Izinto Ezi-14 Abesifazane Abaseminyakeni Yabo engama-50 Bathi Bazokwenza Ngokuhlukile

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• "Ngingahlola imfundo yami kakhulu"
• "Ngingazethemba mina namathalente ami kakhulu"
• "Ngangizithola ukuthi ngangifuna ini…"
• "Ngizochitha isikhathi esiningi nengane yami"
• “Bengizodansa kakhulu”
• "Bengingeke ngikhathazeke kangako ngokubukeka kwami"
• "Ngingazithumela komunye umusa kimi"
• "Bengingeke ngizizwe ngibona kangako kubaqashi bami"
• Ukuhlakanipha nokunethezeka okuningi kuza nesikhathi

Njengoba ukhula, uthola umbono ngesibuko sangemuva sempilo yakho.

Kuyini ngokuguga okwenza abesifazane bajabule njengoba bekhula, ikakhulukazi phakathi kweminyaka yobudala engama-50 kuya kwengama-70?

Ucwaningo lwakamuva olusuka e-Australia, olulandele abesifazane iminyaka engama-20, luchaza okunye kwalokhu ukuthi abesifazane bathole isikhathi esithe xaxa “sami” njengoba bekhula.

Futhi ngaleso sikhathi "mina" kuza izambulo eziningi ezigculisayo.

Ngikhulume nabesifazane abayi-14 abaseminyakeni yabo yama-50 ngalokho ababengakwenza ngokuhlukile ngenkathi besebancane - ukube babazi nje, yini abayaziyo manje:

“Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ngigqoke amahembe angenamikhono ... ” - UKelly J.

“Ngangizitshela umuntu wami omncane ukuthi ayeke ukwesaba ukuba nesizungu. Ngenze izinqumo eziningi kakhulu ukuqiniseka ukuthi angisoze ngaba nomthandi imizuzwana eyi-10.”- UBarbara S.

“Ngangingeke ngiqale ukubhema. Bengicabanga ukuthi kuhle - akunampilo. ” - UJill S.

“Ngabe ngamukela isikhundla sokwamukela izivakashi-ngacabanga-ukuthi-ngangaphezulu kokusebenzela isenator yase-U.S. ” - U-Amy R.

“Ngifisa ukuthi [ngabe] bengingavumanga ukwesaba / ukungazi kwabanye abantu ukuthi kungithinte ngokujule kangangokuba ngingafiphaza izifiso / amaphupho ami okubathokozisa. Kungithathe amashumi eminyaka ukuhlehlisa lokho kuziphatha ‘kwentombazane enhle’.”- uKecia L.

"Ngingahlola imfundo yami kakhulu"

“Ngangizogxila ekufundeni ukuqonda nokufunda esikoleni esiphakeme,” kusho uLinda G., udokotela wamazinyo oseminyakeni yama-50 ubudala. "Ngidinga ukufunda okuthile amahlandla amathathu, futhi imvamisa kufanele ngiphinde ngifunde izifundo zobungcweti, lapho ngingaziqondi izinto ezisetshenziswayo."

ULinda unomuzwa wokuthi abazali bakhe babengagxilile emfundweni yakhe, ngakho-ke kwehla ngemifantu.

“Ngangiyingane yesithathu. Ngakho-ke, abazali bami babengithanda kodwa beyekelela. Angizethembi kangako ekubikezeleni ukuthi ngizokwenzenjani ngeziguli zami ngoba ngilwela ukuhlanganisa izingcezu zolwazi. ”

Ngenxa yalokhu, uLinda ubhekene nomzabalazo wangaphakathi.

“Ngibona sengathi bekufanele ngisebenze kanzima kukho konke engikuzuzile. Lokho kungenze ngaziphatha budlabha ekusebenziseni igunya lami ngoba ngihlala ngizama ukufakazela ukuthembeka kwami. ”

"Ngingazethemba mina namathalente ami kakhulu"

U-Andrea J., umbhali othengisa kakhulu phakathi kweminyaka engama-50, uthi, “Ngiyabona ukuthi ngingubani nokuthi ngenzeni kungiholele empilweni eyanelisayo, kodwa uma ngishintsha noma yini kungaba ukuthembela kumakhono ami kude usemncane. ”

U-Andrea unomuzwa wokuthi akazange azibekezelele ngokwanele.

“Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ngisheshe ngabona ukuthi ngingasifeza isifiso sami sokubhala izincwadi uma ngingavele nginamathele kuso ngiqhubeke ngithuthuke. Ngangibekezele kakhulu ukuze ngiphumelele ngaze ngayeka futhi ngashintsha izifundo lapho impumelelo ingafikanga ngokushesha.

"Ngangizithola ukuthi ngangifuna ini…"

UGena R., isazi sezinwele esiphakathi kweminyaka engama-50 uzizwa ethatha isikhathi eside ukuthola ukuthi wayengubani.

"Indlela engithanda ukuyichaza ngayo le nto yokuba mncane kimi ukuthi ngiziqhathanise noJulia Roberts ebhayisikobho ethi 'Runaway Bride,' endaweni yesehlakalo lapho wayengazi nokuthi uwathanda kanjani amaqanda akhe… ngoba wayewathanda noma kunjalo uthande eyakhe. ”

"Njengaye, bengidinga ukuthola ukuthi ngingubani ngaphandle kwendoda, nokuthi ngiwathanda kanjani amaqanda ami - noma ngabe ubewathanda kanjani awakhe."

UGena ukholelwa ukuthi abantu babemcabanga "njengentombazane engemuva kwesihlalo" ojabule njalo futhi ongaxazulula zonke izinkinga zabo.

Kepha uguqukile.

“Angisazenzi izinto engingafuni ukuzenza futhi sengizinike imvume yokuthi ngithi‘ cha ’ngiphumule. Uma ngifuna ukuhlala ngibukele ama-movie we-Hallmark usuku lonke engikwenzayo. Ngizungeza nabantu engifuna ukuba nabo futhi ngiqhelelene nabantu abancela impilo kimi. ”

“Futhi angisazizwa nginamahloni ngamaphutha engiwenzile. Bayingxenye yendaba yami futhi kungenze ngaba ngumuntu onozwela ngokwengeziwe. ”

"Ngizochitha isikhathi esiningi nengane yami"

UStacy J. uphrojusa oseminyakeni yama-50s uthi leso sikhathi besingasohlangothini lwakhe.

“Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ngachitha isikhathi esiningi ngidlala nengane yami ngesikhathi isencane. Bengifunda isikole ngokugcwele futhi ngisebenza futhi nginakekela udadewethu ogulayo futhi ngimatasa ngokuba mpofu. ”

Uyabona ukuthi izingane zikhula ngokushesha okukhulu, kodwa akazange aziqaphele ngaleso sikhathi.

"Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ngabe ngibeke izinto eceleni ngibe namadili amaningi wetiye lokuzalwa wezilwane zakhe ebezihlohliwe naye."

“Bengizodansa kakhulu”

"Ngangihlale ngizenyeza futhi nginqume ngaphambi kokuba ngishaye ama-20 ukuthi angidansi," kusho uLaurel V., oseminyakeni yakhe yokuqala yama-50. "Futhi ngenkathi ngizihlalele eceleni emaphathini, abanye abantu bazivezile futhi bathuthela emculweni."

ULaurel unomuzwa wokuthi bekungafanele akhathazeke kangako.

"Ngitshela izingane zami, uma bengikwazi ukubuyela emuva, bengizodansa kakhulu, futhi anginandaba nokuthi abantu bacabangani ... mhlawumbe bebengangibheki nakancane."

"Bengingeke ngikhathazeke kangako ngokubukeka kwami"

URajean B., umeluleki we-PR oseminyakeni yakhe yokuqala yama-50 akasagxili kakhulu ekubukekeni kwakhe.

