Ungabugcina Kanjani Ubuhlobo Bakho Bokuxhumana Nabanye

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• Ubudlelwano 101
• Izigaba zobudlelwano
• Ukubaluleka kobudlelwano
• Ukugcinwa kobudlelwano
• Kuvalelisa
• Ukudla okudlela endlini

Ubudlelwano 101

Ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu bakha bonke ubuhlobo obanelisa uhla lwezidingo zomzimba nezingokomzwelo zakho. Laba ngabantu osondelene nabo kakhulu empilweni yakho.

Ngenkathi ubudlelwane bezothando buphakathi kwabantu, amalungu omndeni nabangane abasondelene nabo, nabo. Kukhona futhi into efana nobudlelwano besibili phakathi kwabantu. Lokhu kufaka phakathi abantu obajwayele, omakhelwane, nabanye oxhumana nabo njalo.

Ngamafuphi, unohlobo oluthile lobudlelwano phakathi kwabo nawo wonke umuntu omaziyo.

Njengoba kunikezwe ukubaluleka kobudlelwano enhlalakahleni yethu engokomzwelo nengokomzimba, kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungabuthuthukisa kanjani futhi ubugcine.

Izigaba zobudlelwano

Ubudlelwano abuthuthuki ngokuzuma. Esinye isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, uGeorge Levinger, sathola izigaba ezinhlanu zobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu ocwaningweni lwango-1980. Ubize lo mbono wesigaba, ohlanganisa:

• ukwazana
• Yakha
• ukuqhubeka
• ukuwohloka
• ukuphela (ukunqanyulwa)

Ubudlelwano obuyimpumelelo phakathi kwabantu buzodlula kuphela ezigabeni ezintathu zokuqala. Ubudlelwano obugcina ngokuhlukana nomngani noma umlingani othandana naye buzodlula kuzo zonke lezi zigaba ezinhlanu.

Akubona bonke ubudlelwano obuzokwenza ukuthi budlule isigaba sokuqala sokwazana, noma. Ingxenye yokubaluleka komcabango kaLevinger ukukhombisa ukuthi ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu bunamandla njengoba buhlukahlukene.

Ukubaluleka kobudlelwano

Ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu bubalulekile enjabulweni yakho yonke ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Ubudlelwano busiza ukulwa nesizungu ngenkathi futhi bukunika umuzwa wenjongo empilweni.

Isibonelo, ukusondelana okuzwayo nomndeni nabangane kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokwesekwa kwakho kwezenhlalo. Ubudlelwano kwezinye izici zempilo yakho ngaphandle kwezothando nomndeni nabo bungaba nomthelela omuhle kuwe, njengokuhlangana nabantu obajwayele ukuze nibe nentshisekelo noma ukuzijabulisa okwabiwe.

Bonke ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu bakhelwe ekwethembekeni, ekusekelweni nasekwethembaneni. Ubuhlobo obuseduze nabo bungakhelwa othandweni. Ukuhloniphana nokuphindiselana kwalezi zimfanelo kubalulekile ekugcineni bonke ubudlelwano bakho. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ubudlelwano bungaba ngohlangothi olulodwa.

Ukugcinwa kobudlelwano

Ukugcina ubungani nobunye ubudlelwane kudinga umsebenzi. Isici sokuqala nesibaluleke kakhulu ukuxhumana. Lokhu kudinga izingxoxo phakathi kwabantu ngemizwa yakho. Yize ukuthumela imiyalezo nokuthumela imiyalezo ku-inthanethi kungagcwalisa kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi, kaningi akunikezi imiphumela efanayo.

Ngesinye isikhathi ebudlelwaneni, kuzoqubuka ingxabano. Indlela obhekana ngayo nayo iyonquma ukuthi udweshu luyabuqinisa yini ubudlelwano noma cha. Esikhundleni sokugwema iphuzu lombango, kubalulekile ukuthi ukhulume ngalo ngokugcwele futhi ulalele umbono wabo.

Uma kukhona okukuphazamisayo emsebenzini noma esikoleni, khuluma. Uma unezinkinga ezithile nomngani, ilungu lomndeni, noma uzakwethu, qiniseka ukubatshela. Sethemba ukuthi bazophindisela ngenhlonipho nangokwethembeka.

Ngaphandle kokwethembeka nokuxhumana okuvulelekile, kubalulekile futhi uku:

• Beka imingcele.
• Yiba isilaleli esikhuthele.
• Khombisa omunye umuntu inhlonipho ngaso sonke isikhathi.
• Gcina isimo sengqondo esihle.
• Vumela ukugxekwa okwakhayo nempendulo ngaphandle kokuvumela imizwa yakho ilawule.

Kuvalelisa

Akusibo bonke ubudlelwano obusempilweni yonke. Eqinisweni, abanye bangaze badlulele ngalé kokubazi. Futhi kulungile. Kujwayelekile ukuthi ubudlelwano obuthile bufike ekugcineni. Kunezici ezithinta inkambo yabo bonke ubudlelwano bakho nabanye abantu.

Lapho ucabanga ngobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu obungaphela, ungahle ucabange ngokuhlukana nomlingani wakho othandana naye. Kepha obunye ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu bungaphela, futhi.

Isibonelo, lapho uqeda isikole, kungenzeka ungahlali uthintana nabo bonke othisha bakho kanye nabanye abafundi. Kuyafana nalapho ushiya umsebenzi udlulele komunye.

Akunakwenzeka ukugcina bonke ubudlelwane empilweni yakho unomphela. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni besibili.

Ukudla okudlela endlini

Ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu buthinta zonke izici zempilo yethu, kufaka phakathi imisebenzi yasekhaya, yomsebenzi nezokungcebeleka. Ngaphandle kobudlelwano obuqinile, kungenzeka uzizwe unesizungu futhi ungabukelwa phansi njengomuntu. Ungase futhi ube nomuzwa wokuthi untula ukusekelwa komphakathi.

Namuhla, kulula kunanini ngaphambili ukuphuthelwa ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu ngenxa yobuchwepheshe obukhuthaza ukuxhumana kwedijithali. Abantu abasebenza ekhaya baphuthelwa ukuxhumana kwabo nabantu abasebenza nabo. Abangane nomndeni bangakhetha ukuthumela imiyalezo kunokuba babe ndawonye ukuze badle futhi baxoxe.

Yenza iphuzu ukuze ubone umndeni wakho nabangane mathupha, noma uhlole ama-meetups wakho wasendaweni nezinye izinsiza eziku-inthanethi ngezindlela zokuhlanganyela ekuxhumaneni nabantu okudingeka kakhulu.

Ekugcineni, awukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu uma ungenabo ubudlelwano obuhle nawe.

Thatha isikhathi sokuzazi futhi utshale imali ekuzinakekeleni. Uma izingqinamba ezithile zikwenza ungasebenzisi isikhathi sakho nabanye, cabanga ukukhuluma nomelaphi ukuze akusekele futhi akuqondise.