Ungawakha Kanjani Amakhono Wobuntu

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• Bayini
• Kungani zibalulekile
• Yenza (futhi ugcine) uhlelo
• Qondisa kabusha amakhono akho emvelo
• Zama ukuzindla
• Yenza isikhathi sokuzindla
• Gcina iphephabhuku
• Hlakulela ububele
• Zijwayeze ukukhuluma ngokwakho
• Thatha amathuba
• Cabanga ngemigomo yakho
• Khuluma nomelaphi

Bayini

Ngenkathi ungeke uchithe isikhathi esiningi ucabanga ngamakhono akho wokuzibandakanya, aqala ukudlala kahle njalo. Eqinisweni, mhlawumbe usebenzisa lawa makhono ezindaweni eziningi zempilo yakho.

Amakhono okusebenzelana nabantu (“ngaphakathi kuwe”) amakhono wangaphakathi nokuziphatha okusiza ukuphatha imizwa, ukubhekana nezinselelo, nokufunda imininingwane emisha.

Lawa makghono, ahlobene nokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo, afaka izinto ezinjengalezi:

• ukusiqhenya
• ukuqina
• ukuzikhuza
• ukuphikelela
• ukuvuleleka emibonweni emisha
• amandla okunqoba iziphazamiso
• ukuphathwa kwesikhathi

Kungani zibalulekile

Kungenzeka ukuthi uqaphele lawa makhono konke kunento yokwenza nekhono lakho lokuzilawula.

Abantu abanekhono lokuzibamba eliqinile bavame ukuba nesikhathi esilula:

• ukuphatha ukuziphatha nemizwa
• izinselelo zezulu
• ukusebenzela imigomo naphezu kokuphazamiseka

Ngokungafani namakhono okusebenzisana njengokulalela okusebenzayo, amakhono wokusebenzelana nabantu angaba nomthelela omncane ekuhlanganyeleni kwakho nabanye. Kodwa zisabalulekile.

Ungakhathazeki uma lawa makhono engezi kuwe ngokwemvelo. Kungenzeka ngokuphelele ukuhlakulela ukuhlakanipha okungaphakathi komuntu. Izeluleko eziyi-10 ezingezansi zingasiza.

Yenza (futhi ugcine) uhlelo

Ingabe uhlu lwezinto okufanele uzenze nokufanele ukwenze ziyakwehlula?

Mhlawumbe uvame ukukhohlwa ngokuzibophezela noma uvumele imisebenzi ongayithandi inqwabelane ngoba awukaze uzizwe uthanda ukuyenza.

Kunzima ukuqala lapho ungazi ukuthi uzoqala kuphi. Uqhubeka ubeke izinto eceleni, kepha lokho kukushiya unesikhathi esincane sokwenza yonke leyo misebenzi (engahle ingathandeki).

Uma ujwayele ukulahla umsebenzi lapho unokuningi okumele ukwenze, zama ukudala uhlelo olubandakanya ukuzibophezela emsebenzini nokuqokwa kanye nemisebenzi yomphakathi, imisebenzi yasendlini, kanye nokuzinakekela, njengokuzivocavoca umzimba nokuphumula.

Lokhu kungasiza ngoba:

• ukuba nezikhumbuzi zakho konke odinga ukukuqedela kungakusiza ukuthi ugcine umkhondo naphezu kweziphazamiso
• ukuhlela imisebenzi emnandi kukukhumbuza ukuthi kuningi ongakulindela kunaleyo ntaba yokuwashwa

Ngemuva kwamasonto ambalwa, ungahle ubone ushintsho endleleni osiphatha ngayo isikhathi sakho-ngaphandle kosizo lohlelo.

Qondisa kabusha amakhono akho emvelo

Bambalwa kakhulu abantu ngokwemvelo abalunge ngayo yonke into, futhi lokho kulungile! Kepha mhlawumbe unamandla athile athile, noma ngabe awakawaboni okwamanje.

Mhlawumbe unekhono lokubekezela nezingane ezincane noma osebenza nabo abangenasimilo, kodwa awuzibekezeleli kakhulu lapho wenza amaphutha.

Noma mhlawumbe ungumxazululi wezinkinga omuhle emsebenzini kodwa unenkinga yokubhekana nobunzima empilweni yakho yangasese.

Kuvamile ukuqondisa amakhono angokomzwelo ngaphandle ngezindlela ezizuzisa abanye futhi wehluleke ukusebenzisa lawo makhono kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho.

Lokhu kungenza kubonakale sengathi untula lawo makhono, lapho empeleni ukuthola kulula ukusiza abanye abantu. Kepha nawe ukufanele ukwesekwa okufanayo.

Qala ukuzivocavoca la mandla ngokunaka ongakwenzela omunye umuntu osesimweni sakho.

