Ukukhubazeka Kwami Kungifundise Ukuthi Umhlaba Uyatholakala Ngokuvamile

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• Eminyakeni emithathu eyedlule, ngangizobona isakhiwo sitholakala kalula. Ngemuva kwalokho umbono wami washintsha ngomzimba wami.
• Ngendlela yokukhuluma, ukuthola ukukhubazeka kwami ​​kunginike lezi 'zibuko.' Okubukeka njengendawo engifinyeleleka kimi ngenkathi nginamandla manje sekuvelele ngokufinyela njengokungenakufinyeleleka.
• Bese kuba nenkinga yokuhlala. Ukwenza nje isikhala lapho isihlalo sabakhubazekile noma enye idivayisi yokuhamba ilingana akwanele.
• Noma ngabe isakhiwo noma indawo itholakala kalula, kuyasiza kuphela uma lawo mathuluzi egcinwa.
• Uma uqinile futhi ufunda lokhu, ngifuna ukuthi ubheke eduze kulezi zikhala. Ngisho nalokho okubonakala 'kufinyeleleka' kaningi akunjalo. Futhi uma kungenjalo? Khulumela phezulu.

Ngingene esakhiweni, ngamehlo amnyama, ngilungele ukuhamba ngenqubo efanayo yasekuseni ebengiyenza nsuku zonke izinyanga. Lapho ngiphakamisa isandla sami ngememori yemisipha ukucindezela inkinobho “phezulu”, okuthile okusha kwangidonsela amehlo.

Ngigqolozele uphawu oluthi “out of order” olunamathiselwe kukheshi esikhungweni engisithandayo se-rec. Eminyakeni emithathu eyedlule, bengingeke nginake kakhulu futhi ngivele nginyuse isitebhisi esisodwa eceleni kwaso, ngikubheka njengebhonasi ye-cardio.

Kepha kulokhu, bekusho ukuthi ngidinga ukushintsha izinhlelo zami zosuku.

Inqubo yami yansuku zonke yokushaya ichibi (okuwukuphela kwendawo engingahamba ngokukhululeka kuyo) kabili ngosuku nokubhala endaweni ethule engenhla kwaphazamiseka ukungakwazi kwami ​​ukudonsa i-walker, isikhwama se-laptop, nomzimba okhubazekile ukhuphuka izitebhisi.

Lokho ebengikubheka njengokuphazamisayo manje bekungumgoqo, kungikhipha endaweni ebengivame ukufinyelela kuyo ngaphambili.

Eminyakeni emithathu eyedlule, ngangizobona isakhiwo sitholakala kalula. Ngemuva kwalokho umbono wami washintsha ngomzimba wami.

Ngangineminyaka engama-30 ubudala lapho isimo somgogodla esiwohlokayo ekugcineni singiphakamisa kusukela kwesinye isikhathi ngisezinhlungwini ngiye esimweni sokukhubazeka.

Ngenkathi ngangivame ukuzulazula edolobheni amahora amaningi ngesikhathi, ngithatha umzimba wami okwazi, ngangiqala ukuba nenkinga yokuhamba ibanga elide.

Ngemuva kwesikhashana sezinyanga ezimbalwa, ngilahlekelwe yikhono lokuhamba ngiye epaki, ngibe sengemuva kwendlu, ngibe sengizungeza indlu yami, kuze kube isenzo sokuma ngedwa isikhathi esingaphezu komzuzu silethe ubuhlungu obungabekezeleleki.

Ngayilwa nayo ekuqaleni. Ngabona ongoti futhi nginezivivinyo zonke. Ekugcineni kwadingeka ukuthi ngamukele ukuthi ngeke ngiphinde ngibe namandla.

Ngagwinya ukuziqhenya kwami, nokwesaba kwami ​​ukuthi isimo sami sizohlala unomphela, futhi ngathola imvume yokupaka abakhubazekile kanye nokuhamba ngezinyawo okungivumela ukuthi ngihambe imizuzu eminingana ngesikhathi ngaphambi kokuba ngidinge ukuphumula.

Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nangokusesha okuningi komphefumulo, ngaqala ukwamukela ubunikazi bami obusha bokukhubazeka.

Umhlaba wonke, ngifunde ngokushesha, awufundanga.

Kukhona ibhayisikobho esabekayo yama-80s ebizwa ngokuthi “Bayaphila,” lapho izibuko ezikhethekile zinikeza umlingiswa kaRoddy Piper uNada amandla okubona lokho abanye abangakwazi.

Emhlabeni wonke, yonke into ibukeka injalo, kepha ngalezi zibuko, uNada angabona umbhalo “wangempela” kwizimpawu nakwezinye izinto ezingalungile ezweni elibukeka livamile futhi lamukelekile kwabaningi.

Ngendlela yokukhuluma, ukuthola ukukhubazeka kwami ​​kunginike lezi 'zibuko.' Okubukeka njengendawo engifinyeleleka kimi ngenkathi nginamandla manje sekuvelele ngokufinyela njengokungenakufinyeleleka.

Angikhulumi nje ngezindawo ezingenzanga imizamo yokusebenzisa amathuluzi afinyelelekayo kwimvelo yazo (lokho kuyisihloko sengxoxo enye), kepha izindawo ezibonakala zifinyeleleka - {textend} ngaphandle kokuthi udinga ukufinyelela.

Ngangivame ukubona uphawu lwabakhubazekile bese ngicabanga ukuthi indawo yenzelwe abantu abakhubazekile. Ngicabange ukuthi omunye umcabango ubufakwe ekutheni abantu abakhubazekile bazosisebenzisa kanjani isikhala, hhayi nje ukufaka irempu noma umnyango wamandla bese sikubiza ukuthi kufinyeleleke.

Manje, ngibona amarampu asemqanseni kakhulu ukusebenzisa kahle isihlalo sabakhubazekile. Ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ngisebenzisa isihamba sami enkundleni yaseshashalazini engiyithandayo futhi ngilwela ukusukuma ngixambeke kummango, ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele kube nzima kanjani ukulawula isihlalo esinamasondo esihambisanayo kulo mthambeka. Mhlawumbe yingakho ngingakaze ngibone umuntu osebenzisa isihlalo esinamasondo kule ndawo.

Futhi, kunamarampu anama-curbs ezansi, ehlula yonke injongo yawo. Nginelungelo lokuthi ngibe umakhalekhukhwini ngokwanele ukuphakamisela umuntu engihamba naye phezu kwesigaxa, kepha hhayi wonke umuntu okhubazekile onale khono.

Ngezinye izikhathi ukufinyeleleka kuphela ngokufinyelela esakhiweni.

"Ngingangena ngaphakathi kuleli bhilidi, kodwa ithoyilethi liphansi noma phansi," kusho umbhali uClouds Haberberg mayelana nalolu daba. "Noma ngingangena ngaphakathi esakhiweni, kodwa iphaseji alibanzi ngokwanele ukuthi isihlalo esinamasondo esijwayelekile sikwazi ukuzihambela."

Izindlu zangasese ezifinyelelekayo zingakhohlisa ikakhulukazi. I-walker yami ingena ngaphakathi ezindlini zokuphumula eziningi eziqokiwe. Kepha empeleni ukungena esitebeleni kungenye indaba ngokuphelele.

Nginamandla okumelana nezikhathi ngezikhathi ezithile, okusho ukuthi ngiyakwazi ukuvula umnyango ngesandla sami ngenkathi ngixosha umuntu engihamba naye esitebeleni nomunye. Lapho ngiphuma, ngikwazi ukukhama umzimba wami omile ngiphume emnyango ukuze ngiphume nohambo lwami.

Abantu abaningi abanalo leli zinga lokuhamba kanye / noma badinga usizo kumnakekeli okufanele angene futhi aphume esitebeleni.

