Ungazinakekela Kanjani Lapho Unomnakekeli Utubekile

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• Uyini umnakekeli?
• Izibalo zabanakekeli
• Kuyini ukutubeka kwabanakekeli?
• Izimpawu nezimpawu
• Ungayixilonga kanjani
• Ukutubeka vs. ukudangala
• Kuyini ukukhathala kobubele?
• Ukuvimbela
• Izinsizakusebenza nokwesekwa
• Okubalulekile

Uyini umnakekeli?

Umuntu onakekelayo usiza omunye umuntu ngezidingo zakhe zezokwelapha nezomuntu siqu. Ngokungafani nomsebenzi wezempilo okhokhelwayo, umnakekeli unobudlelwano obubalulekile bomuntu nomuntu odinga usizo. Imvamisa umuntu onakekelwayo uyilungu lomndeni noma umngani ogula ngokungalapheki, onesimo sokukhubazeka, noma umuntu omdala osekhulile ongakwazi ukuzinakekela.

Umgcini usiza ngemisebenzi yansuku zonke, efana:

• ukulungisa ukudla
• imisebenzi yokugijima
• ukugeza
• ukwenza imisebenzi yezokwelapha, njengokusetha ukuphakelwa kwamashubhu nokunikeza imithi

Ukuba umnakekeli womuntu omaziyo nomthandayo kungaba nomvuzo omkhulu, kepha futhi kungakhathaza futhi kukhungathekise. Imvamisa kuyakhipha ngokomoya, ngokomzimba, nangokwengqondo. Kuvame ukukhawulela impilo yakho yezenhlalo futhi kungadala izinkinga zezezimali.

Ukutubeka kwabanakekeli kwenzeka lapho ingcindezi nomthwalo ovela kule miphumela emibi kuba nzima, kuthinte kabi impilo yakho nempilo yakho.

Izibalo zabanakekeli

Ngokusho kweNational Alliance for Caregiving kanye ne-AARP Public Policy Institute, ngo-2015, abantu abalinganiselwa ezigidini ezingama-43.5 baseMelika babengabanakekeli abangakhokhelwa. Cishe amaphesenti angama-85 ayengabanakekeli bothile ahlobene nabo, futhi cishe ingxenye yalaba yayinakekela umzali.

Ukutubeka kwabanakekeli kuvame kakhulu. Kuhlolo lweNational Alliance for Caregiving kanye ne-AARP Public Policy Institute, amaphesenti angama-40 alabo abanakekelayo bazizwa becindezelekile emoyeni, cishe amaphesenti angama-20 athi adala izinkinga zezimali, futhi cishe amaphesenti angama-20 azizwa ekhubazekile emzimbeni.

Kuyini ukutubeka kwabanakekeli?

Umuntu onakekela ukukhathala ukhathele ngokweqile futhi ukhathele emzimbeni, ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo ngenxa yengcindezi nomthwalo wokunakekela othandekayo wakhe. Bangazizwa bebodwa, bengasekelwa, noma bengaziswa.

Kaningi bebengazinakekeli kahle futhi kungenzeka ukuthi bacindezelekile. Ekugcineni, bangalahlekelwa yisifiso sokuzinakekela bona kanye nabantu ababanakekelayo.

Cishe wonke umuntu onakekelayo uhlangabezana nokutubeka ngesikhathi esithile. Uma kwenzeka futhi kungabhekwana nakho, umnakekeli ekugcineni ugcine engakwazi ukunikeza ukunakekelwa okuhle.

Ngalesi sizathu, ukutubeka kwabanakekeli kungaba yingozi kumuntu othola ukunakekelwa nakunakekeli. Ucwaningo olukhulu ku-even lathola ukuthi abanakekeli ababezizwa bengaphansi kobunzima obuningi babenobungozi obukhulu bokufa kunabanakekeli ababezizwa bencane noma bengenalo nhlobo ubunzima.

Izimpawu nezimpawu

Kunezimpawu zokuxwayisa ngaphambi kokutubeka. Ukuziqaphela nokuzibukela kukukwazisa lapho udinga ukuthatha izinyathelo zokulwa noma ukuvimbela ingcindezi obhekene nayo.

