Engifuna Abantu Bazi Ngemibhikisho Njengomnikazi Wamabhizinisi Amnyama Owacekelwa Phansi

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• Ukwenza Ukuthula Nalokhu Okwenzekile
• Ukubhekana ne-Aftermath
• Ngibheke Phambili
• Buyekeza kwe-

Bengingumuntu othanda ukuqina impilo yami yonke, kepha amaPilates abelokhu engithanda njalo. Ngithathe amakilasi angenakubalwa ezitudiyo zokuzivocavoca ezimbalwa kulo lonke elase-Los Angeles kodwa ngathola ukuthi kunezinto eziningi umphakathi we-Pilates ongathuthukisa kuzo. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, ngangizwa sengathi kunokuningi ukuhlanjalazwa komzimba okwenzekayo, futhi indawo ezungezile yayingamukeleki futhi ingahlanganisi abantu ngendlela okufanele ibe ngayo. Ngangazi ukuthi ama-Pilates anokuthile angakunikeza abesifazane bazo zonke izinhlobo, osayizi, nezinhlanga ezahlukahlukene. Kuvele kwadingeka ukuze kufinyeleleke kalula futhi kungeneke kalula.

Ngakho-ke, kanye nomngani wami kanye nomqeqeshi wePilates u-Andrea Speir, ngithathe isinqumo sokuvula isitudiyo esisha se-Pilates — lapho wonke umuntu ezwa sengathi ungowakhe. Futhi ngo-2016, kwaqalwa ama-Speir Pilates. Eminyakeni emine edlule, u-Speir Pilates ukhule waba ngesinye sezitudiyo zikaNdunankulu zePilates e-L.A. (Okuhlobene: Izinto Ezi-7 Ongazazi Ngama-Pilates)

Kodwa ngemuva kwemibhikisho kanye nemibhikisho eyenzeka ezweni lonke, indawo esasihlala kuyo estudiyo eSanta Monica yaphangwa yacekelwa phansi. NgoLwesihlanu ngemuva kokubulawa kukaGeorge Floyd, mina no-Andrea sithole i-video komunye womakhelwane besitudiyo ekhombisa ukuthi iwindi lethu liphuke kanjani nokuthi zonke izinto esizidayisayo zebiwe. Ngenhlanhla, abaguquli bethu bama-Pilates (imishini emikhulu, futhi ebiza kakhulu yama-Pilates asetshenziswa emakilasini asuselwa emishinini) basindisiwe, kepha isimo besisibi kakhulu.

Ukwenza Ukuthula Nalokhu Okwenzekile

Akunandaba ukuthi ungubani noma ukuthi izimo zinjani, lapho kugqekezwa ibhizinisi lakho noma ikhaya lakho ngesikhathi semibhikisho, imibuthano, noma okunjalo, uzizwa wephuliwe. Ngangingehlukile. Kodwa njengowesifazane oMnyama nomama wabafana abathathu, ngazithola ngisempambana-ndlela. Impela, ngiwuzwe lo mqondo wokungabi nabulungisa. Lonke igazi, umjuluko, nezinyembezi okudala ukudala nokugcina ibhizinisi lethu, manje sekwenzekani? Kungani thina? Kepha ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngangiqonda-ngangaphansiame—ubuhlungu nokukhungatheka okwaholela kulezi zenzo zobudlova. Nami nganginenhliziyo (futhi) ngidabukile ngokwenzeka kuFloyd futhi, uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, ngikhathele yonke iminyaka yokungabi nabulungisa nokucwaswa abantu bami ababhekene nakho. (Okuhlobene: Ubandlululo Luyithinta Kanjani Impilo Yakho Yengqondo)

Ukukhathala, intukuthelo, nesifiso esesidonse isikhathi eside futhi esifanele ukuzwakala kungokoqobo — futhi, ngeshwa, le mizwa okwabiwe ngayo ayintsha. Kungenxa yalokhu, ukuthi ngakwazi ukuqhubekela phambili ngokushesha ekucabangeni ukuthi "kungani thina?" ukucabanga ngokuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka kwasekuqaleni. Umlando ukufakazele ukuthi kuncane kakhulu okwenzekayo kuleli ngaphandle kwenhlanganisela yemibhikisho enokuthula kanye nezinxushunxushu zombango. Ngokombono wami, yilokho okubangela ushintsho. Isitudiyo sethu sivele sabanjwa phakathi.

Lapho sengikwazile ukwenza umqondo ngalesi simo, ngashayela u-Andrea ucingo ngokushesha. Ngangazi ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ukuthathele mathupha okwenzeka esiteshini sethu. Ocingweni, waveza indlela ayephatheke kabi ngayo ngokuqolwa futhi engaqondi ukuthi kungani bezosikhomba kanye nesitudiyo sethu. Ngamtshela ukuthi nami ngiphatheke kabi, kodwa ngikholelwa ukuthi imibhikisho, ukuphanga, nokuqondiswa kwesitudiyo sethu konke bekuhlangene.

