Ngabe Ukufunda ‘Izincwadi Ezingcolile’ Kungakunika Ama-Orgasms Angaphezulu?

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• Linda, ziyini ngempela izincwadi ezivusa inkanuko?
• Izinhlobo ezijwayelekile ze-eerotica
  
• 3 izinganekwane mayelana ne-erotica
• Inganekwane 1: Abesifazane bathanda inkanuko kunamadoda
• Inganekwane 2: I-Erotica ilimaza ubudlelwane
• Inganekwane 3: Abafundi bazofuna ukulingisa izindaba zabo ezizithandayo ezithandanayo
• Ikhithi yakho yokuqala i-erotica
• Ukuqala ngomtapo wakho wezincwadi

Sifaka imikhiqizo esicabanga ukuthi ilusizo kubafundi bethu. Uma uthenga ngezixhumanisi ezikuleli khasi, singathola ikhomishini encane. Nansi inqubo yethu.

Ukungabi nentshisekelo yezocansi kanye nesifiso yisikhalazo esivame kakhulu kwezocansi abesifazane abanaso ehhovisi likadokotela. Futhi nangemva kokuba iphilisi lokuqala "lesifazane Viagra" liqhume eminyakeni emibili eyedlule, abesifazane basafuna izindlela ezingaphumeleli, ezifakazelwe ngokwesayensi zokwandisa i-libido yabo nenjabulo - noma ngabe badlala bodwa noma nomlingani.

Ngenkathi abanye bethi ama-aphrodisiacs emvelo afana noshokoledi nama-oysters anomthelela emazingeni abo ama-hormone ocansi nokuziphatha ekamelweni lokulala, abukho ubufakazi obuningi obuqinile bokuthi benza isifutho ku-sex drive yakho yansuku zonke. Kepha ucwaningo lwamuva lukhombisile ukuthi ukusebenzisa izincwadi ezi-sexy kungasiza yonke into kusuka ku-libido yakho kuya emandleni e-orgasm yakho.

Ucwaningo lwango-2016, olushicilelwe ephephabhukwini i-Sexual and Relationship Therapy, luqophe ukusebenza kwezocansi kwabesifazane abangama-27 isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto ayisithupha. Uhhafu wafunda izincwadi zokuzisiza, kanti enye ingxenye yafunda izinganekwane ezivusa inkanuko. Umphumela? Womabili la maqembu enza izinzuzo ezilinganayo, ezibalulekile uma kufikwa ku:

• isifiso sobulili
• ukuvuswa kocansi
• ukuthambisa
• ukwaneliseka
• ama-orgasms
• ukunciphisa ubuhlungu
• ukusebenza jikelele kocansi

“IBibliotherapy,” njengoba lolu cwaningo layibiza kanjalo, ayikaze izwakale imnandi futhi izuzisa.

Linda, ziyini ngempela izincwadi ezivusa inkanuko?

Ngokuvamile, i-erotica ichazwa njenganoma yiluphi uhlobo lobuciko oluhloselwe ukudala imicabango yezocansi noma ukuvusa. Kunomehluko omncane phakathi kwe-erotica nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezi-plain: I-Erotica ibonwa njengobuciko obunesici sobulili, kuyilapho izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zibonwa njengamagama nezithombe ezikhona kuphela ukuze zijabulise ngokocansi, ngaphandle kobuciko obuningi obungabunikeza.

Namuhla, igama elithi eerotica livame ukusetshenziswa ngokukhethekile ukuchaza amagama abhaliwe avusa futhi ajabulise.

Izinhlobo ezijwayelekile ze-eerotica

• inganekwane, kusukela ezindabeni ezimfushane kuya kumanoveli
• ama-eseyi angewona wenganekwane nokulandiswa kokuhlangenwe nakho kweqiniso
• amanoveli ezothando
• izindaba eziqanjiwe zabalandeli
• okuqukethwe kwewebhu nama-e-book

3 izinganekwane mayelana ne-erotica

Kunemibono eminingi eyiphutha ezungeze i-erotica. Ezinye zalezi zinganekwane ziwumphumela wamaqembu angenalo ucansi ahlose ukuhlazisa nokulawula abesifazane. Ezinye zimane nje zisuselwa kuzinkolelo-ze kanye nokwaziswa okungelona iqiniso. Ake sibheke ezintathu ezinkulu kakhulu futhi ezivame kakhulu.

Inganekwane 1: Abesifazane bathanda inkanuko kunamadoda

Kuyinkolelo enkulu yokuthi abesilisa bathanda izithombe ezibukwayo zocansi (izithombe zocansi), kuyilapho abesifazane bethanda ukufunda "ama-bodice-rippers" ngenxa yokuthula kwabo okuthe xaxa, nobuchopho obengeziwe. Ucwaningo oluningi lukhombisile ukuthi abesilisa bavulwa ngokulinganayo ngegama elibhaliwe njengabesifazane, nokuthi abesifazane badla izithombe zocansi ezibukwayo ezingaphezu kwalokho ongakucabanga. Futhi emuva ngonyaka we-1966, uMasters noJohnson bathola ukuthi i-physiology ejwayelekile yokuvusa ucansi kwabesilisa nabesifazane icishe ifane.

Inganekwane 2: I-Erotica ilimaza ubudlelwane

Amanye amaqembu athanda ukuxwayisa ukuthi i-erotica ibangela abalingani ukuba babalekele e-fantasyland elimaza noma yiliphi ithemba lokuthi bangavuswa ngumlingani wabo wokugaya embhedeni wabo wokugaya.

