Ungayizwa Yonke Imizwelo Kanye Kanye? Zama Ukwamukela Ingane

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• Ukuqonda imizwa
• Kuyesabisa - kepha kujwayelekile?
• Usizo lwezifo zemizwa yangemva kokubeletha

Ukuba nomntwana osanda kuzalwa kugcwele ukuphikisana nokushintsha kwemizwelo. Ukwazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela - nokuthi ungaluthola nini usizo - kungakusiza ukuthi uzulazule ezinsukwini zokuqala zobuzali.

Kungo-3 ekuseni Ingane iyakhala. Futhi. Ngiyakhala. Futhi.

Ngibona nje ngamehlo ami ukuthi zisindwe kakhulu ukukhathala. Izinyembezi zayizolo zicwebezele eceleni komugqa wesembozo, zinamathele imivimbo yami ndawonye.

Ngizwa ukuduma esiswini sakhe. Ngiyesaba lapho lokhu kuya khona. Kungenzeka ukuthi ngimbuyisele phansi, kepha ngiyezwa. Kufanele ngishintshe inabukeni lakhe. Futhi.

Lokhu kusho ukuthi sizovukela elinye ihora noma amabili. Kodwa, masibe neqiniso. Noma ngabe akabanga ngongoti, ngangingeke ngikwazi ukuphinda ngilale. Phakathi kokukhathazeka kokumlinda avuselele futhi nozamcolo wezinto ezenzeka ezingqondweni zami lapho nje ngivala amehlo, akukho “ukulala lapho ingane ilele.” Ngizwa ingcindezi yalokhu kulindela futhi ngokuzumayo, ngiyakhala. Futhi.

Ngizwa ukububula komyeni wami. Kunentukuthelo ebilayo ngaphakathi kimi. Ngasizathu simbe, kulo mzuzu angikhumbuli ukuthi yena uqobo wayevuke kwaze kwaba ngu-2 ekuseni eshifini yokuqala. Engikwazi ukukuzwa yintukuthelo yami yokuthi ulala njengamanje lapho ngidinga ngempela. Ngisho nenja iyahona. Wonke umuntu ubonakala ezolala ngaphandle kwami.

Ngibeka ingane etafuleni lokushintsha. Uthuka ngokushintsha kwezinga lokushisa. Ngikhanyisa ukukhanya kwasebusuku. Amehlo akhe e-almond avuleke kakhulu. Ukusineka okungenazinyo kusakazeka ebusweni bakhe lapho engibona. Ukhala ngokujabula.

Ngomzuzwana, konke kuyashintsha.

Noma yikuphi ukucasuka, usizi, ukukhathala, intukuthelo, ukudabuka, engangikuzwa kuncibilika. Futhi ngokuzumayo, ngiyahleka. Ehleka ngokuphelele.

Ngiphakamisa ingane ngiyoyanga kimi. Usonga izingalo zakhe ezincanyana entanyeni yami bese engena emngxunyeni wehlombe lami. Ngiyakhala, futhi. Kepha manje, izinyembezi zenjabulo emsulwa.

Kumuntu obukele, ukuguquguquka kwemizwelo umzali omusha abhekana nayo kungabonakala kungalawuleki noma kukhathaze. Kepha kumuntu onosana, lokhu kuza nensimu. Ubuzali lobu!

Abantu bavame ukuthi "yisikhathi eside kunazo zonke, esifushane kunazo zonke," Yebo, futhi isikhathi esinzima kunazo zonke, esikhulu kunazo zonke.

Ukuqonda imizwa

Ngiphile nenkinga yokukhathazeka ejwayelekile impilo yami yonke futhi ngiqhamuka emndenini lapho ukugula ngengqondo (ikakhulukazi ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa) kudlange khona, ngakho-ke kungangethusa kwesinye isikhathi ukuthi imizwa yami ishintsha kangakanani.

Ngivame ukuzibuza - ingabe ngisezigabeni zokuqala zokudangala kwangemva kokubeletha lapho ngingakwazi ukuyeka ukukhala?

Noma ingabe ngiya ngicindezeleka, njengobabamkhulu wami, lapho ngizizwa ngicindezeleke kangangokuba ukubuyisela umbhalo womngane wami noma ucingo kuye kube nzima?

Noma ngiba nokukhathazeka kwezempilo, ngoba ngihlala ngikholelwa ukuthi ingane iyagula?

Noma nginenkinga yentukuthelo, lapho ngizwa ukufutheka okunamandla kubhekisa kumyeni wami ngento encane, njengokuthi imfoloko yakhe ibambeka kanjani esitsheni sakhe, wesaba ukuthi uzomvusa umntwana?