Ngichaze ukuthi imibhikisho ihlelwe ngamabomu ukuthi yenzeke ezindaweni lapho izishoshovu zibona sengathi ukuqwashisa kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngokufanayo, ukucekelwa phansi kwempahla ngesikhathi semibhikisho kuvame ukubhekiswa kubantu nasemiphakathini engabacindezeli kanye / noma abanelungelo elanele lokukwazi ukuziba izingqinamba ezikhona — kulokhu, konke okuphathelene neBlack Lives Matter (BLM). Yize izinhloso zabo zingahlukahluka, abaphangi, i-IMO, bavame ukuzama ukugxambukela kongxiwankulu, amaphoyisa, namanye amandla abawabona eqhubeka nokucwasa.

Ngachaza nokuthi izinto ezibonakalayo, njengengilazi ephukile kuso sonke isitudiyo nempahla eyebiwe kungashintshwa. Impilo kaFloyd, nokho, ayikwazi. Udaba lujule kakhulu kunesenzo esilula sokubhujiswa — futhi asikwazi ukuvumela ukulimala kwempahla kususwe ekubalulekeni kwembangela. U-Andrea washesha ukufika ekhasini elifanayo, wabona futhi wavuma ukuthi kufanele sigxile kukho ngani udlame lwagqugquzelwa, hhayi nje ukucekelwa phansi kwempahla uqobo.

Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezalandela, mina no-Andrea saba nezingxoxo eziningi ezinengqondo futhi, kwesinye isikhathi, saba nezingxoxo ezinzima ngalokho okuholele kulemibhikisho yezwe lonke. Sixoxile ngokuthi intukuthelo nokukhungatheka okusobala kwakungahlangani nje nesihluku samaphoyisa kanye nokubulawa kuka-Floyd, uBreonna Taylor, u-Ahmaud Arbery, nabanye abaningi. Kwakuyisiqalo sempi yokulwa nobandlululo olwaluhluphe umphakathi wase-U.S. Iminyaka — isikhathi eside, empeleni, ukuthi selugxilile. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi ilukwe ngendlela engokwemvelo, kahle, yonke into, cishe akunakwenzeka ngomuntu othile emphakathini wabaNsundu ukuyigwema. Ngisho nami, umnikazi webhizinisi nesikhulu emnyangweni wezomthetho kwaNetflix, kufanele ngihlale ngilungele izinselelo engingabhekana nazo ngenxa yombala wesikhumba sami. (Okuhlobene: Indlela Ubuhlanga Obuthinta Ngayo Impilo Yakho Yengqondo)

Ukubhekana ne-Aftermath

Lapho mina no-Andrea sifika esiteshini sethu saseSanta Monica sizolungisa umonakalo ngakusasa ekuseni, sathola abantu abambalwa esevele ehlanza ingilazi ephihliziwe eceleni komgwaqo. Futhi ngemuva nje kokuphuma kwezwi, saqala ukuthola ukuthululwa kwezingcingo nama-imeyili avela kumakhasimende ethu, omakhelwane, nabangane bebuza ukuthi bangasisiza kanjani ukubuyisela isitudiyo esimweni saso sokuqala.

Simangele futhi sakujabulela kakhulu lokhu kunikezwa, kodwa mina no-Andrea sasazi ukuthi sasingeke silwamukele lolu sizo. Besazi ukuthi sizothola indlela yokubuyisela ibhizinisi lethu ezinyaweni, kepha ukuxhasa imbangela ebesikhona bekubaluleke kakhulu. Ngakho-ke esikhundleni salokho, saqala ukuqondisa kabusha abantu ukuthi banikele, babambe iqhaza, futhi basekele izimbangela ezihlobene nokunyakaza kwe-BLM. Ngokwenza kanjalo, besifuna abasekeli bethu kanye nozakwethu abanikazi bamabhizinisi baqonde ukuthi umonakalo obonakalayo empahleni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyini injongo, akukhona okubalulekile esithombeni esikhulu. (Okuhlobene: "Ukukhuluma Ngomjaho" Kuyithuluzi Elisha Le-inthanethi elivela ku-National Museum of African American History-Nansi Indlela Yokusebenzisa)

Lapho ngibuyela ekhaya ngemva kokuhlanza, indodana yami eneminyaka engu-3 ubudala yangibuza ukuthi bengikuphi; Ngamtshela ukuthi ngangikhuculula ingilazi emsebenzini. Lapho ebuza ukuthi “kungani,” futhi ngichaza ukuthi othile wayephulile, ngokushesha wacabanga ukuthi lowo “muntu” wayengumuntu omubi. Ngamtshela ukuthi ayikho indlela yokutshela ukuthi umuntu noma abantu abenze lokhu "babi." Ngemuva kwakho konke, bengingazi ngempela ukuthi ngubani odale lo monakalo. Engangikwazi, nokho, ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi babekhungathekile — futhi ngesizathu esihle.

