Ukukhulisa I-Autism: Izindlela Ezi-9 Zokuxazulula Inkinga Yakho Yokukhulisa Izingane

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• 1. Umphakathi osuvele unawo
• 2. Isikole
• 3.Ukwesekwa Therapist
• 4. Ingqondo yabazali be-Autism
• 5. Amakamu ezidingo ezikhethekile
• 6. Izinhlelo ezikhethekile zekolishi
• 7. Izinhlelo zebandla
• 8. Amasayithi wokunakekela izingane kanye nabanakekeli
• 9. Yiba ne-backup plan

Ukuba ngumzali kungaba ukuzihlukanisa. Ukuba ngumzali kungakhathaza. Wonke umuntu udinga ikhefu. Wonke umuntu udinga ukuxhuma kabusha.

Noma ngabe kungenxa yengcindezi, imisebenzi okumele uyenze, isidingo sokuxubha ukukhuluma kwabantu abadala, noma ukuqaphela ukuthi manje usukhuluma nomlingani wakho ku-falsetto evamise ukubekelwa ingane encane, abagcini bezingane bayingxenye ebalulekile yokuba ngumzali.

Indodakazi yami encane, uLily, ine-autism. Inkinga kimi nakwabanye abazali bezingane ezine-autism ukuthi, ezimweni eziningi, ingane yakwamakhelwane elunge kahle njengomuntu ogcina ingane ayifanelekile ukusingatha izidingo zengane ene-autism. Akulungile enganeni, futhi, ngokungagwegwesi, kumgcini wengane. Izinto ezinjengokuziphatha okuzilimazayo, ukuncibilika, noma ulaka kungavimbela ngisho nentsha esikhulile ukuba igcine izingane. Izinto ezinjengokuxhumana okulinganiselwe noma okungakhulumi ngomlomo kungakhuphula izingqinamba zokwethembana ezingahle zihlelise umhleli ofanelekayo ekucatshangweni ngenxa yokushoda kwenduduzo yabazali.

Kungaba nzima ngokwedlulele ukuthola umuntu oshaya umlingo wethemba, amakhono, nokutholakala. Ukuthola isikhundla esihle somntwana khona lapho ngokuthola udokotela omuhle. Nayi eminye imibono yokuthi ungayibheka kuphi insiza yasebusuku, noma nje ukuphefumula okuncane.

1. Umphakathi osuvele unawo

Indawo yokuqala - futhi, ngokungangabazeki, okulula kakhulu - izidingo ezikhethekile kakhulu abazali ababheka kuzo zingaphakathi kwemindeni yabo kanye namaqembu omngani. Uyabathemba? Impela! Futhi zisebenza ezishibhile! Kepha njengoba ogogo nomkhulu beguga, noma obabekazi nomalume behamba, kungaba nzima kubazali ukungena kuleyo nethiwekhi ekhona. Ngokwengeziwe, ungawuthola umqondo (noma ngokufanele noma ngokungalungile) ukuthi "uyaphoqa." Kepha, ngokuthembeka, ukube ubunezinsizakusebenza eziningi zezidingo zakho zokunakekela izingane, ngabe awufundanga lokhu okuthunyelwe noma kunjalo.

2. Isikole

Abasizi besikole asebevele basebenza nengane yakho futhi abajwayelene nezidingo zabo bangahle bazimisele ukuthola imali encane ohlangothini. Ngabasizi abazinikele isikhathi eside, izinga lokunethezeka, ngisho nobungani, kungathuthuka okwenza ukubuza ngegig lokugcina izingane kungabi nzima. Umsizi wendodakazi yami ozinikele isikhathi eside wake wambuka ehlobo. Wayebiza kahle kakhulu, uma kubhekwa konke akwenzela uLily. Ngaleso sikhathi, kwakuwumsebenzi wothando futhi empeleni wayengumndeni.

3.Ukwesekwa Therapist

ULily uthola "izinsizakalo ezihlangene" (ukwelashwa ngaphandle kwesimo sesikole) senkulumo ekolishi lendawo. Ezimweni eziningi, lezi zinhlobo zezinsizakalo zibhekwa ngudokotela, kepha "umsebenzi we-grunt" uphathwa yizingane zasekolishi eziya esikoleni ukuze zibe ngabelaphi ngokwazo. Izingane zasekolishi zihlala zidinga imali - ngithinte okungenani abelaphi bezinkulumo abasafufusa okungenani ababili ukuze ngibuke uLily ukuze ngiye esidlweni sakusihlwa noma ngiphuze nabangane. Bayamazi uLily, bayaziqonda izidingo zakhe, futhi kunezinga lokududuza phakathi kwabo kusukela emahoreni amade besebenza ndawonye.

