Uma Wenza Into Eyodwa Kule Nyanga...Funda Ukuthi Cha

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Lapho umakhelwane wakho ekucela ukuthi usize ngomqokeleli wezimali noma umuntu omjwayele wakudala ekuphikelela ukuthi uye edilini lakhe lesidlo sakusihlwa, ukwenqaba akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi, noma ngabe unesizathu esizwakalayo. "Abesifazane bafundiswa ukondla, futhi besaba ukuthi ukwenqaba isicelo kuzobenza babonakale benobugovu," kusho uSusan Newman, Ph.D., isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomlobi we Incwadi ka-Cha: Izindlela ezingama-250 zokuyisho-futhi uyiqonde. "Kodwa iningi lethu lisola ngokweqile ukuthi ukwenqaba kuzodumaza umuntu kangakanani. Empeleni, abantu abaningi ngeke bagxile ekuphikeni kwakho - bazovele baqhubeke."

Ngokuzayo lapho uhlangabezana nanoma yini evela kumcimbi wephathi esicelweni sezinto ezithengiswayo zokubhaka, nciphisa leyo mpendulo ye-othomathikhi bese uzibuza, Ngabe ngiyakulangazelela lokhu noma ngiyakwesaba? Uma kungukugcina, yehla. (Zama, “Ngingathanda, kodwa ngimatasa kakhulu.”) Ngemva kokwenqaba izicelo ezimbalwa futhi uqaphela ukuthi ezinye azikhishwa ngokwenqaba kwakho, uzoyeka ukuzizwa unecala. “Futhi uzokhululwa ngoba uzozibambela isikhathi sakho sokwenza izinto ozifuna ngempela,” kusho uNewman. Umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa omusha, ubusuku bokuzilibazisa ngokwakho, nesikhathi esithe xaxa nezingane zakho konke kungokwakho ngentengo yegama elilodwa nje vo.

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