Ungazizwa Kanjani Ujabule, Unempilo & U-Sexy

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Uke uphawule ukuthi abanye besifazane bahlale bekwazi kanjani ukuhlela izinto zabo, ngisho noma bengabantu abasinda kakhulu ekamelweni? Iqiniso liwukuthi, ukuzethemba komzimba akulula njengoba ucabanga. Ukuyithuthukisa kudinga nje ukwenza izinguquko ezincane esimweni sakho sengqondo nsuku zonke.UJean Petrucelli, Ph.D., umqondisi we-Eating Disorders, Compulsions, and Addictions Service eWilliam Alanson White Institute, uthi: EYork.

Zama lezi zeluleko ezilula ukuze uqale ukuzizwa uqiniseka ngokwengeziwe namhlanje.

1Lahla ukuthanda kwakho izinombolo. Gcina umbhalo walokho okwenziwe ngcono kunokwehlisa isisindo, kweluleka uPepper Schwartz, Ph.D., uprofesa wezenhlalo eNyuvesi yaseWashington eSeattle. U-Schwartz uthi: "Ungagxili ekutheni uzizwa unamandla kangakanani. Kuzokusiza uthole ukwazisa ngalokho umzimba wakho ongakwenza."

2Ishayele ihlombe imizamo yakho. U-Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D., Ilungu lebhodi lezeluleki le-Shape kanye nomlobi we-Change Your Mind, Change Your Body (Atria, 2004), usebenzisa isibali segalofu ukubala izikhathi enza ngazo okuthile okuhle emzimbeni wakhe. "Uma ngidla isithelo esisha, ngiyasichofoza. Uma ngihamba ngezinyawo ngokushesha ukuze ngikhiphe umusi esikhundleni sokucwila esikhwameni sama-chips, ngiyasichofoza," usho njalo. "Uma sengiqongelele ukuchofoza okungu-10 ekupheleni kosuku, ngiyajabula."

3Zilolongele Ngaphandle. Ukusebenza endaweni enhle kukwenza uthintane nobuhle bemvelo obupholile, kusho uSchwartz. "Ukuhlanganisa indawo engizungezile kungisiza ukuba ngizizwe ngingakhathazeki kakhulu, ngoba ngigxile kakhulu endaweni engihlala kuyo kunasendleleni engibukeka ngayo esibukweni sokujima."

4Siza umuntu odinga usizo. Ukuvolontiya ukusiza labo abangenayo inhlanhla kunokuba ungakwazi ukubeka izinkathazo zakho ngendlela ozibona ngayo, kusikisela u-Barbara Bulow, Ph.D, umqondisi ohlanganyele we-Columbia University Psychiatric Day Treatment Programme eNew York. "Lapho unaka kakhulu izidingo zabanye, kuba lula ukukhohlwa ngezakho izinkathazo."

5 Zinike ukuhlolwa kwesibuko njalo. "Uma ngibheka ukubukeka kwami, ngizijwayeza ukubonga zonke izitho zomzimba wami ngendlela ezingigcina ngiphilile ngayo," kusho uRhonda Britten, umbhali Ingabe Ngibukeka Ngikhuluphele Kulokhu? (IDutton). Ukuzikhumbuza ukuthi kungani kufanele uziqhenye ngomzimba wakho kuzokwenza uzizwe ukhanga futhi uzethemba. Futhi ngubani ongeke akufune lokho?

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