Amathiphu ayi-11 okuphuma ku-Rut

-Delile

• 1. Yamukela isimo
• 2. Thola imbangela
• Ukujula
• 3. Bhekisisa izinhloso zakho
• 4. Yenza izinguquko ezincane
• Ithiphu yepro
• 5. Khumbula ukuzinakekela
• 6. Nikeza ingqondo yakho ikhefu
• Ungakhululeka kanjani
• 7. Yiba nomfutho ngokwengeziwe
• Thatha ukubusa
• 8. Bheka izinto ngendlela eyiqiniso
• 9. Hlukana nokufuna ukuphelela
• 10. Yazi lapho kungesona nje isikhubekiso
• 11. Thola ukwesekwa

Wake wafaka imoto yakho emseleni? Mhlawumbe upake olwandle futhi lapho uzama ukuhamba, wabona ukuthi ubhajwe esihlabathini futhi awukwazi ukubuyela emuva, phambili, noma kwenye indawo nhlobo.

Uqaphele ukuthi ukuphotha amasondo akho ngokushesha okukhulu kukunciphise ngokujulile. Ukhungathekile futhi ungakwazi ukunyakaza, bekufanele uqhamuke necebo elihlukile.

Ukunamathela ngokomzwelo kungenzeka ngendlela efanayo. Uhamba ngempilo, ulandela inqubo yakho, wenza izinto ezifanayo nsuku zonke.Awuqapheli umkhuba ozayo, njengoba nje ungazange uqaphele ukuthi uzobambeka esihlabathini.

Kepha ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, impilo ngokungazelelwe izwa i-blah futhi ingenanjongo. Awuzizwa unogqozi. Ubuciko kanye nogqozi kuye kwahamba ngehhoko. Umsebenzi uyanqwabelana, kepha awazi ukuthi uzoqala ngaphi ukubhekana nawo - futhi awukwazi ukuzinakekela ngempela.

Uyazi ukwenza okuhlukile kungahle kusize, kepha awunawo amandla noma ugqozi lokuzama ukwenza ushintsho.

Kuzwakala kujwayelekile? Uma kunjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi wawela enkingeni. Futhi njengemoto yakho, ukujikeleza amasondo akho ngokungapheli ngeke kwenze lukhulu ukukukhipha. Ukumba imoto yakho, bekufanele uthathe isenzo esithile, noma ngabe bekuyisihlabathi sokufosela noma ukubiza iloli elidonsayo.

Ukukhuphuka ngaphandle komqondo kudinga isenzo, kepha nazi izindaba ezinhle: Awudingi ukulinda omunye umuntu ukuthi akukhiphe - ngaphandle kokuthi ufuna usizo olwengeziwe.

1. Yamukela isimo

Ngakho-ke, ubhajwe enkingeni. Kulungile. Lokhu kuvame kakhulu, futhi ngeke kuhlale unomphela.

Kepha ukwenqaba kungakuvimba ekwenzeni izinguquko eziwusizo. Uma uhlikihla i-ennui yakho ngokuzitshela ukuthi, "Ngikhathele nje" noma "Ngizozizwa nginjengami kusasa," uzoqhubeka nokujikeleza umjikelezo ofanayo, ukwandise ukunganeliseki nokucindezeleka kwakho.

Ukuze uqale ukulungisa lesi simo, yazi isikhubekiso esikhundleni salokho. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukuzwelana nawe - ukuzisola ngeke kukusize uzizwe ungcono. Ngakho-ke yeka ukuzikhethela bese ubheka amandla akho ekuqhubekeni nasekuphumeni.

2. Thola imbangela

Uma unamathele kuslump, ukuhlola ukuthi kungani kungakusiza uqale ukuzidonsela phezulu.

Ukuzihlola okuncane kwesinye isikhathi kuveza izimpendulo ngokushesha. Mhlawumbe ubudlelwano bakho abukathuthuki njengoba ubuhlosile noma umsebenzi wakho uzizwa sengathi awunakusebenza. Noma mhlawumbe izingcindezi ezimbalwa ezihlanganisiwe zikushiye ukhathele ngokomzwelo.

