Imiphumela Eyi-10 Yesehlukaniso Ezinganeni - Nokubasiza Ukubhekana Nakho

-Delile

• 1. Bazizwa bethukuthele
• 2. Bangase bahoxe emphakathini
• 3. Amabanga abo angahle ahlupheke
• 4. Bezwa ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana
• 5. Abancane bangahlehla
• 6. Indlela yabo yokudla nokulala iyashintsha
• 7. Bangakhetha izinhlangothi
• 8. Badlula ekucindezelekeni
• 9. Baziphatha ngendlela eyingozi
• 10. Babhekana nezinkinga zabo zobudlelwano
• Ukutshela izingane zakho ngesehlukaniso
• Ukujola nokushada futhi
• Ukusiza izingane zakho zikwazi ukubhekana nalesi simo
• Ukuthatha

Ukuhlukaniswa akulula. Kubhalwe ngawo wonke amanoveli nezingoma ze-pop ngakho. Futhi lapho izingane zibandakanyeka, isehlukaniso singaba yisimo esibucayi kakhulu.

Adonse umoya. Usendaweni efanele. Iqiniso ukuthi isehlukaniso kuyakwenza izingane ezinomthelela - kwesinye isikhathi ngezindlela ongeke uzilindele. Kepha akuyona yonke inhlekelele nobumnyama.

Uma uzizwa ukhungathekile, zikhumbuze ukuthi wenza okulungele wena nomndeni wakho. Ukuqhubekela phambili, zama okusemandleni akho ukuhlela, ukuqonda izimpawu ezingaba yisixwayiso, futhi uzenze utholakale ngokomzwelo enganeni yakho.

Lokho konke kusho, ake singene ngezindlela ezithile ingane yakho engabonisa ngayo imizwa yazo ngokuhlukana.

1. Bazizwa bethukuthele

Izingane zingazizwa zithukuthele ngesehlukaniso. Uma ucabanga ngakho, kunengqondo. Umhlaba wabo wonke uyashintsha - futhi abanakho okokufaka okuningi.

Intukuthelo ingagadla kunoma yibuphi ubudala, kodwa ikhona ikakhulukazi ngezingane nentsha esesikoleni. Le mizwa ingavela emizweni yokushiywa noma yokulahlekelwa amandla. Intukuthelo ingahle iqondiswe naphakathi, njengoba ezinye izingane zizisola ngesehlukaniso sabazali bazo.

2. Bangase bahoxe emphakathini

Ungase futhi uqaphele ukuthi ingane yakho ye-butterfly yomphakathi ibe namahloni noma ikhathazekile. Cishe bacabanga futhi bazizwa okuningi njengamanje. Bangabonakala benganantshisekelo noma besaba nezimo zenhlalo, njengokuhlala nabangani noma ukuya emicimbini yesikole.

Ukuzithiba okuphansi kuhlotshaniswa nakho kokubili ukwahlukanisa nokuhoxa komphakathi, ngakho-ke ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwengxoxo nengxoxo yangaphakathi yengane yakho kungayisiza ukuthi iphinde iphume egobolondweni layo.

3. Amabanga abo angahle ahlupheke

Ngokwezifundo, izingane ezedivosa zingathola amamaki aphansi futhi zibhekane nezinga eliphakeme lokuyeka isikole uma kuqhathaniswa nontanga yazo. Le miphumela ingabonakala kuseneminyaka yobudala engama-6 kepha ingaqapheleka njengoba izingane zifinyelela eminyakeni yobudala eyi-13 kuye kwengu-18.

Kunezizathu eziningana ezingaba khona zalesi sixhumanisi, kufaka phakathi ukuthi izingane zingazizwa zinganakiwe, zidangele, noma ziphazanyiswe ukungqubuzana okwandayo phakathi kwabazali bazo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, intshisekelo encane kwizifundiswa ezingeni lesikole esiphakeme ingahle yehle iye ekuthakazeleni okuncane ngokuqhubekisela phambili imfundo yabo iyonke.

4. Bezwa ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana

Izingane ezincane zingakhombisa izimpawu zokukhathazeka ngokwehlukana, njengokukhala okwengeziwe noma ukunamathela. Vele, lokhu futhi kuyingqophamlando yentuthuko evame ukuqala phakathi kweminyaka yobudala yezinyanga eziyisithupha kuya kweziyi-9 futhi ixazululwe ngezinyanga eziyi-18.

