U-Alicia Keys Uvele Wabelana Ngesiko Elinqunu Lomzimba-Uthando Alwenza Njalo Ekuseni

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U-Alicia Keys akakaze aqhamuke ekwabelaneni ngohambo lwakhe lokuzithanda nabalandeli bakhe. Umnqobi wama-Grammy osesebenze izikhathi eziyi-15 ubelokhu emile ekulweni nezinkinga zokuzethemba iminyaka. Emuva ngo-2016, waqala uhambo olungenazo izimonyo lapho asebenzela khona ukwamukela ubuhle bakhe bemvelo futhi wakhuthaza nabanye ukuthi benze okufanayo. Waze wethula nolayini wakhe wokunakekela isikhumba, iKeys Soulcare, ngomqondo wokuthi ubuhle abugcini nje ngokudla isikhumba sakho kuphela kodwa nangomoya wakho.

Njengokungathi udinga esinye isizathu sokuthanda isithonjana esinomzimba omuhle, umculi usanda kunikeza ukubheka okujulile kokuthi usebenza kanjani ekuthuthukiseni isithombe somzimba wakhe nsuku zonke - futhi kuyinto ozofuna ukuyizama ngokwakho. Kwividiyo e-Instagram eyabiwe ngoMsombuluko, uKeys wabelane ngaleyo ngxenye ebalulekile yesiko lakhe lasekuseni: ukubheka umzimba wakhe onqunu esibukweni isikhathi eside ngomzamo wokwazisa nokwamukela yonke intshi yakhe.

"Lokhu kuzokushaya ingqondo," ubhale kanjalo emazwibela. "Ingabe ukulungele ukuzama okuthile okukwenza ungakhululeki ngokuphelele? U-💜 @therealswizzz wami uhlale ethi impilo iqala ekugcineni kwendawo yakho yokunethezeka. Ngakho-ke, ngikumema ya'll ukuzama lokhu nami. Ngitshele ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngemuva ."

Kule vidiyo, uKeys oneminyaka engu-40 ubudala uhamba nabalandeli bakhe ngesinyathelo ngesinyathelo. "Zibuke esibukweni, okungcono unqunu, okungenani imizuzu eyisikhombisa, ukuze ufinyelele imizuzu eyishumi nanye yokubuka ngokuphelele futhi ubambe wena," esho ezibuka esibukweni engagqokile lutho ngaphandle kukabhodi. , izingubo zangaphansi ezinqunu, nethawula eliboshwe ekhanda.

"Ngena nawe. Faka kulawo madolo. Faka kulawo mathanga. Faka kuleso sisu. Faka lawo mabele. Faka lobu buso, lawo mahlombe, lezi zandla - konke," kuqhubeka.

Kuvele ukuthi, lo mkhuba, owaziwa ngokuthi "ukuchayeka esibukweni" noma "ukwamukela isibuko," ufana kakhulu nendlela esetshenziswa abelaphi bokuziphatha ukusiza abantu bakhe indlela engachemile emizimbeni yabo, ngokusho kukaTerri Bacow, Ph.D. , isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emtholampilo eNew York City. (Okuhlobene: Lesi Siko Sokuzinakekela Esinqunu Sangisiza Ngamukela Umzimba Wami Omusha)

"Ukuvezwa kwesibuko noma ukwamukelwa kwesibuko kuhilela ukuzibheka esibukweni bese uchaza ubuso noma umzimba wakho ngokungathathi hlangothi nhlobo," kusho uBacow Umumo. "Yilapho ubheka isimo noma umsebenzi womzimba wakho kunokubheka ubuhle, ngoba imvamisa awukwazi ukuba yijaji elithembekile lobuhle bakho uma ugxeka ngokweqile."