Ama-ruts angaba nezimbangela ezahlukahlukene, eziyinkimbinkimbi, noma kunjalo, ngakho-ke ukulandelela okwakho kumthombo kungabonakala kuyinselelo encane. Mhlawumbe kuhlobene nesimo sesikhashana esingaphezu kwamandla akho, noma okuthile okudinga ukuseshwa komphefumulo okuthe xaxa kunokuba ukulungele.

Ukujula

Ukuzibuza le mibuzo kungasiza:

• Iziphi izingxenye zokuphila ezingilethela injabulo?
• Yini engenza ngingajabuli noma ngicindezeleke?
• Ingabe ngenza izinto ngoba ngifuna noma ngoba ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele ngenze njalo?
• Ngabe ubudlelwano bami bunikeza incazelo nokugcwaliseka?
• Ngabe nginamathela kuphela emsebenzini wami / ebudlelwaneni / kuphrojekthi ngoba angifuni ukuchitha isikhathi nomzamo engiwutshalile?

3. Bhekisisa izinhloso zakho

Ukusebenzela izinhloso ezithile kungakugqugquzela futhi kukunikeze umuzwa wenjongo. Noma ngabe umgomo ulala ngaphandle kancane kokufinyelela kwakho kwamanje, akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokho. Impilo ivumela indawo eningi ukuthi ikhule, futhi imvamisa ungafinyelela lezo zinhloso ngomsebenzi othile.

Lapho izinhloso zakho eziningi zingafinyeleleki kusuka lapho ukhona njengamanje, ungaqhubeka nokuhluleka ukuzifeza futhi ugcine ukhungathekile ngawe.

Esikhundleni sokuzishaya ungazifezi izinto, zibuze ukuthi ngabe izinhloso zakho ziyahambisana yini nalokho ongakufinyelela ngokoqobo. Uma impendulo yakho (ethembekile) ingu "cha," bhala umgomo wakho ubhale phansi inothi bese ubona ukuthi uphumelele ngokwengeziwe yini.

Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokunciphisa emuva, futhi akusho ukuthi kufanele ulahle imigomo yakho ephakeme ngokuphelele.

4. Yenza izinguquko ezincane

Lapho usubonile ukuthi ubhajwe enkingeni, ungazizwa ulingeka ukuthi uhlele kabusha isimo ngokuphelele ngokwenza izinguquko eziningi ezinkulu.

Kuzwakala kukuhle ngombono, kepha ukulungisa yonke into ngasikhathi sinye kaningi akuhambi njengoba kuhlelwe. Ukuzama ukushintsha imikhuba eminingi noma izindlela zokuziphatha ngasikhathi sinye kungakuthokozisa ngokushesha futhi kwenze kube nzima ukunamathela kunoma yiziphi izinguquko.

Ukusebenza ngenguquko eyodwa noma ezimbili ezincane, ezilawulwayo kungenza inqubo yoshintsho ibe lula. Ukukhawulela izinguquko ozenzayo kungakusiza futhi ukubona lapho okuthile kungasebenzi, okwenza kube lula ukwazi ukuthi udlulela nini bese uzama okunye.

Ithiphu yepro

Uma wazi ukuthi yini ebangela ukungahleleki, gxila kuzinguquko zakho zokuqala lapho.

Uma izinkinga zakho zihlobene nomsebenzi, isibonelo, cabanga nganoma yiziphi izinguquko ongazenza, noma ngabe ukushintsha iminyango noma ukucela usizo mayelana nokuthi ungaba kanjani nengxoxo enzima (kodwa edingekayo) nomsebenzi osebenza naye.

5. Khumbula ukuzinakekela

Uma unenkinga yokukhomba ukuthi yini ekungenise enkingeni, noma uvele uzizwe ungakhuthazeki ngokuphelele ukuphuma kuyo, yenza ukungena okusheshayo ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi unakekela inhlalakahle yakho.

