UKristen Bell "Ubamba Ngekhanda" Lezi Zeluleko Zokuxhumana Okunempilo

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Nakuba abanye osaziwayo bebambeka emibangweni, uKristen Bell ugxile ekufundeni indlela yokuguqula ukungqubuzana kube ububele.

Ngasekuqaleni kwaleli sonto, iTheUVeronica Mars umlingisi uhlanganyele okuthunyelwe ku-Instagram okuvela kuprofesa wezocwaningo uBrené Brown mayelana "nolimi oluxokozelayo," olubhekisela kuma-ice-breakers naseziqalisweni zezingxoxo ezingasusa ingxoxo engakhululekile ukusuka endaweni yobutha kuya ekuthakazeleni. Okuthunyelwe kuhlanganisa namathiphu u-Bell athi uhlela ukuwabamba ngekhanda ASAP futhi, TBH, cishe uzowathola ewusizo ngempela futhi. (Kuhlobene: UKristen Bell Usitshela Ukuthi Kunjani Ngempela Ukuphila Ngokudangala Nokukhathazeka)

Encwadini yebhulogi yakamuva, uBrown—omsebenzi wakhe uhlola isibindi, ukuba sengozini, amahloni, nozwela—uchaze kabusha igama elithi “rumble” ngokuthile okuhle nokuncane.I-West Side Story. "Ukuqubuka yingxoxo, ingxoxo, noma umhlangano ochazwa ukuzibophezela ekuncikeni ekubeni sengozini, ukuhlala unelukuluku nokuphana, ukunamathela maphakathi nokuhlonza kwenkinga nokuxazulula inkinga, ukuthatha ikhefu bese ubuyela emuva lapho kudingeka, ukuze singesabi ukuba nezingxenye zethu, futhi, njengoba isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Harriet Lerner efundisa, ukulalela ngentshiseko efanayo nesifuna ukuzwakala ngayo,” echaza.

Ngamanye amazwi, "i-rumble" ayihlali iyingxabano engcolile, futhi ayidingi ukusondelana noma ukufakwa ngaphakathi njengokuhlasela. Kunalokho, ukuvungama kuyithuba lokufunda komunye umuntu futhi uvule ingqondo nenhliziyo yakho ukuze uqonde omunye umbono, ngisho noma ungavumelani nawo ngempela.

Ukuduma, ngokwencazelo kaBrown, kuyithuba lokufundisa nokufundiswa. Lokhu kuqala ngokuqonda ukuthi ukwesaba nesibindi akuhlangene; ezikhathini zokwesaba, njalo khetha isibindi, weluleka. (Related: I-9 Ukwesaba Ukuyeka Namuhla)

"Uma sidonswa phakathi kokwesaba kwethu nokubizelwa isibindi, sidinga ulimi olwabiwe, amakhono, amathuluzi, kanye nemikhuba yansuku zonke engasisekela kule ndumezulu," kubhala uBrown. "Khumbula, akukona ukwesaba okuphazamisa isibindi - izikhali. Yindlela esizivikela ngayo, sivale, futhi siqale ukumisa lapho sinovalo."

UBrown uphakamise "ukuduma" ngamagama nemishwana ekhethwe ngokucophelela, njengokuthi "Ngifuna ukwazi," "ngidlulise kulokhu," "ngitshele okwengeziwe," noma "ngitshele ukuthi kungani lokhu kungakulingani/kungakusebenzeli."

Ngokusondela engxoxweni ngale ndlela, ngokufuna ukwazi kunenzondo, ubeka ithoni kuwo wonke umuntu othintekayo, kusho uVinay Saranga, MD, udokotela wezifo zengqondo nomsunguli weSaranga Comprehensive Psychiatry.

"Uma umuntu okhuluma naye ebona iphimbo lakho elinolaka nolimi lomzimba, kuvele kumenze angakwamukeli lokho ozokusho ngoba kuthumela umyalezo wokuthi usevele uzithathele iziphetho ngaphandle kokufaka isandla," kusho uSaranga. Umumo. Ngenxa yalokho, omunye umuntu mancane amathuba okuthi akulalele okushoyo ngoba umatasa kakhulu ezilungiselela ukuzivikela. Ngokusebenzisa ulimi olumbumbulu, umuntu okhuluma naye "kungenzeka asebenze nawe kunokumelana nawe," kwengeza uSaranga.

Esinye isibonelo sebinzana elimbumbulu sithi: "Sobabili siyingxenye yenkinga futhi siyingxenye yesisombululo," kusho uMichael Alcee, Ph.D., isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emtholampilo esizinze eTarrytown, eNew York. (Okuhlobene: Izinkinga Zokuxhumana Ezivamile Eziyisi-8 Ebudlelwaneni)

"[Ibinzana] 'uma ungeyona ingxenye yesixazululo, uyingxenye yenkinga' yisimo sokuhlukanisa futhi ngobuhlakani, futhi ayithembi inqubo yokungazi nokuthola ndawonye. Kuthatha uzwela olukhulu, ukubekezela, futhi ngithande ukwenza okuthile okunezinhlangothi ezintathu nokusha kulezi zinhlobo zezingxoxo,” kusho u-Alcee Umumo.

Ulimi oluthuthukisayo lungaqala ingxoxo, kepha futhi lungaqeda ingxoxo okungenzeka ukuthi yaqala ngolaka enombolweni elula, ethe xaxa. Ngokuthatha ikhefu, uphinde usebenze ingxoxo ngendlela edumayo, futhi uzivumele ukuthi uhlole le ndaba ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene, ungamangala ukuthola ukuthi wena nalowo okhuluma naye ningafunda komunye nomunye.

“Ilukuluku linikeza izinga lenhlonipho nokulingana kumuntu okungenzeka ungavumelani naye futhi ligcina livuleleke ithuba lokufunda nokwenza okuthile okusha ndawonye,” kusho u-Alcee. Umumo. "Ikwenza lokhu ngokufakaza kuqala, bese iphendula okwesibili." (Okuhlobene: Ukuzivocavoca Okuphefumulayo Oku-3 Ukubhekana Nokucindezeleka)

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