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Nganoma yisiphi isikhathi sonyaka, cishe uhhafu wethu ufuna indlela yokujabula kakhudlwana, ngokusho kukaMaryAnn Troiani, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomlobi wezincwadi. KuyazenzekelaUkubheka okuhle: Amasu Aqinisekisiwe Wezempilo,Ukuchuma Nenjabulo. Futhi lelo nani liphakeme ngoNovemba nangoDisemba. "Ingcindezi nokukhathazeka kuyasihlula ngamaholide," kusho uTroiani. "Ngisho nabantu abavame ukwaneliseka bangaba luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka." Esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko: Izithombe ezihlotshaniswa nesizini zikhanyisa lokho okungenzeka kushoda empilweni yakho. “Lapho abantu behlaselwa ngezikhangiso, amakhadi emikhonzo, namafilimu abonisa imikhaya ephelele nobungane, bangase baqale ukungabaza izinga lobuhlobo babo siqu,” kusho u-Adam K.Anderson, Ph.D., uprofesa ohlangene wezengqondo e-University of Toronto. Lokhu kungenza bazizwe benesizungu futhi benganeliseki kangako. Zama lezi zinyathelo ezilula ukuze ujabule-namuhla nonyaka wonke.

Ungajabula Kanjani Isinyathelo # 1: Bona isithombe Esikhulu

“Ukuba nezinto ezingokomoya ngokwengeziwe kusho ukudedela ukulawula, ukuzimisela ukuhambisana nokugeleza, nokwazisa izinto ezimangalisayo eziza kuwe lapho uzenza,” kusho uRobert J. Wicks, umbhali wencwadi ethi: Bounce: UkuhlalaImpilo Yokuqina. “Kudingeka ushintshe indlela ocabanga ngayo futhi ukhumbule ukuthi akhona amanye amandla emsebenzini.” Kodwa ukuqaphela ukuthi awuhlali esihlalweni somshayeli akusho ngempela ukuthi kufanele ukholelwe kuNkulunkulu; kusho ukuthi akufanele uhlale ezintweni ezikucasulayo lapho uhlelo lwakho oluhle lungasebenzi. "Uma kukhona okungahambi kahle, thatha isinyathelo emuva, vuma ukuvumela noma yini eyenzekayo yenzeke, bese uzama ukuthola okuthile okuhle ngokushintsha kwemicimbi; kuzokusiza ukuthi uphumule futhi ugcine konke kusesimweni esifanele," kusho uWicks. Okunye okufanele ukukhumbule: Ungahle ungalawuli okwenzekayo, kepha uyena onquma ukuthi usabela kanjani nokuthi ungumuntu onjani. Le ndlela yokubuka izinto ikusiza ukuthi ugweme imicabango yokuthi "kungani mina" nokuthi "impilo ayilungile" engakukhungathekisa.

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Ungajabula Kanjani Isinyathelo # 2: Dala Isiko Elinokuthula

Kumemo ethengiswa kakhulu kunazo zonke Yidla, Thandaza, Thanda, U-Elizabeth Gilbert welapheka esehlukanisweni esibuhlungu ngokuchitha inyanga ecabangisisa nge-ashram yaseNdiya. Ngokusobala lokho akulona iqiniso ngeningi lethu, kodwa sonke singasebenzisa ukuthula ngaphandle kwe-inthanethi, i-TV, ama-smartphone, kanye ne-Twitter (thola injabulo ngaphandle kokushiya ikhaya.-Zinike okwakho Yidla, Thandaza, Thanda uzame)! Futhi kunobufakazi obubonisa ukuthi ikhefu elincane lanele. Odinga ukukwenza nje ukuthatha imizuzu embalwa usuku ngalunye ukuze ugxile ekuphefumuleni kwakho." Qaphela umsindo owenzayo lapho uhogela, umuzwa wawo lapho ungena emaphashini akho, indlela umzimba wakho olahlekelwa ngayo ukushuba lapho ukhipha umoya, "kusho u-Anderson. "Kulungile uma uqala ukubhoreka kancane. Vuma lowo mcabango bese uwudedela." Lokhu kusiza ukuthuthukisa ingqondo, noma ukuba sesikhathini. “Ukuhlakulela le mfanelo kukuvumela ukuba uvumelane nezimo lapho ubhekana nezimo ezinzima, uvulekele okuhlangenwe nakho ngaphandle kokukubiza ngokuthi kuhle noma kubi,” kusho u-Anderson. Futhi izinzuzo azigcini lapho. Isifundo ku Isayensi Yezengqondo wabonisa ukuthi labo ababezindla njalo izinyanga ezintathu babenezikhathi zokunaka ezinde futhi benza kangcono emisebenzini egxile emininingwaneni, kuyilapho abacwaningi baseStanford bathola ukuthi lokhu mkhuba wansuku zonke kukusiza ukuba ubhekane nokukhathazeka.