Izindlela ezinhle zokuzinakekela zisiza ukuvuselela ingqondo yakho futhi umzimba. Futhi zingakhuphula amandla nokugqugquzela, zikushiye uzizwe ukwazi ukwenza kabusha isimiso sakho ngezinye izindlela.

Awudingi ukulungisa kabusha indlela ophila ngayo, kepha zama ukukhipha isikhathi sokunye kwalokhu okulandelayo:

• ukuphumula okungenangqondo
• amakhefu kusuka kumaphrojekthi anzima
• isikhathi sokuphumula lapho uzizwa ushile
• ukuzivocavoca umzimba njalo
• isikhathi nabathandekayo
• ukudla okuvamile, okulinganiselayo
• ukulala okuningi kwekhwalithi

6. Nikeza ingqondo yakho ikhefu

Umkhuba ungazizwa ujwayelekile futhi ududuza, futhi akukubi ukuba nawo.

Ngaphandle kokuhlukahluka, noma kunjalo, impilo ingaba nesicefe. Uqhubeka wenza izinto ezifanayo nsuku zonke ngoba usujwayele ukuzijwayela, kodwa ngokuzumayo uqala ukuzizwa ukhathele futhi unesithukuthezi.

Ngakwesobunxele kumadivayisi ayo, ingxenye yobuchopho bakho - ikakhulukazi, i-dorsolateral prefrontal cortex - izozama ukubhekana nezinkinga ngokusebenzisa amaphethini noma imithetho oyifundile kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwangaphambilini.

Uma ubhekene nohlobo olusha lwenselelo, lawa macebo kungenzeka angasebenzi kahle njengangaphambili. Lokhu kukushiya ungenaso isixazululo (futhi ngokusobala).

Ngenhlanhla, ungasetha kabusha le ngxenye yobuchopho bakho ngokumane ungazixwayi. Kungazizwa kuphikisana nokuphonsa ngamabomu ukugxila emoyeni, kepha ukwenza njalo kungakhuphula amakhono akho wokuxazulula izinkinga futhi kukusize uthathe amaphethini amasha kanye nemikhuba.

Ungakhululeka kanjani

Ukuze uvule ubuchopho bakho, zama:

• ukuvumela ingqondo yakho izule
• ukuthatha uhambo olude
• ukuhlala ngokuthula emvelweni
• ukudweba ekhasini elingenalutho
• ukuthatha isihlwathi samandla

Isihluthulelo ukukhipha indawo ngaphandle kwezinto eziningi zangaphandle.

7. Yiba nomfutho ngokwengeziwe

Ukungafisi ukuthola idumela elibi. Impela, ezinye izenzo zokujaha zinezingozi. Kepha okuningi kuphephe ngokuphelele futhi kuzuzisa.

Ukwenza izinqumo nge-snap kungakhuphula ukuzethemba kwakho futhi kunikeze ithuba lokuhlola izinketho ezintsha ezengeza ugqozi nokuhlukahluka empilweni. Ngisho nento elula njengokuhamba ibanga elide uye ekhaya ingakwethula ezintweni ongakaze uzibone ngaphambili.

Ukusondelana nezinkinga kusuka ekhoneni ongakaze uzicabange ngaphambilini nakho kungakunika ukuqonda okusha okungakusiza ukuthi uphume kulo mkhuba.

Thatha ukubusa

Ezinye zezenzo ezinempilo, zokuxhamazela ukwamukela:

• Yithi "yebo" kulolo suku.
• Bhalisela lelo thuba lokuqeqeshwa ngempelasonto.
• Vakashela lelo dolobha obulokhu uphupha ukulibona.
• Zinikele ekuholeni iphrojekthi yeqembu.
• Hlola ingxenye entsha yendawo yakini.

8. Bheka izinto ngendlela eyiqiniso

Noma ngabe yiziphi izinkinga obhekana nazo, ukucabanga okungokoqobo kungakusiza uthole izindlela eziphumelelayo zokuzixazulula.

Kuyaqondakala ukufuna ukubeka icala lokutholwa emithonjeni engaphandle, kodwa isikhathi esiningi, awukwazi ukushintsha noma yini ngaphandle kwakho.