Noma kunjalo, izingane ezincane ezindala nezingane zingakhombisa izimpawu zokukhathazeka ngokwehlukana noma zingacela omunye umzali uma zingekho.

Ezinye izingane zingaphendula kahle enkambisweni engaguquguquki nakumathuluzi okubuka, njengekhalenda, ngokuvakashelwa okulebulwe ngokusobala kuwo.

5. Abancane bangahlehla

Izingane ezisencane kanye nezasenkulisa ezineminyaka ephakathi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 neminyaka eyisithupha ubudala zingabuyela ekuziphatheni okufana nokuncamathela, ukumanzisa umbhede, ukuncela isithupha, nokuthukuthela.

Uma ubona ukuhlehla, kungaba uphawu lokucindezeleka okwandayo enganeni yakho noma ubunzima bayo ngokuguquka. Lezi zimilo zingakhathaza - futhi ungahle ungazi ukuthi ungaqala kuphi ngokusiza omncane wakho. Izinkinobho lapha ukuqinisekiswa okuqhubekayo nokuvumelana kwemvelo - izenzo ezenza ingane yakho izizwe iphephile.

6. Indlela yabo yokudla nokulala iyashintsha

Ucwaningo olulodwa luka-2019 lubuza umbuzo wokuthi izingane noma cha ngokoqobo uthwale isisindo sesehlukaniso. Ngenkathi i-body mass index (BMI) ezinganeni ingakhombisi ngokushesha umthelela, i-BMI ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ingaba "kakhulu" ngaphezulu kunezingane ezingakahlukanisi. Futhi le miphumela ibonwa ikakhulukazi ezinganeni ezihlangabezana nokuhlukana ngaphambi kokuhlanganisa iminyaka engu-6 ubudala.

Izingane ezikumaqembu amaningi ubudala nazo zihlangabezana nezinkinga zokulala, ezingaba nomthelela ekuzuzeni isisindo. Lokhu kubuyela emuva ekubuyiseleni emuva, kepha kufaka phakathi izinto ezinjengamaphupho amabi noma ukukholelwa ezilozini noma ezinye izinto ezimnandi eziletha imizwa yokukhathazeka ngesikhathi sokulala.

7. Bangakhetha izinhlangothi

Lapho abazali belwa, ucwaningo luchaza ukuthi izingane zidlula kuzo zombili izingxabano zokungazwani nokuthembeka. Le yindlela nje enhle yokusho ukuthi bazizwa bengakhululekile ukubambeka phakathi, bengazi ukuthi kufanele babhekane nomzali oyedwa yini kunomunye.

Lokhu kungavela njengesidingo esikhulu "sokungalingani" noma ngabe kuyingozi ekuthuthukisweni kwabo. Izingane zingakhombisa ukungakhululeki kwazo ngokunyuka kwesisu noma ikhanda.

Umbango wokwethembeka ungagqama kakhulu njengoba izingane zikhula, ekugcineni kuholele ekhefini eliphelele lokuxhumana nomzali oyedwa (yize umzali okhethiwe engashintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi).

8. Badlula ekucindezelekeni

Ngenkathi ingane ingaqala ukuzizwa iphansi noma idabukile ngesahlukaniso, ucwaningo lubika ukuthi izingane zesehlukaniso zisengozini yokuthola ukucindezeleka komtholampilo. Okubaluleke nakakhulu, abambalwa nabo basengozini enkulu yokusongelwa noma yokuzama ukuzibulala.

Ngenkathi lezi zinkinga zingathinta izingane zanoma imuphi ubudala, zivame ukugqama kakhulu ngezingane ezineminyaka yobudala eyi-11 nangaphezulu. Futhi abafana bangaba sengozini enkulu yemicabango yokuzibulala kunamantombazane, ngokusho kweAmerican Academy of Pediatrics.

Ukufaka isicelo sosizo lochwepheshe wezempilo yezengqondo onamalayisense kubaluleke kakhulu ngalesi sizathu.

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9. Baziphatha ngendlela eyingozi

Ukuhlukunyezwa kotshwala nezidakamizwa, isimilo esinolaka, nokwethulwa kusenesikhathi emisebenzini yezocansi nakho kungenzeka. Isibonelo, ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi amantombazane asemasha ajwayele ukuya ocansini eminyakeni yobudala lapho ehlala ekhaya lapho ubaba engekho.

