Qagela? Abantu Abakhulelwe Abakudingi Ukuba Uphawule Ngosayizi Wabo

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• Nakhu ongakusho

Kusuka kokuthi “umncane!” uye kokuthi “Umkhulu!” nayo yonke into ephakathi, akudingekile nje.

Kuyini ngokukhulelwa okwenza abantu bacabange ukuthi imizimba yethu yamukelekile ukuphawula nokubuza?

Kusuka kubantu engingabazi abangitshele ngokukhathazeka ukuthi ngangineminyaka emincane kangakanani esikhathini sami sesibili, kumuntu engimthanda kakhulu engitshela ukuthi nganginkulu "ngokwesaba" ku-trimester yesithathu, kumnumzane osekhulile engimdlulisa njalo ekuseni ngixwayisa ngokuthi, "Uzoba ngingakhululeki kungekudala! ” ukuphawula ngemizimba yethu eguqukayo kungavela kuzo zonke izinkomba nemithombo.

Ukukhulelwa isikhathi sokuba sengozini enkulu. Akuzona izisu zethu kuphela ezikhulayo, kodwa izinhliziyo zethu, ngakho-ke kuyishwa ukuthi lokhu futhi lapho siba umkhuba oqondisiwe wezinkathazo zabanye abantu.

Ekuqaleni, ngangicabanga ukuthi ngizwela ngokukhethekile. Nginomlando wesifo sokudla, futhi sahlushwa ukukhulelwa ngokukhulelwa kwethu kokuqala, ngakho-ke noma yikuphi ukuphawula okuthintekayo emzimbeni wami kwabangela ukukhathazeka.

Kodwa-ke, lapho ngikhuluma nabanye ababekhulelwe, ngaqala ukubona ukuthi bambalwa kakhulu kithi abavikelekile kula mazwi angenangqondo. Akuzona nje kuphela ezihlukumezayo, kodwa futhi zivusa ukwesaba njengoba zivame ukuboshelwa enhlalakahleni yezinsana zethu.

Lapho mina nomyeni wami sikhulelwa okwesibili, isithunzi sokulahlekelwa kwethu kokukhulelwa kokuqala sasilele phezu kwami. Sahlushwa "ukuphuphunyelwa yisisu" esaphuthelwa ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwethu kokuqala, lapho umzimba uqhubeka nokuveza izimpawu noma ngabe ingane iyekile ukukhula.

Lokhu kusho ukuthi ngesikhathi ngikhulelwe okwesibili bengingasakwazi ukuthembela ezimpawu zokukhulelwa ukukhombisa ukukhula okunempilo. Esikhundleni salokho, ngalinda umzuzu nomzuzu nsuku zonke ukuthola uphawu olucacile lokukhula kwengane yethu - iqhubu lami.

Ngangingenalo nhlobo ulwazi lokuthi kungenzeka ungabonisi nengane yakho yokuqala kuze kufike ku-trimester yakho yesibili (noma okwesithathu njengoba kwenzekile kimi), ngakho-ke lapho izinyanga ze-4, 5, ne-6 zidlula futhi ngangisabukeka ngikhukhumele, ikakhulukazi okwenza abantu bakhombise esidlangalaleni ukuthi "ngangimncane kangakanani." Ngazithola sengifanele ukukholisa abantu, “Ingane ikala kahle. Ngisanda kuya kudokotela ”- futhi, noma kunjalo, ngakubuza ngaphakathi.

Amagama anamandla futhi noma unobufakazi besayensi besithombe se-ultrasound esihleli etafuleni lakho, lapho othile ebuza ngokukhathazeka okukhulu ukuthi ngabe ingane yakho ilungile, awukwazi ukuzibamba.

Umngani naye ubephethe okuncane ekukhulelweni kwakamuva, kepha ngokungafani nami, ingane yakhe ibingalingani kahle. Kwakuyisikhathi esesabekayo kakhulu emndenini wakhe, ngakho-ke lapho abantu babelokhu bekhomba ubukhulu bakhe noma bebuza ukuthi ngabe usekude njengaye yini, lokho kumane kukhulisa ukukhathazeka kwakhe.

Nakhu ongakusho

Njengabangani, umndeni, kanye nomphakathi kulezi zimo, uma ukhathazekile ngempilo yengane yomuntu ngokuya ngosayizi wesisu sayo, kunokuba ubethuse ngokuqhubekayo, mhlawumbe hlola nomama bese ubuza ngokujwayelekile ukuthi bakwenza kanjani ' ukuzizwa kabusha. Uma bekhetha ukwabelana, lalela ke. Kodwa asikho isidingo sokukhomba usayizi womuntu.

Abantu abakhulelwe bazi ngaphezu kokuma kwezisu zabo, futhi kunezizathu eziningi ezahlukahlukene esiphatha ngazo. Ngokwami, ngimude. Endabeni yomngane wami, ingane yayisengozini ngempela. Ngenhlanhla, ingane yakhe manje seyiphilile futhi iphelele - futhi ingabe lokho akubalulekile kangako kunesisindo sayo esiswini?

Kokunye ngenyanga yesikhombisa, isisu sami sakhula kakhulu futhi yize ngangicabanga ukuthi ngangimncane uma ngiqhathaniswa nabanye besifazane abakhulelwe ngesonto elifanayo, ukuphawula okusha kokuzikhethela kwabanye ukuthi nganginkulu kanjani. Bengilokhu ngifisa isisu ukuthi sikhulelwe sonke, ngakho-ke ubungacabanga ukuthi ngingajabula, kepha esikhundleni salokho umlando wami wokuphazamiseka kokudla washeshe wabangelwa.

Iyini ngegama elithi "omkhulu" elimaza kangaka? Ngazithola ngiphikisana nabantu engingabazi ukuthi nginenyanga eyodwa noma ezimbili kusukela ngibelethi. Noma kunjalo, bagcizelela ukuthi ngangikulungele ukubeletha noma yimuphi umzuzu.

Ukukhuluma nabanye abazali, kubonakala kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi abantu ongabazi babonakale becabanga ukuthi bazi usuku lwakho olubekiwe kangcono kunawe noma bakholelwa ukuthi unamawele, kube sengathi yiwo kanye lapho kubekwa khona udokotela wakho.

Uma unomngane okhulelwe noma ilungu lomndeni elikhule kancane selokhu wagcina ukubabona, kunokuba ubenze bazizwe kabi ngokusebenzisa amagama anjengokuthi “omkhulu” noma “omkhulu,” zama ukubancoma ngomsebenzi omangalisayo wokukhulisa umuntu ukuba. Ngemuva kwakho konke lokho yilokho okwenzeka ngaphakathi kwalelo gqubu olikumangaza kakhulu. Kukhona umuntu omncane phakathi lapho!

Noma, ngokweqiniso, umthetho ongcono kakhulu kungaba ukuthi ngaphandle kokuthi uzotshela umuntu okhulelwe ukuthi muhle kangakanani, mhlawumbe ungasho lutho nhlobo.

USarah Ezrin ungumkhuthazi, umbhali, uthisha weyoga, kanye nomqeqeshi wothisha weyoga. Ezinze eSan Francisco, lapho ahlala khona nomyeni wakhe nenja yabo, uSarah ushintsha umhlaba, efundisa ukuzithanda kumuntu oyedwa ngasikhathi. Ngeminye imininingwane ngoSarah sicela uvakashele iwebhusayithi yakhe, www.sarahezrinyoga.com.