Uma ungakhuthaza umngani ukuthi anamathele kokuthile okuyinselele, isibonelo, uqondise lokho kuphikelela kuwe kunokuba udele.

Zama ukuzindla

Ukuzindla kungakusiza ufunde ngokwazi ngokwengqondo futhi wamukele okucabangayo nokuzizwa kwakho ngaphandle kokubanjwa yimicabango emibi noma ukuzinqumela.

Kuwumkhuba wokuzijwayeza abantu abaningi abafuna ukwandisa ukuqwashisa okungokomzwelo.

Izinzuzo zayo ezibalulekile zifaka:

• ukuphumula

Mhlawumbe le miphumela ayikusizi ngqo ukuthi uxhumane nawe futhi. Kepha zingabamba iqhaza ekuthuthukisweni kwempilo yomzimba nengokomzwelo.

Ukuzizwa unamandla ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba kungasiza ukukhulisa ukuzimisela kwakho kwangaphakathi, kwenze kube lula ukubhekana nezimo ezinzima.

Ukuzindla nakho kunezinye izinzuzo ezihambisana kakhulu nokwanda kokuzazi:

• Kungakusiza ukuthi ubhekise ukunaka kwakho ngempumelelo enkulu, engaholela kuzo zonke izingxenye zempilo.
• Ukucabanga okwengeziwe ukuzimisela kwakho ukubheka izindlela ezintsha zokuxazulula izinkinga.

Yenza isikhathi sokuzindla

Ukuzindla kungabonakala njengomsebenzi omuhle kakhulu. Futhi yebo, kunjalo can vala inhlabathi eningi.

Kepha kumbandakanya ukucabanga ngezenzo zakho, izinketho zakho, nezinto ezibalulekile empilweni yakho, kufaka phakathi izindinganiso zakho nabantu obathandayo.

Uma uziveza ngokwakho, ungahle unake ukuthi imiphi imikhuba ekusebenzela kahle nalapho uhlangabezana nezinselelo.

Mhlawumbe wena:

• gwema abangane esikhundleni sokuncika kubo lapho udonsa kanzima
• ukubambezela imisebenzi emsebenzini lapho ungayiqondi

Inqubo futhi ingasiza ukuqinisa ulwazi lwakho ngabantu nezinto ezibaluleke ngempela.

Lokhu kukunika ithuba lokuhlola izindlela ezintsha zokuzuza noma ukubambelela kulezo zinto.

Isibonelo, abangani bakho basho lukhulu kuwe, ngakho-ke unquma ukuthi udinga ukuthola indlela yokubhekana nayo engabandakanyi ukubavalela ngaphandle.

Gcina iphephabhuku

Ukushicilela kungakusiza ukuthi uxhumane nawe ezingeni elijulile lomzwelo ngokunikeza irekhodi elibonakalayo lemicabango nemizwa ongabheka kuyo emuva kwesikhathi.

Ijenali yakho irekhodi elibhaliwe le- wena. Inikeza isikhala esihle sokulandela umkhondo wezinjongo ezibalulekile, imizwa, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwansuku zonke.

Futhi kukusiza ukukhomba izinto ofuna ukuzilungisa, njengokuzethemba okuphansi noma ukungabi nogqozi.

Ukugcina incwadi kungakhombisa ukukhula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Uma ungabaza amakhono akho angaphakathi noma uzizwa sengathi awufezi okuningi, ukubheka emuva ezinyangeni noma eminyakeni edlule kungakukhombisa lapho amakhono akho akhanya khona.

Mhlawumbe ubuphethe kahle inkinga noma ubenamandla okubuyela emuva ekuhlukaneni okubuhlungu, ngokwesibonelo.

Hlakulela ububele

Ukwandisa ububele kwabanye kungakusiza ukuthi uhambisane ngokwengeziwe nesipiliyoni sakho somzwelo futhi kusize ukuzwela kwakho kukhule.

Ububele abuveli kalula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Imvamisa kunzima kakhulu ukuba nozwelo ngabantu abaphatha kabi abanye futhi abakhombise ukungabi nomusa, nokuziphatha okungenandaba.

Kodwa isisho esithi "Zibeke ezicathulweni zabo" ngaso sonke isikhathi siyindawo enhle yokuqala. Ukucabanga ngombono womunye umuntu kuvame ukuhlinzeka ukuqonda kokuthi kungani bengenza ngendlela ethile.

Ukwenza isenzo somusa okungahleliwe nakho kungasiza ukukhuthaza imizwa emihle kwabanye nakwakho.

Kuyasiza futhi ukukhumbula wonke umuntu wenza amaphutha.

Uma uzizwa unamahloni noma unecala ngento ozisola ngokuyenza, khumbula ukuthi sonke senza izinto esifisa sengathi singazisula. Impilo ayinikeli ngama-do-overs, kepha ungahlala uzama futhi.