“Eminyakeni yami yama-20 nengama-30, umsebenzi wami wokuba ngumkhulumeli wenkampani wangibeka phambi kwekhamera futhi ngangiqabukela ngidlulisa isibuko ngaphandle kokulungisa izinwele zami, ngibheka amazinyo ami, ngifaka futhi lipstick. Ngangiphelelwa ubuthongo ngezikhathi lapho ngathola khona isilevu esiphindwe kabili ngenkathi ngikhuluma noma ngihleka. ”

URajean ubone ukuthi yini ebaluleke ngempela edlula okungaphandle.

“Umyeni wami nabangane bami bayangamukela futhi bangithande lokho engiyikho hhayi indlela engibukeka ngayo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi esithile. Ngithanda ukugxila ebuhleni bami bangaphakathi nasemandleni. ”

"Ngingazithumela komunye umusa kimi"

"Ngangiphefumula ngaphambi kokuba ngisabele futhi ngiqonde ukuthi akudingeki ngibe nombono ngakho konke," kusho uBeth W., osevile eminyakeni engama-50, owayevame ukubamba umsebenzi onengcindezi enkulu yenhlangano enkulu yokuqeqesha.

“Uma ngangizizwa ngisengozini yokushiywa ngaphandle, noma ukuqondwa kabi, ngangivala umlomo noma ngilwele ukuzwakala. Kwakucindezela kangangoba ngagcina sengigula, ngishaywa ngamakhanda, okwaphoqa ukuthi ngibhekane nokwesaba engangikukho. ”

"Engikufundile ukuthi ngikwazi ukufaka umusa kunoma yisiphi isimo ngokumane ngiphefumule, ngizinze ngokubeka izinyawo zami phansi, ngakho kunciphisa umjaho we-adrenaline ne-cortisol ngohlelo lwami."

UBeth uthi ukwenza lokhu kwehlise idrama, isiphithiphithi, nokungqubuzana empilweni yakhe futhi kwaqinisa ubudlelwano bakhe.

"Bengingeke ngizizwe ngibona kangako kubaqashi bami"

UNina A., ehlanganisa iminyaka engama-50 ezinyangeni ezimbalwa uthi, “Ngangikwazi ukulahla abantu engangibasebenzela. Benginganakile ngaleso sikhathi, kodwa ngifuna abantu abasha baqonde ukuze bangenzi amaphutha afanayo. ”

“Ngangithandana noprofesa osekhulile ngesikhathi ngisekolishi. Wayenezixhumanisi eziningi zokukhuluma ezikhokhelwayo emanyuvesi aphesheya, futhi bakhokhela ukuhlala kwakhe, futhi. Ungimeme ukuba ngihlanganyele naye ohambweni olumangalisayo oluya eBali, Java, China, Thailand. Kodwa benginomsebenzi, futhi bengingakwazi ukuya. ”

“Esinye sezikhathi engangizikhandla ngaso ukuthi ngibe‘ yisisebenzi esisebenza kahle ’kwaba lapho ngiyeka umsebenzi ngaya embukisweni omkhulu weRock and Roll Hall of Fame. Ngangena enkingeni enkulu emsebenzini wami. Kepha qagela ini? Umnyango usaphumelela ukusebenza. ”

Ukuhlakanipha nokunethezeka okuningi kuza nesikhathi

Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho udinga khona ukwedlula izeluleko zokunqoba izingqinamba zakho. Kwesinye isikhathi, impendulo isikhathi nje - isikhathi esanele sokudlula emizabalazweni eseminyakeni yama-20 nengama-30 ngakho-ke usungule umkhondo wokulinganisela izinselelo ezizayo eminyakeni yakho yama-50 nangaphezulu.

Mhlawumbe, umpheki wodumo, uCat Cora, oseminyakeni yakhe yokuqala yama-50, ufingqa kahle umzabalazo wentsha nobuhlakani balokho kubuka emuva: “Uma bengingakwenza ngenye indlela, bengizothatha ikhefu kaningi futhi ngikujabulele ukugibela. Uma usemncane, i-angst yakho nesifiso sakho sokuba nakho konke kudala ukungalingani, "usitshela.

"Ngokuvuthwa, ngikwazile ukuzola nokufukula ngokuthula kuzo zonke izingxenye zempilo yami."