“Kwesinye isikhathi bavele baphonse umgwaqo ohambisana ne-ADA bese bewubiza ngosuku, kodwa akakwazi ukungena lapho noma ukuhambahamba ngokunethezeka,” kusho u-Aimee Christian, ondodakazi yakhe isebenzisa isihlalo esinamasondo.

“Futhi, umnyango wetafula elifinyelelekayo uvame ukuba nenkinga ngoba azikho izinkinobho,” kusho yena. "Uma ivuleka ngaphandle, kunzima ukuthi ingene, futhi uma ivuleka ngaphakathi, cishe akunakwenzeka ukuthi iphume."

U-Aimee uphinde waveza ukuthi imvamisa inkinobho yamandla yomnyango wayo yonke indlu yangasese ingaphandle kuphela. Okusho ukuthi labo abayidingayo bangangena ngokuzimela - {textend} kepha kufanele balinde usizo ukuze baphume, bababambe kahle endlini yangasese.

Bese kuba nenkinga yokuhlala. Ukwenza nje isikhala lapho isihlalo sabakhubazekile noma enye idivayisi yokuhamba ilingana akwanele.

“Zombili izindawo‘ zokuhlala izihlalo ezinamasondo ’zazingemuva kwabantu ababemi,” kusho umlobi uCharis Hill ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kwakamuva emakhonsathini amabili.

"Bengingaboni lutho ngaphandle kwezidunu nomhlane, futhi ibingekho indlela ephephile yokuthi ngiphume esixukwini uma ngidinga ukusebenzisa indlu yangasese, ngoba bekunabantu abebegcwele nxazonke kimi," kusho uCharis.

UCharis ubuye wabhekana nezinkinga zokubonakala emashini yabesifazane bendawo, lapho indawo efinyeleleka ngokukhubazeka ibingenaso umbono ocacile wesigaba kanye notolika, obesemuva kwezipikha.

Utolika uvinjelwe ngesikhathi sokusakazwa bukhoma okuningi - {textend} elinye icala lokunikeza inkohliso yezinyathelo zokungeneka ngaphandle kokusebenza ngokoqobo.

E-Sacramento Pride, uCharis kwakudingeka athembe abantu angabazi ukuthi bazobakhokhela futhi abanikeze ubhiya wabo, ngoba itende likabhiya laliphezulu. Babhekane nesithiyo esifanayo nesiteshi sosizo sokuqala.

Ekhonsathini emcimbini wepaki, bekukhona i-port-a-potty ebifinyeleleka - {textend} kepha ibisendaweni yotshani futhi ifakwe kwi-engeli yokuthi uCharis ucishe wawela odongeni lwangemuva ngesihlalo sabo esinamasondo.

Kwesinye isikhathi ukuthola noma yikuphi ukuhlala phansi kuyinkinga. Encwadini yakhe ethi “The Pretty One,” uKeah Brown ubhala incwadi yothando eya ezihlalweni empilweni yakhe. Ngihlobene nalokhu kakhulu; Nginothando olujulile ngalabo abakimi.

Kumuntu ohamba ngama-ambulensi kepha enokulinganiselwa kokuhamba, ukubona isihlalo kungafana ne-oasis ehlane.

Noma ngizihambela, angikwazi ukuma noma ukuhamba isikhathi eside, okungenza kube buhlungu ukuma kulayini abade noma ukuhamba ezindaweni ezingenamachashazi ukuma nokuhlala.

Lapho lokhu kwenzeka ngenkathi ngisehhovisi ukuthola imvume yami yokupaka abakhubazekile!

Noma ngabe isakhiwo noma indawo itholakala kalula, kuyasiza kuphela uma lawo mathuluzi egcinwa.

Izikhathi eziningi ngicindezele inkinobho yeminyango yamandla futhi angenzanga lutho. Iminyango yamandla engenamandla ayinakufinyeleleka njengeminyango yezandla - {textend} futhi kwesinye isikhathi inzima!