Isikhathi sesibili (noma sesithathu), uzoba nolwazi oluningi nesipiliyoni, wandise amathuba akho okukuthola kahle.

Ububele namanye amakhono okuziqwashisa enza kube lula uku:

• bona lapho wenze iphutha
• yamukela ukuthi izimbangela eziyimbangela nobunzima bomuntu uqobo kuvame ukukwenza kube nzima ukwenza ukukhetha okuhle kuzo zonke izimo
• kholelwa ukuthi abantu abaningi (kufaka phakathi wena) bazama ukwenza okusemandleni abo ngalokhu abanakho

Zijwayeze ukukhuluma ngokwakho

Indlela okhuluma ngayo wena futhi ucabange ngayo ingaba nomthelela omkhulu kulwazi lwakho lwangaphakathi.

Izindlela zokucabanga ezingezinhle nokuzigxeka okunokhahlo kungabonakala kuyindlela enhle yokuzikhuthaza futhi uzibophezele emaphutheni, kepha kaningi kunalokho, lokhu kunomphumela ophambene.

Esikhundleni sokuzihlafuna ngokwengqondo lapho udidekile, zama ukubheka ukuthi uphumelele kuphi esikhundleni salokho. Yini ekulungele?

Kusengukuhlakanipha ukuphawula lapho ungaba negumbi lokukhula khona. Kepha ukuzincoma ngamandla nokufeza okuhle kungakusiza ukuthi usondele kula maphuzu abuthakathaka ngokuzethemba nokuzimisela okukhulu.

Ukwenza kanjalo kungasiza ukuthi kube lula ukuzama futhi emuva kwesikhathi.

Thatha amathuba

Ukuzama okuthile okusha kungasabisa. Imvamisa kubonakala kuphephe ukunamathela kulokho owaziyo ukuthi sekuvele kusebenza.

Kepha kwesinye isikhathi ingozi encane ingakhokha, noma ngabe:

• ukuzama ukusiza ubudlelwano bukhule
• ukuqala umsebenzi omusha
• ukuqoqa umdlalo wokuzilibazisa omusha

Ukulandela imizila efanayo kungakubuyisela emuva futhi kukuvikele ekuhloleni ezinye izindlela ezingagcwalisa izidingo zakho ngempumelelo enkulu.

Ukuzibeka engcupheni okuphela empumelelweni kungakhuphula ukuzethemba futhi kukushukumisele ukuthi uqhubeke uzama izinto ezintsha.

Kepha ukuthatha amathuba angasebenzi kungaholela enqubekweni.

Usakha izici ezinjengokuqina nokuphikelela, ngoba ukukwenza emuva ngezingqinamba kukubonisa ukuthi kungenzeka njalo ukuqhubeka nokuzama futhi.

Cabanga ngemigomo yakho

Izinjongo zisho lukhulu ngokuthi ungubani njengomuntu nokuthi yini ekuqhubayo. Basiza ekwaziseni izinketho zakho futhi balolonge impilo yakho.

Kubalulekile ukuba nezinhloso, zombili ngekusasa eliseduze futhi elikude kakhulu.

Ukuphumelela ngezinhloso ezincane, njengokuphula umkhuba ongawufuni noma ukufunda incwadi njalo ngenyanga, kungakunika amandla okwenza izinhloso ezibanzi ezidinga umzamo wesikhathi eside, njengokunciphisa i-carbon footprint yakho noma umuntu othembeke ngokuphelele.

Izinhloso ezingokoqobo zibheka ukulinganiselwa namandla akho.

Ukubona okufezile kwangaphambilini kuthuthukisa ukuzazi kwakho futhi kuqinisa isibindi sakho sokuthatha izinyathelo ezinkulu ngezinhloso zesikhathi esizayo.

Ukucabanga ngomuntu ofuna ukuba yikho kungakusiza ukuthi uqhubeke nokubeka izinhloso zokufeza lawo maphupho.

Khuluma nomelaphi

Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukunweba ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo ngokwakho, ikakhulukazi uma unombono ongacacile kuphela wezimpawu ofuna ukuziqinisa.

Ngosizo lodokotela, ungavama ukwandisa ukuzazi kwakho njengoba ubona izinselelo noma izindawo ezikhathazayo ezivela emicabangweni nasemikhubeni yakho.

Umelaphi angakusiza futhi ukuxhumanisa amaphethini athile ubuyele kumakhono wobuntu futhi unikeze ukuholwa ezindaweni ezifanele ukuqhubeka nokuhlolwa.

Isibonelo, uma ulwela ukuzixolela ngamaphutha owenzile, umelaphi angakusiza uhlobanise lokhu nokuzizwela kwangaphakathi futhi afundise amakhono okuthuthukisa ukuzenzela umusa.

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