Ukukhanyisa ezintweni ongeke uzilawule ngokwejwayelekile akusizi. Futhi ukweqa iminwe yakho, unethemba lokuhle, noma ukuhlala phansi ulinde izinto ezizothuthuka ngomlingo.

Esikhundleni salokho, cabanga ngezinto ngombono ongokoqobo. Ziba izici zangaphandle bese ucabanga ukuthi yikuphi eyakho izenzo (noma ukuntuleka kwezenzo) zinikelwe.

Lezo yizinto ofuna ukubhekana nazo futhi ugxilise amandla akho kuzo.

9. Hlukana nokufuna ukuphelela

Ukuphelela kungaba ngumgomo wezempilo kwabanye abantu, kepha kubantu abaningi, kuholela ekuzilimaleni.

Uma unamazinga aphezulu, mhlawumbe uchitha isikhathi eside uqinisekisa ukuthi umsebenzi wakho uhlangabezana nawo njalo. Noma wenza umsebenzi omuhle, ungakholelwa ukuthi awulungile ngokwanele bese uqhubeka usebenza kuwo.

Ukuziphatha okuqinile kuyisici esincomekayo. Kodwa futhi kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukwenza amaphutha kuyinto ejwayelekile, nengxenye ebalulekile yokukhula.

Ukuzama ukugwema iphutha elilodwa kuvame ukukuvimbela ekwenzeni izinto. Futhi, kungaholela emizweni yokukhathazeka nokudangala lapho ungaphumeleli ekupheleleni okuphelele.

Gxila esikhundleni sokufaka umzamo wakho omuhle kakhulu futhi ubone ukuthi amaphrojekthi aqedelwa, noma ngabe akuyona indawo yokugcina oyicabangile. Uma usuqedile okuthile, qhubeka.

10. Yazi lapho kungesona nje isikhubekiso

Kwesinye isikhathi i-rut is a rut - isimo sesikhashana ongasebenzela ukusithuthukisa. Kungakhombisa nokuthile okubucayi kakhulu, noma kunjalo.

Ukuphila nokuphazamiseka kokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo, noma i-dysthymia, kungazizwa sengathi ubhajwe enkambeni ongeke weqe kuyo. I-Dysthymia ivame ukungaziwa ngoba imvamisa ayinzima kangako kunokucindezeleka, noma inezimpawu ezifanayo.

Lokhu kufaka phakathi:

• amandla amancane noma ukukhathala okuncane
• isithakazelo esincane emisebenzini yansuku zonke
• i-anhedonia, noma ubunzima bokuthola injabulo empilweni
• ukulahleka kwesisusa noma ukukhiqiza
• imizwa yokungafaneleki noma ukuzenyeza

Lezi zimpawu zingathinta impilo yakho yansuku zonke, kepha zihlala zihlala zimnene. Ungahle ungaziqapheli kukhona izimpawu ngoba usakwazi ukuhambisana nemikhuba yakho ejwayelekile.

Kodwa impilo akudingeki izizwe ikude noma ithulisiwe. Uma uvele ungabonakali unyakazise umuzwa wokuthi ubhajwe enkingeni, unezinketho zokusekelwa, okusiletha kuthiphu lethu lokugcina.

11. Thola ukwesekwa

Ukwelashwa kuyindlela enhle yokuthola ukwesekwa okungeziwe lapho uzizwa unamathele, noma ngabe unezimpawu zempilo yengqondo noma cha.

Kubantu abaningi, ukwelashwa kumane kusebenza njengendawo ephephile yokuhlola izinketho ezedlule nezinketho zekusasa.

Umelaphi anganikeza isiqondiso nokusekelwa okungenazinqumo kanye nokusekelwa njengoba usebenzela uku:

• hlola izindawo zempilo yakho ezingakunelisi ngokuphelele
• khomba amasu noma imikhuba ekhona engasebenzi
• hlola izindlela ezinhle zokwenza ushintsho

Umhlahlandlela wethu ekwelashweni okungabizi kungakusiza ukuthi uqale.

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