Izimpawu nezimpawu ezijwayelekile zokukhathala kwabanakekeli zifaka:

• ukukhathazeka
• ukugwema abantu
• ukudana
• ukukhathala
• uzizwe ulahlekelwa ukulawula impilo yakho
• ukucasuka
• ukungabi namandla
• ukulahlekelwa intshisekelo ezintweni othanda ukuzenza
• ukungazinaki izidingo zakho nempilo

Uma kwenzeka, ukutubeka komnakekeli kunezibonakaliso nezimpawu zomzimba nezingokomzwelo. Izimpawu nezimpawu zomzimba zifaka:

• ubuhlungu bomzimba
• ukukhathala
• ikhanda elibuhlungu njalo
• ukwanda noma ukuncipha kwesifiso sokudla okungadala ushintsho kusisindo
• ukuqwasha
• buthakathaka amasosha omzimba aholela ezifweni ezivamile

Izimpawu nezimpawu ezingokomzwelo kulula ukuzibona, futhi ungahle ungaziboni. Ezinye zazo yilezi:

• ukukhathazeka
• ukuthukuthela nokuphikisana
• ukucasuka kalula futhi kaningi
• ukukhathazeka njalo
• ukudana
• ngizizwa ngingenathemba
• ukungabekezeli
• ukungakwazi ukugxilisa ingqondo
• ukuzihlukanisa ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba
• ukungabi nentshisekelo ezintweni ebezivame ukukujabulisa
• ukuntuleka kwesisusa

Ukuhlakulela isimilo esibi, njengokulahlekelwa yintukuthelo yakho ngokushesha noma ukungayinaki imisebenzi yakho oyigadayo, ngesinye isibonakaliso sokutubeka.

Njengoba ukutubeka kuqhubeka futhi ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kwanda, umnakekeli angasebenzisa utshwala noma izidakamizwa, ikakhulukazi izikhuthazi, ukuzama ukudambisa izimpawu. Lokhu kungaholela ekukhubazekeni, okwandisa ubungozi bokulimala kumuntu othola ukunakekelwa. Kungaba yisimo esiyingozi kakhulu, futhi umnakekeli kufanele ayeke ukunakekela kuze kube yilapho bengasekho ngaphansi kwethonya lezidakamizwa noma utshwala.

Ungayixilonga kanjani

Ukutubeka kwababheki kungatholwa udokotela wakho noma umhlinzeki wezempilo yengqondo. Kukhona futhi izivivinyo zokuzihlola ongazithatha ukuthola ukuthi ngabe utubekile yini.

Udokotela wakho noma uchwepheshe wezokunakekelwa kwempilo uzokwenza ukuxilongwa ngokukhuluma nawe ngalokho obukade ukwenza nokuthi uzizwa kanjani. Bazofuna ukwazi ukuthi uzinakekela kahle kangakanani nokuthi uthatha ikhefu elanele yini ekucindezelekeni kokunakekelwa.

Bangakunika imibuzo yemibuzo yokudangala noma ukucindezeleka, kepha azikho izivivinyo zegazi noma ze-imaging ezisiza ukwenza ukuxilongwa. Kufanele utshele udokotela wakho ukuthi unakekela othandekayo ukuze bakwazi ukubuka izimpawu zokudinwa.

Ukutubeka vs. ukudangala

Ukudinwa nokudangala kuyizimo ezifanayo kodwa ezihlukene. Zinezimpawu eziningi ezifanayo, njengokukhathala, ukukhathazeka, nokudabuka, kepha kukhona umehluko futhi. Lokhu kufaka phakathi:

• Imbangela. Ukudangala kungukuphazamiseka kwemizwa yakho noma isimo somqondo. Ukutubeka ukusabela ekuchayekeni ekucindezelekeni okukhulu endaweni yakho.
• Uzizwa kanjani. Lapho ucindezelekile, ungazizwa sengathi impilo ilahlekelwe injabulo yayo. Ngokutubeka, uzizwa sengathi wonke amandla akho asetshenzisiwe aphelile.
• Umphumela wokususa ukucindezeleka. Uma ukusuka ekunakekelweni nasekucindezelekeni isikhashana kungazenzi ngcono izimpawu zakho, ukucindezeleka kungenzeka kakhulu. Uma izimpawu zakho ziba ngcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kungenzeka ube nokutubeka.
• Ukwelashwa. Ukucindezeleka kuvame ukuba ngcono ngemithi futhi kwesinye isikhathi ukwelashwa kwengqondo. Ukutubeka kuvame ukuba ngcono ngokusuka ekucindezelekeni kokunakekelwa nokunaka impilo nezidingo zakho.

Kuyini ukukhathala kobubele?

Ngenkathi ukutubeka kwenzeka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, njengoba umnakekeli ezizwa ekhungathekile ngenxa yengcindezi yokunakekela othandekayo, ukukhathala kobubele kwenzeka ngokuzumayo. Kungukulahlekelwa yikhono lokuzwelana nokuba nozwelo kwabanye abantu, kufaka phakathi umuntu omnakekelayo.

Kubangelwa ukucindezela okwedlulele okuza nokuzwelana nokuhlupheka kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukumezayo kwabantu obakhathalelayo. Ikakhulukazi ifundwe kubasebenzi bezempilo, kodwa kuyenzeka nakubanakekeli.

