Masisondelane: Amathiphu ayi-8 okuthi Uma Ukugula Okungalapheki Kuthola Ngendlela Yempilo Yakho Yezocansi

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• 1. Isenzo somusa sihamba ibanga elide
• 2. Yenza ukuthi ‘bahleke
• 3. Khulumisanani
• 4. Amoyizelane
• 5. Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo
• 6. I-Netflix futhi snuggles
• 7. Qhubeka nokuzidela
• 8. Zifundisaneni

Lapho othile ethi igama ukusondelana, imvamisa kuyigama eliyikhodi lezocansi. Kepha ukucabanga kanjalo kushiya izindlela ongasondelana ngazo nomlingani wakho ngaphandle "kokuhamba yonke indlela." Ngokudabukisayo, ukuncipha kobudlelwano ebudlelwaneni kuvame kakhulu kubantu abaphila nezifo ezingalapheki. Futhi ngethembe, njengomuntu ozichaza "njengomuntu wenyama" ophila nezifo eziningana ezingamahlalakhona, ngiyazi ukuthi lokhu kungakhungathekisa kanjani.

Emsebenzini wami ngihlola ubulili kanye nobudlelwano babantu abaphila nokugula okungalapheki, ngithole ukuthi kunamathuba amaningi okukhungatheka kwangaphakathi ngaphakathi kobudlelwano ngokusondelana nobulili. Kepha empeleni, ngingavele ngibheke ebudlelwaneni bami uqobo ukuthola ubufakazi.

Lapho ngihlangana okokuqala nomlingani wami, isibonelo, sasiba no-AKA ocansini ngokusondelana kaningi. Sasijabule ngokuphelele ngomunye nomunye ngendlela eyayingaba abafundi basekolishi kuphela. Njengoba sikhula, ukugula kwami ​​okungamahlalakhona kwakhula futhi kwanda ngesibalo. Ngakhula nginesifo se-asthma kanye ne-systemic juvenile idiopathic arthritis, kepha ekugcineni kwatholakala ukuthi ngine-fibromyalgia, ukudangala, ukukhathazeka kanye nengcindezi yangemva kokuhlukumezeka. Izinga lokuzivocavoca umzimba esake saba nalo bekungeyona into ebesingayifeza ngokujwayelekile, noma ngabe besifuna. Kwakunezikhathi lapho ngangingeke ngikwazi ukubamba isandla somyeni wami ngenxa yobuhlungu, ngoba into okwakungafanele ilimaze, yenze ngokudabukisayo.

Bekufanele sifunde ukuxhumana futhi ngenxa yalokho. Kuseseyinto esisebenza ngayo ndawonye, ​​usuku nosuku. Akulula, kepha kufanelekile. Lawa amanye amaqhinga wethu esiwathandayo ukugcina izinto zisondelene lapho ucansi lungatholakali:

1. Isenzo somusa sihamba ibanga elide

Njengomuntu ophila nokugula okungamahlalakhona, ngisebenza ekhaya futhi ngizisebenzele. Angiphumi njalo njalo ukuyokwenza izinto engingathanda ukuzenza. Ngezinye izikhathi ngimane nje angikwazi ukushiya ikhaya lethu. Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ezenziwa umyeni wami ngezikhathi ezithile ukuma bese ngithathela omunye wamaswidi wami engiwathanda kakhulu noma ama-sodas kimi eya ekhaya. Kuyisikhumbuzo sokuthi uyangicabanga futhi uyazi ukuthi okuthile okuncane kungenza ngizizwe ngingconywana.

2. Yenza ukuthi ‘bahleke

Ukuthola izindlela zokuhleka nokuthola amahlaya empilweni kubalulekile ekubhekaneni nokugula nobuhlungu, futhi kukusiza ukusondeza kumlingani wakho.

Esinye sezikhathi engizithandayo lapho silele embhedeni futhi singakwazi ukulala impela kodwa sobabili siyisidakwa ngoba sihleka kakhulu. Ukusondelana okunjalo kuyasiza kakhulu kumuntu ophila nokugula okungalapheki. Umyeni wami uyinkosi yama-puns, ngakho-ke lokho kuyasiza.

3. Khulumisanani

Ukuxhumana akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi lokho kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi lapho kuhileleka ukugula, ubuhlungu, noma ukukhubazeka. Noma kunjalo, ukuxhumana okuthembekile kubaluleke ngendlela emangalisayo ukuze kugcinwe ukusondelana nokwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi ningathola indlela yokuqonda ubuhlungu bomunye nomunye, amazinga wamandla, izifiso, nokuningi.

Mina nomyeni wami bekufanele sisebenzele emakhonweni ethu wokuxhumana ukuze sihlale ndawonye isikhathi eside esinaso. Kubalulekile kuwo wonke umuntu, kodwa ikakhulukazi kulabo bethu ababhekene nokugula noma ubuhlungu.

4. Amoyizelane

Cha, ngokungathi sína. Momotheka nomlingani wakho. Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi uma umomotheka, ukushaya kwenhliziyo yakho kwehla, ukuphefumula kwakho kwehla futhi umzimba wakho uphumule. Lezi zinto ndawonye zingakusiza ukwehlisa izinga lokucindezeleka jikelele. Uma umlingani wakho enenkinga yokugula okungalapheki, cabanga nje ukuthi iseshini yokumamatheka esheshayo ingabenzelani.

5. Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo

Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo, engqondweni yami, ukuphakama kokusondelana. Singasondelana ngokomzimba nabantu, kepha hhayi sinamathele ngokomzwelo. Lapho ukuxhumana kwemizwa kuhilelekile, noma kunjalo, kuthatha ubudlelwane buye ezingeni eliphakeme. Kungakha izibopho ezisondelene futhi kusize ukuthuthukisa amakhono wokuxhumana. Imidlalo enjengemibuzo engama-21, Ungathanda Kunalokho ?, futhi Ungalokothi Ngibe Yizindlela ezinhle zokufunda kabanzi ngomunye nomunye futhi sixhumane ngokujule, ezingeni lomzwelo.

6. I-Netflix futhi snuggles

"I-Netflix ne-chill" akuyona into esiyidingayo njalo. Noma kunjalo, ukugoqana ngezingubo zokulala, imicamelo, nokudla okuthandayo nokubuka i-movie ndawonye kungaduduza ngokumangazayo, noma ngabe umlingani wakho elwa nokuqubuka.

7. Qhubeka nokuzidela

Ama-Adventures nohambo lunale ndlela enhle yokufaka ukusondelana, akukhathalekile ukuthi unobani. Ngiyakuthanda ukuhamba futhi ngivame ukwenza lokho ngedwa ngomsebenzi. Noma kunjalo, enye yezinto engizithanda kakhulu ukuhamba nomyeni wami. Kusivumela sobabili ukuthi sihlole izindawo ezintsha, sizihlole, futhi sisekelane kulokho kuhlola.

8. Zifundisaneni

Ukusondelana ngokomzimba akuhlali kumayelana nobulili kuphela. Kwesinye isikhathi ezinye zezikhathi ezisondelene kakhulu zibandakanya izinto ezinjengokugoqana, ukubhucungwa umzimba, ukudlala ngezinwele, ukuqabulana, nokuningi.

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