Unganamathela Kanjani Ezinqumweni Zakho Lapho Ukwehluleka Kubonakala Kuseduze

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• 1. Bhekana namaqiniso.
• 2. Ungadikibali kalula kanjalo.
• 3. Yeka ukulindela ukwehluleka.
• 4. Ungavumeli ukushelela kube ukuwa.
• 5. Zishayele emhlane.
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Endaweni ethile kule minyaka embalwa edlule, manje kube yisikhathi *esisemthethweni* lapho wonke umuntu elahla izinqumo zakhe zikaNcibijane njengezambane elishisayo. (Potato? Ngabe kukhona othe amazambane?) Nokho, ingabe uyamba okuthile, futhi uzobona ukuthi ayikho ithani ledatha likakhonkolo-nje i-hype mayelana nawo wonke umuntu ohlulekayo, okwenza uzizwe unecala elincane ngokuhluleka wena. (Ukucindezela kontanga ngokuphelele: "Hhayi-ke uma wonke umuntu ekwenza ...")

Kuyavela ukuthi asivumelani kahle ukuthi leli qembu #fail lokwenzeka nini. Kunosuku oluvame ukubhekiselwa kulo kodwa olungaqinisekisiwe oluthi "Yehlisa Usuku Lwakho Lwesinqumo Lonyaka Omusha" ngoJanuwari 17 kanye nokunye okwehlayo ekupheleni kwenyanga-okungenani ngokusho kokuhlolwa kwe-Facebook gym. Izingxoxo ezinethemba elikhulu zithi abantu abaningi bahlala beqinile kuze kube nguFebhuwari; izibalo ezivame ukucashunwa zithi amaphesenti angama-80-abanye abantu sebeqedile ngeviki lesibili likaFebhuwari. IGym's Gym idonsa imininingwane yamalungu ayo unyaka nonyaka ukuze iveze "iwa lokuqina" elenzeka endaweni ethile maphakathi noFebhuwari lapho ukuhambela ejimini kwehla kakhulu. Okwe-2018, lolo suku lubuyele emuva kuze kube nguFebhuwari 22. (Singakubala lokho njengenqubekela phambili, akunjalo?)

Ngenkathi abacwaningi bengenzanga ucwaningo lwesayensi olunzulu ngale nto, thina can bona ukuthi kungani lokhu "sinikela" minyaka yonke kwenzeka ngalesi sikhathi. Okokuqala, kuyabanda futhi kubuhlungu futhi asikho isikhathi seholide esibonakalayo (sawubona, uMsombuluko Oluhlaza.) Okwesibili, uswidi woSuku Lwezithandani uvela YONKE INDAWO kanye nezwi elincane elingaphakathi elithi "ziziphathe, ntombazane" likutshela ukuthi #selflove isho ukudla. wonke umkhono we-Oreos (unecala njengoba ukhokhisiwe). Ukungasho, isayensi ithi kuthatha izinsuku ezingama-66 ukwakha umkhuba-futhi ngokuqinisekile asikabi kude kakhulu kuNyaka Omusha okwamanje. Bamba kuze kube uMashi 7, noma kunjalo, futhi usuphumelele ngokusemthethweni uhlelo. (Udinga usizo lokufika lapho? Joyina Inselelo Yethu Yezinsuku ezingama-40 Yokuphokophela-Izinhloso Zakho ukuze uqhubeke nomfutho.)

Kodwa qagelani? Konke kuyinqwaba ye-BS. Uchungechunge lokufaneleka olususelwe e-NYC lwaseNew York Sports Club alubiki noma yiluphi uhlobo lokwehliswa ("okungaphezulu kokuqothuka njengoba sisondela esimweni sezulu esimnandi," ngokusho kommeli) kanjalo nohlelo lokusebenza olucela uchwepheshe lwe-Thumbtack.

Noma ngabe yiluphi usuku noma isonto okholelwa ukuthi lingamathuna asemthethweni ezinqumweni zonyaka omusha, iqiniso ukuthi nguwe can kudlule. (Noma idolobha lakho lingcono kakhulu noma libi kakhulu ekugcineni izinqumo zokuphila ezinempilo.) Awusikholwa? Lezi zeluleko zizokusiza ukuthi wenze isinqumo sakho-noma ngabe yini-ukuze ukwazi ukufakazela zonke lezo zibalo ezikhathele ukuthi banephutha ngemuva kwakho konke.

