Ukuthatha kukababa omusha: Ucansi okokuqala ngqa ngemuva kwengane

-Delile

• 1. Ungafaki ukubala isikhathi ekhalendeni
• 2. Mkhumbuze ukuthi muhle
• 3. Uma isikhathi sokuhamba, hamba nge-gingerly
• 4. Hlanganisa
• 5.Xhumana, xhumana, xhumana

Ithiphu yepro: Ungabhangi ngokuvunyelwa ngudokotela emasontweni ayisithupha ukuthola ilambu eliluhlaza. Khuluma nomuntu osanda kubeletha.

Ngaphambi kokuba ngibe ubaba, ukuya ocansini nomkami kwakuhlala kudokodo. Kepha kwathi nje lapho indodana yethu ifika, ukusondelana kwasheshe kwehlela ezansi kohlu lwethu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe. Besibeka kuqala izinguquko zamanabukeni nxazonke, sihlanganisa amagiya ezingane, futhi sithatha izithombe ezingami zengane yethu kuhlu oluningi olungapheli lwama-onesies amahle.

Ekuqaleni, ngangingenaso isikhathi noma amandla ngisho nokucabanga ngokuya ocansini. Kepha. Ngingumuntu kuphela, futhi ngokushesha isifiso sabuya nempindiselo.

Kwakunombuzo owodwa omkhulu owawusengqondweni yami: Ingabe umkami wayelungile, naye? Wayegxile kakhulu enganeni yethu, ekhathele ukuba ngumama, futhi eza nazo zonke izinguquko ngomzimba wakhe.

Angikaze ngazi ukuthi kunini (noma uma) kufanele ukuthi, "Masisebenzise ngokunenzuzo isikhathi sokulala somntwana ngokusebenzela ezinye thina isikhathi. ” Bengingafuni ukubonakala ngicindezela noma ngingabi nozwelo ngezidingo zakhe ezinkulu, kepha bengimane nje ngithembeke kimi: bengifuna ukuqala ukuya ocansini futhi.

Futhi izindaba ezinhle zabazali abasha abangazange baye ocansini emasontweni: Kuzokwenzeka. Kepha ukuphinda usondeze ukusondelana ngemuva kokwamukela ingane empilweni yakho kuzothatha isikhathi nesineke. Mhlawumbe uzokwenza amaphutha athile endleleni - futhi lokho kulungile.

Ngomzamo wokukunqanda okungenani amaphutha ambalwa, ngabelana ngamathiphu amahlanu asize mina nomkami ukuthi sibuyele ekamelweni (noma kusofa uma ingane yakho ilele egumbini lakho).

1. Ungafaki ukubala isikhathi ekhalendeni

Isincomo esijwayelekile esivela kubahlinzeki bezokunakekelwa kwempilo ukulinda amasonto ama-4 kuye kwayi-6 ngaphambi kokuthi uqale futhi ukuya ocansini. Kepha leyo imihlahlandlela nje ejwayelekile esekwe ekululameni komzimba womlingani wakho.

Noma umlingani wakho enikezwa ukuqhubeka kudokotela wakhe, naye kudingeka ukuthi alungele ngokomzwelo. Uma umama engazizwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile noma esinye, ungasicindezeli - ukubeka phansi isikhathi sakho sokuqala ngemuva kwengane kuzokwengeza kuphela ukucindezeleka esimweni esivele sicindezelekile.

2. Mkhumbuze ukuthi muhle

Ngazibonela mathupha ukuthi omama abasha abazizwa bengcono kakhulu ngemuva kokuthola umntwana. Izinto zehlukile nje kubo. Ukungasho, ukuncishwa ubuthongo kuthatha inani langempela. (Futhi obaba, ngemuva kwakho konke ukungalali ebusuku, ukudla okususwayo, nokuhamba okushiywe ejimini, nathi asizizwa kahle.)

Kodwa esikufunayo ukuthi omama abasha bakuqaphele ukuthi ukumbuka abe ngumama wengane yakho kungenye yezinto ezimnandi kakhulu owake wazibona. Ngakho-ke, mtshele ukuthi uyisithandwa.

Kuyiqiniso, futhi ufanele ukukuzwa.

3. Uma isikhathi sokuhamba, hamba nge-gingerly

Lapho umlingani wakho esezizwa ekulungele, lokho kuhle, kepha ungalindeli ubulili bezinsuku zangaphambi kwengane. Izinto zizohluka.

Uma encelisa, amabele akhe angavuvukala ubisi futhi izingono zakhe azikaze zibuzwe ubuhlungu obunje. Yiphathe ngokunakekela. Ungahle ufune ukugwema leyo ndawo ngokuphelele. Futhi ungakhulumi konke uma kukhona ubisi oluvuzayo. Lokho kungokwemvelo ngokuphelele. Lesi yisikhathi esihle sokuvele sihleke nje.

Uma kukhulunywa ngesitho sangasese sowesifazane, qaphela kakhulu. Kuthatha isikhathi ukuphulukisa ngemuva kokuthola umntwana futhi indawo yangasese yomlingani wakho isengaba nethenda ngesikhathi nangemva kokululama. Ngokwengeziwe, abesifazane abaningi bahlushwa ukoma kwangemva kokubeletha, okungenza ucansi lungakhululeki noma lube buhlungu ngokuphelele. Sebenzisa i-lubricant.

Uma izinto zingakhululeki noma zibuhlungu kakhulu kumlingani wakho, kuzofanele umise isikhathi sakho socansi. Hamba uyogeza ngamanzi abandayo. Noma zenzele ngalelo lube engasetshenziswanga.

4. Hlanganisa

Yebo, usengazijabulisa embhedeni, kodwa mhlawumbe ngeke ukwazi ukwenza ngokushesha yonke into obujwayele ukuyenza. Qala kancane bese ubuyela emuva kuzisekelo. Cabanga ngezinye izinhlobo zokugqugquzela ngaphambi kokuya ocansini ngokugcwele.

Kungase kudingeke ukuthi uzame izikhundla ezintsha ukuthola ukuthi yini enethezeke kakhulu futhi ethokozisayo kumlingani wakho. Manje yisikhathi esihle sokuba nezingxoxo ezithembekile nezikhululekile mayelana nokuthi yini elungele nina nobabili.

5.Xhumana, xhumana, xhumana

Lokhu akuyona nje ithiphu yokuya ocansini futhi. Lesi yithiphu ongaphila ngayo yonke into ngokuba ngumzali. Njengoba uqala ukuphinda ufake umbono wokuya ocansini ngemuva kokuba ngabazali, okusemqoka ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho ngangokunokwenzeka.

Ibhola lisenkantolo yakhe, futhi aqiniseke ukuthi uyazi ukuthi uzolinda aze alungele. Yenza lowo mzamo owengeziwe ukumenza azizwe emuhle njengoba kade enza. Iya kancane. Futhi ungesabi ukwenza izinguquko esimisweni sakho socansi ngaphambi kwengane. Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, wena nomlingani wakho nizobuyela emgodini wakho, futhi.

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