Umhlahlandlela Womsebenzisi: Masikhulume Ngokuzwela Ukwenqatshwa

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• Akudingeki kube njalo ngaso sonke isikhathi!

Isikhathi semibuzo! Ake sithi ekugcineni usugcine i-chutzpah eyanele ukucisha le-DM engozini ngokomzwelo obukade uyibeka.

Umamukeli uyibona ngokushesha. Ubona ifu le-el ’ellipse ellipse liqhuma njengoba bethayipha impendulo. Kepha kungazelelwe…

Iyama bese iyabanda.

Awuyitholanga impendulo emuva kwamahora. Ingabe:

• A. Lindela ngesineke impendulo yabo ecabangayo.
• B. Shaya i-GIF yokulandela kamnandi ngemuva kosuku noma yini (mhlawumbe benze leyonto lapho bephendule khona kuphela i-DM ekhanda labo bakhohlwa ukuphendula empeleni).
• C. Yazi ukuthi bayakuzonda, bebehlala bekuzonda - bazokuzonda kuze kube ukushona okushisayo kwendawo yonke - bese beqala inqubo ebuhlungu yokuqamba i-DM eshisa ibhuloho. Lobu budlelwano sebuphelile, Sara !?

Noma kunjalo, uma uphendule "A" noma "B," ubonakala uhleleke kahle futhi ungaqhubeka nokufunda uma ufuna, kodwa yazi nje ukuthi nginomona futhi ngicasukile.

Uma, noma kunjalo, ubuchopho bakho bungeziwe njengokukhathazeka njengokwami ​​futhi ubungumdlali "C" njalo, ungahle ubhekane nesifo esaziwa kancane se-ADHD esaziwa njenge-rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD).

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Konke ukuzincisha eceleni, ukuzwa lokhu kuyabheda kwesinye isikhathi. Futhi ukuyiyeka kungalawulwa kungaba nemiphumela emibi kakhulu empilweni yomuntu.

Ngokwe-a, i-RSD ingafingqwa ngokuthi “isimo sokulindela ngokulangazelela, ukuqonda ngokushesha, kanye nokusabela ngamandla lapho wenqatshwa.”

Kimi, kufana namandla amakhulu ahlukile: Ayikho i-ego-based molehill engingakwazi ukuyiguqula ibe yintaba ngomlingo. Futhi-ke ngisho nentaba iyangizonda futhi ivele ingiphathe kahle ngoba iyangizwela!

Kukhombisa kimi ukuba ngumuntu othanda kanzima uma ngingaqiniseki, noma unogwaja okhathazekile olungele ukubopha kunoma yini engithusayo lapho imingcele yami isongelwa nhlobo. Lezi yizimpawu uDkt William Dodson azihlanganisa ngokuningiliziwe ku-athikili yomagazini i-ADDitude.

Noma iyiphi indlela, akukuhle kimi nakubantu okufanele babhekane nami.

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emtholampilo u-Andrea Bonior, ngocezu lwango-2019, ucacisa ukuthi lokhu akukabhekwa njengokuphazamiseka okwakho (futhi akubhalwanga kwi-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Disorders, i-DSM-5) kodwa kunalokho “ iqoqo lezimpawu ezivame ukuhlotshaniswa nezinye izimo ”njenge-ADHD, i-neuroticism, nokuzethemba okuphansi.

Ngabe kukhona ozibandakanya nezici ezihambisana ne-RSD?

• umcabango wokwenqatshwa uletha 'imizwa yokuzizwa
• wonke umuzwa wakho wokuzihlonipha uncike kulokho abanye abantu abakucabangayo ngawe
• uzibekela amazinga athe, uhhh, eweni
• uhlala ulungiselela umthelela ezimweni lapho unganqatshwa khona - noma ubalekele kubo
• ukuzama nokuhluleka ukulingana noma kuphi kungukungazinzi njalo, ngokomzimba
• uphahluka ngolaka lapho ubona ukwenqatshwa noma ukungahlonishwa

“Cha,” ungahle uthi, “ukwenqatshwa kuyinto engingayithokozeli mina uqobo, kimi! Nginakho lokhu? ” Mhlawumbe - mhlawumbe hhayi!

