Ingabe Bukhona Ubudlelwano Phakathi Kokusetshenziswa Kwezingcolile Nokucindezeleka?

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• Ithini impendulo emfushane?
• Ingabe ukusetshenziswa kocansi kungabangela ukucindezeleka?
• Kuthiwani ngokuphambene - ingabe abantu abanokucindezeleka babheka izithombe ezingcolile ezingaphezulu?
• Uvelaphi lo mbono wokuthi i-porn kanye nokudangala kuxhumene kuvela?
• Ungena kuphi 'umlutha wezocansi'?
• Wazi kanjani ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwakho kuyinkinga?
• Ungayaphi ukuze uthole usizo?
• Uyini umugqa waphansi?

Ithini impendulo emfushane?

Kuvame ukucatshangwa ukuthi ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kubangela ukucindezeleka, kodwa kukhona ubufakazi obuncane obufakazela ukuthi kunjalo. Ucwaningo alukhombisi ukuthi i-porn ingadala ukucindezeleka.

Kodwa-ke, ungathinteka ngezinye izindlela - konke kuya ngemvelaphi yakho nokuthi uyisebenzisa kanjani i-porn.

Ngenkathi abanye bengakuthola kulula ukujabulela i-porn ngokulinganisela, abanye bangayisebenzisa ngokuphoqa. Abanye bangase futhi bazizwe benecala noma benamahloni ngemuva kwalokho, okungathinta impilo yabo engokomzwelo.

Nakhu okudingeka ukwazi mayelana nokuxhumanisa phakathi kocansi nokudangala.

Ingabe ukusetshenziswa kocansi kungabangela ukucindezeleka?

Abukho ubufakazi bokuthi ukusebenzisa i-porn kungadala noma kubangele ukucindezeleka.

Ocwaningweni olutholakalayo, olunye ucwaningo lwe-2007 luphethe ngokuthi abantu ababuka i-porn kaningi maningi amathuba okuthi bazizwe benesizungu.

Kodwa-ke, lolu cwaningo belususelwa ocwaningweni lwabantu abangama-400, futhi beluzibika - okusho ukuthi kunendawo enkulu yokwenza iphutha.

Olunye ucwaningo, olushicilelwe ku-2018, lusebenzise isampula yabantu abangu-1,639 ukuhlola ukuxhumana phakathi kokudangala, ukusetshenziswa kocansi, nezincazelo zabantu ezingafani zezocansi.

Abaphenyi bathole ukuthi abanye abantu bazizwa benecala, becasukile, noma becindezelekile uma bebuka okuqukethwe kocansi. Le mizwa ingathinta impilo yakho yonke engokomzwelo.

Kepha alukho ucwaningo olubonisa ukuthi ukudla okuqukethwe kocansi - i-porn noma cha - kungadala ngqo noma kubangele ukudangala.

Kuthiwani ngokuphambene - ingabe abantu abanokucindezeleka babheka izithombe ezingcolile ezingaphezulu?

Njengoba nje kunzima ukunquma ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi kungadala ukudana, kunzima ukuthola ukuthi ukucindezeleka kungakuthinta yini ukusetshenziswa kwakho kocansi ngakunye.

Olunye ucwaningo lwe-2017 luthole ukuthi abathengi be-porn banamathuba amaningi okuba nezimpawu zokucindezeleka uma bekholelwa ukuthi i-porn ayiziphethe kahle.

Kulabo abangakholelwa ukuthi i-porn ayilungile ngokokuziphatha, kodwa-ke, ucwaningo luthole ukuthi amazinga aphezulu ezimpawu ezicindezelayo ayekhona kuphela kulabo ababheka i-porn ngesilinganiso esiphakeme kakhulu.

Iphinde yaphetha ngokuthi “amadoda acindezelekile cishe abheka amazinga aphezulu ezithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengosizo lokubhekana nezinkinga, ikakhulukazi uma engazibheki njengokuziphatha okubi.”

Ngamanye amagama, kuphethe ngokuthi amadoda acindezelekile amandla kungenzeka kakhulu ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile.

Kuyaphawuleka ukuthi izifundo ezifanayo azizange zenziwe nabesifazane, abantu abangaqashiwe, kanye nabantu abangahambisani nobulili.

Uvelaphi lo mbono wokuthi i-porn kanye nokudangala kuxhumene kuvela?

Kunezinganekwane eziningi ezizungeze i-porn, ubulili, nokushaya indlwabu. Ngokwengxenye, lokhu kungenxa yenhlamba ehlotshaniswa nezinhlobo ezithile zokuziphatha kocansi.