Ezinye zezimpawu eziyisixwayiso yilezi:

• intukuthelo
• ukukhathazeka nokwesaba okungenangqondo
• kunzima ukwenza izinqumo
• ukukhathala
• ukungabi nathemba
• ukusetshenziswa okwandisiwe kwezidakamizwa notshwala
• ukuzihlukanisa
• ukuqwasha
• ukucasuka
• ukungabi nokuhlushwa
• ukunganaki

Uma sekukhonjwe futhi kwabhekwana nakho ngokuzicabangela nokuzenzela indlela yokuphila, ukukhathala kobubele kuvame ukuba ngcono ngokushesha. Uma ucabanga ukuthi unayo, kufanele ubone udokotela wakho noma umhlinzeki wezempilo yengqondo ngokushesha okukhulu.

Ukuvimbela

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela izimpawu eziyisixwayiso zokutubeka komnakekeli ukuze uzibone uma unazo. Kunezinto eziningi ongazenza ukuze uzinakekele, uhlale uphilile, futhi uvimbele ukutubeka, kufaka phakathi:

• Cela usizo kwabanye. Khumbula ukuthi akudingeki wenze konke. Kulungile ukucela abangani nomndeni ukuthi benze eminye yemisebenzi yenu enikhathazayo.
• Thola ukwesekwa. Ukukhuluma ngalokho obhekene nakho nokuthola ukwesekwa okuvela emndenini nakubangani noma eqenjini lokusekelwa kukusiza ukucubungula imizwa nemizwa yakho. Ukubamba konke kungakwenza ucindezeleke futhi kube nomthelela ekuzweleni ngokweqile. Cabanga ngokufuna ukwelulekwa ngokomsebenzi, uma kunesidingo.
• Thembeka kuwe uqobo. Yazi ongakwenza nongakwazi ukukwenza. Yenza imisebenzi ongayenza, bese udlulisela konke kwabanye. Yithi cha lapho ucabanga ukuthi umsebenzi uzokucindezela kakhulu noma awunaso isikhathi sokwenza.
• Khuluma nabanye abanakekeli. Lokhu kukusiza ukuthi uthole ukusekelwa kanye nokukuvumela ukuthi unikeze ukusekelwa nokukhuthazeka kwabanye ababhekene nento efanayo.
• Thatha amakhefu avamile. Ukwephuka kusiza ukukhulula okunye kokucindezeleka futhi kubuyise amandla akho. Sebenzisa leso sikhathi ukwenza izinto ezikukhulisayo futhi uthuthukise imizwa yakho. Ngisho namakhefu emizuzu eyi-10 angasiza.
• Iya emicimbini yomphakathi. Ukuhlangana nabangane, ukuqhubeka nokuzilibazisa kwakho, nokwenza izinto ozijabulelayo kubalulekile ukugcina injabulo yakho nokugwema ukuzihlukanisa. Umsebenzi kufanele ube yinto ekuqhelisa enkambisweni yansuku zonke nasekulungiselweni kokunakekelwa.
• Naka imizwa nezidingo zakho. Kulula ukukhohlwa ukunakekela izidingo zakho lapho ungumnakekeli. Kubalulekile ukugxila kuwe njalo futhi unakekele izidingo zakho.
• Nakekela impilo yakho. Gcina izikhathi zakho ezijwayelekile zodokotela, kufaka phakathi ukunakekelwa kokuvikela, thatha imishanguzo yakho, futhi ubone udokotela wakho lapho uzizwa ugula. Uma ungaphilile, awukwazi ukunakekela omunye umuntu.
• Yidla ukudla okunempilo. Ukudla ukudla okunomsoco kukugcina uphilile futhi kuthuthukisa amandla nokuqina. Gwema ukudla okungenamsoco, okungakwenza uzizwe uvilapha.
• Ukuzivocavoca umzimba. Ukuvivinya umzimba kuyindlela enhle yokuqeda ukucindezeleka, ukukhulisa amandla, nokuzinika isikhathi sakho. Kungabuye kuthuthukise ukucindezeleka.
• Gcina uhlelo lwakho lokulala. Ukuphumula ngokwanele kubalulekile enhlalakahleni yakho nokugcina amandla akho.
• Thatha ilivu yomndeni. Uma usebenza, sebenzisa izinzuzo zekhefu lomndeni ongazithola. Ukususa izingcindezi zomsebenzi kunganciphisa izibopho zakho futhi kuzinikeze isikhathi esithe xaxa sakho.
• Cabanga ngokunakekelwa kokuphefumula. Lapho udinga ikhefu, ukusebenzisa ukunakekelwa kokuphefumula amahora ambalwa kuya emasontweni ambalwa kuyindlela ezindaweni eziningi. Uma udinga amahora ambalwa noma usuku lwakho, izinsizakalo zasekhaya, njengomsizi wezempilo yasekhaya noma isikhungo sosuku sabantu abadala, zinganakekela othandekayo wakho. Indawo yokunakekela yokuhlala inikeza ukunakekelwa ubusuku bonke uma udinga ikhefu elide. Okubi ukuthi ukhokha imali yalezi zinsizakalo ngokuvamile ezingakhokhelwa yi-Medicare noma umshwalense.