1. Bhekana namaqiniso.

Ukucabanga ukuthi ungagijima i-marathon ezinyangeni ezinhlanu lapho ungakaze usethe amateki endaweni egandayiwe kungase kuphakame futhi kuncomeke-kodwa ngeke kwenzeke. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuhlosa ukusebenzisa i-5K lapho usuvele wenze ukunethezeka kwamamayela angu-3 cishe ngeke uzizwe uthukile ngokwanele ukukukhipha embhedeni ekuseni. Ochwepheshe bayavuma ukuthi ukubeka imigomo emikhulu kunokuphila kuwukuzibekela ukwehluleka-kodwa udinga inselele. Nansi indlela yokusetha (noma ukulungisa!) imigomo yakho yokulungiswa ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi ilingana kahle.

2. Ungadikibali kalula kanjalo.

Ukufeza izinhloso zakho akufanele kube ikhekhe lokuhamba. Ngeke kube lula ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi ngeke uhlale ujabulile ukukwenza. (Isibonelo: Izaba ezithi "Anginaso isikhathi esanele sokuzilolonga" zingamanga. Vele ubuze i-Tone It Up amantombazane.) Nokho, lokho kulahlekelwa injabulo kungenye yezizathu eziyinhloko zalokhu ngasekupheleni kukaJanuwari/ ekuqaleni kukaFebhuwari ukuyeka ukusebenza, ngokusho kuka-Andrew Schrage, njengoba sibike ku- The Top 10 Reasons People Ditch their Resolutions. Cabanga ngemiphumela emihle esheshayo yezenzo zakho: lokho kugijima kwe-endorphin yangemva kokujima, ukuqhuma kwamandla ozowathola ngokudla umkhiqizo omusha esikhundleni sokudla okulula okugayiwe, noma umuzwa ophumelelayo wokuhlola okuthile ohlwini lwakho lwezinto ozozenza. Yenza okusemandleni akho khona manje ukusebenzela umgomo wakho-futhi ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, uzobe ulapho. (Ukuthola isizwe sokuzivocavoca kungasiza-vele ubuze umqeqeshi uJen Widerstrom.)

3. Yeka ukulindela ukwehluleka.

Abantu abangamaphesenti angama-43 balindele ukuyekelela ezinqumweni zabo inyanga eyodwa kuNcibijane, ngokocwaningo lwe-Twitter lwabantu abangu-4,000 olwenziwe yi-ethical activewear brand Sundried. Akusibo abantu abangaki empeleni wadela ngemva kwenyanga eyodwa. Baningi-ke abantu kulindeleke ukuyeka ngaleso sikhathi. Um, ukukhanya kwezindaba: Uma uhlela ukwehluleka, uzohluleka. Akuyona isayensi ye-rocket. Yeka ukulindela ukudela futhi ufunde ukubona ngeso lengqondo impumelelo yakho ukuze yenzeke.

4. Ungavumeli ukushelela kube ukuwa.

Ngakho-ke ufunge ukuthi uzokwenza i-yoga nsuku zonke, noma ukusika ushukela ongeziwe ekudleni kwakho - kepha uchithe usuku lonke kusofa, noma wazitika ngocezu lwekhekhe ebhasini lokuzalwa lomngane wakho. Manje? Ungavumeli ukushelela okukodwa kukudicilele phansi ngokuphelele. Iphuzu lezinqumo (cishe njalo) ukwakha imikhuba emisha enempilo - hhayi ukuzincisha noma ukuzibandakanya ngokweqile uze ugcine uyekile. Zihalalisele ngokwenza kahle kuze kube manje, futhi ufunde ekutheni wenze iphutha kodwa wabuyela ngqo ehhashini. Lokho kungenye yezindlela zokwamukela i- # winning mindset futhi uvule indlela yokwenza izinqumo ezinhle ngokuzayo. Gxila kulokho ongakwenza lapha futhi manje-ungakhathazeki ngokwedlule noma ucabange ngekusasa, ngokusho komqeqeshi wempilo uHunter Phoenix ngezizathu eziyi-10 zokuthi awunamatheli ezinqumweni zakho.

5. Zishayele emhlane.

Uma uhlu lwakho lwezinto ozozenza noma inselele ezayo ohlelweni lwakho lokuqeqeshwa kwesabisa kangangokuthi uzizwa uqinile, phenya umbhalo.Esikhundleni sokucabanga ngalokho okuzayo, cabanga ngalokho osuvele ukwenzile. Abantu abaningi abaphumelelayo benza uhlu lwempumelelo esikhundleni sokwenza uhlu, njengoShawn Achor, umbhali we Inzuzo Yenjabulo, kusho ku-25 Experts with Amazing Resolution Advice. (Bheka lezi zithuthukisi zokugqugquzela imizuzwana emibili.) Cabanga ngakho konke ukujima okungenile kanye nalo lonke ucezu lweswidi omelane nalo-uzizwa umuhle kakhulu, akunjalo? Futhi lowo muzwa wenza kube lula ukugcina i-streak ihamba.

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