Njengenganekwane yokuthi ukushaya indlwabu kukhulisa izinwele ezintendeni zezandla zakho, ezinye izinganekwane zisatshalaliswa ukudikibalisa abantu ekuhlanganyeleni ekuziphatheni ngokocansi okubonakala njengokuziphatha okubi.

Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuthi i-porn imbi, ngakho-ke akumangazi ukuthi abanye bayixhumanise nempilo yengqondo engeyinhle.

Umqondo ungabuye uqhamuke emibonweni eyeqisayo mayelana nezocansi - ukuthi ihlale idliwa ngabantu abanesizungu futhi abanganelisekile ngezimpilo zabo, nokuthi imibhangqwana ejabulayo ayilokothi ibuke i-porn.

Kukhona nenkolelo phakathi kwabanye abantu yokuthi ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zocansi kuhlala kungenampilo noma "kungumlutha."

Ukuntuleka kwemfundo yezocansi esezingeni eliphakeme kungasho nokuthi abantu abaningi abanalwazi mayelana nokuthi i-porn iyini nokuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani ngendlela enempilo.

Ungena kuphi 'umlutha wezocansi'?

Ucwaningo lwe-2015 lubheke ukuxhumana phakathi kokubona ukulutha kocansi, inkolo, nokungavumelani nokuziphatha okubi kwezocansi.

Ithole ukuthi abantu abamelene nezithombe zocansi ngokwenkolo noma ngokokuziphatha maningi amathuba okuthi cabanga banomlutha wezocansi, noma ngabe badla malini empeleni.

Esinye isifundo se-2015, esasinomcwaningi oholayo ofanayo nalowo okukhulunywe ngaye ngenhla, sithole ukuthi ukukholelwa ukuthi unesidakamizwa se-porn kungadala izimpawu ezicindezelayo.

Ngamanye amagama, uma cabanga ungumlutha wezocansi, ungahle ube nomuzwa wokuthi ucindezelekile.

Ukulutha kabi kocansi, noma kunjalo, kungumqondo ophikisanayo.

Akwamukelwa kabanzi ukuthi umlutha wezocansi umlutha wangempela. I-American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors, and Therapists (AASECT) ayikuthathi njengokulutha noma ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo.

Esikhundleni salokho, kubalwa njengokucindezelwa, kanye nokunye ukuphoqelelwa kobulili njengokushaya indlwabu okuphoqayo.

Wazi kanjani ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwakho kuyinkinga?

Imikhuba yakho yokubuka ingaba yisizathu sokukhathazeka uma:

• chitha isikhathi esiningi ubuka i-porn ethinta umsebenzi wakho, ikhaya, isikole, noma impilo yomphakathi
• bukela izithombe ezingcolile hhayi ukuzithokozisa, kodwa ukufeza "isidingo" sokubuka, kube sengathi uthola "ukulungiswa"
• bukela izithombe ezingcolile ukuze uziduduze ngokomzwelo
• uzizwe unecala noma ucindezelekile ngokubuka izithombe ezingcolile
• ulwela ukumelana nesifiso sokubuka i-porn

Ungayaphi ukuze uthole usizo?

Ukwelashwa kungaba yindawo enhle yokuqala uma ucabanga ukuthi unenkinga nge-porn.

Umhlinzeki wakho mhlawumbe uzobuza ngemizwa yakho ezungeze i-porn, umsebenzi eyisebenzisayo, ukuthi uyisebenzisa kaningi kangakanani, nokuthi lokhu kusetshenziswa kukuthinte kanjani impilo yakho.

Ungase futhi ucabangele ukuthola iqembu lokweseka lendawo.

Buza umeluleki wakho noma udokotela ukuthi ngabe bazi noma yimaphi amaqembu okusekela ezempilo agxile ekuphoqeleleni ngokocansi noma ekulawuleni indlela yokuziphatha ocansini endaweni yakho.

Ungabheka futhi amaqembu asekelwa online uma ungakwazi ukuthola noma yimaphi ama-meetups endawo.

Uyini umugqa waphansi?

Umbono wokuthi ukusebenzisa i-porn kungadala ukucindezeleka usakazekile - kepha awusekelwe kunoma yiluphi ucwaningo lwesayensi. Azikho izifundo ezibonisa ukuthi ukusebenzisa i-porn kungadala ukucindezeleka.

Olunye ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ucindezeleke uma ukholelwa ukuthi "ungumlutha" we-porn.

Uma ukusetshenziswa kwakho kukukhathaza, ungakuthola kuwusizo ukukhuluma nodokotela noma ujoyine iqembu lendawo losizo.

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