Ngabe Ubulili Obengeziwe Buholela Ebudlelwaneni Obungcono?

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Sonke sinabo bangani abafunga ukuthi baneliseke kakhulu ngobudlelwano babo yize isikhathi sokugcina baba matasa bekungamasonto adlule. Nokho, ngokocwaningo olusha, abakona nje ukuthi ungu-BS-noma, okungenani, ababoni ukuthi banjalo. (Psst... Wake wazibuza ukuthi abanye abantu baya ocansini kaningi kangakanani?)

Imvamisa othola ngayo ama-frisky inomthelela ekutheni waneliseke kangakanani ngobudlelwano bakho, ngokusho kocwaningo olusha olushicilelwe kumagazini Isayensi Yezengqondo kodwa akuqondile njengoba ungase ucabange.

Ngokombono wokuziphendukela kwemvelo, lapho wena no-bae nichitha isikhathi esiningi ekamelweni, kufanele neneliseke nakakhulu-ngokoqobo nangokomfanekiso. Ucansi lusebenza njengendlela yokunihlanganisa ndawonye (duh), okubalulekile kuleyo mizwa engokwemvelo esindisa izinhlobo ezifana nokuzala kanye nokukhulisa izingane. Kepha noma nini lapho abacwaningi bebuza imibhangqwana ukuthi balwenza ucansi kangaki nokuthi baneliseke kangakanani ngobudlelwano babo bebonke, abatholanga ukuhlangana phakathi kobulili onabo nokuthi ujabule kangakanani. (Olunye ucwaningo luze lwathola ukuthi Ukuba Nocansi Okwengeziwe Ngeke Kwenze Ujabule Kakhudlwana Ebudlelwaneni.) Yini enikezayo?

Ukuze bahlole lokhu kungqubuzana, abacwaningi baseFlorida State University abahlolanga nje izimpendulo eziqaphile zemibhangqwana kodwa nemizwa yabo equlekile ngabalingani bayo. Ocwaningweni, abasanda kushada abangama-216 bathathe inhlolovo ukukala ukwaneliseka kobudlelwano. Babuzwa imibuzo mayelana nokuthi umshado wabo wawumuhle noma mubi kangakanani, ukuthi baye ocansini kangaki, nokuthi baneliseke kangakanani ngabo bobabili abalingani babo kanye nobudlelwano bubonke. Njengezifundo ezedlule, abukho ubuhlobo phakathi kokuthi imibhangqwana ilala kangaki kanye nokwaneliseka kobudlelwane babo okubikiwe.

Kepha-ke imibhangqwana yaqeda umsebenzi wokuhlola imizwa yabo engacacile yezinga lamathumbu ngomlingani wabo. Umhlanganyeli ngamunye ukhonjiswe igama obekufanele balibeke eceleni njengelungile noma elibi, kepha ngaphambi kokuba igama livele, isithombe sozakwethu sakhanya esikrinini umzuzwana ohlukanisiwe. Umqondo ngukuthi ngokwazisa ababambiqhaza ngomfanekiso we-SO yabo, isikhathi sabo sokuphendula sizothinteka-lapho bephendula ngokushesha amagama aqondile futhi ukuhamba kancane lapho bephendula amagama amabi kungakhombisa imizwa emihle engazenzakaleli ngomlingani wabo. (Thola Ukuthi Ubudlelwano Bakho Buhlobene Kanjani Nempilo Yakho.)

Manje abacwaningi bathole ukulungiswa: Lapho imibhangqwana ivame ukuba matasa, ubudlelwane obuhle kakhulu ababenabo nomlingani wabo.

Ngabe lokhu kusho ukuthi uma ungenazo izikhathi zansuku zonke phakathi kwamashidi ubuhlobo bakho buzophela? Cha. Kepha kuyachaza ukuthi kungani ungaqala ukuzizwa ufudumele futhi ungacabangi ngomuntu olele naye kwi-reg, unganakile. Okubalulekile: Ucansi lungakha amavayibhu amahle kakhulu esingase singawaboni nakancane; unake, ngakho-ke uwasebenzise ngokuhlakanipha! (Udinga ugqozi oluthile? Zama Izikhundla Eziphezulu Zocansi Emazweni Omhlaba Wonke.)

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