Umqondo uwukuchaza umzimba wakho ngamagama ayiqiniso kakhulu futhi achazayo ngenkathi unenhloso, kungeza iBacow. "Isibonelo, 'Nginesikhumba sombala we-X, amehlo ami aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, izinwele zami zinombala we-X, ubude be-X, ubuso bami bumise okweqanda,'" usho kanje. "Hhayi, 'ngimubi kabi.'" (Okuhlobene: Ekugcineni Ngishintshe Ukukhuluma Kwami Okungesihle, Kepha Uhambo Lwalungelona Oluhle)

Ngokungafani nale ndlela yokwelapha yokuziphatha, isiko likaKeys libandakanya ukuzikhulumela okuhle. Isibonelo, njengengxenye yomkhuba wakhe, umculi uthi ulalele ingoma ethi, "Ngingukukhanya komphefumulo," kaGurudass Kaur. "Ithi, 'Ngiwukukhanya komphefumulo. Nginomusa, ngimuhle, ngibusisiwe," kusho uKeys. "Ulalela la magama bese uzibuka esibukweni. Ukuboniswa kwakho. Akunasinqumo. Zama ngakho konke okusemandleni ukuthi ungahluleli."

Lokho kushiwo, uKeys uyazi mathupha ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukungazihluleli. "Kunzima kakhulu," evuma. "Kuningi okuqhamukayo. Kunamandla amahle."

Abantu abaningi banecala lokuzahlulela, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa emizimbeni yabo. "Sivame ukubheka imizimba yethu ngendlela ebucayi. Siqaphela wonke amaphutha bese siyakugxeka," kusho uBacow. "Kufana kakhulu nokungena engadini bese ubona / ubona ukhula kuphela noma ubheke i-eseyi ngepeni elibomvu bese uqokomisa wonke amaphutha. Uma ugxeka umzimba wakho bese ubona kuphela lokho ongakuthandi ngakho, uthola ukucwasa kakhulu nokunganembile ukubuka komzimba wakho uma kuqhathaniswa nokubona isithombe esikhulu. "

Yingakho kunempilo kakhulu ukusebenzisa amasu okucabangela nawokwamukela, ahlanganisa ukubheka nokuchaza umzimba usebenzisa amagama angathathi hlangothi. "Kuyisu lamanje impela, okuyinto ebiyenziwa ngu-Alicia," kusho uBacow. (Futhi zama: Izinto Ezingu-12 Ongazenza Ukuze Uzizwe Umuhle Emzimbeni Wakho Njengamanje)

UKeys uqeda isiqeshana ngokucela abalandeli bakhe ukuthi bazame isiko nsuku zonke izinsuku ezingama-21 ukubona ukuthi bazizwa kanjani ngemuva kwalokho. “Ngiyazi ukuthi kuzokuthinta ngendlela enamandla, eyakhayo, egcwele ukwamukelwa,” usho kanje. "Dumisani umzimba wakho, uthando lukuwe."

Uma umusha ukulingisa ukwamukelwa noma isiko lasekuseni ngokujwayelekile, ukwenza njalo imizuzu eyisikhombisa ngosuku izinsuku ezingama-21 kungazizwa kukhungathekisa. U-Bacow uncoma ukuthi uqale ngemizuzu emibili noma emithathu. "Into enkulu engingayicebisa imizuzu emihlanu. Isiko lokusa lokuhle njengaleli lidinga ukuba ngokoqobo futhi livumelane nezimo." (Okuhlobene: Ungasenza Kanjani Isikhathi Sokuzinakekela Uma Ungenayo)

Okunye okumele ukukhumbule ukuthi uma udonsa kanzima ngenxa yesimo somzimba, isiko elifana naleli lingase likuphathe kabi, ungakhululeki, futhi uphatheke kabi emoyeni - kodwa u-Bacow uthi ubalulekile noma kunjalo.

"Ukuphela kwendlela yokulawula ukungakhululeki ukuzimisela ukukuzwa ngokuphindaphindiwe," kusho yena. "Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho uthola khona ukujwayela, okuphoqa ukuthi ujwayele ukungakhululeki ngaphambi kokuthi kugcine sekunciphile."

"Ngitshela wonke amaklayenti ami ukuthi: 'Uma into embi kakhulu eyenzekayo ukuthi kungenzeka ungakhululeki, kulungile," kusho uBacow. "Ukungakhululeki kubi kakhulu, futhi cishe njalo okwesikhashana."

Njengoba uKeys esho kokuthunyelwe kwakhe: "Kunezinto eziningi ezibangela ukusangana esinazo mayelana nemizimba yethu nokubukeka kwethu. Ukuzithanda njengoba unjalo kuwuhambo! Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu! Zigcwalise futhi #PraiseYourBody."

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