Ungaphila Kanjani Ngokuthokoza Njalo

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UMELISSA RYCROFT, wayengomunye wabesifazane abangama-25 ababencintisana noJason Mesnick IBachelor. "Ngiye kulo mdlalo nginomqondo ovulekile nenhliziyo evulekile-futhi ngicabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi kwaphela kanjani!" amahlaya oneminyaka engu-26. (Uma kwenzeka uyiphuthelwe, uJason uphakamise uMelissa ekupheleni kwesizini, wabe eseqeda ukubandakanyeka esiqeshini sokulandelela emasontweni ayisithupha nje kamuva ukuze aqhubeke nobudlelwano nalowo owayezogijima kulo mdlalo.) Kepha esikhundleni sokuhlala kulowo mphakathi ukudumala, uMelissa waqhubeka. Ubambe indawo yesithathu ehlaba umxhwele Ukudansa Nezinkanyezi (DWTS) , waba a I-Good Morning America okhethekile, futhi waphinde waxhuma no-Tye Strickland, abesethandane naye iminyaka emibili. Kwathi ngoDisemba odlule, uMelissa noTye bathi "ngiyakwenza" phambi kwabangane ababalelwa ku-200 namalungu omndeni emshadweni wasolwandle o-Isla Mujeres, eMexico. Uthi: “Namanje angikakholwa. "Kulo nyaka odlule, impilo yami ibiyinganekwane!" UMelissa wahlala phansi naye Umumo ukwabelana ngalokho okwafundiswa yileso sikhathi "sokuhlanya" mayelana nokuthandana, ukuhlela umshado, nokulandela inhliziyo yakho kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani.

Uthando lweqiniso luzokuthola

UMelissa noTye babeyizithandani ngaphambili IBachelor, futhi ukuhlukana kwabo yikho okwenze uMelissa ukuthi angene ohlelweni. "Nganginenhliziyo ebuhlungu ngokuphelele, futhi ngacabanga ukuthi kuzongikhipha eDallas futhi kungibuyisele empilweni," kusho uMelissa. "Futhi, kunike uTye isikhathi ekude nami." Akuphelanga sikhathi esingakanani kulandele isiqephu sohlelo, yena noTye babuyelana, futhi bebengahlukani kusukela ngaleso sikhathi. "Sibe nomgwaqo osangene, yingakho ingoma yethu yomshado bekunguRascal Flatt ethi 'Bless the Broken Road,'" kusho uMelissa. "Kodwa uma sibheka emuva kukho, siyazi ukuthi konke bekuyingxenye yohlelo lukaNkulunkulu ngathi. Konke kwenzeka endaweni lapho isikhathi silungile.

"Ngizwe umuntu ethi uma uthola uthando lwakho lweqiniso uzozizwa usekhaya ngaso sonke isikhathi. Tye kuyinto ikhaya lami: Uyindawo yami enokuthula, eduduzayo, futhi nginomuzwa wenjabulo ephelele noma nini lapho ngiseduze kwakhe. "

Ayikho into efana nomshado ophelele

“Ngangifuna ukuthi umndeni wami nomndeni kaTye ujabule ngomshado, kodwa nami ngangifuna ukujabula,” kusho uMelissa. "Ngakho ngiphakele ukudla okwehlukahlukene futhi ngidlale umculo oxubekile, futhi ngenze isiqiniseko sokuthi yonke imininingwane yezivakashi kusukela ekuthuthweni kuya emisebenzini iyahlanganiswa." Ithiphu ayithandayo kwabazoshada: Vele uphumule bese uyayenza eyakho usuku oluphelele. "Ifilosofi yami yayiwukuthi ngangizodla ukudla, ngidansele umculo, futhi ngichithe isikhathi nomyeni wami - futhi ngingavumeli izinto ezincane ezinjengamaphinifa noma amanabukeni zingicindezele. Noma ikhekhe lami belivele limnyama nezimbali zami bonke bafile, umshado wami ngabe uphelele kimi."

Izwi lakho elingaphakathi lihlezi lilungile

Uma kukhulunywa ngemininingwane yakhe yomshado-konke kusuka ekubeni nabangane abasondelene kuphela emcimbini wakhe womshado kuze kweqe i-honeymoon-uMelissa wayazi kahle ukuthi wayefunani futhi wathembela emibonweni yakhe. "Ngiye e-Alfred Angelo ngifuna ingubo yami, ngathandana nengubo yokuqala engiyibone kwikhathalogi yabo," usho kanje. "Bathunyelwe, ngazama, kwaba njalo i ingubo. Isitolo sasingihlelele isikhathi sokusebenza amahora amathathu, kodwa ngaphuma ngemva kwemizuzu engu-20!”

Ngokuqondene ne-honeymoon, amathumbu akhe ayeqinisile ngalokho futhi: "UTye wayeqala ibhizinisi lakhe ngoJanuwari, ngakho-ke ukuhamba nje kwakungazizwa kahle," kusho uMelissa. "Wonke umuntu uthe kufanele sithathe i-honeymoon ngenxa yokufanekisela, kodwawethu uphawu bekungukuthi besiqala phansi ndawonye. "

Ungavumeli ukwesaba kukuvimbele

Ngenkathi uMelissa enikezwa ithuba lokuvala isikhala sikaNancy O'Dell (ngemuva kwalokho-- Finyelela eHollywood co-anchor uzilimazile ngesikhathi sokuzilolonga kombukiso) ngomhlaka I-DWTS, kwaba nokubanjwa okukodwa: Wayenezinsuku ezimbili kuphela zokufunda inqubo. “Ngangethukile ngangilokhu ngicabanga, ‘Wonke umuntu uzoyithanda le nto noma uzoyizonda,’ kusho yena. "Kodwa lapho ngiphuma esiteji, izethameli zahlanya. Ngavele ngezwa impilo yami ishintsha ngaleso sikhathi."

