Kungani Kudingeka Sikhulume Ngokucindezeleka Ngesikhathi Sokukhulelwa

-Delile

• Ngenkathi uSepideh Saremi, 32, eqala ukukhala njalo futhi ezizwa ekhathele futhi ekhathele phakathi ne-trimester yakhe yesibili yokukhulelwa, wavele wakushayela kuma-hormone agudlukayo.
• Ukudana komoya ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa akuyona into ongavele ‘uyinyakazise’
• Amahloni angivimbele ukuthi ngithole usizo
• "Kube sengathi kucishiwe isibani ebuchosheni bami"
• Kwase kuyisikhathi sokuthola usizo
• Ngezansi

Ngenkathi uSepideh Saremi, 32, eqala ukukhala njalo futhi ezizwa ekhathele futhi ekhathele phakathi ne-trimester yakhe yesibili yokukhulelwa, wavele wakushayela kuma-hormone agudlukayo.

Futhi, njengomama wokuqala, ukungajwayeleki kwakhe ngokukhulelwa. Kepha njengoba amasonto aqhubeka, uSaremi, udokotela wezifo zengqondo eLos Angeles, wabona isiziba ekukhathazekeni kwakhe, ezimeni zokwehla, kanye nomuzwa jikelele wokuthi akukho okubalulekile. Yize kunjalo, ngaphandle kokuqeqeshwa kwakhe emtholampilo, wakukhipha njengokucindezeleka kwansuku zonke kanye nengxenye yokukhulelwa.

Ngekota yesithathu yesithathu, uSaremi waqala ukuzwela kukho konke okwakumzungezile futhi wayengasakwazi ukuziba amafulegi abomvu. Uma udokotela wakhe ebuza imibuzo ejwayelekile, wazizwa sengathi uyamthatha. Waqala ukulwa nakho konke ukuxhumana komphakathi okwakungahlobene nomsebenzi. Wayekhala njalo - "hhayi ngaleyo ndlela, okhulelwe okhulelwe," kusho uSaremi.

Ukudana komoya ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa akuyona into ongavele ‘uyinyakazise’

Ngokusho kwe-The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) ne-The American Psychiatric Association (APA), phakathi kwamaphesenti ayi-14 kanye nama-23 abesifazane bazobhekana nezimpawu ezithile zokucindezeleka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Kodwa imibono eyiphutha mayelana nokudangala kwangaphambi kokubeletha - ukucindezeleka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa nangemva kokubeletha - kungenza kube nzima kwabesifazane ukuthola izimpendulo abazidingayo, kusho uDkt.

"Iziguli zisitshela ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi amalungu emindeni yazo azitshela ukuthi 'azisuse' futhi azihlanganise," kusho uFarkas. “Umphakathi wonkana ucabanga ukuthi ukukhulelwa nokuba nengane yisikhathi esijabulisa kunazo zonke empilweni yowesifazane futhi ukuphela kwendlela yokuhlangabezana nalokhu. Lapho empeleni, abesifazane baba nemizwa ehlukahlukene ngalesi sikhathi. ”

Amahloni angivimbele ukuthi ngithole usizo

KuSaremi, indlela yokuthola ukunakekelwa okufanele yayinde. Ngesikhathi esisodwa sokuvakasha kwakhe okwesithathu, uthi waxoxa ngemizwa yakhe no-OB-GYN futhi watshelwa ukuthi wayenezinye zezinto ezimbi kakhulu e-Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale (EPDS) ayengakaze ayibone.

Kepha lapho kuyinto usizo lokudangala ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, kusho uCatherine Monk, PhD kanye noprofesa osebenzisana naye we-Medical Psychology (Psychiatry and Obstetrics and Gynecology) e-Columbia University. Ngokungezelela ekwelashweni, uthi, kuphephile ukuthatha imishanguzo ethile yokulwa nengcindezi, njenge-serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) ekhethiwe.

USaremi uthi waxoxa ngemiphumela yokuhlolwa nodokotela wakhe, ayekade embona ngaphambi kokuba akhulelwe. Kepha, uyanezela, odokotela bakhe bobabili balibhala phansi.