Ucwaningo alukhombisi ubungozi obufanayo kubafana. Futhi le "ngqangi yocansi" yokuqala ingabangelwa yizici eziningana, kufaka phakathi izinkolelo eziguquliwe ngomshado nemicabango ngokuzala izingane.

10. Babhekana nezinkinga zabo zobudlelwano

Okokugcina, ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi lapho abazali behlukanisa, kunethuba elihle lokuthi izingane zabo zingavuthwa endaweni efanayo neyabantu abadala. Umqondo lapha ukuthi ukwahlukana phakathi kwabazali kungashintsha isimo sengqondo sengane ngobudlelwano ngokujwayelekile. Bangase bangakuthandi kangako ukungena ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside, obuzinikele.

Futhi ukuphila ngesehlukaniso kukhombisa izingane ukuthi kunezindlela eziningi ezingasetshenziswa kumamodeli omndeni. Ucwaningo luphakamisa nokuthi izingane zingakhetha ukuhlala ndawonye (ukuhlala ndawonye ngaphandle kokushada) kunokushada. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi lokhu kujwayelekile ngokwesiko lethu lamanje, ngaphandle komlando womndeni.

Ukutshela izingane zakho ngesehlukaniso

Ayikho indlela ezungezile - ukukhuluma ngesehlukaniso nezingane zakho kunzima. Futhi lapho useqophelweni lesehlukaniso, kungenzeka ukuthi usuke wacabanga ngakho futhi wakhuluma ngaso izikhathi eziyizigidi.

Izingane zakho, noma kunjalo, kungenzeka zingazi nakancane ukuthi kwenzekani. Kubo, umbono kungenzeka ukuthi ungaphandle kwenkambu yangakwesobunxele ngokuphelele. Ingxoxo evulekile nethembekile ingasiza.

Udokotela uLisa Herrick, PhD, wabelana ngamathiphu athile:

• Khuphula isihloko amasonto ama-2 kuye kwangama-3 amahle ngaphambi kokuthi kuqale ukuhlukaniswa. Lokhu kunikeza izingane isikhathi esithile sokucubungula lesi simo.
• Qiniseka ukuthi unecebo engqondweni yakho, noma ngabe ivulekile. Ingane yakho mhlawumbe izoba nemibuzo eminingi maqondana nezinto ezisetshenziswayo (ngubani ophumayo, lapho ahamba khona, ukuthi ukuvakasha kungabukeka kanjani, njll.), Futhi iyaziqinisekisa uma kukhona uhlaka oluthile olukhona.
• Yiba nenkulumo endaweni ethule engenakho ukuphazamiseka. Ungase futhi ufune ukuqiniseka ukuthi azikho izibopho ezicindezelayo ngokuhamba kosuku. Isibonelo, usuku lwangempelasonto lungangcono kakhulu.
• Cabanga ukutshela uthisha wengane yakho usuku noma ngaphezulu ngaphambi kokuthi utshele ingane yakho. Lokhu kunikeza uthisha ikhanda lapho ingane yakho iqala ukulingisa noma idinga ukwesekwa. Vele, ungacela nokuthi uthisha angayikhulumi enganeni yakho ngaphandle kokuthi ingane yakho ikhulume ngayo kuyo.
• Hlanganisa amaphuzu athile, njengokuthi wena nomlingani wakho anifikanga kanjani esinqumweni kalula. Esikhundleni salokho, uke wacabanga ngalokhu isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuzama ezinye izindlela eziningi zokwenza izinto zisebenze kangcono.
• Qinisekisa ingane yakho ukuthi ukuhlukana akuphenduli ekuziphatheni kwayo. Ngokufanayo, chaza ukuthi ingane yakho ikhululekile kanjani ukuthanda umzali ngamunye ngokugcwele nangokulinganayo. Melana nokusola noma ikuphi ukusolwa, noma ngabe kubonakala kungenzeki uma ubheka izimo.
• Futhi qiniseka ukuthi unikeza ingane yakho igumbi lokuzwa ukuthi idinga ukuzizwa kanjani. Ungahle uthande nokusho okuthile ngokuhambisana nokuthi, “Yonke imizwa iyimizwa ejwayelekile. Ungazizwa ukhathazekile, uthukuthele, noma udabukile, futhi lokho kulungile. Sizosebenza ngale mizwa ndawonye. ”

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Ukujola nokushada futhi

Ekugcineni, wena noma owedlule ungathola omunye umuntu ofuna ukuchitha impilo yakho naye. Futhi lokhu kungazwakala kuyinto ekhohlisayo ngokukhethekile ukuletha izingane.

Kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngalo mbono kusenesikhathi ngaphambi komhlangano wokuqala. Ngaphandle kwalokho, isikhathi esithile, imingcele, kanye nemithetho eyisisekelo konke kulele kubazali abathintekayo - kepha lawa wonke amaphuzu okuxoxwa okufanele avele ngaphambi kokufaka izingane esimweni esingaba nomzwelo.

Ungakhetha, isibonelo, ukulinda uze ube sebudlelwaneni obukhethekile izinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokubandakanya izingane. Kepha umugqa wesikhathi uzobukeka uhlukile emndenini ngamunye.

Okufanayo kuya ngemingcele oyisethile. Akunandaba ukuthi ukwenze kanjani, noma kunjalo, zama okusemandleni akho ukuthi ube nohlelo nokuqonda okuningi kwanoma iyiphi imizwa evelayo.

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Ukusiza izingane zakho zikwazi ukubhekana nalesi simo

Izinto zingaba nzima futhi zithinte ngisho nokubambisana okukhulu kokuhlukaniswa. Isehlukaniso akusona isihloko esilula ukuxoxa ngaso. Kepha izingane zakho zizokuthokozela ukungafihli kwakho kanye nokuqonda kwesibalo sabo kulesi simo.

Amanye amathiphu okubasiza bakwazi ukubhekana nesimo:

• Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ikhulume nawe. Chaza ukuthi uyindawo ephephile yokwabelana nganoma imiphi imizwa abangaba nayo. Ngemuva kwalokho, okubaluleke kakhulu, lalela ngezindlebe ezivulekile kunoma yini abazoyisho.
• Qonda ukuthi zonke izingane zicubungula ngokuhluka ngokuhlukile. Okusebenzela enye yezingane zakho kungahle kungakhulumi nenye. Naka noma yikuphi ukulingisa noma ezinye izinkomba ozibonayo, futhi uvuselele indlela yakho ngokufanele.
• Zama ukuqeda ukungqubuzana phakathi kwakho ne-ex yakho uma kungenzeka(futhi kungahle kungenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi). Lapho abazali belwa phambi kwezingane zabo, kunamandla okuholela ekutheni "bathathe uhlangothi" noma bathembeke kumzali oyedwa kunomunye. (By the way, lokhu akuyona into yesehlukaniso. Kwenzeka nezingane zemibhangqwana eshadile elwayo, nayo.)
• Finyelela usizo uma uludinga. Lokhu kungaba ngesimo sohlelo lwakho lokusekela lomndeni nabangane. Kepha uma ingane yakho iqala ukubonisa ezinye izimpawu zokuxwayisa, shayela udokotela wezingane noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo. Awudingi ukubhekana nezinto wedwa.
• Yiba nomusa kuwe. Yebo, ingane yakho idinga ukuthi uqine futhi uzinikele. Noma kunjalo, ungumuntu kuphela. Kuhle impela futhi kukhuthazwe ngisho nokukhombisa imizwa phambi kwezingane zakho. Ukubonisa imizwa yakho kuzosiza izingane zakho ukuthi zikhululeke nazo.

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Ukuthatha

Kuningi locwaningo nemibhalo ngesehlukaniso, kuyacaca ukuthi izingane ziyakwazi ukubekezela. Imiphumela yokwehlukana ivame ukuba yinselele enkulu eminyakeni yokuqala eyi-1 kuye kwengu-3.

Futhi, akuzona zonke izingane ezibona imiphumela emibi ngesahlukaniso. Labo abahlala ezindaweni ezinengxabano enkulu bangaze babone ukwehlukana njengento enhle.

Ekugcineni, kubuyela emuva ekwenzeni okulungele umndeni wakho. Futhi imindeni ingathatha izinhlobo eziningi. Zama okusemandleni akho ukuchazela ingane yakho ukuthi, noma ngabe yini, usengumndeni - umane uyashintsha.

Ngaphezu kwanoma yini enye, ingane yakho ifuna ukwazi ukuthi inothando nokusekelwa okungenamibandela kungakhathaliseki isimo sobudlelwano bakho.