Noma sengiyazicindezela ngokweqile, njengomfowethu, lapho ngingakwazi ukuyeka ukulungisa ukulala kwengane futhi ngidinga ukuthi inqubo yayo yasebusuku icace ngokweqile?

Ngabe ukukhathazeka kwami ​​kuphakeme ngokungajwayelekile, lapho ngikhathazeka ngayo yonke into kusukela ekuqinisekiseni njalo ukuthi indlu, amabhodlela, namathoyizi kuhlanzwe kahle, kuze kube yilapho ukukhathazeka amasosha akhe omzimba kungeke kwakheke uma izinto zihlanzeke kakhulu?

Kusukela ekukhathazekeni ukuthi akadli ngokwanele, bese kuba nokukhathazeka ukuthi udla kakhulu.

Ukusuka ekukhathazekeni ukuthi uvuka njalo emizuzwini engama-30, bese ukhathazeka ngokuthi “uyaphila?” lapho elala kakhulu.

Kusukela ekukhathazekeni ukuthi uthule kakhulu, bese ukhathazeka ngokuthi uyathandeka kakhulu.

Ukusuka ekukhathazekeni wenza umsindo ephindelela, ekuzibuzeni ukuthi lowo msindo uye kuphi?

Kusukela ekukhathazekeni isigaba ngeke kuphele, kuze kube yilapho singafuni ukuthi kuphele.

Imvamisa le mizwa ye-dichotomy izokwenzeka hhayi kusuka osukwini olulodwa kuye kolandelayo, kepha ngemizuzu embalwa. Njengalolo hambo lokuhamba ngomkhumbi wepirate embukisweni oguqukela kolunye uhlangothi uye kolunye.

Kuyesabisa - kepha kujwayelekile?

Kungasabisa. Ukungaqiniseki kwemizwa. Ngangikhathazeke kakhulu ngenxa yomlando womndeni wami nokuthambekela ekukhathazekeni.

Kepha ngenkathi ngiqala ukufinyelela kwinethiwekhi yami yokusekela, kusuka kumelaphi wami kuya kwabanye abazali, ngabona ukuthi ezimweni eziningi imizwa ebanzi esibhekana nayo ezinsukwini zokuqala zengane yokuqala ayisijwayelekile nje kuphela, okulindelwe!

Kunokuthile okuqinisekisayo ngokwazi ukuthi sonke siyabhekana nakho. Lapho sengikhathele futhi ngicasukile ngo-4 ekuseni ngondla ingane, ngazi ukuthi kukhona abanye omama nobaba laphaya abazizwa ukuthi into efanayo iyasiza. Angiyena umuntu omubi. Ngingumama omusha nje.

Vele akuhlali njalo kungukuthokoza kwengane noma izikhathi ezingokomzwelo zobuzali bokuqala. Iqiniso liwukuthi, kwabanye abazali, ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa yangemva kokubeletha kungokoqobo. Yingakho kubalulekile, uma ubuza nokuthi imizwa yakho ijwayelekile yini, ukukhuluma nomuntu omthandayo noma uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ukuze ufune usizo.

Usizo lwezifo zemizwa yangemva kokubeletha

• I-Postpartum Support International (i-PSI) inikeza umugqa wenkinga yocingo (800-944-4773) nokusekelwa kombhalo (503-894-9453), kanye nokudluliselwa kubahlinzeki bendawo.
• INational Suicide Prevention Lifeline inezinombolo zosizo ezingama-24/7 zamahhala ezitholakala kubantu abasenkingeni okungenzeka bacabanga ukuzibulala. Shayela ku-800-273-8255 noma uthumele umqhafazo ku- "HELLO" ku-741741.
• INational Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) iyinsiza enezintambo zombili zocingo (800-950-6264) kanye nocingo lwenkinga yombhalo (“NAMI” kuya ku-741741) yanoma ngubani odinga usizo ngokushesha.
• Umama Oqondwayo ngumphakathi waku-inthanethi owaqalwa ngumuntu osindile odangele ngemuva kokubeletha enikela ngezinsizakusebenza ze-elekthronikhi nezingxoxo zeqembu ngohlelo lokusebenza lweselula.
• I-Mom Support Group inikeza ukwesekwa kwamahhala kontanga kumakholi we-Zoom aholwa ngabagqugquzeli abaqeqeshiwe.

Ukuba ngumzali kuyinto enzima kunazo zonke engake ngazenza, futhi kuyinto egcwalisa futhi emangalisa kunazo zonke engake ngazenza, futhi. Ngokwethembeka, ngicabanga ukuthi izinselelo zalezo zinsuku ezidlule empeleni zenza izikhathi zokujabula zicebe kakhulu.

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