Kepha ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi ukufunda i-eerotica kukwenza ube sethubeni lokuthola phakathi kwamashidi nomlingani wakho noma uzijabulise emahoreni angama-24 ngemuva kokuwafunda. Futhi, isifundo sokuqala esishiwo ngenhla sikhombisa ukuthi i-erotica ingakhuphula kakhulu i-sex drive yonke nokuzijabulisa kocansi kowesifazane oyifundayo.

Inganekwane 3: Abafundi bazofuna ukulingisa izindaba zabo ezizithandayo ezithandanayo

Abafika ku-erotica bangakhathazeka ukuthi bavulwe yi-BDSM ekhonjiswe ku- "Fifty Shades of Gray" noma ngobudlelwano bobungqingili lapho bengakaze bezwe ukukhangwa kobulili obufanayo. Kepha uLinda Garnets, PhD, umcwaningi e-University of California eLos Angeles, angaqeda ukukhathazeka kwakho. Uthi ubuntu bethu obuvusa inkanuko buhlukile njengezigxivizo zeminwe yethu, nokuthi ubunikazi bethu bezocansi, okuhehayo ngokocansi, kanye nemicabango yocansi akudingeki ukuthi konke kuhambisane ndawonye ngaphandle komthungo (futhi kungenzeka kuguquke ngokuhamba kwesikhathi).

Isibonelo, kuyinto ejwayelekile ngokuphelele ukukhanyiswa yisitimu sobulili obufanayo obushubile noma ungazikhombi njengobungqingili, noma nganoma iyiphi inganekwane ongayicabanga. Lokho ngokuqinisekile kusombulula imfihlakalo yokuthi kungani ezinye zezindawo ezithandwa kakhulu yi-eerotica zingagcini ngokuvezwa empilweni yangempela - kumane nje kuyashisa ukufunda nokucabanga ngakho, akukho okunye.

Vele, i-erotica nayo ingakunika imibono yokuzijabulisa, izinto ezintsha ongazama ngazo ekamelweni, kusuka ezikhundleni ezintsha ukuya ekulingiseni.

Ikhithi yakho yokuqala i-erotica

Uma unentshisekelo yokuhlola i-erotica, ukuqala kungaba nzima kakhulu. Ngokusho kwesitolo sabantu abadala u-Adam & Eve, izinhlobo zothando nezohlobo lwe-eerotica zenza u- $ 1.44 billion unyaka ngamunye. Futhi kuningi ongakhetha kukho.

Nawa amathiphu ambalwa wokuntywila ku:

• Thola okuthandayo. Kungaba nzima ukwazi ukuthi yini ekuvula kuze kube yilapho usuyifundile. Indawo eyodwa enhle ukuqala nge-anthology equkethe izindlela eziningi zokubhala, izimo, nababhali. Enye indlela ukubuka ama-e-book e-Amazon. Eziningi zazo zinikela ngenhlonipho yamakhasi ambalwa mahhala.
• Zama ukufunda ngesandla esisodwa. Ayikho indlela engafanele yokufunda i-erotica. Abanye abantu bathanda ukuyijabulela njenganoma iyiphi enye incwadi bese bacabanga ngayo kamuva, ngenkathi benomlingani noma ukushaya indlwabu. Abanye bayisebenzisa ngqo njengethuluzi lokulala. Thola okulungele wena.
• Zama ukufaka umlingani wakho. Njengezithombe zobulili ezingcolile, i-erotica akuyona nje eyokudlala wedwa. Ungazama ukuyifunda ngokuzwakalayo kumlingani wakho, noma ubafundele yona. Noma ungacela umlingani wakho ukuthi afunde indaba bese eyilingisa nawe.
• Zama ukubhala amakhasi ambalwa ngokwakho. I-Erotica akuyona eyokufunda kuphela. Izigidi zabesifazane nabesilisa bayakujabulela ukukubhala njengokuningi kakhulu (noma ngaphezulu kokunye) bathanda ukukufunda. Zibhalele izindaba, zama isandla sakho eqanjiwe yabalandeli, noma ucabange nokuzishicilela umsebenzi wakho.

Ukuqala ngomtapo wakho wezincwadi

Nazi izincwadi ezimbalwa namawebhusayithi ukuze uqalise, kusuka kuma-classics kuya kuma-anthologies:

• "I-Sexy Librarian's Big Book of Erotica," ehlelwe nguRose Caraway. Le ngqophamlando inezinhlobo eziningi zezinhlobo eziningi, kusukela kokuthusayo kuya kwezothando kuya kwi-sci-fi, konke ngamazwi aholayo emhlabeni wokubhala okuhle.
• “Delta of Venus,” ebhalwe ngu-Anaïs Nin. Lesi siqephu sakudala se-erotica kungenzeka sabhalwa emashumini eminyaka adlule, kepha sisashubile njengakuqala. Lokhu ukukhetha okuhle kwemibhalo kothile othakazelisa ngezigcawu ezi-sexy.
• "Uchungechunge Lomlilo," nguSylvia Day. Lolu chungechunge lwesimanjemanje lwe-erotica / romance lulandela izithandani ngobuhlobo bazo obushisayo, ngaphandle kwedrama namademoni angcwatshwayo.
• Izinganekwane zabalandeli abadala. Amawebhusayithi agcwele inganekwane yamahhala yabalandeli ezinkulungwaneni zamafomu, kusuka ku- "Harry Potter" kuye ku- "L.A. Umthetho. ” Kunokubhalwa okuningi kwasekuqaleni laphaya, kanye namathuba wokuzama ukubhala i-erotica ngokwakho.

Lapho usuqalile, ungalandela futhi izincwadi nezinhlu ezikhethiwe kumaGoodreads ukuthola izindatshana ozijabulelayo. I-Erotica ingathola ifomula ngezinye izikhathi, kepha ukukwazi ukulindela ama-turn-ons afika kuwe futhi kungenye yezibusiso eziningi zobuciko.