Kungokufanayo nangamakheshi. Sekuvele kungukuphazamiseka kwabantu abakhubazekile ukuthi bafune ikheshi elijwayele ukutholakala ngale kwalapho abazama ukuya khona.

Ukuthola ukuthi ikheshi alikho esimeni akuyona nje inkinga; kwenza noma yini engenhla kwesitezi esingaphansi ingangeneki.

Kwakungicasula ukuthola indawo entsha engizosebenzela kuyo isikhungo se-rec. Kepha ukube bekuyihhovisi likadokotela wami noma indawo engisebenza kuyo, bekuzoba nomthelela omkhulu.

Angilindeli ukuthi izinto ezinjengezicabha zamandla namakheshi zilungiswe ngokushesha. Kepha lokhu kudinga ukucatshangelwa lapho kwakhiwa isakhiwo. Uma unekheshi elilodwa kuphela, abantu abakhubazekile bazongena kanjani kwamanye amafulethi lapho ephukile? Inkampani izoyilungisa ngokushesha okungakanani? Usuku olulodwa? Isonto elilodwa?

Lezi ngezinye nje zezinto ebengicabanga ukuthi zingafinyeleleka ngaphambi kokuba ngikhubazeke futhi ngincike kuzo.

Ngingachitha amanye amagama ayinkulungwane ngixoxa kabanzi: izindawo zokupaka ezikhubazekile ezingashiyi indawo yosizo lokuhamba, izindunduma ezingenazibambo, izikhala ezilingana nesihlalo sabakhubazekile kodwa ezingashiyi isikhala esanele sokuthi zijike. Uhlu luyaqhubeka.

Futhi ngigxile kakhulu ekukhubazekeni kokuhamba lapha. Angikaze ngithinte nezindlela lapho izindawo "ezifinyeleleka" zingafinyeleleki kubantu abanezinhlobo ezahlukene zokukhubazeka.

Uma uqinile futhi ufunda lokhu, ngifuna ukuthi ubheke eduze kulezi zikhala. Ngisho nalokho okubonakala 'kufinyeleleka' kaningi akunjalo. Futhi uma kungenjalo? Khulumela phezulu.

Uma ungumnikazi webhizinisi noma unesikhala esamukela umphakathi, ngiyanxusa ukuthi weqe ngale kokumane uhlangabezane nezimfuneko zokungeneka ezingenalutho. Cabanga ukuqasha umxhumanisi wokukhubazeka ukuze uhlole isikhala sakho sokutholakala kwangempela kwempilo.

Khuluma nabantu abakhubazeke empeleni, hhayi ukumane wakhe abakhi, mayelana nokuthi la mathuluzi ayasebenziseka yini noma cha. Sebenzisa izinyathelo ezingasetshenziswa.

Lapho isikhala sakho sesifinyeleleka ngokweqiniso, sigcine sinjalo ngokulungiswa okufanele.

Abantu abakhubazekile bafanelwe ukufinyelela okufanayo ezindaweni ezinabantu abanamandla. Sifuna ukukujoyina. Futhi sethembe, ufuna nathi lapho, futhi. Sikulethela okuningi etafuleni.

Ngokulungiswa okubukeka kukuncane njengamakhefu okunqandwa kwezihlalo nezihlalo ezibekwe ngezikhathi ezithile, ungenza umehluko omkhulu kubantu abakhubazekile.

Khumbula ukuthi noma yikuphi lapho kutholakala khona abantu abakhubazekile kuyatholakala, futhi kaningi kungcono nangabantu abanamandla.

Okufanayo, nokho, akulona iqiniso emuva. Inkambo yesenzo icacile.

UHeather M. Jones ungumbhali eToronto. Ubhala ngobuzali, ukukhubazeka, isimo somzimba, impilo yengqondo, nobulungiswa kwezenhlalo. Umsebenzi wakhe omningi ungatholakala kuye iwebhusayithi.