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Indlela Yokujabula Isinyathelo #3: Zinikeze Ukushuna

Kunesizathu sokuthi umculo uyingxenye evelele cishe yazo zonke izinkolo emhlabeni. "Iveza izinkolelo, imizwa, nezimo zengqondo ezingenakudluliswa ngamazwi," kusho uDonald Hodges, Ph.D., uprofesa womculo e-University of North Carolina, eGreensboro. Ingxenye yesizathu sokuthi kubangele ukushesha izingoma zomzimba zenza ukuthi kukhishwe ama-endorphin, lawo mahomoni azizwa kahle asinika ukuphakama kwemvelo. Enye into engokomzwelo: "Ukuzwa amathrekhi athile kusikhumbuza izehlakalo ezedlule kanye nenjabulo esaba nayo ngaleso sikhathi,’ Kusho uHodges. Ucwaningo oluvela e-Wake Forest University kanye nase-Seattle University luthole ukuthi ukulalela umculo kwenza yonke into kusukela ekwehliseni ukukhathazeka nomfutho wegazi kuya ekusizeni ukuthi ubhekane nobuhlungu. Yisebenzise ngendlela efanele: UHodges uphawula ukuthi ucwaningo oluningi luthole ukuthi uma umculo uhlala ungemuva, ungalahlekelwa amandla alo okukhuluma nawe ngokomzwelo. Ngakho-ke zama ukukwenza iphuzu lokugxila. Esikhundleni sokuvula i-TV uma ufika ekhaya, phumula kwelinye lamaCD akho owathandayo.

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Ungajabula Kanjani Isinyathelo # 4: Khulisa Isikhathi Sobuso Nabangane

Uthumele umlayezo kudadewenu, uxoxa no-G nomfana omthandayo, futhi wathumela izibuyekezo zesimo kubangani bakho abangama-300 ku-Facebook, kodwa ugcine nini ukuhlangana nanoma ngubani ngesidlo sasemini? Akukho lutho olungalungile ngezingosi zokuxhumana nabantu (empeleni, ziyindlela enhle yokuxhumana njalo), kepha uma uzizwa uwedwa, ikhambi alitholakali ku-inthanethi kuphela. Ukubona othile kuyimonitha akunalo izinga lokusondelana elifana nolokuthintana ubuso nobuso, futhi kungaholela ekutheni uzizwe unqanyuliwe kakhulu kunangaphambili. "Ukuthi isizungu kufanele sisebenze ngendlela efanayo nokoma, sikushukumisele ukuthi ushintshe indlela oziphatha ngayo ngandlela thile," kusho uJohn Cacioppo, Ph.D., umqondisi weCentre of Cognitive and Social Neuroscience e-University of Chicago. "Kunesidingo esijulile sokuba nomuzwa wokuba ngowabanye ohambisana nokuba nokusebenzelana komuntu siqu nabangane." Ungavumeli ubudlelwano bakho bomhlaba wangempela butha-bhala usuku okungenani kanye ngeviki.

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Indlela Yokujabula Isinyathelo #5: Yenza Okuhle, Uzizwe Umuhle

"Noma nini lapho uchitha isikhathi noma amandla komunye umuntu - kungaba ukucosha isidlo sasemini somuntu osebenza naye ogxamalazile noma ukukhipha imoto kamakhelwane wakho eqhweni - omunye umuntu uthola usizo bese uhamba nomoya olula futhi omuhle uzizwa ngawe, "kusho uWicks. Isizathu salokho kuphakama: Ngokuba nesihawu nokusiza umuntu ukuthi aphume, uba nolwazi ngokwengeziwe ngakho konke onakho futhi ujabulile ngokwengeziwe ngempilo yakho. Chitha uMgqibelo ekuseni ekhishini lesobho noma ushiye isibalo sesenzo kudrayivu yamathoyizi eTots kule nyanga.

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Ungajabula Kanjani Isinyathelo # 6: Zizungeze Ngemvelo

Ucwaningo olushicilelwe ku Ijenali Yezemvelo Psychology ngithole ukuthi ukuchitha imizuzu engaphansi kwengama-20 endaweni engokwemvelo kukwenza uzizwe ukhululekile, ubalulekile futhi unamandla. Nakuba ucwaningo lungazange lukhulume ngani imvelo iyavuselela, uRichard Louv, umbhali we OkokugcinaIngane esehlathini kanye nencwadi ezayo ekhuluma ngamandla okubuyisela emvelo, inombono othi: “Isimo sikamoya siqala ngomuzwa wokumangala—into engenzeka kakhulu uma ungaphandle kunangesikhathi ukukhompyutha yakho.” Ukukubeka ngenye indlela: Lapho ubona inyamazane noma uzwa isigebenga somuthi sikukhahlela, kukumangaza kakhulu. Ngakho-ke nqamula bese uphumela ngaphandle ukuze uhambe intaba nomndeni wakho noma ugijime imizuzu engama-30.

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Indlela Yenjabulo Isinyathelo # 7: Thethelela Futhi Ukhohlwe

Nayi iqhinga elilula kunazo zonke emhlabeni zokubhekana nezimo lapho umuntu akwenze uthukuthele: Zama ukucabanga ukuthi yini ebashukumisayo. Umfana okunqamule emgwaqeni kungenzeka ukuthi ugijimela umkakhe okhulelwe esibhedlela, noma umphathi wakho kungenzeka ukuthi wakuthatha ngoba ubhekene nezinkinga zesabelomali. Kwazi bani? Akukhona ngawe njalo. “Ukubona ukuthi awukho phakathi kwakho konke kufanele kukhululeke,” kusho u-Anderson. "Kuyakukhulula ukuze uxole futhi uzwisise." Ngendlela efanayo nokuthi ulwela ukuba ngumuntu ongcono, cabanga ukuthi nabanye banjalo. Ukuzama ukwamukela ukungapheleli kwabo-kanye nokwakho-yilokho okushiwo ingokomoya.

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