Ukuphelela: kuyini nezimpawu eziyinhloko

-Delile

• Izici eziyinhloko
• Izinhlobo zokuphelela
• Ngabe ukufuna ukuphelela kuba yinkinga nini?

Ukupheleliswa uhlobo lokuziphatha olubonakaliswa isifiso sokwenza yonke imisebenzi ngendlela ephelele, ngaphandle kokuvuma amaphutha noma imiphumela engagculisi yezinga lakho. Umuntu ofuna ukuphelela uvamise ukuba nezindleko ezisezingeni eliphakeme kuye nakwabanye.

Ukuphelela kungabekwa ku:

• Okujwayelekile, okuguqukayo noma okunempilo, lapho umuntu enesifiso nokuzimisela ukwenza imisebenzi kahle;
• I-Neurotic, mal-adaptive noma eyingozi, lapho umuntu enezinga eliphakeme kakhulu lokupheleliswa, futhi kuyadingeka kaningi ukwenza umsebenzi ofanayo kaningana ngoba ecabanga ukuthi akaphelele, okungaholela ekukhungathekeni.

Yize umuntu ofuna ukuphelela engawamukeli amaphutha futhi, lapho kwenzeka, bazizwa bekhungathekile, bengakwazi, bekhathazekile noma becindezelekile, ukuba ngabalindele amaphutha akuyona into embi. Ngoba uhlala efuna ukwenza imisebenzi yakhe ngokuphelele, umuntu ofuna ukuphelela uvame ukugxila kakhulu, aqeqeshwe futhi azimisele, okuyizimpawu ezibalulekile empilweni yakhe yangasese neyomsebenzi.

Izici eziyinhloko

Abantu abaphelelisi bavame ukunaka imininingwane, bahleleke ngokweqile futhi bagxile, bafuna ukwenza imisebenzi benethuba elincane lephutha. Lezi zici zibhekwa njengokujwayelekile futhi ziphilile kubo bonke abantu, ngoba ziphazamisa impilo yomuntu siqu neyomsebenzi. Kodwa-ke, lapho lezi zici zihambisana nezindinganiso eziphakeme zokufunwa kanye nokuzikhukhumeza okwedlulele, kungadala imizwa yokukhungatheka nokudangala.

Ezinye izici zomuntu ofuna ukuphelela yilezi:

• Imisebenzi eminingi nokuzimisela;
• Izinga eliphakeme lokufunwa nawe kanye nabanye;
• Abawavumeli amaphutha nokwehluleka, banobunzima bokwamukela ukuthi bawenzile amaphutha futhi bafunda kuwo, ngaphezu kokuzizwa benecala namahloni;
• Bakuthola kunzima ukusebenza njengeqembu, njengoba bengakholelwa emandleni abanye;
• Bahlale becabanga ukuthi kukhona okushodayo, abaneliswa yimiphumela abayitholile;
• Akakwamukeli kahle ukugxekwa, kepha uvame ukugxeka abanye ukukhombisa ukuthi ungcono.

Abantu abafuna ukupheleliswa bakwesaba kakhulu ukwehluleka, ngakho-ke bahlala bekhathazekile ngezinto futhi babeka izinga eliphakeme kakhulu lokushaja, ngakho-ke uma kukhona ukwehluleka noma iphutha, noma ngabe lincane kangakanani, bagcina bekhungathekile futhi benomuzwa wokungabi namandla.

Izinhlobo zokuphelela

Ngaphezu kokuhlukaniswa njengezempilo noma eziyingozi, ukufuna ukupheleliswa kungabuye kwahlukaniswa ngokuya ngezici ezithonye ukukhula kwayo:

1. Ukuphelela komuntu siqu, lapho umuntu azikhokhisa khona kakhulu, ekhombisa isimilo sokukhathazeka ngokweqile ukuze yonke into iphelele. Lolu hlobo lokufuna ukuphelela luthinta indlela umuntu azibona ngayo, lukhulisa ukuzigxeka;
2. Ukuphelela komphakathil, okubangelwa ukwesaba ukuthi izotolikwa kanjani futhi ibonwe ngabantu nokwesaba ukwehluleka nokwaliwa, futhi lolu hlobo lokufuna ukuphelela luvame ukubangelwa ezinganeni ezifunwe kakhulu, zanconywa noma zenqatshwa, ngale ndlela ingane yamukelwa ngabazali, isibonelo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ekupheleleni kwezenhlalo, umuntu unenkinga yokukhuluma noma yokuxhumana nabanye ngokwesaba kwabo noma ukungavikeleki kwabo ngenxa yokwesaba ukwahlulelwa.
3. Ukuphelela okubhekiswe, lapho umuntu enokulindela okuningi hhayi ngaye kuphela, kodwa nangabanye, okwenza ukusebenzisana kube nzima futhi kujwayele ezinye izimo, ngokwesibonelo.

I-Perfectionism nayo ingaba ngumphumela wokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, njengokukhathazeka nokukhathazeka ngokweqile (OCD), ngokwesibonelo.

Ngabe ukufuna ukuphelela kuba yinkinga nini?

Ukufuna ukuphelela kungaba yinkinga lapho ukwenza noma imuphi umsebenzi kuba okhathele nokucindezelayo ngenxa yezinga eliphakeme lokuqoqwa, ukukhathazeka ngokweqile ngemininingwane nokwesaba ukwehluleka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, iqiniso lokuthi ungalokothi waneliseke ngemiphumela etholakalayo lingaveza imizwa yosizi, ukukhungatheka, ukukhathazeka kanye nokudangala, okungaholela kokunye ukucabanga ngokuzibulala.

Abantu abafuna ukuphelela bathambekele ekugxekeni kakhulu manje, okungaba yingozi kakhulu, ngoba behluleka ukuhlola izici ezinhle, kuphela ezimbi, okuholela ekuphazamisekeni kwemizwelo. Lokhu akubonakali kuphela ekusebenzeni kwemisebenzi yansuku zonke, kepha futhi nasezincwadini zomzimba, okungaholela ekuphazamisekeni kokudla, ngokwesibonelo, ngoba umuntu ucabanga ukuthi kuhlale kunokuthile okungathuthukisa emzimbeni noma ekubukekeni, ngaphandle kokubheka landisa izici ezinhle.