4. Ingqondo yabazali be-Autism

Njengoba uhlakulela isizwe sakho semidiya yokuxhumana nabantu futhi ubamba iqhaza emaqenjini abantu abasezimweni ezifanayo, ungasebenzisa amandla ezinkundla zokuxhumana ukucela iziphakamiso, noma uthumele izicelo "zosizo ezifunwayo" kubantu "abazitholayo" futhi abangazi othile. Mhlawumbe ulahlekelwa inzuzo ethile elula noma insiza engaba khona. Ingqondo yesidleke ingakuqondisa.

5. Amakamu ezidingo ezikhethekile

Imvamisa ngesikole noma ngokwelashwa, abazali bazodluliselwa ezinkambeni ezikhethekile zasehlobo. Abantu asebevele bakha ubudlelwano nengane yakho kulezi zinkambu zasehlobo bangathintwa ngomsebenzi ohlangothini. Kwezinye izimo, laba bantu bangamavolontiya, imvamisa kuba nothandekayo wabo onezidingo ezikhethekile. Isifiso sabo sangempela sokusebenza nezingane zethu kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho abakutholile ekusekeleni ikamu kubenza babe nezindlela ezinhle zokunakekela izingane.

6. Izinhlelo ezikhethekile zekolishi

Lokhu kuwina-win. Abafundi abafundela ikhono emfundweni ekhethekile bayakwamukela ukuqeqeshwa okuncane emsebenzini. Basebenzise isidingo sabo semali kabhiya ne-pizza ngenkathi ubavumela ukuthi bathole ukwakheka kabusha okuncane, isipiliyoni sangempela sempilo. Imvamisa, amakolishi azothumela usizo olufunwa online. Ngenye indlela, ungaxhumana nezinhloko zeminyango mayelana nabangenele ukhetho.

7. Izinhlelo zebandla

Abazali abanezidingo ezikhethekile zezingane ezinokufinyelela ohlelweni lwesonto olubandakanya wonke umuntu bangaxhumana nothisha noma abasizi kulezo zinhlelo zamathuba okuthola izingane noma iziphakamiso.

8. Amasayithi wokunakekela izingane kanye nabanakekeli

Uma usabambekile, izingosi zokunakekelwa ezinjengeCare.com, i-Urbansitter, ne-Sittercity zinikeza uhlu lwabantwana abanikezela ngezinsizakalo zabo. Amasayithi ngokuvamile anohlu oluqondene ngqo nabanakekeli bezidingo ezikhethekile. Ungaxoxisana nabo bese uthola umuntu obonakala elungele umndeni wakho. Kwesinye isikhathi, kufanele ube yilungu ukuze usebenzise izinsiza zesayithi, kepha lokho kubonakala kuyintengo encane ukukhokhela ikhefu elidingeka kakhulu.

9. Yiba ne-backup plan

Ngisho nokuthinta kukho konke okungenhla, kusengaba nzima ukuthola umuntu onokwethenjelwa, ongabizi, othembekile, futhi okwazi ukubhekana nezinselelo eziyingqayizivele zengane yakho ... futhi etholakala uma kudingeka. Futhi abazali abanezidingo ezikhethekile abathola umuntu abangamethemba kumele bakhe ezinhlelweni zokulondoloza kanye nezinketho zokubuyela emuva zezinsuku lapho umhleli wabo abathandayo engekho mahhala.

Uma uzizwa uthanda ukuthatha ithuba enganeni yakwamakhelwane uma usuchaze kahle ukuthi lo msebenzi uhluke kanjani "kokujwayelekile," ngakho-ke, zama ngazo zonke izindlela. (Kepha izidingo ezikhethekile abazali bangahle bacabangele ukufaka i-nanny cam ukuthola ukuthula kwengqondo okwengeziwe… njengoba ngenzile.)

UJim Walter ungumbhali we I-Lil Blog nje, lapho elandisa khona ngezehlakalo zakhe njengobaba ongayedwa wamadodakazi amabili, omunye wabo one-autism. Ungamlandela ku-Twitter ku @nokuthula_b.