Ochwepheshe abanjengoBonior benza umehluko phakathi kwe-RSD nezinye izimo zokukhathazeka, njengesifo sokukhathazeka komphakathi (SAD), nini futhi ngobani eyodwa ibangelwa.

Umuntu one-SAD maningi amathuba okuthi ezwe lokhu kungakhululeki okukhungathekisayo nokukhathazeka lapho kuholela ekunqatshweni okungaba khona nabantu abangabazi kahle. Umuntu obhekene ne-RSD, nokho, unamathuba amaningi okuthi ezwe ukwesaba okukhona kokunqatshwa umuntu abasondelene naye, impendulo yakhe kufanele bakwazi ukuqagela, futhi bazozwa ukuphelelwa yithemba okukhulu-ukuncibilika kwethemba nokufutheka ngemuva umcimbi uyenzeka.

Kuncane ngokwethuka kokungaziwa nokuningi kokucindezeleka okugcwala amahloni wena impela kufanele!

Konke okushiwo, lokhu kunhlanhlatha futhi uzofuna ukukhuluma nohlobo lochwepheshe bezokwelapha ukuze ufike ekugcineni kwako.

Akudingeki kube njalo ngaso sonke isikhathi!

Ake sithi wenza lokho kanye nokushayisana! Yi-RSD! Yini enconyelwe ukuyelapha?

• Ukwelapha, sithandwa. Noma ngabe ukwelashwa kokuziphatha okuqondayo, ukwelashwa kokuziphatha okuguquguqukayo, noma okunye okuhlangenwe nakho okuhambisanayo kwengqondo, sidinga ukukwenza ukhulume ngemizwa yakho ngokwenqatshwa. Ngazise uma nawe, uhlangabezana nomqondo ophambene wokuthi: “Ngiyisho kanjani imizwa yami ngokwenqatshwa kumelaphi wami ongiphatha nge-RSD ngaphandle kokuthi bangihlulele?!”
• Imithi. Kulabo bethu abathola imiphumela yomzimba, futhi ikakhulukazi kulabo bethu abanezinye izinkinga zokukhathazeka ezenzeka ngokubambisana, imishanguzo ingahle ilunge. Endabeni yami, ngenza kahle kakhulu kuhlobo lwemithi olubandakanya iWellbutrin. Ngiphinde ngazama ngokucophelela amanye ama-meds futhi ngathola umsindo omkhulu futhi ngiphikelela lapho bengasebenzi. Ufanelwe ukukuhlola lokhu ngaphandle kokwahlulela noma ukucwaswa nganoma iyiphi indlela.
• Ukuya kokungaxhunyiwe ku-inthanethi. Ngiyazi ukuthi lokhu kuyabheda: cabanga isikhathi ositshalile ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Bangakwazi ukuguqula amandla abantu esibajwayele nabathandekayo ngokufanayo, futhi lobu budlelwano futhi bungaba buhlungu kubantu abane-RSD.

Ekugcineni, ziphendule kuwe. Vuma lapho wazi ukuthi unephutha. Ungayicindezeli imizwa yakho uzama ukuyekela ‘em umuntu ongeke abuyisele umusa.

SUSA INOMBOLO YAKHE YEFONI.

Manje, sengizokwenza ngokoqobo noma yini engeyona i-DMing Sara futhi ukubuza ukuthi kungani engakayibuki i- "Dragula" yakamuva. NGIBONA UKUBONA U-DM, USARA, YEKA UKUBUKA “IZINGANE” NGESIKHATHI SESIHLANU.

UReed Brice ungumbhali nosomahlaya ozinze eLos Angeles. UBrice uyi-alum ye-UC Irvine's Claire Trevor School of the Arts futhi waba ngumuntu wokuqala we-transgender owake waphonswa emhlanganweni wobungcweti neThe Second City. Lapho singakhulumi itiye lokugula ngengqondo, uBrice ubuye abhale ikholomu yethu yothando neyezocansi, "U Up?"