Ukugcina ingqondo, umzimba nomoya ophilile kubalulekile enhlalakahleni yakho nobathandekayo bakho. Ukuba nekhithi yamathuluzi okongamela kungakusiza ukuthi uhlale ulinganisile futhi uhlelekile. Futhi kuyinsiza ongayisebenzisa uma uhlangabezana nezimpawu zokuxinwa ukutubeka.

Izinsizakusebenza nokwesekwa

Izinsizakusebenza eziningi ziyatholakala ukukusiza ukunakekela othandekayo wakho. Abanakekeli abaningi abanalo uqeqesho lokuthi benzeni esimweni esithile, ngakho-ke ukuthola izinsiza eziwusizo kubalulekile.

Kunamawebhusayithi wezimo ezingapheli nezinsizakalo ongazidinga. Ezinye zalezi zinsiza zibhalwe ngezansi:

• Inhlangano ye-Alzheimer
• I-American Cancer Society
• Izinsizakusebenza ze-American Heart Association Zabanakekeli
• I-American Lung Association
• Isikhungo Sikazwelonke Semithi Ehambisanayo Neminye Imithi
• Isikhungo seMedicare & Medicaid Services: Sibala izinsiza zikazwelonke nezasendaweni zabanakekeli
• Izinsiza Zomnyango Wezabasebenzi Abakhubazekile Emsebenzini: Inezinsiza ezinzuzweni zokukhubazeka
• Umthetho Wabadala Nokuhlelwa Kwezomthetho: Inikeza izinsiza zokusiza ngemali nangezindaba zomthetho
• Ukunakekelwa okuseduze kanye nebanga elide: Inikeza izinsiza zokunakekelwa kwebanga elide
• I-National Institute on Aging: Inolwazi nezinsizakusebenza kwezempilo nokuguga
• I-National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): Ibala imininingwane ngezinkinga zempilo yengqondo
• ILabhulali Kazwelonke Yezokwelapha: Inemininingwane ehlukahlukene yezokwelashwa kanye nemininingwane yocwaningo
• Uhla lwemibhalo kazwelonke: Inikeza imininingwane ngokunakekela amaqhawe alimele
• Ukuphathwa Kwezokuphepha Komphakathi: Thola usizo ngezinkinga zeMedicare nezokuphepha komphakathi
• ICaregiver Action Network: Ama-Agency kanye Nezinhlangano: Uhlu lwamawebhusayithi ahlobene nezifo ezithile

Kukhona futhi amawebhusayithi amaningi anezinsiza zokusiza abanakekeli bazinakekele:

• Izinsiza zeNational Institutes of Health (NIH) zinakekela izinsiza ezinikezwa emitholampilo ye-NIH, kanye nezixhumanisi zamawebhusayithi ahlukahlukene ongawasebenzisa ukuthola ulwazi ngezihloko eziningi zezempilo nezabaxhasi. Ungathola izinhlelo zikahulumeni nezasendaweni, izinsiza nezinsizakusebenza zabanakekeli. Futhi inezixhumanisi zamabhulogi alusizo, ama-workshops, ama-podcast, namavidiyo. Ibuye ibe nokuxhumana nekhasi le-Facebook leNational Library of Medicine labanakekeli.
• I-Family Caregiver Alliance ingumthombo omuhle jikelele onemininingwane eminingi ekusizeni ukuthi unakekele othandekayo wakho futhi uzinakekele. Igcwele izixhumanisi ezinsizakalweni zezidingo eziningi zabanakekeli, imibuzo, kanye nokukhathazeka.
• I-Family Caregiver Toolbox evela ku-Caregiver Action Network inikeza ngamathiphu nezinsiza eziningi ezinhle.

Okubalulekile

Ukutubeka kwabanakekeli kwenzeka lapho ingcindezi nomthwalo wokunakekela othandekayo kuba mkhulu. Lokhu kudala ukwehla empilweni yakho ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Khumbula ukuthi ukutubeka kuyisimo esivamile kubanakekeli - awenzanga lutho ukuyibangela.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukwazi izimpawu eziyisixwayiso zokutubeka komnakekeli ukuze ukwazi ukuzibona nokuzivikela. Ukulandela amathiphu wokuvimbela ukutubeka nokusebenzisa izinsizakusebenza eziningi ezitholakalayo kubanakekeli kuzokusiza ufike endaweni enempilo.