“Ngangibeka izizathu zokuthi abantu abaningi baqamba amanga kubahluzi, ngakho-ke amaphuzu ami kungenzeka ukuthi abephakeme kakhulu ngoba bekungimi ngedwa umuntu oqotho - okuyinto engenangqondo uma ngicabanga ngakho manje. Futhi ubecabanga ukuthi angibonakali ngicindezeleke kangako [ngoba] bengingabonakali sengathi ngivela ngaphandle. ”

"Kube sengathi kucishiwe isibani ebuchosheni bami"

Akunakwenzeka ukuthi owesifazane oke wabhekana nokudangala ngesikhathi ekhulelwe uzozizwa ehlukile ngomlingo lapho ingane yakhe izelwe. Eqinisweni, imizwa ingaqhubeka nokuhlangana. Ngesikhathi indodana yakhe izalwa, uSaremi uthi kwasheshe kwamcacela ukuthi ubesesimeni esingesihle uma kukhulunywa ngempilo yakhe yengqondo.

“Cishe ngemuva nje kokuzalwa kwakhe - ngenkathi ngisegunjini lokubelethisa - kube sengathi zonke izibani zicishiwe ebuchosheni bami. Ngazizwa sengathi ngimbozwe ngokuphelele ifu elimnyama futhi ngangibona ngaphandle kwalo, kodwa akukho engakubona kunengqondo. Bengingazizwa ngixhumene nami, ingasaphathwa eyomntanami. ”

USaremi kudingeke ukuthi asule izithombe ezisanda kuzalwa ngoba uthi ubengayeki ukukhala, futhi lapho efika ekhaya, wakhungathwa "yimicabango esabekayo, engenakuphikiswa."

Esaba ukuba yedwa nendodana yakhe noma ashiye indlu naye eyedwa, uSaremi uyavuma ukuthi wazizwa ephelelwe yithemba futhi edangele. Ngokusho kukaFarkas, le mizwa ivamile kubantu besifazane abanengcindezi yangaphambi kokubeletha futhi kubalulekile ukuthi uyijwayeze ngokukhuthaza abesifazane ukuthi bafune usizo. "Abaningi babo bazizwa benecala ngokungazizwa bejabule ngamaphesenti ayi-100 ngalesi sikhathi," kusho uFarkas.

“Abaningi balwa nenguquko enkulu yokuba nomntwana kusho (isb. impilo yami ayisekho ngami) kanye nesibopho sokuthi kusho ukuthini ukunakekela omunye umuntu othembele kubo ngokuphelele, ”uyanezela.

Kwase kuyisikhathi sokuthola usizo

Ngesikhathi uSaremi eshaya inyanga eyodwa ngemuva kokubeletha, wayesekhathele futhi ekhathele kangangokuba uthi, "Bengingafuni ukuphila."

Nangempela waqala wacwaninga ngezindlela zokuqeda impilo yakhe. Imicabango yokufuna ukuzibulala yayihlala isikhashana futhi ingahlali isikhathi eside. Kepha noma sebedlulile, ukucindezeleka kwahlala. Cishe ezinyangeni ezinhlanu ngemuva kokubeletha, uSaremi wahlaselwa okokuqala ukwesaba ngesikhathi sohambo lokuyothenga i-Costco nengane yakhe. Uthi: “Nganquma ukuthi ngangikulungele ukuthola usizo.

USaremi wakhuluma nodokotela wakhe wokunakekelwa okuyisisekelo ngokudangala kwakhe, futhi wakujabulela ukuthola ukuthi wayenobungcweti futhi akahluleli. Wamdlulisela kumelaphi futhi wasikisela umuthi kadokotela we-antidepressant. Ukhethe ukuzama ukwelashwa kuqala futhi usahamba kanye ngesonto.

Ngezansi

Namuhla, uSaremi uthi uzizwa engcono kakhulu. Ngaphezu kokuvakashelwa ngudokotela wakhe, uqinisekile ukuthi uzolala ngokwanele, adle kahle, futhi enze nesikhathi sokuzivocavoca nokubona abangane bakhe.

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