwele siqala, ngokuzumayo "usuphuke kakhulu." Ungahle wazi ukuthi unesisindo esinempilo, kepha lokho akunandaba- "uyaphela." Ugogo wakho uzolokhu ekukhumbuza ukuthi "amadoda afana nabesifazane abanamajika," futhi abangane bakho mhlawumbe bazokwenza ukungenelela, basho izinto ezinjengokuthi "Sikhathazekile ngawe," "Ubonakala ukhathazekile ngokuzivocavoca," nokuthi "Awusoze ngifuna ukuzijabulisa futhi. "

Manje, siyazi ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi niphume nibe nesikhathi esimnandi ngaphandle kokulahla u-anyanisi weBloomin namaphayinti ayisithupha eGuinness, kepha akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukuchaza lokho eqenjini "elikhathazekile", elingakwenza uzizwe ngendlela emangalisayo ukuzinyeza. Ngokushesha usunguMary-Kate Olsen wesiyingi sakho senhlalo.Ungazama ukuthi, "Hheyi, ngivele ngenza izinguquko ezimbalwa ezinempilo futhi ngijabule ngempela," kepha kunethuba lokuthi bazophakamisa ukuthi uphika nje-bese uqala amahemuhemu amabi.

"Ngingakwazi Ukukubamba Lokho?"

Akusilo icala ukujabula ngokunakwa kwabesilisa oqala ukukuthola. Ungase ufune nje ukunaka isoka lakho langaphambili, noma mhlawumbe ufuna ukuba uhlobo lwentombazane ukuthi wonke umfana ufuna ukuphola. Hhayi-ke, ngingakutshela khona manje ukuthi ubulokhu uyilolu hlobo lwentombazane wonke abesilisa abafuna ukujola nayo; kubonakala nje ukuthi lapho ulahlekelwa isisindo, empeleni uqala ukukukholelwa. Ngokusobala, lapho uyeka ukuziphatha "njengentombazane ekhuluphele ehlakaniphile," nabanye abantu bayakwenza.

Ungase uzizwe sengathi wonke umfana owake wawazi uphuma emsebenzini wezinkuni. Qhubeka futhi ukwamukele! Ngemuva kwakho konke, usebenze kanzima ukufinyelela umgomo wakho!

Isixwayiso: Zama ukunamathela kubafana abasha abakunakayo. Yize kukuthokozisa kakhulu ukuthi i-ex yakho ikufuna ubuye, ngizimisele ukugembula ukuthi usushintshile-kanti yena akenzanga kanjalo. Futhi, kuzwakala sengathi kuyisicefe uma usubona ukuthi "ungifuna kuphela manje njengoba ngiyile 'ntombazane eshisayo.'"

Ukwamukela

Awukwazi ukushintsha abanye abantu. Ngakho-ke wena ukuphela komuntu odinga ukufinyelela esigabeni sokwamukelwa. Uma usebenze kanzima ukuzizwa umuhle ngawe futhi abantu baqala ukuna kulowo mbukiso, kungumuzwa omubi ngempela. Engingakusho ngempela ukuthi njengoba uqala ukuncipha, qiniseka ukuthi ugxile ekhanda lakho njengasesinqeni sakho. Leyo kuphela kwendlela ozokwazi ngayo ukuphatha imibuzo, abafana, kanye nokuphawula okungazweli okuvela kubantu ongabazi.

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