Kusho Ukuthini Amaphupho Ngokukhulelwa?

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• 1. Umphuphi ukhulelwe
• 2. Omunye umuntu ukhulelwe
• 3. Umuntu ukutshela ukuthi ukhulelwe
• 4. Ukhulelwe amawele
• 5. Ukukhulelwa okungahlelelwe
• 6. Ukukhathazeka ngokukhulelwa
• Amanye amaqiniso amnandi ngamaphupho
• Okubalulekile

Amaphupho kudala axoxwa futhi ahunyushelwa ngezincazelo zawo eziyisisekelo, nezingokwengqondo. Lokhu futhi kuyiqiniso ngamaphupho athile, njengalawo mayelana nokukhulelwa.

Ukuziphupha uqobo luhlobo lokucabanga okungahambi kahle okwenzeka ngesikhathi sokulala kwamehlo okusheshayo (REM). Amaphupho ajwayele ukuxhunyaniswa kakhulu nemicabango yakho engokomzwelo, kunokuba kube nengqondo - lokhu kungachaza ukuthi kungani kungenzeka ukuthi uvuke emaphusheni “angajwayelekile”, kwesinye isikhathi.

Yize amaphupho ngokukhulelwa engahunyushwa ngezindlela ezihlukile, kusazobakhona ubufakazi bokuthi noma yiliphi iphupho elithile lisuselwe eqinisweni. Amaphupho amaningi "angagcwaliseka" ngokukhulelwa ahlobene kakhulu nokuqonda kwakho okudlula konke okunye.

Ukufuna ukwazi ukuthi yimaphi amaphupho ngokukhulelwa angasho ukuthini? Ngezansi kunezimo ezivame kakhulu eziphathelene nokukhulelwa ezihlobene nokukhulelwa - nokuthi zingasho ukuthini.

1. Umphuphi ukhulelwe

Enye inkolelo yamaphupho ngokukhulelwa ukuthi umuntu ophuphayo ukhulelwe. Ungahle uvuke kulolu hlobo lwamaphupho noma ucabange impilo yakho ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, noma noma unemizwa sengathi ukhulelwe, njengesisu esigcwele noma ukugula kwasekuseni.

Noma ngabe iyini incazelo eqondile, ukukhulelwa kungenzeka kusengqondweni yakho ngandlela thile ukuze kwenzeke lolu hlobo lwephupho.

2. Omunye umuntu ukhulelwe

Ukuphupha ngokukhulelwa kungahle kudlule ngisho nokwedlula wena. Kungenzeka ube namaphupho okuthi omunye umuntu ukhulelwe, noma ngabe kungumlingani wakho, umngani, noma ilungu lomndeni.

Esikhundleni sokuphupha okungahleliwe, lolu hlobo lokuqukethwe kwamaphupho kungenzeka luchazwe olwazini olumayelana nawe noma omunye umbhangqwana ongase uzame ukukhulelwa.

3. Umuntu ukutshela ukuthi ukhulelwe

Kukhona nokukhulunywa ngamaphupho lapho omunye umuntu ekutshela ukuthi ukhulelwe. Mhlawumbe ungumzali wengane esikhulile ecabanga ngokuba ngugogo noma umkhulu. Noma, mhlawumbe unabangane noma abanye obathandayo abaveze izifiso zabo zokuba nezingane.

Ukuxhumana okunjalo nemicabango eyenzeka ngezikhathi zakho zokuvuka ingafaka imizwa yakho enganakile. Lokho kungangena emaphusheni akho.

4. Ukhulelwe amawele

Elinye iphupho lokukhulelwa elejwayelekile lapho umbhangqwana ukhulelwe amawele. Ukuba nephupho elinjalo akusho ukuthi uzokhulelwa amawele, kepha kunalokho ucabangisisa ngokubheka ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthi kube nalesi simo. Enye incazelo ukuthi amawele agijima emndenini wakho (noma womlingani wakho) noma ukuthi unomngane onamawele.

Okusemqoka wukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuba namawele ngoba nje kade uphupha ngawo.

5. Ukukhulelwa okungahlelelwe

Ngenkathi lezi zimo ezingenhla zibandakanya ukukhulelwa okuhleliwe, kungenzeka futhi ukuba nephupho mayelana nokukhulelwa okungahleliwe. Incazelo engaba khona yalolu hlobo lwamaphupho ingaphansi kokukhathazeka okungenzeka ubhekene nakho ngenxa yokuthi kungenzeka ukhulelwe ungahlosile.

Kodwa-ke, njengamanye amaphupho ahlobene nokukhulelwa, ukumane uphuphe ngokukhulelwa okungahleliwe akusho ukuthi kuzogcwaliseka.

6. Ukukhathazeka ngokukhulelwa

Akuwona wonke amaphupho ngokukhulelwa "aphuphayo", futhi lokhu kujwayelekile. Amaphupho ahlobene nokukhathazeka angabangelwa ukwesaba ngokukhulelwa, noma mhlawumbe usuvele ukhulelwe futhi uhlangabezana nezinkinga ezithile ezingaphansi.

Umthombo ongaba nalokhu kukhathazeka uhlobene nokushintshashintsha kwamahomoni, okuvelele kakhulu ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, kepha futhi kungenzeka nenyanga yonke kwabesifazane abangakhulelwe.

Amanye amaqiniso amnandi ngamaphupho

Kunzima ukuqeda amaphupho okukhulelwa njengamaqiniso, njengoba ucwaningo ngemuva kwawo lincane. Kodwa-ke, nanka amanye amaqiniso ngamaphupho thina njengamanje yenza yazi:

• Lapho ulele ngokwengeziwe, kungenzeka ube namaphupho amaningi. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukulala emini.
• Uma u kukhona ukhulelwe, ungaphupha kakhulu ngenxa yokwanda kwesikhathi sokulala kusuka ekukhathaleni okuhlobene nokukhulelwa.
• ukuthi lapho uqhubeka nokukhulelwa kwakho, amaphupho akho angagqama kakhulu.
• Amaphupho angaba ngamathuba okusungula. Ucwaningo lwango-2005 lukhombise ukuthi abaphuphi bangakhumbula umqondo osanda kwakhiwa ebuthongweni lawo mqondo obekungabavimbela ukuthi bacabange ngesikhathi samahora wokuvuka.
• Ukuphupha okwenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile kuyinto ejwayelekile, kepha amaphupho amabi njalo angabonisa ukuphazamiseka kokulala okungenzeka kuhlobene nempilo yakho yengqondo. Lokhu kufanele kubhekwane nakho nochwepheshe.
• Kuvamile kakhulu hhayi khumbula amaphupho akho nhlobo kunokukhumbula kahle lokho okuphuphe ngobusuku obandulele.

Okubalulekile

Ngenkathi amaphupho kwesinye isikhathi engabonakala engokoqobo, amaphupho ngezimo ezithile njengokukhulelwa akuvamile ukufezeka. Ucwaningo lwamaphupho aluwona ukhonkolo, kepha izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zithi lezi zinhlobo zamaphupho eziqondene nesimo ziningi kakhulu ezenziwa nemicabango yakho enganakile kunanoma yiluphi uhlobo lwenhlanhla ebangelwa ukulala.

Uma uqhubeka nokuba namaphupho okukhulelwa owathola ehlupha, noma uma unezinkinga zokulala, cabanga ukubona owelapha ukuze asebenze ngawo. Lokhu kungaba luphawu lokuthi udinga ukukhuluma nomuntu ukuze usebenze ngemicabango ejulile yemizwa.