U-Sia Cooper Wembule Izinkinga Zezempilo Zakhe Eziningi Encwadini Eya Kuyena Omncane

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Uma ubungase ubuyele emuva ngesikhathi futhi utshele ingane yakho eneminyaka engu-5 mayelana nokuthi ikusasa lisiphatheleni, ubungakwenza? Ungathini? Umbuzo onzima ukuwuphendula, kepha umgqugquzeli wezempilo uSia Cooper uveze kokuthunyelwe kwakhe ukuthi uzomtshela ukuthi umuhle, kungakhathalekile ukuphawula okuyingozi azotshelwa khona, ngisho nalabo abasondelene naye kakhulu. (ICYMI, nansi indaba kaCooper mayelana nokuthi kungani ekhiphe izimila zakhe zebele.)

UCooper, ophethe iDiary of a Mommy, uthumele isithombe sobuntwana futhi wafaka imibono eminingi ngemuva kwesithombe. Amagama ahlabayo anjengokuthi "Amathanga akho abukeka emakhulu," "Yeka ukudla kakhulu," nokuthi "Gqoka izimonyo ezithe xaxa" ayindlela yokumamatheka kwakhe. Phezulu kwesithombe, isitatimende kuzona zonke izigqoko sifundeka kanje: "Amagama akho abalulekile," eveza inhloso yokuthunyelwe. (Okuhlobene: Lo Mama Ofanelekile Usemkhankasweni Wokufakazela Ukuthi WONKE UMUNTU Uyagigiyela Ebhikini)

Esihlokweni esithi, Cooper ukhuluma ngqo nomuntu wakhe oneminyaka emihlanu: "Sia othandekayo oneminyaka emihlanu," wabhala. "Ngifuna ukukutshela ukuthi umuhle njengoba umuhle nje. Kodwa-ke uzokhula uzwa izinto okungekho ngane noma ibhungu elifanele ukuzizwa."

Uqhubekile wachaza ukuthi unina “waklebhula” kanjani ukuzethemba kwakhe ngamazwi anobuthi ngokubukeka kwakhe. "Akazi lutho," kubhala uCooper, "lawa mazwi azoba nesisindo futhi akuholele endleleni emnyama."

Leyo ndlela yayihlanganisa ukuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla eneminyaka engu-14 ubudala, imicabango yokuzibulala eneminyaka engu-18 ubudala, nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo lapho esanda kweva eminyakeni engu-20, ikakhulukazi phakathi nomshado wakhe wokuqala, u-Cooper ukwabelana. Esanda kuhlukanisa nomyeni wakhe wokuqala, uthe ubenenkinga yokuthola ukulingana empilweni yakhe. "Uzoya esikoleni sabahlengikazi futhi ufunde ukudla imizwa yakho okuholela esikhathini sakho sokuqala sokukhuluphala ngokweqile," kusho uCooper. "Kodwa-ke, uzolahlekelwa isisindo masinyane kungakapheli unyaka wehlele ku-100lbs nje bese ufuna okungaphezulu." (Okuhlobene: Lo wesifazane Ufuna Ukwazi Ukuthi Ukwehlisa Isisindo Ngeke Kukujabulise Ngomlingo)

Ngemuva kweminyaka yokuzabalaza ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba, uCooper wathola ibhalansi nethemba alifanele. Uhlangane nendoda "abehlose ukuba nayo," uyabhala, futhi ngokubambisana manje bakhulisa izingane ezimbili ezinhle.

UCooper uveze okuningi ngaye kulokhu okuthunyelwe, kepha akazange akwenze lokho ukuthola ukuzwelana noma ukunakwa. Ufuna abantu bazi ukuthi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kudlula isikhathi esingakanani, "lawa magama amancane ayanamathela." Amagama anjengokuthi "khuluphele kakhulu," noma "ukuduma kwamathanga," noma "ingulube ekhuluphele" awanawo nje amazwi. “Izingane ezinjengawe zicwilisa la mazwi njengesipontshi,” uCooper ebhalela umuntu wakhe omncane, “futhi kungase kuholele ekuphileni kokwaneliseka noma ekuphileni okubuhlungu nenhlekelele.” (Okuhlobene: Lokho Esikuqondayo Ngempela Lapho Sibiza Abantu Ngamafutha)

Akunandaba ukuthi impilo iphuma kanjani, iphuzu likaCooper yilokho wena baphethe uhambo lwakho. Ukuthi kuzoba nezikhathi ezinhle nezimbi, futhi abantu bangazama ukukulimaza, kepha kungumsebenzi wakho ukuthi "wenze impilo yakho ibe yindaba kwabanye endleleni," esho. Ubunzima bakho bungakufundisa izifundo ezibalulekile, futhi kukuwe ukuthi udlulisele ukuhlakanipha kwakho kwabanye futhi "uqhubeke nokulwa," kubhala uCooper. "Ngothando, uSia oneminyaka engu-29 ubudala."

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