Wayeqinisile: Ukuqhubeka kwakhe njalo I-DWTS kwaholela emsebenzini kaMelissa njengomnikeli okhethekile ku I-Good Morning America. "Ngicishe ngabuza abadidiyeli ukuthi, 'Uqinisekile?'" Usho kanje. "Kodwa bathi bafuna ngilethe ubuntu bami kulo mdlalo, ngacabanga, 'Ngingakwenza lokho.' Kube ukuhamba okumangazayo, futhi angikholwa ukuthi kusaqhubeka. "

Ungalinge uxegise ukuthi ungubani

Yize enza umsebenzi wakhe omusha ebhizinisini lombukiso, lo owayekade enguDallas Cowboys cheerleader akanazo izinhlelo zokuthuthela eLos Angeles noma eNew York City. "Imindeni yethu, abangane, nomsebenzi kaTye konke kulapha eTexas," usho kanje. "Sizogcina izimpilo zethu lapho bekhona nalapho kade bekhona." Kulabo abasanda kushada, lokho kusho izinsuku eziningi emgwaqeni. “Ngihamba izikhathi eziningana ngenyanga,” kusho uMelissa. "Kwesinye isikhathi uTye uza nami, okwenza kube mnandi kakhulu.Kodwa uma engakwazi, sinomthetho wokuthi ngeke sihlukane isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinsuku ezine. "

Ukuzivocavoca kufanele kube mnandi

Ukuqeqeshelwa i- I-DWTS kwakudinga ukujwayela amahora angu-8, izinsuku eziyisikhombisa ngesonto, okwakushiya uMelissa enqunu futhi ekhululekile-kodwa ekhathele. "Ngangisesimweni esihle kakhulu empilweni yami," usho kanje. "Ngesinye isikhathi ngabheka i-abs yami futhi ngakwazi ukuyibala! Kodwa lokho akuwona umzimba wami wemvelo, futhi ngangazi ukuthi angikwazi ukuqhubeka nokusebenza ngaleso sikhathi." Futhi ngemva kombukiso, uMelissa wayeka ngokuphelele ukuzivocavoca. "Ngangidinga ukuqhela kukho, ngoba ngangingafuni ukulahlekelwa injabulo yokusebenza. Ngemva kwenyanga, ngaqala ukuphuthelwa futhi ngazizwa ngikulungele ukuqala futhi." Manje ugijima amamayela amabili noma amathathu izinsuku ezine kuya kweziyisithupha ngesonto, nezitimela zamandla ekhaya. Futhi nakuba ukubukeka kubaziwe kuyinto ejabulisayo, uMelissa uthi ukuvivinya umzimba kuyamsiza ukuthi ahlale eqinile ngokomzwelo. “Kuyisidambisi, futhi isikhathi sami sokuba ngedwa ngilungise imicabango yami,” usho kanje. "Ngemuva kokugijima, ukungezwani kwami ​​sekuphelile futhi ngihlala ngizizwa ngiba ngcono usuku lonke."

Ukuba nempilo kuyindlela yokuphila

UMelissa akanawo amahloni okuvuma ukuthi ikhefu lakhe lokusebenza kwaba ukudla okukhululekile kukho konke. Uthi: "Mina noTye sasidla ubusuku obuthile ngesonto futhi sidla zonke izinhlobo zokudla okunamafutha." "Kodwa ngesikhathi siqala ukuzivocavoca futhi, besazi ukuthi nathi kumele sidle okungcono - kubalulekile ukuthola imiphumela." Esikhundleni sokudla, lo mbhangqwana wenza izinguquko ezilula, ezihlanganisa ukudla okuningi ekhaya esikhundleni sokudla ezindaweni zokudlela. “Manje sidla ngaphandle kanye ngesonto—kungaba ngoLwesihlanu noma ngoMgqibelo—futhi ngipheka ngezinye izinsuku eziningi,” kusho uMelissa. "Eminyakeni embalwa edlule, bengivele ngizinakekela, futhi njengamanje ngijabulela kakhulu ukudla etafuleni lapho uTye efika ekhaya- sizobona ukuthi lokho kuhlala isikhathi esingakanani! inkukhu, kodwa ngifunde nje ukuthi ngiyipheka kanjani i-ahi tuna, futhi imnandi! "

UMelissa useyitholile nendlela yokudla okunempilo ngaphandle kokuyeka ukudla okusheshayo. "Uma ngifuna into efana neminwe yenkukhu namafrithi aseFrance, ngimane ngidle izingane," esho. "Kwanele ukwanelisa isifiso sami."

Kunencazelo engaphezu kweyodwa ye-sexy

UMelissa uthole imfihlo yokuzizwa emuhle noma ngabe ubukeka kanjani noma ugqoke ini: ukuzethemba. "Ukuzethemba, nendlela oyiveza ngayo, kuyathandeka," kusho yena. "Ngikwenza ngokumomotheka futhi ngijabule futhi ngijabule. Angiyena uMegan Fox onothando, kepha ngiyintombazane esondelene nentombazane-futhi ngiyazi ukuthi uTye uthola lokho kukhanga kakhulu. Wonke umuntu udinga ukuthola incazelo yegama lakhe - futhi ubukise ngakho! "

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