Akumangazi ukuthi ukuphanga nokucekela phansi izinto zakamuva kubeke osomabhizinisi engcupheni. Bayazi ukuthi uma kunombhikisho eduze, kungenzeka ukuthi ibhizinisi labo likhonjwe. Njengesixwayiso esengeziwe, abanye abanikazi bezitolo baye baze bagibela ezitolo zabo futhi bakhipha izinto ezibalulekile. Yize bengenaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ibhizinisi labo lizoshayeka, uvalo lusekhona. (Okuhlobene: Amathuluzi Okukusiza Udalule Ukuchema Okusobala—Futhi, Ukuthi Kusho Ukuthini Empeleni)

Uma ibhizinisi lami beliyisibambiso nje ekulweni nokulingana? Ngiyaphila ngalokho.

Liz Polk

Ngijwayele lokhu kwesaba. Ngisakhula, ngangikuzwa njalo lapho umfowethu noma ubaba bephuma endlini. Yilolo valo olungena emiqondweni yomama abaNsundu lapho izingane zabo ziphuma ngomnyango. Akukhathalekile ukuthi baya esikoleni noma baya emsebenzini noma bazothenga iphakethe lama-Skittles—kunethuba lokuthi bangase bangaphinde babuye.

Njengowesifazane oMnyama futhi ngingumnikazi webhizinisi, ngiyayiqonda yomibili le mibono, futhi ngikholelwa ukuthi uvalo lokulahlekelwa umuntu omthandayo ludlulisa uvalo lokulahlekelwa okuthile okubalulekile. Ngakho-ke uma ibhizinisi lami laliyisibambiso nje ekulweleni ukulingana? Ngilungile ngalokho.

Ngibheke Phambili

Njengoba siya ekuvuleleni izindawo zethu zombili ze-Speir Pilates (zombili zavalwa ekuqaleni ngenxa ye-COVID-19), sethemba ukuthi sizogxila ekuvuseleleni ezenzweni zethu, ikakhulukazi njengebhizinisi lezempilo labamnyama, emphakathini jikelele. Sifuna ukuqhubeka nokufunda ngenkuthalo futhi siguqule indlela thina njengebhizinisi—kanye nabantu ngabanye—singabamba ngayo iqhaza ekushintsheni kwangempela kwesakhiwo edolobheni lethu nasezweni lethu.

Esikhathini esedlule, besinikeza ukuqeqeshwa kwamahhala kwe-Pilates kubantu abavela emiphakathini engamelwe kahle ukuze sikwazi ukusebenzela ukwahlukanisa ama-Pilates. Nakuba laba bantu ngokuvamile bevela ngemuva kokudansa noma okufanayo, umgomo wethu ukuqhubekela phambili uwukukhulisa lesi sinyathelo ngokusebenzisa abaxhasi kanye nokusebenzisana okungase kube khona nezinkampani zokudansa. Ngale ndlela singakwazi (ngethemba!) Ukusebenzela abantu abaningi futhi senze uhlelo lutholakale kalula. Sisebenza futhi ekutholeni izindlela esingasekela ngazo imizamo ye-BLM nsuku zonke ukuze sibambe iqhaza elibonakalayo ekulweleni le njongo. (Okuhlobene: Isicelo Sezicathulo Zebhalethi Ezibandakanya Umbala Wesikhumba Siqoqa Amakhulu Ezinkulungwane Zamasiginesha)

Kosomabhizinisi engisebenza nabo ababheke ukwenza okufanayo, yazi ukuthi yonke into encane ibalulekile. Kwesinye isikhathi umbono wokuthi "ushintsho lwesakhiwo" kanye "nokuqeda ukucwasana ngokohlelo", ungazizwa ungenakunqotshwa. Kuzwakala sengathi ngeke ukubone empilweni yakho. Kepha noma yini oyenzayo, enkulu noma encane, inomthelela enkingeni. (Okuhlobene: Ababhukudi Beqembu lase-USA Bahamba Phambili Ekuqeqesheni, I-Q&As, Nokunye Okuningi Ukuhlomula Indaba Yokuphila Kwabamnyama)

Izenzo ezilula njengokufaka iminikelo nokubala kokuzithandela. Ngezinga elikhulu, ungaqaphela kakhulu abantu okhetha ukubaqasha. Ungasebenzela ukudala indawo yokusebenza ebandakanya wonke umuntu noma uqiniseke ukuthi iqembu labantu abahlukahlukene likwazi ukufinyelela ibhizinisi lakho kanye neminikelo. Izwi lawo wonke umuntu lifanelwe ukuzwakala. Futhi uma singavumeli isikhala salokho, ushintsho lungeke lwenzeke.

Ngandlela thile, lesi sikhathi eside sokuvala ngenxa yobhadane lwe-coronavirus (i-COVID-19) sihlangene namandla asanda kuzungeza imibhikisho ye-BLM, sinikeze bonke abanikazi bamabhizinisi indawo yokuvula kabusha ngokugxila kabusha ezenzweni zethu njengomphakathi. Ukuphela kokufanele ukwenze ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala.

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